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"Most definitely I was with someone for a while they had an amazing personality got on like a house on fire, but was a larger girl Dont get me wrong I don't mind a bit off cushion for the pushing at all I like a bit of meat " Would you like a shovel? | |||
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"Called out? For what? "WE HAD A LOVELY CHAT ABOUT OUR FAVOURITE PIZZA TOPPINGS, WHY AREN'T YOU NAKED YET?!" " Kind of sad no one has said that to me now. ![]() | |||
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"How do you feel in these situations, particularly if they then call you out on it?" See, this is the bit I don’t like. It’s okay to not fancy someone! And it isn’t the end of the world. It doesn’t even need to be the end of the friendship. But there are times when I’ve made it clear, as gently as possible, that I’m not feeling it. Not in that way. And the woman concerned has … shall we tactfully say she’s not taken it well? That’s when it gets awkward. And when some people can actually turn nasty. (I’m sure women get this from men all the time. It’s unusual for me to have to deal with it the other way around. Sticks in the memory a bit.) | |||
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"Kind of sad no one has said that to me now. ![]() I’ll d*unkenly shout it in your ear tomorrow, if you like. I’m good like that. | |||
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"Most definitely I was with someone for a while they had an amazing personality got on like a house on fire, but was a larger girl Dont get me wrong I don't mind a bit off cushion for the pushing at all I like a bit of meat Would you like a shovel? " Yes please put myself in a right hole | |||
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"Kind of sad no one has said that to me now. ![]() Gosh you really are. Right, perfect, I'm holding you to that. | |||
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"Called out? For what? "WE HAD A LOVELY CHAT ABOUT OUR FAVOURITE PIZZA TOPPINGS, WHY AREN'T YOU NAKED YET?!" Kind of sad no one has said that to me now. ![]() Me either Meililicious, me either ![]() | |||
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"Most definitely I was with someone for a while they had an amazing personality got on like a house on fire, but was a larger girl Dont get me wrong I don't mind a bit off cushion for the pushing at all I like a bit of meat Would you like a shovel? Yes please put myself in a right hole " I was waiting for the "but" to really seal the deal! I have to ask, as a larger girl, why you found her attractive enough to sleep with initially though? Was it a case of emptying your balls? | |||
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"Most definitely I was with someone for a while they had an amazing personality got on like a house on fire, but was a larger girl Dont get me wrong I don't mind a bit off cushion for the pushing at all I like a bit of meat Would you like a shovel? Yes please put myself in a right hole I was waiting for the "but" to really seal the deal! I have to ask, as a larger girl, why you found her attractive enough to sleep with initially though? Was it a case of emptying your balls?" I was with her for a while was not a one off | |||
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"Most definitely I was with someone for a while they had an amazing personality got on like a house on fire, but was a larger girl Dont get me wrong I don't mind a bit off cushion for the pushing at all I like a bit of meat Would you like a shovel? Yes please put myself in a right hole I was waiting for the "but" to really seal the deal! I have to ask, as a larger girl, why you found her attractive enough to sleep with initially though? Was it a case of emptying your balls? I was with her for a while was not a one off " Ok, so what was it then, I don't want to put words in your mouth, its a genuine question? | |||
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"Called out? For what? "WE HAD A LOVELY CHAT ABOUT OUR FAVOURITE PIZZA TOPPINGS, WHY AREN'T YOU NAKED YET?!" Kind of sad no one has said that to me now. ![]() ![]() Oh Bugsy. I'll do it for you soon, promise. ![]() | |||
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"How do you feel in these situations, particularly if they then call you out on it? See, this is the bit I don’t like. It’s okay to not fancy someone! And it isn’t the end of the world. It doesn’t even need to be the end of the friendship. But there are times when I’ve made it clear, as gently as possible, that I’m not feeling it. Not in that way. And the woman concerned has … shall we tactfully say she’s not taken it well? That’s when it gets awkward. And when some people can actually turn nasty. (I’m sure women get this from men all the time. It’s unusual for me to have to deal with it the other way around. Sticks in the memory a bit.)" I’m so glad this post came up something that has bothered me for a long time I think some women think that guys who are good friends will just sleep with them occasionally , usually when they want to, and it’s no big deal, it’s just sex, going out and having a good night. And if you say no they take it very personally like it’s the biggest insult she’s ever had. | |||
