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By *ympha Luxuria OP   Woman
35 weeks ago

La La Land

I was brought up to say please and thank you, yet it appears that more and more people forget their manners these days

You open a door for someone else to walk through, you give way to oncoming traffic and you get treated like you're invisible!

And if you dare say 'Good morning' to people in the street, they look at you like you've just dropped your trousers and had a crap on the floor!

What's going on with the world today?

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

I carry in regardless. I’m not going to stop being polite because people are not used to it.

Kill em with kindness - my new motto.

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By *ink vixenCouple
35 weeks ago

Medway

It’s not like that everywhere yet but that’s certainly our impression of London.

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

You must be southern.

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By *echnosonic_BrummieMan
35 weeks ago

Willenhall


"

And if you dare say 'Good morning' to people in the street, they look at you like you've just dropped your trousers and had a crap on the floor!"

They probably assume you're about to ask how much they currently pay for their gas and electricity.

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
35 weeks ago

Bourne lincs

It's the same on here no manners. I was brought up that manners cost nothing

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By *ubFTMTV/TS
35 weeks ago

Swindon

I tend to find this is more a Southern reaction. I grew up in Yorkshire and occassionally travel back and most people will say hello or respond if you do

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Was visiting London vist sister. I always say to bus driver thank you which they really appreciate

Stand up to gave a seat to a pregnant woman .what is with society kind words good

Kind deeds better

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By *CLM87Woman
35 weeks ago

Derbyshire

I'm originally from Herts... been up here 5 years now (still clinging onto my accent for dear life)

But I was brought up to say please and thank you.

Always to say good morning or smile.

I do sometimes like to shout thank you when someone hasn't..

Also when I'm shopping and have loads of things, letting someone go infront who only has a couple of items.

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By *ilnotbite13Man
35 weeks ago

Middlesbrough

I’m always well mannered always open a door for a lady. Always say thank you or no thank you.

Even if I go on a date I like to bring flowers or chocolates for a lady. But sadly that hasn’t happened for a long time

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By *ACOLCouple
35 weeks ago

limerick

I guess it depends on where you live, we live in what is consider a small town, so people are prone to be more polite. But the moment we go to bigger cities boom, everyone acts like if they were born on a barn.

Lina

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
35 weeks ago

ashford

I allways greet randoms when out walking dogs or cycling never not got a response x

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By *ealitybitesMan
35 weeks ago

Belfast

Can't say I've noticed much difference in recent years and it's certainly not location linked.

My experience just through work has been that there can be many different factors.

Having supplied the licensed trade for more than 2 decades I can say that pub landlords are by far the rudest and most ignorant group of people I have ever met.

Those I have dealt with in retail have been a mixed bunch at both ends of the rudeness spectrum while most of those I know in non licensed hospitality are very approachable and welcoming.

I have opened doors for many people and most have thanked me but I have also received verbal abuse from a number of women for doing so.

I've been called a pig and an idiot and told they didn't need a man to open a door for them and one asked if my parents were proud of the fact they had raised a prick?

I used to drive 1200 miles every week and have seen every variation on road rage so nothing surprises me these days but in general most drivers are ok in regard to letting people out of junctions etc with the odd exception.

I said above that it's not location linked but I do know quite a few people visiting from England who really struggle with how many people they pass on the streets here say hello or acknowledge them. They say that's all alien to them.

Again not everyone here does that and many just carry on about their own business with no engagement with those around them so it's not true to say that every Irish person is welcoming.

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By *ris GrayMan
35 weeks ago

Dorchester


"I was brought up to say please and thank you, yet it appears that more and more people forget their manners these days

You open a door for someone else to walk through, you give way to oncoming traffic and you get treated like you're invisible!

And if you dare say 'Good morning' to people in the street, they look at you like you've just dropped your trousers and had a crap on the floor!

What's going on with the world today? "
I'm not sure i ever get that its all about looking welcoming, i guess i walk round with a smile on my face so people smile back and say hello and when driving i occasionally let people out or go first on narrow roads and thank those that do, i guess you must live in a miserable area lol

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

The manners thing is a given, we all should say please and thank you. But talking to actual strangers on the street? That's madness

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By *obilebottomMan
35 weeks ago

All over


"I carry in regardless. I’m not going to stop being polite because people are not used to it.

Kill em with kindness - my new motto. "

I am pretty much the same tbh. In many cases you can break the glass with your own good manners and kindness. What I find is that so many people walk around as they are about to hit you. Perhaps the kind of fast paced life we all live, personal problems or even fear, who knows, but is not nice to see and personally believe it got worse after covid. Oh well, onwards and upwards with manners and kindness.

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By *rivateparts!Man
35 weeks ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

A no thank you is alot nice than "will you just feck off"

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago


"The manners thing is a given, we all should say please and thank you. But talking to actual strangers on the street? That's madness "

I kinda disagree, it may be a little weird these days but saying hello to someone you meet in the street is a simple act of kindness that could mean so much. In the chaos of modern life it’s easy to forget/become more socially acceptable to just walk past someone you meet on the street and not make eye contact or say hello. For some people that little hello/good morning could be their only social interaction for the day, it could be the the little reminder that they are seen. It’s takes very little but means quite a lot.

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By *hromosexualsCouple
35 weeks ago

Near Abercynon

We thought the same, then we moved from Buckinghamshire to a village in South Wales and people are much more friendly

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By *echnosonic_BrummieMan
34 weeks ago

Willenhall


"

I do sometimes like to shout thank you when someone hasn't..

"

If "manners maketh man" as someone said,

He's the hero of the day.

It takes a man to suffer ignorance and smile,

Be yourself, no matter what they say.

OK, you're not a man. Nor an alien (as far as I can tell). I prefer to quietly mutter the "thank you" to myself when someone has forgotten to to do so themself. I just don't want to risk the other party thinking they're being thanked for being a twat...

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By *echnosonic_BrummieMan
34 weeks ago

Willenhall


"But talking to actual strangers on the street? That's madness "

Totally agree. Smartphones mean you don't even need to ask a stranger for directions any more

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By *rHotNottsMan
34 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"But talking to actual strangers on the street? That's madness

Totally agree. Smartphones mean you don't even need to ask a stranger for directions any more "

I often say Hi to strangers and start conversations. I tip low paid staff as long as they do their job OK. I don’t really notice if people use please & thank you, it’s quite an English thing and most people I interact don’t have English as first language and prefer more direct communication.

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By *ellhungvweMan
34 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Is it really that bad? There has always been rude people and people have always tended to ignore you more in big cities than in smaller towns and villages. I don’t think it is getting worse.

Try to be as polite as you can to people and it tends to come back to you is the way I see things.

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By *ellinever70Woman
34 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I don't get bent out of shape if someone doesn't thank me for holding a door open

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
34 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I kicked a lady in the shin just last week for not thanking me when I held the elevator door for her.

Long ride up to the 8th floor then though.

Bitch.

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By *rLordMan
34 weeks ago

Swadlincote

Mind your P's & Q's , my mum always said regarding manners. Whatever that meant, but if I didn't say thank you when required " ouch " .

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By *ris GrayMan
34 weeks ago

Dorchester


"The manners thing is a given, we all should say please and thank you. But talking to actual strangers on the street? That's madness "
Well you live in a city and in fact a very multi cultural city but weirdly enough devon and cornwall full of brummies, i was talking to one the other day lived in Dorset for 30 years and still had a brummie accent whats that all about

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