FabSwingers.com forum: How important are verifications?

By *entInEssex OP Man
46 weeks ago

Grays

I guess this question is more directed toward the female members who take time to read profiles and verifications

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By *ealitybitesMan
46 weeks ago

Belfast

You can stick the pin back in the grenade.

Not all women read profiles.

The only use I have for verifications is to determine who to avoid, either because their verifications aren't consistent with the rest of their profile or because they are closely linked to people I know who love to create drama.

I've never agreed to meet anyone based on their verifications.

One person's dream meet could be my worst nightmare.

I spend weeks and sometimes months chatting before agreeing to a social and it clearly states that in my bio so that brings us full circle to the women who don't or won't read profiles.

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By *naswingdressWoman
46 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

One piece of the puzzle. Everything except my impression of them in messages is just corroborating evidence.

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By *ecky and justCouple
46 weeks ago

Godalming

They’re important to us as the start of the process.

More importantly, we need to get to know them and their personalities…

But, no veri’s or slightly contrived looking ones and the process is likely to go no further.

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By *illy IdolMan
46 weeks ago

Midlands

I find verifications to be a bit like lamppost pissing

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By *illy IdolMan
46 weeks ago

Midlands

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By *ora the explorerWoman
46 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"I find verifications to be a bit like lamppost pissing"

Me too. I’m not a fan. I always read them though. And more often than not they put me off

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By *ingerTwistWoman
46 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Of more interest to me, is how men verify people they've met. I check the verifications they've left for others if I can. If they leave very explicit verifications or time after time verifying the same people they're probably not for me. I know it's not foolproof as people can hide verifications but it's just another tool for looking out for red flags.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
46 weeks ago

Leicester

It can be helpful because we have friends that we absolutely trust and vice-versa, if we see someone has a veri from a friend we are 100 times more likely to meet because you can't beat a personal recommendation.

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By *eliWoman
46 weeks ago

Hi.

As a woman who a) reads profiles and b) verifications, I'd say that yes veris can be important to me.

A tad hypocritical because I never display erm... sex veris but yes, sometimes they can put me off. I wouldn't say they make me more interested in meeting someone. So they're kind of important in that they can make my vag dry up.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
46 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

You can find out a lot from a veri and doing a veri trail.

Reading what others have said and also what they have wrote about others.

It’s another part of getting a fuller picture of someone and whether we are going to be compatible and whether we want to invest time in chatting.

Ultimately if there’s no red flags from their profile, pics, veris then we chat to people to find out more, but initially they could change our mind depending on what’s written.

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By *illy IdolMan
46 weeks ago

Midlands

"I find verifications to be a bit like lamppost pissing

Me too. I’m not a fan. I always read them though. And more often than not they put me off

Sucks like a Dyson! How do you know??

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By *heekyDemandCouple
46 weeks ago

Leicester

"I find verifications to be a bit like lamppost pissing

Me too. I’m not a fan. I always read them though. And more often than not they put me off

Sucks like a Dyson! How do you know??

She ran her face across the carpet and pulled up all the dog hair

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By *ora the explorerWoman
46 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"I find verifications to be a bit like lamppost pissing

Me too. I’m not a fan. I always read them though. And more often than not they put me off

Sucks like a Dyson! How do you know??

If she did he’d probably end up in a&e like that poor man on my thread!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
46 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"I find verifications to be a bit like lamppost pissing

Me too. I’m not a fan. I always read them though. And more often than not they put me off

Sucks like a Dyson! How do you know??

She ran her face across the carpet and pulled up all the dog hair "

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By *cottish guy 555Man
46 weeks ago

London

"It can be helpful because we have friends that we absolutely trust and vice-versa, if we see someone has a veri from a friend we are 100 times more likely to meet because you can't beat a personal recommendation."

Very much this. I've just been contacted by a lady friend who had some pics fabbed by a couple I had verified and she was asking about them and saying that she'd be much more inclined to meet them as I'd done so.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
46 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I like to get an idea about someone before I meet them. Veris can be useful in that process.

People don't always live up to them though!

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By *illy IdolMan
46 weeks ago

Midlands

"I find verifications to be a bit like lamppost pissing

Me too. I’m not a fan. I always read them though. And more often than not they put me off

Sucks like a Dyson! How do you know??

She ran her face across the carpet and pulled up all the dog hair "

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By *imisugarWoman
46 weeks ago

Rugby

I find them useful, wary of the profiles that have been active a long time with none. Hidden doesn't bother me so much as everyone has their reasons and I don't display all mine.

I'll admit the overly graphic ones, I shy away from as that isn't my personality.

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By *ean counterMan
46 weeks ago

Market Harborough/ Kettering

I like to see that people are verified before I meet them as it tends to out the psycho axe murderers !

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By *cottish guy 555Man
46 weeks ago

London

"I like to see that people are verified before I meet them as it tends to out the psycho axe murderers !

But the ones they've murdered can't leave them verifications.

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By *entInEssex OP Man
46 weeks ago

Grays

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By *rispyDuckMan
46 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Pretty important as I wouldn’t meet someone without verifications

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By *entInEssex OP Man
46 weeks ago

Grays

The comments make for interesting reading and how different we all are. Thanks to those that have taken the time to post in the thread

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By *ommander_StraxMan
46 weeks ago

Telford

Not overly important, more so used as a guide to see if people are real or fake.

