FabSwingers.com forum: Orgasm

By *olli_pop OP Woman
46 weeks ago

West Midlands

I was wondering how many ladies are truthful about having an orgasm? I for one cannot orgasm through penetrative sex, i also have alot of friends that can't. For me its oral only. I have looked at research and it states 70-90% of women can't. Alot of men seem to be unaware of this. I always make it known, as whats the point, if you're not getting out of it what you want.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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46 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I was wondering how many ladies are truthful about having an orgasm? I for one cannot orgasm through penetrative sex, i also have alot of friends that can't. For me its oral only. I have looked at research and it states 70-90% of women can't. Alot of men seem to be unaware of this. I always make it known, as whats the point, if you're not getting out of it what you want. "

It's all down to communication.

If something doesn't work for you and they don't know.....is it their fault or yours?

I sometimes struggle during penetrative sex myself. It's not just a woman thing.

The difference being, men are generally crap and far less convincing at faking orgasms........

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

Get ready for the whole you just not had the right one yet talk coming in the inbox get the filters set to max

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By *adyBugsWoman
46 weeks ago

cognito

If I have them, great! If I don’t, it’s not the end of the world if we still had fun

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By *irmelaterMan
46 weeks ago

Telford

It's not about,wham,bam etc

Oral is by far,more pleasurable

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By *hriscooperMan
46 weeks ago

Warrington

I think that's a very wrong statistic.

They can but it takes a lot of patience, understanding, know how and relaxation. Even if at first it incudes clitoral stimulation too.

A big problem is that most people see the whole point of sex as just to climax, men and women. Whereas if you lean more towards to actual enjoyment and connection in that moment magical things can happen.

It always surprises me just how many ladies have never even experienced a G spot orgasm and have only ever had clitoral.

I must admit that for me it's a fantastic feeling watching it for the first time just as must as it being a fantastic feeling for my partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

I don't mention it because then it becomes a challenge for them and it gets tedious.

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By *elboy1957Man
46 weeks ago

Weston-super-Mare

It doesn't have to be about full penetration, some of the best sex can be had other ways

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By *ortyairCouple
46 weeks ago

Wallasey

I can't cum through penetration and I'm not a big fan of receiving oral, I'm buggered.....maybe that'll work haha,

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

In my life only ever met had relationship with one lady that came straight sex missionary did it as long as played nipples same time. Oral might have got her wet but never gave her orgasam.

She said she had more orgasams in life playing with her self after men rolled over than with men.

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By *ornycougaWoman
46 weeks ago

Wherever I lay my hat

"I can't cum through penetration and I'm not a big fan of receiving oral, I'm buggered.....maybe that'll work haha,

Mrs x"

Lol. That and a bullet on my clit works wonders for me!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
46 weeks ago

Leeds

I don't and won't fake it, if blokes can't understand that I don't cum on demand that's their issue not mine.

I feel like a right dick trying to fake an orgasm I end up in my own head, id just rather be honest.

I can thoroughly enjoy the sex without an orgasm.

Mrs

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
46 weeks ago

Wherever

I just put it on my profile

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By *olli_pop OP Woman
46 weeks ago

West Midlands

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By *olli_pop OP Woman
46 weeks ago

West Midlands

"Get ready for the whole you just not had the right one yet talk coming in the inbox get the filters set to max "
Haha very good point

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By *olli_pop OP Woman
46 weeks ago

West Midlands

"I can't cum through penetration and I'm not a big fan of receiving oral, I'm buggered.....maybe that'll work haha

Mrs x"

Got to be worth a try? Haha

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By *olkiMan
46 weeks ago

somewhere

It's more about the grinding motion rather than in and out.

That always seems to do the trick and it makes me last longer too.

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By *olli_pop OP Woman
46 weeks ago

West Midlands

"I don't mention it because then it becomes a challenge for them and it gets tedious. "

I get ya

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By *olli_pop OP Woman
46 weeks ago

West Midlands

"It's more about the grinding motion rather than in and out.

That always seems to do the trick and it makes me last longer too.

That has worked for me on a couple of occasions,but again its clitoral stimulation. But ill take whatever works haha

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By *inger_SnapWoman
46 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"I don't mention it because then it becomes a challenge for them and it gets tedious. "

I agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

Women have had much more success making me cum than men.

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

I like to think I’m truthful about it too. No point in giving the other person hard work or doing yourself out of pleasure. It’s the same thing with squirting. I don’t like to talk about it too much because once I say that I can’t every time it becomes like a challenge and the other person is left feeling inadequate. When in reality it’s not anything to do with them it’s just my stupid body.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
46 weeks ago

Maidstone

"If I have them, great! If I don’t, it’s not the end of the world if we still had fun

This ... I think it's an essential difference between attitude to orgasm between a man or a woman...

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By *uliette500Woman
46 weeks ago

Hull

If I have had one or two by other means just prior I can then have another with penetrative sex. If not there is no chance of me having one with penetration alone.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
46 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I can in some positions but not others. Depends.

