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"Clearly people are looking to make a friend who receives money via the current Universal Credit system… ". That just made me spit my coffee out lol | |||
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"Not 100% but I have a blue light card if anyone is looking for a new friend "One of my FWBs used her blue light card and took me to Toby carvery on Monday and we had a good ole catch up over some mash and gravy. 
That’s the kind of friendship I need! With added extra of sex. | |||
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"Not 100% but I have a blue light card if anyone is looking for a new friend
One of my FWBs used her blue light card and took me to Toby carvery on Monday and we had a good ole catch up over some mash and gravy.
That’s the kind of friendship I need! With added extra of sex. "Mash and Gravy .. I'm actually jealous now  | |||
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"Not 100% but I have a blue light card if anyone is looking for a new friend
One of my FWBs used her blue light card and took me to Toby carvery on Monday and we had a good ole catch up over some mash and gravy.
That’s the kind of friendship I need! With added extra of sex.
Mash and Gravy .. I'm actually jealous now "It’s the simple things in life right? | |||
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"Not 100% but I have a blue light card if anyone is looking for a new friend
One of my FWBs used her blue light card and took me to Toby carvery on Monday and we had a good ole catch up over some mash and gravy.
That’s the kind of friendship I need! With added extra of sex.
Mash and Gravy .. I'm actually jealous now
It’s the simple things in life right? "Proper friendship right there  | |||
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"Not 100% but I have a blue light card if anyone is looking for a new friend
One of my FWBs used her blue light card and took me to Toby carvery on Monday and we had a good ole catch up over some mash and gravy.
That’s the kind of friendship I need! With added extra of sex. "Gravy is thought to be an aphrodisiac in some parts of the north  | |||
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"Not 100% but I have a blue light card if anyone is looking for a new friend
One of my FWBs used her blue light card and took me to Toby carvery on Monday and we had a good ole catch up over some mash and gravy.
That’s the kind of friendship I need! With added extra of sex.
Gravy is thought to be an aphrodisiac in some parts of the north "Is it not everywhere? Well then, this has been educational | |||
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And opposing rosters lol.
*still can’t do the crying emoji*
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"Pretty much what I have apart from the SODDING DISTANCE….
And opposing rosters lol.
*still can’t do the crying emoji*
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"Pretty much what I have apart from the SODDING DISTANCE….
And opposing rosters lol.
*still can’t do the crying emoji*
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"People who are friends first, then add recreational sex into their friendship. The key is that you would still be friends even if you didn’t do the sex bit. Doesn’t happen here often, but when it does it’s lovely." You are not wrong. My experience., they’re either one or the other. And that’s why I think a lot of people are looking for fuck buddies more than friends with benefits. ot they don’t mind being friends with you because my friend zone is becoming rather full. | |||
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"It sounds like a lot of people are defining fwb super closely to how lots of other people define normal relationships. What's the difference?" To me the difference is they don’t get involved in my normal life. I like the bubble analogy | |||
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"Fwb - someone you do other stuff with as well as fuck Fuck Buddy - fuck and go That’s my definition " succinct, spot on | |||
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"It's a friend you have sex with. Call me old fashioned but to me that's a relationship." A relationship requires a deeper type of love and commitment. FWB doesn't use the same mindset. You keep a certain amount of distance mentally, to keep it within the boundaries of friendship. To be (slightly) pedantic, all friendships and interactions are relationships really. They just have different levels. | |||
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"It's a friend you have sex with. Call me old fashioned but to me that's a relationship. A relationship requires a deeper type of love and commitment. FWB doesn't use the same mindset. You keep a certain amount of distance mentally, to keep it within the boundaries of friendship. To be (slightly) pedantic, all friendships and interactions are relationships really. They just have different levels. "Yep. Sometimes you have to make that very conscious and rational decision to keep at an arm’s length emotionally…. Though I have discovered I have unusually short arms. | |||
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"It's a friend you have sex with. Call me old fashioned but to me that's a relationship. A relationship requires a deeper type of love and commitment. FWB doesn't use the same mindset. You keep a certain amount of distance mentally, to keep it within the boundaries of friendship. To be (slightly) pedantic, all friendships and interactions are relationships really. They just have different levels. "I understand that and agree that all human interactions are relationships. The old fashioned bit is that *to me* calling a relationship FWB absolves one or both from responsibilities to the others feelings. That's great if both agree and understand that. | |||
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"Pretty much what I have apart from the SODDING DISTANCE….
And opposing rosters lol.
