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"If you took part in a thread, I.E Tittie Tuesdays etc, and another forum user who you’ve never interacted with, either in forum comments or inbox sends you an unsolicited tribute pic…. Because I know this site has a purpose, but I feel pretty uncomfortable about it right now…. Am I wrong in feeling that way? " I feel like I'd arrived Mr  | |||
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"If you took part in a thread, I.E Tittie Tuesdays etc, and another forum user who you’ve never interacted with, either in forum comments or inbox sends you an unsolicited tribute pic…. Because I know this site has a purpose, but I feel pretty uncomfortable about it right now…. Am I wrong in feeling that way? " The purpose of this site isn't to do things that make other people feel degraded. The person was in the wrong. They should have asked consent first. | |||
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"I think that’s reasonable. It shouldn’t be assumed that sending such pics is ok just because someone has taken place in a forum game/challenge " Be that as it may, in reality, the general thinking for the man is that he is complimenting the woman with evidence that her photo has aroused the reaction he presumes she had intended. It isn’t sent with ill-intent. Unfortunately, the extent of where consent lies is far from being an easy concept to grasp for many people yet. | |||
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"If you took part in a thread, I.E Tittie Tuesdays etc, and another forum user who you’ve never interacted with, either in forum comments or inbox sends you an unsolicited tribute pic…. Because I know this site has a purpose, but I feel pretty uncomfortable about it right now…. Am I wrong in feeling that way? " Surely that's illegal ain't it to tribute and send unsolicited pics | |||
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"I’d feel sick if I didn’t ask for it, but I guess it’s the nature of the site & some guys don’t understand the world of consent " Its not about consent its about manners, they don't know you so they shouldn't be approaching you with anything sexual until they do, stop thinking with your dicks guys you just don't know these women and by the sounds of it you never will  | |||
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"If you took part in a thread, I.E Tittie Tuesdays etc, and another forum user who you’ve never interacted with, either in forum comments or inbox sends you an unsolicited tribute pic…. Because I know this site has a purpose, but I feel pretty uncomfortable about it right now…. Am I wrong in feeling that way? The purpose of this site isn't to do things that make other people feel degraded. The person was in the wrong. They should have asked consent first." This! 
My pet hate is seeing posts that say 'wanna chat about/share pics of my gf or wife' from single profiles.
Seems a distinct lack of respect and consent occurs frequently.
In the OP's case - just because a photo is online it doesn't make it public property to do with as you please.  | |||
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It’s just left me feeling something I haven’t felt being here before and I don’t like it!
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"If you took part in a thread, I.E Tittie Tuesdays etc, and another forum user who you’ve never interacted with, either in forum comments or inbox sends you an unsolicited tribute pic…. Because I know this site has a purpose, but I feel pretty uncomfortable about it right now…. Am I wrong in feeling that way? The purpose of this site isn't to do things that make other people feel degraded. The person was in the wrong. They should have asked consent first. This!
My pet hate is seeing posts that say 'wanna chat about/share pics of my gf or wife' from single profiles.
Seems a distinct lack of respect and consent occurs frequently.
In the OP's case - just because a photo is online it doesn't make it public property to do with as you please. "It doesn't make it public property I agree, but if a pic is public, then your leaving yourself open for people to do what they like with it. This has to be acknowledged...it's a site where people are potentally going to knock one out over your pics. There is always the option to make it friends only, Mr | |||
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"In the words of Shaggy……It wasn’t me "But seriously, that’s some decidedly poor etiquette. | |||
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"If you took part in a thread, I.E Tittie Tuesdays etc, and another forum user who you’ve never interacted with, either in forum comments or inbox sends you an unsolicited tribute pic…. Because I know this site has a purpose, but I feel pretty uncomfortable about it right now…. Am I wrong in feeling that way? The purpose of this site isn't to do things that make other people feel degraded. The person was in the wrong. They should have asked consent first. This!
My pet hate is seeing posts that say 'wanna chat about/share pics of my gf or wife' from single profiles.
Seems a distinct lack of respect and consent occurs frequently.
In the OP's case - just because a photo is online it doesn't make it public property to do with as you please.
It doesn't make it public property I agree, but if a pic is public, then your leaving yourself open for people to do what they like with it. This has to be acknowledged...it's a site where people are potentally going to knock one out over your pics. There is always the option to make it friends only,
Mr "Oh it’s not about someone knocking one out over my pics, I think it’s a known fact that will inevitably happen when we post the kinds of pictures that we do!! It’s about sending creepy pics to someone you don’t know of you doing it without consent! | |||
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"If you took part in a thread, I.E Tittie Tuesdays etc, and another forum user who you’ve never interacted with, either in forum comments or inbox sends you an unsolicited tribute pic…. Because I know this site has a purpose, but I feel pretty uncomfortable about it right now…. Am I wrong in feeling that way? The purpose of this site isn't to do things that make other people feel degraded. The person was in the wrong. They should have asked consent first. This!
My pet hate is seeing posts that say 'wanna chat about/share pics of my gf or wife' from single profiles.
Seems a distinct lack of respect and consent occurs frequently.
In the OP's case - just because a photo is online it doesn't make it public property to do with as you please.
It doesn't make it public property I agree, but if a pic is public, then your leaving yourself open for people to do what they like with it. This has to be acknowledged...it's a site where people are potentally going to knock one out over your pics. There is always the option to make it friends only,
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Oh it’s not about someone knocking one out over my pics, I think it’s a known fact that will inevitably happen when we post the kinds of pictures that we do!!
It’s about sending creepy pics to someone you don’t know of you doing it without consent! "I'm not saying this is right by any stretch of thr imagination as its not, but I do believe that since this is a swingers/sex site, then people are going to and will cross thise boundaries. As some believe it's like a clunge cash n carry 'CLUNGECO' so to speak, and that leads them to believe that they are free to do what ever thr fuxk they like, without thought of how their behaviour will affect others. This has to be born Into consideration, there are tools to stop this happening of course, that we are free to implement Mr | |||
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"If you took part in a thread, I.E Tittie Tuesdays etc, and another forum user who you’ve never interacted with, either in forum comments or inbox sends you an unsolicited tribute pic…. Because I know this site has a purpose, but I feel pretty uncomfortable about it right now…. Am I wrong in feeling that way? The purpose of this site isn't to do things that make other people feel degraded. The person was in the wrong. They should have asked consent first. This!
My pet hate is seeing posts that say 'wanna chat about/share pics of my gf or wife' from single profiles.
Seems a distinct lack of respect and consent occurs frequently.
In the OP's case - just because a photo is online it doesn't make it public property to do with as you please.
