FabSwingers.com forum: Is it me or

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I pop in and out of the forums now and then. It does seems it always the same people posting. Considering the amount of people on this site I wonder why more people don't join in here?

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By *ll-Knight-longMan
over a year ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

"I pop in and out of the forums now and then. It does seems it always the same people posting. Considering the amount of people on this site I wonder why more people don't join in here?

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How will you find out as only the people that join in here will answer

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I pop in and out of the forums now and then. It does seems it always the same people posting. Considering the amount of people on this site I wonder why more people don't join in here?

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How will you find out as only the people that join in here will answer

Because I think a lot of read the forums but never contribute and join in. Just wondered what stops them x

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I reckon maybe 5% at most of the members use the forums, maybe 15% use the chat rooms and the majority just use Fab to contact people to do all of the hard fucking. Horse for course bro!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because they are busy meeting people or have better things to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"because they are busy meeting people or have better things to do.

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some just wish to read and never meet or play on fab , I get mail from people who never post here as dont wish to and never wish to meet no one ... But mail me saying about the posts here.. Its a mix and thats what makes this site .. be boring as hell if we was all the same ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's you!

People aren't bothered by it.

Just use the site to arrange meets.

Or many other reasons.

New posters are great and I wish there was a higher % of site users dropping in, and contributing more. It's good to get others opinions and you can learn a lot - whether newbie or what many regard as 'seasoned veterans'!

Plus it's a great way to get to know others and make new acquaintances. I'd love to see something on the home or registration page advertising the facility - but it's free choice as to whether to use, just read, or dive in and contribute!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have recently found the forums on here, they are fascinating

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

There are only a small amount of members who use the forum....

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I do think a lot more are using it, lots of new people joining in all the time.

good to see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your lurking out there why not say hello . xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is really daunting as alot of banter between people who have obviously been chatting along while x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love the forum! I don't post much but read it as much as I can, I've learned quite a bit here and feel like I know some of the "regulars"... Even have a few favorites...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love the forum! I don't post much but read it as much as I can, I've learned quite a bit here and feel like I know some of the "regulars"... Even have a few favorites..."

I'm regular

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is really daunting as alot of banter between people who have obviously been chatting along while x"

I've shagged 96% percent of the forum members...the chitchat is all a front

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are simply not very good at expressing themselves,so a public forum would not be for them. I respect everyones opinion,regardless if I agree with it or not. Some would take people not agreeing with what they say to heart. In other words you have to be thick skinned and comfortable with criticism,to enjoy a public forum.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"I love the forum! I don't post much but read it as much as I can, I've learned quite a bit here and feel like I know some of the "regulars"... Even have a few favorites...

I'm regular"

That will be the prunes

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"It is really daunting as alot of banter between people who have obviously been chatting along while x

I've shagged 96% percent of the forum members...the chitchat is all a front"

maybe one day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is really daunting as alot of banter between people who have obviously been chatting along while x"
well you will find alot will banter with you too xx if you post .. xxx some really lovely people here .. i can do jobs and keep coming in reading ... it changes all the time and peoples _iew and ways thay look at things what i like and new words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is really daunting as alot of banter between people who have obviously been chatting along while x

I've shagged 96% percent of the forum members...the chitchat is all a front"

I know you're a regular...

Guess I'm in the unlucky 4%

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

As much as I've been on Fab for 2 years or so, I didn't know the forums exsisted until nov of last year. I've discovered a lot of others don't know either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is really daunting as alot of banter between people who have obviously been chatting along while x

I've shagged 96% percent of the forum members...the chitchat is all a front"

Think I feel slightly even more left out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your lurking out there why not say hello . xxxx

Hello....I'm just shy

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"If your lurking out there why not say hello . xxxx

Hello....I'm just shy

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welcome xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your lurking out there why not say hello . xxxx

Hello....I'm just shy

welcome xx"

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is really daunting as alot of banter between people who have obviously been chatting along while x

I've shagged 96% percent of the forum members...the chitchat is all a front

Think I feel slightly even more left out

Don't worry! Most who appear to be 'great friends' have probably never met outside the forums!! Jump in whenever - it's all good fun (and great networking

) - even if unlike paddy, some of us have only met/shagged/shared a coffee with 1% !!

He's just greedy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your lurking out there why not say hello . xxxx

Hello....I'm just shy

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Hello there xxxx

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I often get private replies from people that read the forums but don't post in them. When I ask why, the main reason is they don't want to risk being flamed.

Obviously that's not specific to this site. Some people enjoy forum participation whilst others find it daunting.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I often get private replies from people that read the forums but don't post in them. When I ask why, the main reason is they don't want to risk being flamed.

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I get that too Ryan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Took me a long time before i took the plunge and post on the forum.. The clique` put me off, but hey, i tell it like it is... So here i am !!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I often smile at why any adult would mail someone they don't know to say they are scared of posting....it smacks of trouble causing to me.