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"Thing is, I'd hate someone to be just pretending to be into me, I'd rather the honesty. Infact I spend most of my time surprised when someone is attracted to me. I think a lot of it comes down to how we view ourselves too. And maybe that's the thing. I've been called out and accused of being shallow but it's not shallow. It's just I didn't fancy them. It's quite matter of fact. " I don't think it's shallow at all, attraction is just there or it isn't and you don't control who you find attractive | |||
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"Thing is, I'd hate someone to be just pretending to be into me, I'd rather the honesty. Infact I spend most of my time surprised when someone is attracted to me. I think a lot of it comes down to how we view ourselves too. And maybe that's the thing. I've been called out and accused of being shallow but it's not shallow. It's just I didn't fancy them. It's quite matter of fact. " Shallow because they mistook your intentions? Ooook | |||
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"If you get on really well with someone but you just don't fancy them? Maybe guilty isn't quite the right word but it's definitely a feeling of discomfort. How do you feel in these situations, particularly if they then call you out on it? " No. Not any more, but I probably did when younger. Getting on with someone and fancying them have generally been two completely separate head spaces to me. Sometimes things develop both ways. There have been people I've 'fancied' based on initial interactions and physical/facial attributes, where it's become apparent after a time that that's all it was - a more physical thing rather than a deeper friendship connection. Likewise there have been people I've been friends with where there's been nothing more than just getting along like a house on fire, and then almost a lightbulb moment where I realise that I do actually fancy the pants off them. Sometimes it turns out they feel the same way too. Other times it's obvious they don't, and I can accept that. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't. I'd hope there was always enough respect and openness for either side to be able to let the other party know how they felt at any given time. But either way I've never felt guilty. Nor would I ever put any blame or guilt on them if dynamics changed. People change. Relationships change. Life goes on. ![]() | |||
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"Thing is, I'd hate someone to be just pretending to be into me, I'd rather the honesty. Infact I spend most of my time surprised when someone is attracted to me. I think a lot of it comes down to how we view ourselves too. And maybe that's the thing. I've been called out and accused of being shallow but it's not shallow. It's just I didn't fancy them. It's quite matter of fact. " Sorry did someone actually message you sayinv you were ‘shallow’ and all that? Seems a bit too obsessive sort of thing, take the knock back and move on would be my advice to them | |||
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"I ….. Maybe it’s my own fault for believing that they just want to be friends and still interacting with them. " I’ve never had the misfortune of somebody chasing me, or becoming insistent, or a pest. I do think, being someone who is friendly myself, you leave yourself open to somebody miss reading your friendliness. Answering the original question. Yes, it makes me feel bad if it’s someone I like. | |||
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"I ….. Maybe it’s my own fault for believing that they just want to be friends and still interacting with them. I’ve never had the misfortune of somebody chasing me, or becoming insistent, or a pest. I do think, being someone who is friendly myself, you leave yourself open to somebody miss reading your friendliness. Answering the original question. Yes, it makes me feel bad if it’s someone I like. " I don’t think it’s necessarily done to make me feel bad. I think they think it’s a joke, which is fine, but it doesn’t make it any less awkward when it comes up. I can see how being friendly can sometimes be misinterpreted as flirting if the person isn’t great at differentiating between the two. | |||
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"I can see how being friendly can sometimes be misinterpreted as flirting if the person isn’t great at differentiating between the two. " Yeah, this is exactly the situations I was thinking of. Like going to meet someone for a social - it doesn’t mean I fancy them. It means I’m up for meeting them for a drink. And the other person doesn’t always see it the same way. So we both end up feeling awkward. | |||
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"Most definitely I was with someone for a while they had an amazing personality got on like a house on fire, but was a larger girl " Nothing wrong with the fuller figure! | |||
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"If you get on really well with someone but you just don't fancy them? Maybe guilty isn't quite the right word but it's definitely a feeling of discomfort. How do you feel in these situations, particularly if they then call you out on it? " No, because I’m equally as great a friend whether we have sex or not. | |||
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"If you get on really well with someone but you just don't fancy them? Maybe guilty isn't quite the right word but it's definitely a feeling of discomfort. How do you feel in these situations, particularly if they then call you out on it? " It can feel awkward your right ![]() ![]() | |||
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