It doesn't make it public property I agree, but if a pic is public, then your leaving yourself open for people to do what they like with it. This has to be acknowledged...it's a site where people are potentally going to knock one out over your pics. There is always the option to make it friends only,
Mr
Oh it’s not about someone knocking one out over my pics, I think it’s a known fact that will inevitably happen when we post the kinds of pictures that we do!!
It’s about sending creepy pics to someone you don’t know of you doing it without consent!
I'm not saying this is right by any stretch of thr imagination as its not, but I do believe that since this is a swingers/sex site, then people are going to and will cross thise boundaries. As some believe it's like a clunge cash n carry 'CLUNGECO' so to speak, and that leads them to believe that they are free to do what ever thr fuxk they like, without thought of how their behaviour will affect others.
This has to be born Into consideration, there are tools to stop this happening of course, that we are free to implement
Mr "I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. | |||
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Some love them some don't but like anything consent is key.
I don't wanna see it.
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"I hate it, if I wanna see someone's cock or jizz or anything for that matter I'll ask. Tribute pics just make me
Some love them some don't but like anything consent is key.
I don't wanna see it.
Mrs "Exactly this… If it’s someone I’m attracted to and we are talking then it’s different, but this just feels wrong and uncomfortable | |||
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"I think that’s reasonable. It shouldn’t be assumed that sending such pics is ok just because someone has taken place in a forum game/challenge Be that as it may, in reality, the general thinking for the man is that he is complimenting the woman with evidence that her photo has aroused the reaction he presumes she had intended. It isn’t sent with ill-intent. Unfortunately, the extent of where consent lies is far from being an easy concept to grasp for many people yet." I don’t think that the replies to this thread suggest that it is the general thinking. I think it’s massively in the minority thankfully | |||
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"This is exactly why I stopped taking part after receiving something similiar with a very vile message of how they were going to fuck and treat me attached too it. " I’m sorry to hear you’ve had this too…just not ok | |||
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"You can only set your own boundaries, not police other peoples unfortunately. Much like driving, most people know when to stay in their lane, a few think the comfort and safety of other drivers is not their problem. You’ve found a bad driver. You can pull over and feel upset if you want to, or focus on your own destination and not waste time on him. Either way, he’s still on the road, up to you if you are too. " My question to you then is, should these bad drivers be allowed to stay on the road! Because they are causing harm to other drivers or is it down to us to avoid them? | |||
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"Creepy, concerning and crossing a boundary. Sadly, this site will attract some worrying individuals. Hope you're ok op. " Thank you, little unsettled but I’m made of tough stuff! Will make me think twice before interacting with such posts in future sadly  | |||
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"I think that’s reasonable. It shouldn’t be assumed that sending such pics is ok just because someone has taken place in a forum game/challenge Be that as it may, in reality, the general thinking for the man is that he is complimenting the woman with evidence that her photo has aroused the reaction he presumes she had intended. It isn’t sent with ill-intent. Unfortunately, the extent of where consent lies is far from being an easy concept to grasp for many people yet. I don’t think that the replies to this thread suggest that it is the general thinking. I think it’s massively in the minority thankfully "I don’t gauge ‘general thinking’ by the number of comments in this thread. There are many more thousands of members of Fab who don’t use the Forum and several million who are in the general population. This thread is not representative of general thinking. I would suggest that this thread is more skewed and biased towards agreeing with the OP than with the general consensus that if a photo is willingly displayed on a site such as this, it isn’t surprising the reaction it will get from some respondents. I don’t think many who think it isn’t wrong to respond with lewd comments or tribute pics would admit to it or comment in this thread. Hence the bias. | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. " Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr " So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent?" This is my thought l… He wants to jerk off to a pic posted in public domain that’s fine… what is not fine however if sending me a pic of the act, with a pic of me beneath… | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent?" I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr | |||
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"I've sadly had this before too. It's creepy and made me feel pretty uncomfortable too. I told him so and blocked him. I hope you're ok " Yeah, the creepy lurker (or regular member who chooses to be creepy out of the gate) is an automatic block. | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr " So here's the thing. Women aren't thick. We are aware that we can choose to try to bury our emotions. But actually, if we all spoke out about it, and we all condemned it, and we all highlighted that it's not ok to perform sex acts without consent (yes, including you condemning it) then perhaps people would start to get the message. But honestly, the last thing women need is a bloke just suggesting that maybe they could ignore it, or get on with their life, or whatever. That's what we do every single time a man behaves inappropriately online or in person. And we've all been doing it for years. | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr So here's the thing. Women aren't thick. We are aware that we can choose to try to bury our emotions. But actually, if we all spoke out about it, and we all condemned it, and we all highlighted that it's not ok to perform sex acts without consent (yes, including you condemning it) then perhaps people would start to get the message. But honestly, the last thing women need is a bloke just suggesting that maybe they could ignore it, or get on with their life, or whatever. That's what we do every single time a man behaves inappropriately online or in person. And we've all been doing it for years." Indeed. Men have been saying "have you tried ignoring it" or "have you tried changing xyz" for thousands of years. We can twist ourselves into impossible shapes, shut our lives down, etc, and people will still try to do these things to us. We need to stop acting as if people who violate boundaries are like weather that can't be affected, and stop blaming their victims. (yes yes it's useful to know how to avoid these behaviours blah blah WE KNOW stop putting the burden on us) | |||
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"If you took part in a thread, I.E Tittie Tuesdays etc, and another forum user who you’ve never interacted with, either in forum comments or inbox sends you an unsolicited tribute pic…. Because I know this site has a purpose, but I feel pretty uncomfortable about it right now…. Am I wrong in feeling that way? " Absolutely not, there’s a power thing at play in sending unsolicited dick pics etc. sadly your revulsion will probably make them feel better about themselves. | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr So here's the thing. Women aren't thick. We are aware that we can choose to try to bury our emotions. But actually, if we all spoke out about it, and we all condemned it, and we all highlighted that it's not ok to perform sex acts without consent (yes, including you condemning it) then perhaps people would start to get the message. But honestly, the last thing women need is a bloke just suggesting that maybe they could ignore it, or get on with their life, or whatever. That's what we do every single time a man behaves inappropriately online or in person. And we've all been doing it for years. Indeed. Men have been saying "have you tried ignoring it" or "have you tried changing xyz" for thousands of years. We can twist ourselves into impossible shapes, shut our lives down, etc, and people will still try to do these