For example a verification can be made for a fake profile, but after being here so long, my wife and I can both spot the iffy ones a mile away.

Plus, nobody really leaves a negative verification, so just use your noggin I guess!

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By *uckurcumMan
46 weeks ago

Bishop Auckland

Verifications are a very difficult thing because one person's meat is anothers poison ..

I've had meets where the person said they'd verify yet nothing,I put it down to two things...firstly my age they don't want to be seen to have met with an older guy . Second, they like to protect their so called ' Straight' masculinity l, even in these enlightened times ...Hidden ones are a marker to note ...

Verification doesn't influence me at all as it's like dining out,a meal can be delicious to one and dreadful Tom another ...

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By *naswingdressWoman
46 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I like to see that people are verified before I meet them as it tends to out the psycho axe murderers !

But the ones they've murdered can't leave them verifications.

The very first person I met, 100+ people verified him (he displayed all verifications) and many of them seemed to still be alive

That was part of my risk calculation early on.

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By *hpwTV/TS
46 weeks ago

East Yorkshire

my verifications disappeared from my profile

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By *cottish guy 555Man
46 weeks ago

London

"I like to see that people are verified before I meet them as it tends to out the psycho axe murderers !

But the ones they've murdered can't leave them verifications.

The very first person I met, 100+ people verified him (he displayed all verifications) and many of them seemed to still be alive

That was part of my risk calculation early on."

You are a wise lady swing. I'm sure that you always do a risk assessment and have it signed off by management.

Plus it makes you easy to spot, what with the hi vis jacket and all.

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By *ornycougaWoman
46 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

I read them forensically and follow the verification trail. Can often be deal breakers for me but generally use them along with whatever other information is available.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
46 weeks ago

North West

"I find verifications to be a bit like lamppost pissing"

My bladder is full......

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By *ean counterMan
46 weeks ago

Market Harborough/ Kettering

"I like to see that people are verified before I meet them as it tends to out the psycho axe murderers !

But the ones they've murdered can't leave them verifications.

The very first person I met, 100+ people verified him (he displayed all verifications) and many of them seemed to still be alive

That was part of my risk calculation early on."

Phew ! I thought you were going to say that the first person you met was a psycho axe murderer!!

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By *TG3Man
46 weeks ago

Dorchester

Not important at all

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By *arrySwindonMan
46 weeks ago

Swindon

Veris help me to establish whether a profile is genuine or not. Also gives a sense as to what types of people they like to meet. Reading some verifications if they are overly graphic I tend to avoid. Filthy fun but never with filthy people

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By *parkle1974Woman
46 weeks ago

Leeds

Not important to me. If I am attracted to someone, I'd rather make my own mind up than going by someone else's review of them x

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By *naswingdressWoman
46 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I like to see that people are verified before I meet them as it tends to out the psycho axe murderers !

But the ones they've murdered can't leave them verifications.

The very first person I met, 100+ people verified him (he displayed all verifications) and many of them seemed to still be alive

That was part of my risk calculation early on.

You are a wise lady swing. I'm sure that you always do a risk assessment and have it signed off by management.

Plus it makes you easy to spot, what with the hi vis jacket and all.

It's not very comfortable in the bedroom though. Pity.

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
46 weeks ago

Halifax

This

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
46 weeks ago

Halifax

"I guess this question is more directed toward the female members who take time to read profiles and verifications

Very important, we usually pass by profiles with no veris or just webcam veris.

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By *aizyWoman
46 weeks ago

west midlands

"Of more interest to me, is how men verify people they've met. I check the verifications they've left for others if I can. If they leave very explicit verifications or time after time verifying the same people they're probably not for me. I know it's not foolproof as people can hide verifications but it's just another tool for looking out for red flags. "

This is the same for me, I have been put right off a few times after reading how a man wrote about a woman he met in a veri.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
46 weeks ago

wonderland.

We will read then. As some have said, if someone we know has verified them we are more likely to go further. However we have met people with no verifications too.

Cali

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By *TG3Man
46 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Not important to me. If I am attracted to someone, I'd rather make my own mind up than going by someone else's review of them x"
exactly

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By *cottish guy 555Man
46 weeks ago

London

"I like to see that people are verified before I meet them as it tends to out the psycho axe murderers !

But the ones they've murdered can't leave them verifications.

The very first person I met, 100+ people verified him (he displayed all verifications) and many of them seemed to still be alive

That was part of my risk calculation early on.

You are a wise lady swing. I'm sure that you always do a risk assessment and have it signed off by management.

Plus it makes you easy to spot, what with the hi vis jacket and all.

It's not very comfortable in the bedroom though. Pity."

I'm sure there will be a latex one somewhere.

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By *adCherriesCouple
46 weeks ago

Cheshire/Northwest

I think they are very important as it shows the person is unlikely to get cold feet and turn up and if they are a match for us (I.e If I read dominant and pounding alot it's a no).

Not sure on the snobbery of "I hate reading sex ones" because let's face it, a lot of people are showing flesh and here for sex, not sure why the superiority complex.

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By *TG3Man
46 weeks ago

Dorchester

On a scale of 1 to 10 ten being important 1

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