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Do you live one day at a time?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
35 weeks ago

My question is pretty much in the title. ..

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By *mily36CWoman
35 weeks ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Sorry what was the question

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By *mily36CWoman
35 weeks ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

Some days, some days in to the future are intricately planned ... So both

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By *orthernJayMan
35 weeks ago

LHR

A close friend has cancer, she’s fought the beast and is now under a ninety day test regime; she’s basically living her life in 90 day segments and spending time with her is empowering!

All of the day to crap that seems important is totally irrelevant to her, she’s all about quality times and making memories

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
35 weeks ago


"Sorry what was the question "

Haha.

The question is because of a certain thread that’s posted weekly. What are you doing tonight? Etc.

And it does make you think, I know what I’d like to do. I know what I think I’m probably going to be doing, but if something came along that sounded cool. I’ll probably go for it. I really do try to live life like that now, otherwise, I think I will miss out on things that might not be presented to me in the future.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
35 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I would say generally not. I like to be organised and know what’s going on. Although I often have moments, a friend died last year and it changed my perspective quite a bit and I adopted the fuck it, life’s too short attitude. I’d say I’m a bit of both depending on my mood!

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By *929Man
35 weeks ago

newcastle

No I like routine and planning/working towards future goals

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By *obilebottomMan
35 weeks ago

All over


"No I like routine and planning/working towards future goals "

You should be a life coach.

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By *obilebottomMan
35 weeks ago

All over

I am bit of this and a bit of that. Used to be cery much into planning and organising the lot. Much more spontaneous now whilst still try to plan some of the big stuff.

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By *ot to giggleWoman
35 weeks ago

Coventry


"My question is pretty much in the title. ..

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being forced to look ahead!! but take each opportunity as it arises, especially the fun stuff -

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

At the moment I am

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Yes I rarely look ahead into the future. Life has taught me that shit will and can change in a blink of an eye so I tend to take each day as it comes.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
35 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I think it also depends on how your actual life goes too (sorry I’ve got my serious head on for a change!). When I found out my child had issues I pretty much fell apart with what if this what if that, she’ll never have a normal life etc. the only way I could deal with it all is take it not more than a week at a time as nobody knows what will happen. Same with my mum recently with her dementia. I was so upset and worried about what will happen eventually that it was affecting the time we do have where she still knows what’s going on. Sometimes you really do need to take it one day at a time, as hard as it can be

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
35 weeks ago

Leeds

Yes.

Tomorrow is promised to nobody.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
35 weeks ago


"Yes I rarely look ahead into the future. Life has taught me that shit will and can change in a blink of an eye so I tend to take each day as it comes. "

I can relate. I had my whole future in front of me., and it’s gone. So I have a choice, I plan for it all again for something to happen, like you said and it can be taken away easily.

I’m not saying having something to look forward to is not nice, it’s just plans can change.

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By *ad NannaWoman
35 weeks ago

East London

One hour at a time, Woody.

I plan my day hour by hour.

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By *ealitybitesMan
35 weeks ago

Belfast

I do plan ahead for specific events but in general I just take it day by day.

One of the side effects of anhedonia is an inability to get excited about future events and it's all about living in the moment so that's my only excuse.

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By *amie HantsWoman
35 weeks ago

Atlantis

Some days! It’s nice to wake up with no plans or places to be and see where the day takes you. Most of the time I have plans and I like having tings to look forward to

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By *obilebottomMan
35 weeks ago

All over


"I think it also depends on how your actual life goes too (sorry I’ve got my serious head on for a change!). When I found out my child had issues I pretty much fell apart with what if this what if that, she’ll never have a normal life etc. the only way I could deal with it all is take it not more than a week at a time as nobody knows what will happen. Same with my mum recently with her dementia. I was so upset and worried about what will happen eventually that it was affecting the time we do have where she still knows what’s going on. Sometimes you really do need to take it one day at a time, as hard as it can be "

You are absolutely right and hope that it works for you to deal with all that.

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By *929Man
35 weeks ago

newcastle


"No I like routine and planning/working towards future goals

You should be a life coach. "

Haha thanks mate the problem with my approach though is if you die early it’s all for nothing haha all my friends are same age and while they were having holidays every year driving nice cars living it up ect I was staying in and just working to make my life easier rationalising I can do all that when I’m older but a mate suddenly dying in 2022 made me question is this the right approach?

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By *obilebottomMan
35 weeks ago

All over


"No I like routine and planning/working towards future goals

You should be a life coach.

Haha thanks mate the problem with my approach though is if you die early it’s all for nothing haha all my friends are same age and while they were having holidays every year driving nice cars living it up ect I was staying in and just working to make my life easier rationalising I can do all that when I’m older but a mate suddenly dying in 2022 made me question is this the right approach? "

Very sorry to hear that. Possibly, like many things, the answer lies somewhere in the middle

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
35 weeks ago

Basingstoke

I like to have things in my diary to look forward to, so I have plenty of planning going on most of the time. But equally, I'm pretty spontaneous and will grab an opportunity if it presents, and it works for my circumstances.

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By *ris GrayMan
35 weeks ago

Dorchester

I'm definitely spontaneous if the mood takes me i just get in the van and head off

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

Yes, I'm basically winging life. I mean I have a good job etc but I'd give it all up in a heartbeat if I got a better option at life

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
35 weeks ago

Central

I have some plans but have much of my time living in the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

We are loving life so we very much look to the future for more adventures and watching our grandchildren grow into beautiful human beings. X

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By *parkle1974Woman
35 weeks ago

Leeds

I like plans but I also like to be spontaneous...so I'm half and half x

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By *ris GrayMan
35 weeks ago

Dorchester


"I like plans but I also like to be spontaneous...so I'm half and half x"
where that coat round to mine please

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
35 weeks ago

Leeds

I like routine a little too much, I do plan for the odd thing but generally a day at a time.

Mrs

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By *ea monkeyMan
35 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

Yes, mainly because I can’t live two at once.

Timey wimey stuff

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
35 weeks ago

East Sussex

Yes in the physical sense but also no. If u didn't think ahead nobody would eat

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
35 weeks ago


"Yes in the physical sense but also no. If u didn't think ahead nobody would eat"

……

Youve got a point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
35 weeks ago


"I like to have things in my diary to look forward to, so I have plenty of planning going on most of the time. But equally, I'm pretty spontaneous and will grab an opportunity if it presents, and it works for my circumstances. "

You have to plan stuff sometimes when people are so damn far away

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By (user no longer on site)
35 weeks ago

I like to make future plans to look forward to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
35 weeks ago


"One hour at a time, Woody.

I plan my day hour by hour."

This is why I wear a watch.

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By *rHotNottsMan
35 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I start with the end in mind and then put first things first, and sieve the day, so no, I mean yes, I mean , maybe kind of

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