things to us. We need to stop acting as if people who violate boundaries are like weather that can't be affected, and stop blaming their victims. (yes yes it's useful to know how to avoid these behaviours blah blah WE KNOW stop putting the burden on us)" It’s the same as telling girls that dressing provocatively on a night out that it’s their fault if they’re attacked because they were irresistible…. They never asked for that in the same way that me posting that pic never asked for that pic. The same way that a stripper wouldn’t have asked to be groped just for doing her job. | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr So here's the thing. Women aren't thick. We are aware that we can choose to try to bury our emotions. But actually, if we all spoke out about it, and we all condemned it, and we all highlighted that it's not ok to perform sex acts without consent (yes, including you condemning it) then perhaps people would start to get the message. But honestly, the last thing women need is a bloke just suggesting that maybe they could ignore it, or get on with their life, or whatever. That's what we do every single time a man behaves inappropriately online or in person. And we've all been doing it for years. Indeed. Men have been saying "have you tried ignoring it" or "have you tried changing xyz" for thousands of years. We can twist ourselves into impossible shapes, shut our lives down, etc, and people will still try to do these things to us. We need to stop acting as if people who violate boundaries are like weather that can't be affected, and stop blaming their victims. (yes yes it's useful to know how to avoid these behaviours blah blah WE KNOW stop putting the burden on us) It’s the same as telling girls that dressing provocatively on a night out that it’s their fault if they’re attacked because they were irresistible…. They never asked for that in the same way that me posting that pic never asked for that pic. The same way that a stripper wouldn’t have asked to be groped just for doing her job. " Indeed. Stop condescending to women and start working on the problem. | |||
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"You can only set your own boundaries, not police other peoples unfortunately. Much like driving, most people know when to stay in their lane, a few think the comfort and safety of other drivers is not their problem. You’ve found a bad driver. You can pull over and feel upset if you want to, or focus on your own destination and not waste time on him. Either way, he’s still on the road, up to you if you are too. My question to you then is, should these bad drivers be allowed to stay on the road! Because they are causing harm to other drivers or is it down to us to avoid them? " Morally they shouldn’t be on the road. In the real world we have to avoid them. We shouldn’t have to, but we do. | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr So here's the thing. Women aren't thick. We are aware that we can choose to try to bury our emotions. But actually, if we all spoke out about it, and we all condemned it, and we all highlighted that it's not ok to perform sex acts without consent (yes, including you condemning it) then perhaps people would start to get the message. But honestly, the last thing women need is a bloke just suggesting that maybe they could ignore it, or get on with their life, or whatever. That's what we do every single time a man behaves inappropriately online or in person. And we've all been doing it for years. Indeed. Men have been saying "have you tried ignoring it" or "have you tried changing xyz" for thousands of years. We can twist ourselves into impossible shapes, shut our lives down, etc, and people will still try to do these things to us. We need to stop acting as if people who violate boundaries are like weather that can't be affected, and stop blaming their victims. (yes yes it's useful to know how to avoid these behaviours blah blah WE KNOW stop putting the burden on us) It’s the same as telling girls that dressing provocatively on a night out that it’s their fault if they’re attacked because they were irresistible…. They never asked for that in the same way that me posting that pic never asked for that pic. The same way that a stripper wouldn’t have asked to be groped just for doing her job. Indeed. Stop condescending to women and start working on the problem." The whole ‘boys will be boys’ and let’s be honest that’s what it is, attitude absolutely stinks. It’s not normal to show a woman your genitalia, it’s not normal to grab her sexually (or in any other way), and men certainly wouldn’t let it pass if someone did it to their partner in their presence, so why do so many men bend over backwards to excuse it? Especially on fab. | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr So here's the thing. Women aren't thick. We are aware that we can choose to try to bury our emotions. But actually, if we all spoke out about it, and we all condemned it, and we all highlighted that it's not ok to perform sex acts without consent (yes, including you condemning it) then perhaps people would start to get the message. But honestly, the last thing women need is a bloke just suggesting that maybe they could ignore it, or get on with their life, or whatever. That's what we do every single time a man behaves inappropriately online or in person. And we've all been doing it for years. Indeed. Men have been saying "have you tried ignoring it" or "have you tried changing xyz" for thousands of years. We can twist ourselves into impossible shapes, shut our lives down, etc, and people will still try to do these things to us. We need to stop acting as if people who violate boundaries are like weather that can't be affected, and stop blaming their victims. (yes yes it's useful to know how to avoid these behaviours blah blah WE KNOW stop putting the burden on us) It’s the same as telling girls that dressing provocatively on a night out that it’s their fault if they’re attacked because they were irresistible…. They never asked for that in the same way that me posting that pic never asked for that pic. The same way that a stripper wouldn’t have asked to be groped just for doing her job. Indeed. Stop condescending to women and start working on the problem. The whole ‘boys will be boys’ and let’s be honest that’s what it is, attitude absolutely stinks. It’s not normal to show a woman your genitalia, it’s not normal to grab her sexually (or in any other way), and men certainly wouldn’t let it pass if someone did it to their partner in their presence, so why do so many men bend over backwards to excuse it? Especially on fab." This!!!!!! | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr So here's the thing. Women aren't thick. We are aware that we can choose to try to bury our emotions. But actually, if we all spoke out about it, and we all condemned it, and we all highlighted that it's not ok to perform sex acts without consent (yes, including you condemning it) then perhaps people would start to get the message. But honestly, the last thing women need is a bloke just suggesting that maybe they could ignore it, or get on with their life, or whatever. That's what we do every single time a man behaves inappropriately online or in person. And we've all been doing it for years." I'm not condoning this type of behaviour, nor am I saying women should put and shut up, I whole heartedly agree that it needs to publicly challenged, as its not OK. Nor am I coming from a position of defence of 'boys will be boys' as that is bollocks. The message this passes indeed has power if there is a unified voice across the board to it. My point is that that message will still fall on deaf ears, as some have such sense of entitlement. Consequently, behaving in a way that they want to. Maybe we should be able to name and shame on here... Mr | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr So here's the thing. Women aren't thick. We are aware that we can choose to try to bury our emotions. But actually, if we all spoke out about it, and we all condemned it, and we all highlighted that it's not ok to perform sex acts without consent (yes, including you condemning it) then perhaps people would start to get the message. But honestly, the last thing women need is a bloke just suggesting that maybe they could ignore it, or get on with their life, or whatever. That's what we do every single time a man behaves inappropriately online or in person. And we've all been doing it for years. I'm not condoning this type of behaviour, nor am I saying women should put and shut up, I whole heartedly agree that it needs to publicly challenged, as its not OK. Nor am I coming from a position of defence of 'boys will be boys' as that is bollocks. The message this passes indeed has power if there is a unified