*still can’t do the crying emoji*
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"It's a friend you have sex with. Call me old fashioned but to me that's a relationship." Nope. I can easily have that type of friendship with someone, a kind of hippy vibe to it. Just enjoying the sex for the thrill. But a relationship is where she is my world and the one girl in my head ALL the time. Other are in my head for those wonderful short moments.  | |||
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"It's a friend you have sex with. Call me old fashioned but to me that's a relationship. Nope. I can easily have that type of friendship with someone, a kind of hippy vibe to it. Just enjoying the sex for the thrill. But a relationship is where she is my world and the one girl in my head ALL the time. Other are in my head for those wonderful short moments. "Casual sex with someone you like? | |||
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"It's a friend you have sex with. Call me old fashioned but to me that's a relationship. A relationship requires a deeper type of love and commitment. FWB doesn't use the same mindset. You keep a certain amount of distance mentally, to keep it within the boundaries of friendship. To be (slightly) pedantic, all friendships and interactions are relationships really. They just have different levels.
I understand that and agree that all human interactions are relationships. The old fashioned bit is that *to me* calling a relationship FWB absolves one or both from responsibilities to the others feelings. That's great if both agree and understand that. "I see it different. Feelings can be involved. To me, it’s you won’t be meeting my kids or coming for Sunday dinner at my mum and dads or coming to my house but I love doing stuff with you when we can and having great sex | |||
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"Like a FB but you have to go shopping with them and shit. No wait. Like a FB but you can go with them for a drink and cinema and stuff until they find someone better." For me it has that kind of 'you'll do' feel. | |||
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"Yep. Sometimes you have to make that very conscious and rational decision to keep at an arm’s length emotionally…. Though I have discovered I have unusually short arms. "Haha, same here and for most of the people I've been FWB with. The lines can get blurred very easily, but the friendship always comes first (us second lol). If it gets skewed then it's best to talk about it. Sadly, not everyone talks. I've had a few not speak up, then go weird lol. But at least if it turns into more, you've spent time together already and hopefully know each other more intimately than if you were just dating. Cuts out a lot of expectations, really. | |||
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"It's a friend you have sex with. Call me old fashioned but to me that's a relationship. A relationship requires a deeper type of love and commitment. FWB doesn't use the same mindset. You keep a certain amount of distance mentally, to keep it within the boundaries of friendship. To be (slightly) pedantic, all friendships and interactions are relationships really. They just have different levels.
I understand that and agree that all human interactions are relationships. The old fashioned bit is that *to me* calling a relationship FWB absolves one or both from responsibilities to the others feelings. That's great if both agree and understand that.
I see it different. Feelings can be involved. To me, it’s you won’t be meeting my kids or coming for Sunday dinner at my mum and dads or coming to my house but I love doing stuff with you when we can and having great sex "It's whatever the individuals agree on really then. | |||
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"It's a friend you have sex with. Call me old fashioned but to me that's a relationship. Nope. I can easily have that type of friendship with someone, a kind of hippy vibe to it. Just enjoying the sex for the thrill. But a relationship is where she is my world and the one girl in my head ALL the time. Other are in my head for those wonderful short moments.
Casual sex with someone you like? "Yes. Yes, but a little more than casual, which sounds more like what I say is a fuck buddy. A hook up to me is casual sex with someone I fancy. .. I wouldn’t need to get to know them. A Fwb is someone I actually care and is interested in how they are getting along. | |||
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"Pretty much what I have apart from the SODDING DISTANCE….
And opposing rosters lol.
*still can’t do the crying emoji*
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"The old fashioned bit is that *to me* calling a relationship FWB absolves one or both from responsibilities to the others feelings. That's great if both agree and understand that. " That's too casual for my liking and doesn't put any emphasis on the friend part of the equation, if you're not taking feelings into consideration. That isn't FWB. | |||
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"Pretty much what I have apart from the SODDING DISTANCE….
And opposing rosters lol.
*still can’t do the crying emoji*
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Me neither... Bloody Emojis
Can do it with copy paste… sometimes "I can’t do it either! Thought it was just me | |||
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"Pretty much what I have apart from the SODDING DISTANCE….
And opposing rosters lol.
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Me neither... Bloody Emojis
Can do it with copy paste… sometimes
I can’t do it either! Thought it was just me"I have to delete this emoji after my phone auto corrects it with everything I post | |||
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"Like a FB but you have to go shopping with them and shit. No wait. Like a FB but you can go with them for a drink and cinema and stuff until they find someone better. For me it has that kind of 'you'll do' feel." That's an FB in my eyes. Sex with no strings, works for both parties. FWB is a sliding scale ranging from what Nora ^ said to more and maybe just a bit more than an FB. | |||
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"It's a friend you have sex with. Call me old fashioned but to me that's a relationship." The difference is commitment. So for example, you are expected to take your relationship to your friends wedding or birthday party, but not commited to take your FwB. | |||
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"It's a friend you have sex with. Call me old fashioned but to me that's a relationship. A relationship requires a deeper type of love and commitment. FWB doesn't use the same mindset. You keep a certain amount of distance mentally, to keep it within the boundaries of friendship. To be (slightly) pedantic, all friendships and interactions are relationships really. They just have different levels.
