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By *aleModel90 OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Leeds/London

Gentlemen, and ladies who may feel inclined to contribute,

The issue at hand concerns the lack of interest from potential acquaintances, for a duration of seven weeks. Is there a method or means by which one can attract the interest of others and facilitate a meeting? Any insights or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
37 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Um.

Be interesting to the people you're interested in

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By *rill PhilMan
37 weeks ago

Crediton


"Gentlemen, and ladies who may feel inclined to contribute,

The issue at hand concerns the lack of interest from potential acquaintances, for a duration of seven weeks. Is there a method or means by which one can attract the interest of others and facilitate a meeting? Any insights or suggestions would be greatly appreciated."

I've been on and off here for 13 years and have never had a meet as a direct result of being here.

Don't let it make you bitter.

Don't treat the women who turn you down like shit, and try to remember that this site is in no way a guaranteed route to sex.

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By *aleModel90 OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Leeds/London


"Gentlemen, and ladies who may feel inclined to contribute,

The issue at hand concerns the lack of interest from potential acquaintances, for a duration of seven weeks. Is there a method or means by which one can attract the interest of others and facilitate a meeting? Any insights or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

I've been on and off here for 13 years and have never had a meet as a direct result of being here.

Don't let it make you bitter.

Don't treat the women who turn you down like shit, and try to remember that this site is in no way a guaranteed route to sex."

Great answer. Thank you sir

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
37 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Um.

Be interesting to the people you're interested in "

This in a nutshell.

There's no magic formula. All you can do is do your best with your profile and photos to attract interest and then use your personality and vocabulary in messages to future chat interest and attraction into a desire to meet.

Or.

Go to clubs, events and organised group socials, so people can see the real you immediately without relying on visuals and words on a website. It's easier to put your personality across face to face and chat in person. Virtual communication is never the same.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
37 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Um.

Be interesting to the people you're interested in

This in a nutshell.

There's no magic formula. All you can do is do your best with your profile and photos to attract interest and then use your personality and vocabulary in messages to future chat interest and attraction into a desire to meet.

Or.

Go to clubs, events and organised group socials, so people can see the real you immediately without relying on visuals and words on a website. It's easier to put your personality across face to face and chat in person. Virtual communication is never the same. "

*nurture. Not future. Sodding autocarrot.

It's also always worth proof reading your forum posts for typos.....

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
37 weeks ago

Worcester


"Gentlemen, and ladies who may feel inclined to contribute,

The issue at hand concerns the lack of interest from potential acquaintances, for a duration of seven weeks. Is there a method or means by which one can attract the interest of others and facilitate a meeting? Any insights or suggestions would be greatly appreciated."

You’ve just got to keep going until you find your people!

Meeting people in person at socials or clubs can speed the process up because you will build your network. As you build a network people will introduce you to more people.

It’s not an instant process. But as you meet people and network you’ll build relationships. I have a couple of swing friends I’ve been meeting for over a decade now - I met them via friends I made either here or at clubs.

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By *edeWoman
37 weeks ago

the abyss


"Um.

Be interesting to the people you're interested in

This in a nutshell.

There's no magic formula. All you can do is do your best with your profile and photos to attract interest and then use your personality and vocabulary in messages to future chat interest and attraction into a desire to meet.

Or.

Go to clubs, events and organised group socials, so people can see the real you immediately without relying on visuals and words on a website. It's easier to put your personality across face to face and chat in person. Virtual communication is never the same.

*nurture. Not future. Sodding autocarrot.

It's also always worth proof reading your forum posts for typos..... "

Nah it's always more fun trying to figure out the meaning

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Seeside!?!? Where are you when we need you?

^ a guy used to promote a thread which would get people together who was finding it hard to meet up with people.

Get yourself to a group social op. I highly recommend them. …..

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
37 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"Gentlemen, and ladies who may feel inclined to contribute,

The issue at hand concerns the lack of interest from potential acquaintances, for a duration of seven weeks. Is there a method or means by which one can attract the interest of others and facilitate a meeting? Any insights or suggestions would be greatly appreciated."