voice across the board to it. My point is that that message will still fall on deaf ears, as some have such sense of entitlement. Consequently, behaving in a way that they want to. Maybe we should be able to name and shame on here... Mr " If fab banned everyone who sends an unsolicited dick pic then I think they would need to review their business model! | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr So here's the thing. Women aren't thick. We are aware that we can choose to try to bury our emotions. But actually, if we all spoke out about it, and we all condemned it, and we all highlighted that it's not ok to perform sex acts without consent (yes, including you condemning it) then perhaps people would start to get the message. But honestly, the last thing women need is a bloke just suggesting that maybe they could ignore it, or get on with their life, or whatever. That's what we do every single time a man behaves inappropriately online or in person. And we've all been doing it for years. I'm not condoning this type of behaviour, nor am I saying women should put and shut up, I whole heartedly agree that it needs to publicly challenged, as its not OK. Nor am I coming from a position of defence of 'boys will be boys' as that is bollocks. The message this passes indeed has power if there is a unified voice across the board to it. My point is that that message will still fall on deaf ears, as some have such sense of entitlement. Consequently, behaving in a way that they want to. Maybe we should be able to name and shame on here... Mr If fab banned everyone who sends an unsolicited dick pic then I think they would need to review their business model!" The subscription would certainly take a hit..... | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr So here's the thing. Women aren't thick. We are aware that we can choose to try to bury our emotions. But actually, if we all spoke out about it, and we all condemned it, and we all highlighted that it's not ok to perform sex acts without consent (yes, including you condemning it) then perhaps people would start to get the message. But honestly, the last thing women need is a bloke just suggesting that maybe they could ignore it, or get on with their life, or whatever. That's what we do every single time a man behaves inappropriately online or in person. And we've all been doing it for years. Indeed. Men have been saying "have you tried ignoring it" or "have you tried changing xyz" for thousands of years. We can twist ourselves into impossible shapes, shut our lives down, etc, and people will still try to do these things to us. We need to stop acting as if people who violate boundaries are like weather that can't be affected, and stop blaming their victims. (yes yes it's useful to know how to avoid these behaviours blah blah WE KNOW stop putting the burden on us) It’s the same as telling girls that dressing provocatively on a night out that it’s their fault if they’re attacked because they were irresistible…. They never asked for that in the same way that me posting that pic never asked for that pic. The same way that a stripper wouldn’t have asked to be groped just for doing her job. Indeed. Stop condescending to women and start working on the problem. The whole ‘boys will be boys’ and let’s be honest that’s what it is, attitude absolutely stinks. It’s not normal to show a woman your genitalia, it’s not normal to grab her sexually (or in any other way), and men certainly wouldn’t let it pass if someone did it to their partner in their presence, so why do so many men bend over backwards to excuse it? Especially on fab." Sadly, its indicative of society and its shit and it indeed needs calling out. | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr So here's the thing. Women aren't thick. We are aware that we can choose to try to bury our emotions. But actually, if we all spoke out about it, and we all condemned it, and we all highlighted that it's not ok to perform sex acts without consent (yes, including you condemning it) then perhaps people would start to get the message. But honestly, the last thing women need is a bloke just suggesting that maybe they could ignore it, or get on with their life, or whatever. That's what we do every single time a man behaves inappropriately online or in person. And we've all been doing it for years. Indeed. Men have been saying "have you tried ignoring it" or "have you tried changing xyz" for thousands of years. We can twist ourselves into impossible shapes, shut our lives down, etc, and people will still try to do these things to us. We need to stop acting as if people who violate boundaries are like weather that can't be affected, and stop blaming their victims. (yes yes it's useful to know how to avoid these behaviours blah blah WE KNOW stop putting the burden on us) It’s the same as telling girls that dressing provocatively on a night out that it’s their fault if they’re attacked because they were irresistible…. They never asked for that in the same way that me posting that pic never asked for that pic. The same way that a stripper wouldn’t have asked to be groped just for doing her job. Indeed. Stop condescending to women and start working on the problem. The whole ‘boys will be boys’ and let’s be honest that’s what it is, attitude absolutely stinks. It’s not normal to show a woman your genitalia, it’s not normal to grab her sexually (or in any other way), and men certainly wouldn’t let it pass if someone did it to their partner in their presence, so why do so many men bend over backwards to excuse it? Especially on fab. This!!!!!! "Agree. | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr So here's the thing. Women aren't thick. We are aware that we can choose to try to bury our emotions. But actually, if we all spoke out about it, and we all condemned it, and we all highlighted that it's not ok to perform sex acts without consent (yes, including you condemning it) then perhaps people would start to get the message. But honestly, the last thing women need is a bloke just suggesting that maybe they could ignore it, or get on with their life, or whatever. That's what we do every single time a man behaves inappropriately online or in person. And we've all been doing it for years. Indeed. Men have been saying "have you tried ignoring it" or "have you tried changing xyz" for thousands of years. We can twist ourselves into impossible shapes, shut our lives down, etc, and people will still try to do these things to us. We need to stop acting as if people who violate boundaries are like weather that can't be affected, and stop blaming their victims. (yes yes it's useful to know how to avoid these behaviours blah blah WE KNOW stop putting the burden on us) It’s the same as telling girls that dressing provocatively on a night out that it’s their fault if they’re attacked because they were irresistible…. They never asked for that in the same way that me posting that pic never asked for that pic. The same way that a stripper wouldn’t have asked to be groped just for doing her job. Indeed. Stop condescending to women and start working on the problem. The whole ‘boys will be boys’ and let’s be honest that’s what it is, attitude absolutely stinks. It’s not normal to show a woman your genitalia, it’s not normal to grab her sexually (or in any other way), and men certainly wouldn’t let it pass if someone did it to their partner in their presence, so why do so many men bend over backwards to excuse it? Especially on fab. Sadly, its indicative of society and its shit and it indeed needs calling out." I’m glad that we seem to be in agreement and hopefully although uncomfortable, we all feel supported in standing up for what is right and for ourselves when affronted with unacceptable behaviour in the forum and via DMs | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr So here's the thing. Women aren't thick. We are aware that we can choose to try to bury our emotions. But actually, if we all spoke out about it, and we all condemned it, and we all highlighted that it's not ok to perform sex acts without consent (yes, including you condemning it) then perhaps people would start to get the message. But honestly, the last thing women need is a bloke just suggesting that maybe they could ignore it, or get on with their life, or whatever. That's what we do every single time a man behaves inappropriately online or in person. And we've all been doing it for years. Indeed. Men have been saying "have you tried ignoring it" or "have you tried changing xyz" for thousands of years. We can twist ourselves into impossible shapes, shut our lives down, etc, and people will still try to do these things to us. We need to stop acting as if people who violate boundaries are like weather that can't be affected, and stop blaming their victims. (yes