I understand that and agree that all human interactions are relationships. The old fashioned bit is that *to me* calling a relationship FWB absolves one or both from responsibilities to the others feelings. That's great if both agree and understand that.
I see it different. Feelings can be involved. To me, it’s you won’t be meeting my kids or coming for Sunday dinner at my mum and dads or coming to my house but I love doing stuff with you when we can and having great sex "Totally this. It's a defined boundary for me. | |||
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"As a non-native English speaker, and coming from a culture where we are very liberal with the L word (LOVE!) I am genuinely curious… What is the difference between “care” and “love”? If someone says “I care a lot about you” or “you mean a lot to me” … what does it mean, exactly? In Spanish we just use “te quiero” and we’re done with it. "Love generally means either "familial love" or "romantic love", and the difference is whether or not you're related, essentially. Telling someone you're not related to that you love them is generally taken to mean romantically. Especially if they're of the opposite gender. Saying it to two people, in our monogamous society, is basically cheating. We have ridiculous loopholes such as "I love you bro", which does not literally mean "I am adopting you as a brother for the length of this sentence so I can express familial love for you" but it's weird that such a sentence can't end a word early, right. | |||
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"Like a FB but you have to go shopping with them and shit. No wait. Like a FB but you can go with them for a drink and cinema and stuff until they find someone better." keepin' em warm | |||
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"It sounds like a lot of people are defining fwb super closely to how lots of other people define normal relationships. What's the difference?" Interesting - I’m reading the replies and thinking the same. I wonder if anyone here is FWB with someone who is in a relationship…maybe they can give another perspective? | |||
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"Fwb - someone you do other stuff with as well as fuck Fuck Buddy - fuck and go That’s my definition succinct, spot on" Seems clear, and makes sense. Thank you. | |||
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"It sounds like a lot of people are defining fwb super closely to how lots of other people define normal relationships. What's the difference? Interesting - I’m reading the replies and thinking the same. I wonder if anyone here is FWB with someone who is in a relationship…maybe they can give another perspective? " The difference is you're not committed to each other, and depending on boundaries, free to see other people. | |||
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"Someone I can chat to about anything and everything, in-between meeting up for sex. They don't necessarily have to be around to go out and do stuff with. But that would be an added bonus." This is the perfect definition | |||
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"As a non-native English speaker, and coming from a culture where we are very liberal with the L word (LOVE!) I am genuinely curious… What is the difference between “care” and “love”? If someone says “I care a lot about you” or “you mean a lot to me” … what does it mean, exactly? In Spanish we just use “te quiero” and we’re done with it. "I think it's more about being "in" love with the other person. Most Brits are scared to say it. I came from a family where it's never said, I've chosen not to repeat that and always tell my son I love him I also use it much more freely with friends, of both sexes. I can love someone but not be romantically involved. | |||
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"It sounds like a lot of people are defining fwb super closely to how lots of other people define normal relationships. What's the difference?" To me they are a relationship. But so is a casual one night stand. That’s the beauty of being ethically non-monogamous - everyone can be a friend and a partner and a sex buddy. | |||
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"It sounds like a lot of people are defining fwb super closely to how lots of other people define normal relationships. What's the difference? Interesting - I’m reading the replies and thinking the same. I wonder if anyone here is FWB with someone who is in a relationship…maybe they can give another perspective? " I have sex with some friends who are also in other relationships. Is that a different perspective? | |||
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"As a non-native English speaker, and coming from a culture where we are very liberal with the L word (LOVE!) I am genuinely curious… What is the difference between “care” and “love”? If someone says “I care a lot about you” or “you mean a lot to me” … what does it mean, exactly? In Spanish we just use “te quiero” and we’re done with it. "A bit like the difference between "l love you" said by your mum and your lover. Your friend will care, your lover will love. | |||
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"We’re FWB’s - that’s what one of the two says when they don’t want to commit to a relationship! "Or both don’t. In my case | |||
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"We’re FWB’s - that’s what one of the two says when they don’t want to commit to a relationship!
Or both don’t. In my case "I tell nosey people that "she's using me for sex only" | |||
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