You have one veri in 7 weeks, that is Almost God like for a single man on fab....its working

Mr

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
37 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Gentlemen, and ladies who may feel inclined to contribute,

The issue at hand concerns the lack of interest from potential acquaintances, for a duration of seven weeks. Is there a method or means by which one can attract the interest of others and facilitate a meeting? Any insights or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

You’ve just got to keep going until you find your people!

Meeting people in person at socials or clubs can speed the process up because you will build your network. As you build a network people will introduce you to more people.

It’s not an instant process. But as you meet people and network you’ll build relationships. I have a couple of swing friends I’ve been meeting for over a decade now - I met them via friends I made either here or at clubs."

Networking. How did I forget to mention that?

To me it's an integral part of swinging, whether just for the social aspect or to find new physical company.

For example. The first time I properly met my current partner (meaning for more than just a brief hello and a look across a room) was at an event where their existing partner approached me with a specific request. And I'd already met that partner, along with their other partner, at a previous event a month or so before. In less than two months I'd gone from only knowing any of them via the forums, to enjoying their company in person and making some great new friends - even if one of them does frequently take the piss about my typos amongst other things.......

And it lead to me being lucky enough to find an awesome new partner for myself, which I doubt would have happened had things just stayed online.

Networking. As important in swinging as it is in your work life.

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By *ou only live onceMan
37 weeks ago

London

Well you seem good looking, so it must be your personality...

Only joking, OP. As others have said: no magic formula. Don't be a dick is about the only advice I can give. Though I have found using the forum a great way to get to know people, especially those who I might otherwise not have found in searches due to geography!

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By *ros40Man
37 weeks ago

Bedford

Luck of the draw

You'll be fine op, keep trying

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Central

Not a help to get you action but ALWAYS have realistic expectations here. It'll help to keep you sane and upbeat

Then, invest loads into your profile, including pics and especially the text. Get it so that it sells you right. Give the viewers what they will need to be able to pick you. Obviously, only if you are right for them.

But accept that most people are not mutually compatible with most other people.

Then men have to do the grunt work. No effort, no gain.

Get to socials and clubs, to meet lots of people. we have to know why you could be right for us

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By *ambertMan
37 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I find the best way is to go to a local hillside and write your fab name in massive flaming letters that can be seen from a plane.

Works every time

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By *naswingdressWoman
37 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I don't know how men do it. It's a different game.

I was told by the two people I met - one on one, before I had any verifications or photos up - that I was different. Something about my text struck them as genuine and interesting, and it was worth seeing if I was real or not. (Obviously for a man, being real isn't the question being asked)

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
37 weeks ago

London or Bedford

Firstly it took me over a year to learn the ropes & get a meet. My tips?

*Stay local

*Only message women when they’re ONLINE.

That way your message won’t get lost in the shuffle.

*Messaged deleted? Try again after a few months. They might’ve done an Inbox Purge

*GET OUT TO THE CLUBS. Best way to meet people AND Getz Verified. I’m going to the Torture Garden tonight

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By *irthandgirthMan
37 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster


"Gentlemen, and ladies who may feel inclined to contribute,

The issue at hand concerns the lack of interest from potential acquaintances, for a duration of seven weeks. Is there a method or means by which one can attract the interest of others and facilitate a meeting? Any insights or suggestions would be greatly appreciated."

7 weeks?

It took 6 months on here for me to meet anyone. This isn't instashag. As much as this is a swingsrs site you still need to build a connection.

There are so many things you could look at.

1. Search criteria (Inc age/distance)

2. How many messages you send. Make sure you aren't doing copy/paste messages.

3. Try a club/social event.

Just had a look at your profile and it *could* seem intimidating with your modelling references. Also the wording in the veri you received came across as a little needy/desperate. It sounds like you went on just to get a veri. There was nothing about your personality at all.