yes it's useful to know how to avoid these behaviours blah blah WE KNOW stop putting the burden on us) It’s the same as telling girls that dressing provocatively on a night out that it’s their fault if they’re attacked because they were irresistible…. They never asked for that in the same way that me posting that pic never asked for that pic. The same way that a stripper wouldn’t have asked to be groped just for doing her job. Indeed. Stop condescending to women and start working on the problem. The whole ‘boys will be boys’ and let’s be honest that’s what it is, attitude absolutely stinks. It’s not normal to show a woman your genitalia, it’s not normal to grab her sexually (or in any other way), and men certainly wouldn’t let it pass if someone did it to their partner in their presence, so why do so many men bend over backwards to excuse it? Especially on fab. Sadly, its indicative of society and its shit and it indeed needs calling out." Boys will be boys? Then boys should be sent to their rooms without pudding and give their electronics to Mummy. And their female peers are not their fucking mothers. | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr So here's the thing. Women aren't thick. We are aware that we can choose to try to bury our emotions. But actually, if we all spoke out about it, and we all condemned it, and we all highlighted that it's not ok to perform sex acts without consent (yes, including you condemning it) then perhaps people would start to get the message. But honestly, the last thing women need is a bloke just suggesting that maybe they could ignore it, or get on with their life, or whatever. That's what we do every single time a man behaves inappropriately online or in person. And we've all been doing it for years. Indeed. Men have been saying "have you tried ignoring it" or "have you tried changing xyz" for thousands of years. We can twist ourselves into impossible shapes, shut our lives down, etc, and people will still try to do these things to us. We need to stop acting as if people who violate boundaries are like weather that can't be affected, and stop blaming their victims. (yes yes it's useful to know how to avoid these behaviours blah blah WE KNOW stop putting the burden on us) It’s the same as telling girls that dressing provocatively on a night out that it’s their fault if they’re attacked because they were irresistible…. They never asked for that in the same way that me posting that pic never asked for that pic. The same way that a stripper wouldn’t have asked to be groped just for doing her job. Indeed. Stop condescending to women and start working on the problem. The whole ‘boys will be boys’ and let’s be honest that’s what it is, attitude absolutely stinks. It’s not normal to show a woman your genitalia, it’s not normal to grab her sexually (or in any other way), and men certainly wouldn’t let it pass if someone did it to their partner in their presence, so why do so many men bend over backwards to excuse it? Especially on fab. Sadly, its indicative of society and its shit and it indeed needs calling out. Boys will be boys? Then boys should be sent to their rooms without pudding and give their electronics to Mummy. And their female peers are not their fucking mothers." That’s the point though, they’re not boys, physically at least, yet there aren’t a this attitude that’s it’s just how they are and there’s no changing that. They can change their behaviour, especially when other men tell them their behaviour is unacceptable and they don’t find comfort and support from other ‘boys’. | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr So here's the thing. Women aren't thick. We are aware that we can choose to try to bury our emotions. But actually, if we all spoke out about it, and we all condemned it, and we all highlighted that it's not ok to perform sex acts without consent (yes, including you condemning it) then perhaps people would start to get the message. But honestly, the last thing women need is a bloke just suggesting that maybe they could ignore it, or get on with their life, or whatever. That's what we do every single time a man behaves inappropriately online or in person. And we've all been doing it for years. Indeed. Men have been saying "have you tried ignoring it" or "have you tried changing xyz" for thousands of years. We can twist ourselves into impossible shapes, shut our lives down, etc, and people will still try to do these things to us. We need to stop acting as if people who violate boundaries are like weather that can't be affected, and stop blaming their victims. (yes yes it's useful to know how to avoid these behaviours blah blah WE KNOW stop putting the burden on us) It’s the same as telling girls that dressing provocatively on a night out that it’s their fault if they’re attacked because they were irresistible…. They never asked for that in the same way that me posting that pic never asked for that pic. The same way that a stripper wouldn’t have asked to be groped just for doing her job. Indeed. Stop condescending to women and start working on the problem. The whole ‘boys will be boys’ and let’s be honest that’s what it is, attitude absolutely stinks. It’s not normal to show a woman your genitalia, it’s not normal to grab her sexually (or in any other way), and men certainly wouldn’t let it pass if someone did it to their partner in their presence, so why do so many men bend over backwards to excuse it? Especially on fab. Sadly, its indicative of society and its shit and it indeed needs calling out. Boys will be boys? Then boys should be sent to their rooms without pudding and give their electronics to Mummy. And their female peers are not their fucking mothers. That’s the point though, they’re not boys, physically at least, yet there aren’t a this attitude that’s it’s just how they are and there’s no changing that. They can change their behaviour, especially when other men tell them their behaviour is unacceptable and they don’t find comfort and support from other ‘boys’." Oh indeed. I hate the expression because it puts the onus on women - and sometimes girls. Men should be expected to behave with the same regard for other people's feelings and desires that we demand of girls in primary school. And no, you don't get a gold star for being able to do that, you get told that you're doing the bare fucking minimum. Instead, we shrug and say boys will be boys - even when said boys are men in their 40s and 50s and even have children or grandchildren. It's got to stop. | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr So here's the thing. Women aren't thick. We are aware that we can choose to try to bury our emotions. But actually, if we all spoke out about it, and we all condemned it, and we all highlighted that it's not ok to perform sex acts without consent (yes, including you condemning it) then perhaps people would start to get the message. But honestly, the last thing women need is a bloke just suggesting that maybe they could ignore it, or get on with their life, or whatever. That's what we do every single time a man behaves inappropriately online or in person. And we've all been doing it for years. Indeed. Men have been saying "have you tried ignoring it" or "have you tried changing xyz" for thousands of years. We can twist ourselves into impossible shapes, shut our lives down, etc, and people will still try to do these things to us. We need to stop acting as if people who violate boundaries are like weather that can't be affected, and stop blaming their victims. (yes yes it's useful to know how to avoid these behaviours blah blah WE KNOW stop putting the burden on us) It’s the same as telling girls that dressing provocatively on a night out that it’s their fault if they’re attacked because they were irresistible…. They never asked for that in the same way that me posting that pic never asked for that pic. The same way that a stripper wouldn’t have asked to be groped just for doing her job. Indeed. Stop condescending to women and start working on the problem. The whole ‘boys will be boys’ and let’s be honest that’s what it is, attitude absolutely stinks. It’s not normal to show a woman your genitalia, it’s not normal to grab her sexually (or in any other way), and men certainly wouldn’t let it pass if someone did it to their partner in their presence, so why do so many men bend over backwards to excuse it? Especially on fab. Sadly, its indicative of society and its shit and it indeed needs calling out. Boys will be boys? Then boys should be sent to their rooms without pudding and give their electronics to Mummy. And their female peers are not their fucking mothers. That’s the point though, they’re not boys, physically at least, yet there aren’t a this attitude that’s it’s just how they are and there’s no changing that. They