Either way, let's not make the thread turn into anything other than what it is please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Took me a long time before i took the plunge and post on the forum.. The clique` put me off, but hey, i tell it like it is... So here i am !!

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Took me a long time before i took the plunge and post on the forum.. The clique` put me off, but hey, i tell it like it is... So here i am !!

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Good for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As with the chartrooms there are "regulars" and newbies. We have tried the chartroom for the southwest. Started out by saying "hello room, did everyone have a good weekend?". Out of a room of 40 or so souls, three responses..........

As for the forums, yes there are "regulars", and some of their response can be a little confrontational or intimidating to newbies.

Sorry if this reply offends, but this is us (newbie forum users) responding to the OP's question, afterall, it was kind of directed at people that don't write in the forums very much......

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By *asey369Woman
over a year ago

London

"It is really daunting as alot of banter between people who have obviously been chatting along while x"

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"As with the chartrooms there are "regulars" and newbies. We have tried the chartroom for the southwest. Started out by saying "hello room, did everyone have a good weekend?". Out of a room of 40 or so souls, three responses..........

As for the forums, yes there are "regulars", and some of their response can be a little confrontational or intimidating to newbies.

Sorry if this reply offends, but this is us (newbie forum users) responding to the OP's question, afterall, it was kind of directed at people that don't write in the forums very much......

Welcome nearly newbies

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I often smile at why any adult would mail someone they don't know to say they are scared of posting....it smacks of trouble causing to me.

Either way, let's not make the thread turn into anything other than what it is please.

Thanks."

I didn't say that ! They reply privately concerning the thread being discussed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Took me a long time before i took the plunge and post on the forum.. The clique` put me off, but hey, i tell it like it is... So here i am !!

Agree that there appears to be a clique which can put you off.

But I just post now in attempt to break into it.

The forums are interesting, witty and can make me (C) laugh out loud at times, there is also ocassionally some really good advice.

So newbies and oldies who haven't posted yet be brave and take the plunge xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As for the forums, yes there are "regulars", and some of their response can be a little confrontational or intimidating to newbies.

Sorry if this reply offends, but this is us (newbie forum users) responding to the OP's question, afterall, it was kind of directed at people that don't write in the forums very much......

Welcome nearly newbies

Thank you

As for nearly newbies, it's a difficult one isn't it, we have been members 8 weeks, we live in the SW and meeting a verified couple, to get the verification needed to post can be a challenge.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I often smile at why any adult would mail someone they don't know to say they are scared of posting....it smacks of trouble causing to me.

Either way, let's not make the thread turn into anything other than what it is please.

Thanks.

I didn't say that ! They reply privately concerning the thread being discussed"

You did, you said they won't post for fear of being flamed.

Either way, this comes up from a few people everytime a thread like this turns up and then the thread takes a turn for the worse so why I asked for it not to go that way this time....

Let's get back to the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often smile at why any adult would mail someone they don't know to say they are scared of posting....it smacks of trouble causing to me.

Either way, let's not make the thread turn into anything other than what it is please.

Thanks."

I am surprised at the negative comments. Many can't post through not being verified by other users and not trusting the photo verification system. It comes across as though people who can't post shouldn't comment by pm.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Welcome nearly newbies

Thank you

As for nearly newbies, it's a difficult one isn't it, we have been members 8 weeks, we live in the SW and meeting a verified couple, to get the verification needed to post can be a challenge. "

Ah thats something I don't know about and should really as we were verified before these owners took over.

I take it you need a veri before you can post?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try and make the effort to join in and comment on other people's posts. I'm a newbie when it comes to posting on the forums but I think I've been well welcomed because I try to add to what others have said (and maybe cos 2wheels has been posting on here for such a long time I've been able to pick up some tips from his posts).

I've noticed it's the same kind of posts which get shot down-those who complain why can't they get a meet or self pitying. It is quite intimidating for people who haven't posted before but whats the worse that can happen? It's not as if a forumite is gonna reach out of your computer screen and give you a slap!

crystal

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I often smile at why any adult would mail someone they don't know to say they are scared of posting....it smacks of trouble causing to me.

Either way, let's not make the thread turn into anything other than what it is please.

Thanks.

I didn't say that ! They reply privately concerning the thread being discussed

You did, you said they won't post for fear of being flamed.

Either way, this comes up from a few people everytime a thread like this turns up and then the thread takes a turn for the worse so why I asked for it not to go that way this time....

Let's get back to the OP

No sorry, I said that's what they tell me when I ask them why.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I often smile at why any adult would mail someone they don't know to say they are scared of posting....it smacks of trouble causing to me.

Either way, let's not make the thread turn into anything other than what it is please.

Thanks.

If you read the post I was referring to it didn't mention people can't post because they were not verified.

Now again, this is exactly what I meant on my post, the thread will always take a turn for the worse, so let's get back to the OP please.

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often smile at why any adult would mail someone they don't know to say they are scared of posting....it smacks of trouble causing to me.