Chill out, let things happen at the right time. Desperation is not attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"Gentlemen, and ladies who may feel inclined to contribute,

The issue at hand concerns the lack of interest from potential acquaintances, for a duration of seven weeks. Is there a method or means by which one can attract the interest of others and facilitate a meeting? Any insights or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

I've been on and off here for 13 years and have never had a meet as a direct result of being here.

Don't let it make you bitter.

Don't treat the women who turn you down like shit, and try to remember that this site is in no way a guaranteed route to sex."

That’s a great answer.

I find the forum on here can be really interesting too. People seem to be a lot more open and willing to discuss things.

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By *rill PhilMan
37 weeks ago

Crediton


"Gentlemen, and ladies who may feel inclined to contribute,

The issue at hand concerns the lack of interest from potential acquaintances, for a duration of seven weeks. Is there a method or means by which one can attract the interest of others and facilitate a meeting? Any insights or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

I've been on and off here for 13 years and have never had a meet as a direct result of being here.

Don't let it make you bitter.

Don't treat the women who turn you down like shit, and try to remember that this site is in no way a guaranteed route to sex.

That’s a great answer.

I find the forum on here can be really interesting too. People seem to be a lot more open and willing to discuss things. "

I only started engaging in the forums in the last few weeks and, my level of communication has increased about 1000%

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By *irthandgirthMan
37 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

Ive just noticed this isn't your first thread on not meeting.

Maybe don't start a trend of negative threads?

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Go to a few clubs and meet people, you will end up meeting people on here. This is not the best place for single men as we're looked at like animals. Good luck going forward mate

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By *izandpaulCouple
37 weeks ago

merseyside

Go to socials, clubs, swingers holidays etc

You will find the people who actually meet quite different from the timewasters, dreamers, delusional and the vast majority who float around a swingers site and have no intention of meeting.

FAB is great for information on clubs, meets, see who is near, etc but its not the best site for 1-2-1 meets as the number of timewasters is vast and to trawl through the chaff is soul destroying.

Good luck, have fun.

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By *naswingdressWoman
37 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Clubs - I've heard nothing but good things about Pandora's in Leeds, recently.

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By *ea wangMan
37 weeks ago

scunthorpe

Patience,read profiles,be mutually what the other wants,hope the stars align and bingo

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
37 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales


"Gentlemen, and ladies who may feel inclined to contribute,

The issue at hand concerns the lack of interest from potential acquaintances, for a duration of seven weeks. Is there a method or means by which one can attract the interest of others and facilitate a meeting? Any insights or suggestions would be greatly appreciated."

Can I hire you to write my CV and cover letter?

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
37 weeks ago

Glasgow / London


"Can I hire you to write my CV and cover letter? "

As it happens, I have a position here for you.

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By *agneto.Man
37 weeks ago

Bham

Talking less like modern Shakespeare and more like a real life human maybe ?

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By *estarossa.Woman
37 weeks ago

Flagrante

Op, your headline is a bit blunt.

Your pictures do not reflect your username, in that a few well taken body shots from different angles, could be beneficial.

Your profile reads "I", "I", "I".

It also comes across as slightly contradictory. You want a connection, but only very casual?

Maybe you could explain what you have to give.

And you need to appreciate that on Fab, its a womans' world!

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By *attering_ramMan
37 weeks ago

near you

I noticed the social approach works better… offer to take them out for drinks where you can break the ice better abd build chemistry ..success rate is higher

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
37 weeks ago

Worcester


"Talking less like modern Shakespeare and more like a real life human maybe ? "

Nah fam. A man who can speak eloquently AND is a hottie is a rare and desirable thing indeed!

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By *ascaIMan
37 weeks ago

Cheshire Liverpool Manchester


"Talking less like modern Shakespeare and more like a real life human maybe ? "

Is right lad

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By *naswingdressWoman
37 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Talking less like modern Shakespeare and more like a real life human maybe ?

Nah fam. A man who can speak eloquently AND is a hottie is a rare and desirable thing indeed!"

Yeah, real life human usually means grunting and poorly strung together words. There's a fine line to be drawn with one's style for me, but "like real people" is not to my taste

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