can change their behaviour, especially when other men tell them their behaviour is unacceptable and they don’t find comfort and support from other ‘boys’. Oh indeed. I hate the expression because it puts the onus on women - and sometimes girls. Men should be expected to behave with the same regard for other people's feelings and desires that we demand of girls in primary school. And no, you don't get a gold star for being able to do that, you get told that you're doing the bare fucking minimum. Instead, we shrug and say boys will be boys - even when said boys are men in their 40s and 50s and even have children or grandchildren. It's got to stop." It will die out but it won’t happen without a concerted effort. Sadly a lot of men behave like children and they won’t stop bad behaviour until they realise it negatively affects them. | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr So here's the thing. Women aren't thick. We are aware that we can choose to try to bury our emotions. But actually, if we all spoke out about it, and we all condemned it, and we all highlighted that it's not ok to perform sex acts without consent (yes, including you condemning it) then perhaps people would start to get the message. But honestly, the last thing women need is a bloke just suggesting that maybe they could ignore it, or get on with their life, or whatever. That's what we do every single time a man behaves inappropriately online or in person. And we've all been doing it for years. Indeed. Men have been saying "have you tried ignoring it" or "have you tried changing xyz" for thousands of years. We can twist ourselves into impossible shapes, shut our lives down, etc, and people will still try to do these things to us. We need to stop acting as if people who violate boundaries are like weather that can't be affected, and stop blaming their victims. (yes yes it's useful to know how to avoid these behaviours blah blah WE KNOW stop putting the burden on us) It’s the same as telling girls that dressing provocatively on a night out that it’s their fault if they’re attacked because they were irresistible…. They never asked for that in the same way that me posting that pic never asked for that pic. The same way that a stripper wouldn’t have asked to be groped just for doing her job. Indeed. Stop condescending to women and start working on the problem. The whole ‘boys will be boys’ and let’s be honest that’s what it is, attitude absolutely stinks. It’s not normal to show a woman your genitalia, it’s not normal to grab her sexually (or in any other way), and men certainly wouldn’t let it pass if someone did it to their partner in their presence, so why do so many men bend over backwards to excuse it? Especially on fab. Sadly, its indicative of society and its shit and it indeed needs calling out. Boys will be boys? Then boys should be sent to their rooms without pudding and give their electronics to Mummy. And their female peers are not their fucking mothers. That’s the point though, they’re not boys, physically at least, yet there aren’t a this attitude that’s it’s just how they are and there’s no changing that. They can change their behaviour, especially when other men tell them their behaviour is unacceptable and they don’t find comfort and support from other ‘boys’. Oh indeed. I hate the expression because it puts the onus on women - and sometimes girls. Men should be expected to behave with the same regard for other people's feelings and desires that we demand of girls in primary school. And no, you don't get a gold star for being able to do that, you get told that you're doing the bare fucking minimum. Instead, we shrug and say boys will be boys - even when said boys are men in their 40s and 50s and even have children or grandchildren. It's got to stop. It will die out but it won’t happen without a concerted effort. Sadly a lot of men behave like children and they won’t stop bad behaviour until they realise it negatively affects them." My problem is that we were saying it would die out soon when I was in my teens. and here we bloody are. In the same or possibly (with more technological possibilities) a worse position. | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr So here's the thing. Women aren't thick. We are aware that we can choose to try to bury our emotions. But actually, if we all spoke out about it, and we all condemned it, and we all highlighted that it's not ok to perform sex acts without consent (yes, including you condemning it) then perhaps people would start to get the message. But honestly, the last thing women need is a bloke just suggesting that maybe they could ignore it, or get on with their life, or whatever. That's what we do every single time a man behaves inappropriately online or in person. And we've all been doing it for years. Indeed. Men have been saying "have you tried ignoring it" or "have you tried changing xyz" for thousands of years. We can twist ourselves into impossible shapes, shut our lives down, etc, and people will still try to do these things to us. We need to stop acting as if people who violate boundaries are like weather that can't be affected, and stop blaming their victims. (yes yes it's useful to know how to avoid these behaviours blah blah WE KNOW stop putting the burden on us) It’s the same as telling girls that dressing provocatively on a night out that it’s their fault if they’re attacked because they were irresistible…. They never asked for that in the same way that me posting that pic never asked for that pic. The same way that a stripper wouldn’t have asked to be groped just for doing her job. Indeed. Stop condescending to women and start working on the problem. The whole ‘boys will be boys’ and let’s be honest that’s what it is, attitude absolutely stinks. It’s not normal to show a woman your genitalia, it’s not normal to grab her sexually (or in any other way), and men certainly wouldn’t let it pass if someone did it to their partner in their presence, so why do so many men bend over backwards to excuse it? Especially on fab. Sadly, its indicative of society and its shit and it indeed needs calling out. Boys will be boys? Then boys should be sent to their rooms without pudding and give their electronics to Mummy. And their female peers are not their fucking mothers. That’s the point though, they’re not boys, physically at least, yet there aren’t a this attitude that’s it’s just how they are and there’s no changing that. They can change their behaviour, especially when other men tell them their behaviour is unacceptable and they don’t find comfort and support from other ‘boys’. Oh indeed. I hate the expression because it puts the onus on women - and sometimes girls. Men should be expected to behave with the same regard for other people's feelings and desires that we demand of girls in primary school. And no, you don't get a gold star for being able to do that, you get told that you're doing the bare fucking minimum. Instead, we shrug and say boys will be boys - even when said boys are men in their 40s and 50s and even have children or grandchildren. It's got to stop." I certainly wouldn’t support any man doing that to the OP or justify that behaviour. Without knowing the person or having their consent to do so it’s wrong. Yes it’s a swingers site, but find someone that wants that sort of thing and don’t assume a picture means something it doesn’t | |||
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" I shouldn’t have to have my filters set so that the people I wish to hear from can no longer contact me because a minority don’t know the meaning or respect and consent though. Unfortunately we are powerless over others behaviour, but we're not powerless over our reaction to it Mr So you think that women should just control their reactions and be totally fine with men aiming sexual acts at them without their consent? I didnt say that did I, no I don't believe this should be the case. I'm merely highlighting the fact that shit like this will go on, due to the nature of the shite we find ourselves on...I never once condoned this type of behaviour from males towards women... Mr So here's the thing. Women aren't thick. We are aware that we can choose to try to bury our emotions. But actually, if we all spoke out about it, and we all condemned it, and we all highlighted that it's not ok to perform sex acts without consent (yes, including you condemning it) then perhaps people would start to get the message. But honestly, the last thing women need is a bloke just suggesting that maybe they could ignore it, or get on with their life, or whatever. That's what we do every single time a man behaves inappropriately online or in person. And we've all been doing it for years. Indeed. Men have been saying "have you tried ignoring it" or "have you tried changing xyz" for thousands