Either way, let's not make the thread turn into anything other than what it is please.

Thanks.

If you read the post I was referring to it didn't mention people can't post because they were not verified.

Now again, this is exactly what I meant on my post, the thread will always take a turn for the worse, so let's get back to the OP please.

Thanks."

I know that but there are many reasons why people dont post but might pm and they are not all explained as trouble causing which came across as a pretty negative comment. My point wouldnt have been made if you didnt move the thread in that direction.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"If your lurking out there why not say hello . xxxx

Hello....I'm just shy

Well hello there.

Don't be shy my dear.

Maybe if you PM'd me all of you private pictures you would find it quite a cathartic release from you shyness?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I pop in and out of the forums now and then. It does seems it always the same people posting. Considering the amount of people on this site I wonder why more people don't join in here?

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Other people probably don't post because they're doing other things with their time. Crocheting, fly fishing, who knows?! I've posted on forums on other sites in the past as I've enjoyed the debates, the banter and having my mind pushed. I also do enjoy a heated argument when it's called for!

I think it's great that fab has 3 different ways for members to communicate-chat, forums and messaging as this ensures that there's something for everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If your lurking out there why not say hello . xxxx

Hello....I'm just shy

Well hello there.

Don't be shy my dear.

Maybe if you PM'd me all of you private pictures you would find it quite a cathartic release from you shyness?"

I will if you show me your bum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I pop in and out of the forums now and then. It does seems it always the same people posting. Considering the amount of people on this site I wonder why more people don't join in here?

Answers on a pinhead

I think it's great that fab has 3 different ways for members to communicate-chat, forums and messaging as this ensures that there's something for everyone. "

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

My point wouldnt have been made if you didnt move the thread in that direction."

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I try and make the effort to join in and comment on other people's posts. I'm a newbie when it comes to posting on the forums but I think I've been well welcomed because I try to add to what others have said (and maybe cos 2wheels has been posting on here for such a long time I've been able to pick up some tips from his posts).

crystal"

I thought that was possible if you had the right sort of membership.

Welcome to the newbies, nearly newbies and lurkers.

I've done a year now and I do remember feeling a little reluctant to post. Then a thread went up that I felt passionately about and I haven't shut up since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started posting on the forums recently but certainly not to get into any 'clique'. I do it for my own enjoyment and no ulterior motives.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I often smile at why any adult would mail someone they don't know to say they are scared of posting....it smacks of trouble causing to me.

Either way, let's not make the thread turn into anything other than what it is please.

Thanks.

I didn't say that ! They reply privately concerning the thread being discussed

You did, you said they won't post for fear of being flamed.

Either way, this comes up from a few people everytime a thread like this turns up and then the thread takes a turn for the worse so why I asked for it not to go that way this time....

Let's get back to the OP

Yes let's get back to the op

no arguments on my threads please or I'll send the ninja death squad to each and every one of you

This wasn't meant to be just a newbie thread or an oldie thread, I just wondered why more people didn't contribute to the forums. I'm thinking that people really don't know about it and how fun it can be ( sometimes ) I'm off in a winking rampage

back laters lovelys x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Took me a long time before i took the plunge and post on the forum.. The clique` put me off, but hey, i tell it like it is... So here i am !!

Agree that there appears to be a clique which can put you off.

But I just post now in attempt to break into it.

The forums are interesting, witty and can make me (C) laugh out loud at times, there is also ocassionally some really good advice.

So newbies and oldies who haven't posted yet be brave and take the plunge xxx

Dooooo it

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I didn't know what a forum was before joining in. I was a chat room regular and enjoyed that a lot but I got bored of the hi's and bye's that can sometimes consume chat ( not slagging it off, just impacted the flow of chat at times ). I found the forums and thought, 'wow, they are a spunky lot'

and have enjoyed it.

I soon realised that people use it in the same way as chat, that had gone completely over my head.

It has been good to see loads more new contributors join in.. it must be daunting at times and can be a touch unwelcoming but on the whole it is a supportive, encouraging community.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like lurking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like lurking

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hello there xxx

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"It is really daunting as alot of banter between people who have obviously been chatting along while x"

I thought that at first and watched a while before posting anything. X

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By *r_G_SPMan
over a year ago

Nice shoes

Well hello everyone, I'm here to join the 5%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like lurking

Lurkers are welcome too!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like lurking

Lurkers are welcome too!!

Thanks

I do post now and then, but normally don't have time so just have a quick read, I'm a bit mosey you see

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm more hosey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive only recently discovered the forums. I have commented on some posts but then i forget ive done it and dont see any replies

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Ive only recently discovered the forums. I have commented on some posts but then i forget ive done it and dont see any replies"

Click on your little green arrow on a post and you'll see the other threads you have posted on. It took 9 months on the forum before I knew about that. There's also a little tab on the left that says something like 'see your recent posts' - I only spotted that two weeks ago.

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