of years. We can twist ourselves into impossible shapes, shut our lives down, etc, and people will still try to do these things to us. We need to stop acting as if people who violate boundaries are like weather that can't be affected, and stop blaming their victims. (yes yes it's useful to know how to avoid these behaviours blah blah WE KNOW stop putting the burden on us) It’s the same as telling girls that dressing provocatively on a night out that it’s their fault if they’re attacked because they were irresistible…. They never asked for that in the same way that me posting that pic never asked for that pic. The same way that a stripper wouldn’t have asked to be groped just for doing her job. Indeed. Stop condescending to women and start working on the problem. The whole ‘boys will be boys’ and let’s be honest that’s what it is, attitude absolutely stinks. It’s not normal to show a woman your genitalia, it’s not normal to grab her sexually (or in any other way), and men certainly wouldn’t let it pass if someone did it to their partner in their presence, so why do so many men bend over backwards to excuse it? Especially on fab. Sadly, its indicative of society and its shit and it indeed needs calling out. Boys will be boys? Then boys should be sent to their rooms without pudding and give their electronics to Mummy. And their female peers are not their fucking mothers. That’s the point though, they’re not boys, physically at least, yet there aren’t a this attitude that’s it’s just how they are and there’s no changing that. They can change their behaviour, especially when other men tell them their behaviour is unacceptable and they don’t find comfort and support from other ‘boys’. Oh indeed. I hate the expression because it puts the onus on women - and sometimes girls. Men should be expected to behave with the same regard for other people's feelings and desires that we demand of girls in primary school. And no, you don't get a gold star for being able to do that, you get told that you're doing the bare fucking minimum. Instead, we shrug and say boys will be boys - even when said boys are men in their 40s and 50s and even have children or grandchildren. It's got to stop. It will die out but it won’t happen without a concerted effort. Sadly a lot of men behave like children and they won’t stop bad behaviour until they realise it negatively affects them. My problem is that we were saying it would die out soon when I was in my teens. and here we bloody are. In the same or possibly (with more technological possibilities) a worse position." That’s a fair point, my sincere hope is that this whole incel/MRA/Peterson/Tate is the death throes of toxic masculinity. | |||
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"If you took part in a thread, I.E Tittie Tuesdays etc, and another forum user who you’ve never interacted with, either in forum comments or inbox sends you an unsolicited tribute pic…. Because I know this site has a purpose, but I feel pretty uncomfortable about it right now…. Am I wrong in feeling that way? " However you feel is totally valid, regardless of anyone else’s opinion. For what it’s worth, I don’t like that either. It’s non consensual and I don’t enjoy tributes at all. | |||
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"Sounds illegal. "It is... see today's news re conviction for cyber flashing! | |||
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It is... see today's news re conviction for cyber flashing!"Quite literally | |||
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It is... see today's news re conviction for cyber flashing!"This^^^^ essex .. cyberflashing sent unsolicited cock pic on WhatsApp to 15 yr old and grandma ... think its the 15byr old that the problem, but its illegal .. but thats WhatsApp and this is fab . Signed up for ... | |||
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"It would feel icky to me. But men don't engage there brain " It’s not a generalised men thing though tbf, the forums are generally somewhere I feel safe and respected… unfortunately there is a minority just ruin it for the rest | |||
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"But in same vein ... sent tit pics for TOT is ok ... just saying" I commented on a post inviting people to view my public pics. Not sending them unsolicited or otherwise to anyone… Not the same thing | |||
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"If you took part in a thread, I.E Tittie Tuesdays etc, and another forum user who you’ve never interacted with, either in forum comments or inbox sends you an unsolicited tribute pic…. Because I know this site has a purpose, but I feel pretty uncomfortable about it right now…. Am I wrong in feeling that way? " Even though Fab is a site associated with X rated sexual activity and imagery, as the material sent to the OP was of a very explicit nature and was unsolicited, I'm wondering if this act falls under the same law as the one used to jail a Cyber Flasher for 56 weeks? If so, there people on here (Fab) that need to take note. | |||
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"I wouldn't want a tribute from someone I'm attracted to, so this would be a huge no no for me... They would be blocked immediately. Nita They were indeed blocked immediately " Rightly so. I do wonder what goes through some peoples minds to make them think it's even remotely acceptable 
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"But you have put the pics ona public site so it's gotta be expected surely? I would take any notice I'd even take it as a compliment" . As I said in a previous reply, I expect that images might be used for that….however to send an image to that effect without consent, to someone you’ve never spoken to or had any dealings with ever….thats not ok | |||
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"I think that’s reasonable. It shouldn’t be assumed that sending such pics is ok just because someone has taken place in a forum game/challenge Be that as it may, in reality, the general thinking for the man is that he is complimenting the woman with evidence that her photo has aroused the reaction he presumes she had intended. It isn’t sent with ill-intent. Unfortunately, the extent of where consent lies is far from being an easy concept to grasp for many people yet." Polite Q ..... How do you know what his intent was ? How do you know 'he' meant it as a compliment ? | |||
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"If you took part in a thread, I.E Tittie Tuesdays etc, and another forum user who you’ve never interacted with, either in forum comments or inbox sends you an unsolicited tribute pic…. Because I know this site has a purpose, but I feel pretty uncomfortable about it right now…. Am I wrong in feeling that way? " Absolutely not. Explicit consent is a thing I think the site should enable somehow, especially with the sentencing of the first case if cyber flashing in the UK. People use this site in different ways do I don't think there should be implied consent simply because we use this site. | |||
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"But you have put the pics ona public site so it's gotta be expected surely? I would take any notice I'd even take it as a compliment" Polite Q ..... Why do some men imagine that their goo is a compliment or arousing for a stranger he doesn't know or has never spoken to. | |||
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"oh and the more we encourage the porn side of this site the worse it will get videos was a terrible idea " Depends on your perspective to be fair Foxy. I really welcome your words and admire your stand but....... | |||
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"I understand consent being required before sending genitalia to someone BUT Does a pic of your own tits covered in jizz without a cock or vag in sight require consent ???" If an explicit image is being sent directly to someone then yes consent should be obtained in my opinion. What people put on their profile is their business and we make a conscious decision whether to view those images. | |||
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"I understand consent being required before sending genitalia to someone BUT Does a pic of your own tits covered in jizz without a cock or vag in sight require consent ??? If an explicit image is being sent directly to someone then yes consent should be obtained in my opinion. What people put on their profile is their business and we make a conscious decision whether to view those images. " What do you mean by explicit ? I said - IF there isn't a cock or a vag in it , is it explicit. Does that need consent. e.g. your own boobs that were already public ? | |||
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"If you took part in a thread, I.E Tittie Tuesdays etc, and another forum user who you’ve never interacted with, either in forum comments or inbox sends you an unsolicited tribute pic…. Because I know this site has a purpose, but I feel pretty uncomfortable about it right now…. Am I wrong in feeling that way? " You’re never wrong if you’re feeling that way about it. If a woman ever sent me unsolicited photos I’d be traumatised So ladies definitely don’t send me unasked for tribute photos | |||
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"I'm sorry but, what is a tribute pic? " A picture of you (traditionally printed, but often these days on a screen which has been protected) that someone's done a cum shot over. | |||
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"I understand consent being required before sending genitalia to someone BUT Does a pic of your own tits covered in jizz without a cock or vag in sight require consent ??? If an explicit image is being sent directly to someone then yes consent should be obtained in my opinion. What people put on their profile is their business and we make a conscious decision whether to view those images. What do you mean by explicit ? I said - IF there isn't a cock or a vag in it , is it explicit. Does that need consent. e.g. your own boobs that were already public ?" You mean a pic of my soapy cleavage? No jizz in sight? A pic you actively went looking for, that I didn’t send to your inbox? A little different to a picture sent to my inbox of a guy stroking his cock with a picture of me in the background do you not think?! | |||
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"I'm sorry but, what is a tribute pic? A picture of you (traditionally printed, but often these days on a screen which has been protected) that someone's done a cum shot over." Oh! I almost wish I hadn't asked. | |||
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"I'm sorry but, what is a tribute pic? A picture of you (traditionally printed, but often these days on a screen which has been protected) that someone's done a cum shot over. Oh! I almost wish I hadn't asked. " Exactly I didn’t ask | |||
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"I understand consent being required before sending genitalia to someone BUT Does a pic of your own tits covered in jizz without a cock or vag in sight require consent ??? If an explicit image is being sent directly to someone then yes consent should be obtained in my opinion. What people put on their profile is their business and we make a conscious decision whether to view those images. What do you mean by explicit ? I said - IF there isn't a cock or a vag in it , is it explicit. Does that need consent. e.g. your own boobs that were already public ? You mean a pic of my soapy cleavage? No jizz in sight? A pic you actively went looking for, that I didn’t send to your inbox? A little different to a picture sent to my inbox of a guy stroking his cock with a picture of me in the background do you not think?!" HOpe you get over it without too much trauma. Take care | |||
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"I'm sorry but, what is a tribute pic? A picture of you (traditionally printed, but often these days on a screen which has been protected) that someone's done a cum shot over. Oh! I almost wish I hadn't asked. " It is something that some people really enjoy giving and receiving, but... It's not something you do without asking. Or shouldn't be. | |||
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"It would feel icky to me. But men don't engage there brain " All of them ? | |||
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"Some people comment just to stir shit of that I am certain It’s the drama, Mick!"Truly is | |||
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"If you took part in a thread, I.E Tittie Tuesdays etc, and another forum user who you’ve never interacted with, either in forum comments or inbox sends you an unsolicited tribute pic…. Because I know this site has a purpose, but I feel pretty uncomfortable about it right now…. Am I wrong in feeling that way? " How you feel is how you feel, it's never wrong. This man has done this thing and he's made you feel that way, what he's done is wrong. Very wrong. Illegal, in fact. Prosecutable. The cyberflashing law makes it an offense to send unsolicited sexual images by social media, dating apps or technologies such as Bluetooth or Airdrop. Whether Fab is a swinger's site or not is irrelevant. Quite an apt thread given that today saw the first conviction of cyber flashing in England. | |||
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"If you took part in a thread, I.E Tittie Tuesdays etc, and another forum user who you’ve never interacted with, either in forum comments or inbox sends you an unsolicited tribute pic…. Because I know this site has a purpose, but I feel pretty uncomfortable about it right now…. Am I wrong in feeling that way? How you feel is how you feel, it's never wrong. This man has done this thing and he's made you feel that way, what he's done is wrong. Very wrong. Illegal, in fact. Prosecutable. The cyberflashing law makes it an offense to send unsolicited sexual images by social media, dating apps or technologies such as Bluetooth or Airdrop. Whether Fab is a swinger's site or not is irrelevant. Quite an apt thread given that today saw the first conviction of cyber flashing in England. " I was just about to post about the Cyber flashing conviction. The guy who sent you that message has broken the law and is in the wrong for doing it. You haven’t done anything wrong OP. I’ve seen profiles on here asking for dick pics and tributes which is giving consent. If they haven’t asked for it then don’t send it. Seems pretty simple to me. | |||
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"If you took part in a thread, I.E Tittie Tuesdays etc, and another forum user who you’ve never interacted with, either in forum comments or inbox sends you an unsolicited tribute pic…. Because I know this site has a purpose, but I feel pretty uncomfortable about it right now…. Am I wrong in feeling that way? How you feel is how you feel, it's never wrong. This man has done this thing and he's made you feel that way, what he's done is wrong. Very wrong. Illegal, in fact. Prosecutable. The cyberflashing law makes it an offense to send unsolicited sexual images by social media, dating apps or technologies such as Bluetooth or Airdrop. Whether Fab is a swinger's site or not is irrelevant. Quite an apt thread given that today saw the first conviction of cyber flashing in England. " Indeed…and yet there is still a minority that see no issue in the behaviour displayed and think it’s to be expected…it’s sad really | |||
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"If you took part in a thread, I.E Tittie Tuesdays etc, and another forum user who you’ve never interacted with, either in forum comments or inbox sends you an unsolicited tribute pic…. Because I know this site has a purpose, but I feel pretty uncomfortable about it right now…. Am I wrong in feeling that way? How you feel is how you feel, it's never wrong. This man has done this thing and he's made you feel that way, what he's done is wrong. Very wrong. Illegal, in fact. Prosecutable. The cyberflashing law makes it an offense to send unsolicited sexual images by social media, dating apps or technologies such as Bluetooth or Airdrop. Whether Fab is a swinger's site or not is irrelevant. Quite an apt thread given that today saw the first conviction of cyber flashing in England. Indeed…and yet there is still a minority that see no issue in the behaviour displayed and think it’s to be expected…it’s sad really " Lock 'em up | |||
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"If you took part in a thread, I.E Tittie Tuesdays etc, and another forum user who you’ve never interacted with, either in forum comments or inbox sends you an unsolicited tribute pic…. Because I know this site has a purpose, but I feel pretty uncomfortable about it right now…. Am I wrong in feeling that way? How you feel is how you feel, it's never wrong. This man has done this thing and he's made you feel that way, what he's done is wrong. Very wrong. Illegal, in fact. Prosecutable. The cyberflashing law makes it an offense to send unsolicited sexual images by social media, dating apps or technologies such as Bluetooth or Airdrop. Whether Fab is a swinger's site or not is irrelevant. Quite an apt thread given that today saw the first conviction of cyber flashing in England. Indeed…and yet there is still a minority that see no issue in the behaviour displayed and think it’s to be expected…it’s sad really Lock 'em up "In this instance I blocked. | |||
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