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By *nigmatic x DivinityCouple
46 weeks ago

Up town top ranking

I have clitoral, g spot, and cervical orgasms.

However, I've only been able to have Gspot and cervical orgasms since I turned 40

I squirted once in my mid 30s ,now I'm 41 it's everytime.

Take time to explore and listen to your body. I hope you do achieve them xxx

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
46 weeks ago

your head

Always truthful although that has lead to guys wanting to keep going until I cum. For me it depends on the person, the connection and the position. Its rare I have an issue with my partner but have had with guys in the past.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
46 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"I can in some positions but not others. Depends. "

I’ve been putting more thought into this

I’ve always been a bit odd I’ll admit but I think it really is all in the head for me. In fact I know it is. It’s how comfortable I am with that person, what he’s like, how he’s acting, how excited he is etc. hard to explain really.

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

Women be lyingggggg. I only trust them on days that don’t end with a y.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
46 weeks ago

barnstaple

Finally, the truth. I can cum not from just penetrative sex though.

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By *ad NannaWoman
46 weeks ago

East London

Although I do come from penetration, I prefer what happens before the orgasm, to the actual orgasm itself.

There haven't many men I've had an orgasm from oral with, either.

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

In my life 3 men have made me orgasm through penetrative sex, one of which is from here…

I’m very honest about the fact it’s very rare for me!

When I was younger I used to fake it to make them feel better. But as a grown ass woman I’d prefer to say “this feels good, try that…” rather than have mediocre sex…as a result of being open my sex life is the best it’s ever been

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By *olli_pop OP Woman
46 weeks ago

West Midlands

"In my life 3 men have made me orgasm through penetrative sex, one of which is from here…

I’m very honest about the fact it’s very rare for me!

Exactly this. I used to be embarrassed about it when i was younger, and fake it. As i got older i realised i was doing myself no favours, nor the men

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

"Get ready for the whole you just not had the right one yet talk coming in the inbox get the filters set to max Haha very good point"

Yip 100%

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By *rilingualMan
46 weeks ago

Guildford

I just love oral, so I try and make sure I don't cum first.

Quite frankly I was thinking of having a gill transplant so I didn't have to come up for air. I could spend all day down there if she let me.

I once had a girlfriend who couldn't orgasm through penetration, so for me it was just heaven.

On a separate note, it must be great if you're called Gary, as all you hear constantly is

"ohhh...Gaz... mmmmm"

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By *iscean_dreamMan
46 weeks ago

Llanelli

I reckon they've all lied to me about orgasms

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By *ebel59Man
46 weeks ago

Cumbria

Had an out of body orgasm many years ago, nothing as intense since. I find the physical contact, kissing stroking and touching as enjoyable as the final ejaculation. Had a recent bi mmmf meet and the wind down and cuddle with my female friend so erotic and just as enjoyable.

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By *olli_pop OP Woman
46 weeks ago

West Midlands

"I reckon they've all lied to me about orgasms

Hahaha, why do you think that?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
46 weeks ago

Llanelli

"I reckon they've all lied to me about orgasms

Hahaha, why do you think that?"

I might be joking, I'd hope they'd be honest and tell me as I don't like stopping before everyone is satisfied

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

Women have orgasms?…. They’ve never told me.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
46 weeks ago

barnstaple

"I reckon they've all lied to me about orgasms

Hahaha, why do you think that?

I might be joking, I'd hope they'd be honest and tell me as I don't like stopping before everyone is satisfied "

I'm not sure women would say at the time

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By *ornucopiaMan
46 weeks ago

Bexley

It is far more important that men have orgasms as they will be accompanied by ejaculation and, hopefullyinsemination.

Women's desire to hopefully achieve orgasm is there to encourage them into participation.

All part of God's wondrous plan to create babies.

Without babies being created, church congregations would eventually decrease to unsustainable levels.

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By *ackformore100Man
46 weeks ago

Tin town

Is penetrative orgasm the only thing you want?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
46 weeks ago

Llanelli

"I reckon they've all lied to me about orgasms

Hahaha, why do you think that?

I might be joking, I'd hope they'd be honest and tell me as I don't like stopping before everyone is satisfied

I'm not sure women would say at the time"

Well if not been turned down after a first meet so think I'm doing ok

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By *olli_pop OP Woman
46 weeks ago

West Midlands

Is penetrative orgasm the only thing you want? "

No not at all. I enjoy all aspects of sex, whether i climax or not. But for me the only way i can is through oral or with my wand, and i wanted to know if this was something as common as research would suggest. Also from my experience alot of men aren't aware of this. One man asked me what was wrong with me when i told him i couldn't,and asked if id had some trauma as a child that triggered it. Ignorance at its best

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By *viatrixWoman
46 weeks ago

Redhill

I can only cum with my legs down, completely straight.

Totally true. It’s a faff lol

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By *olli_pop OP Woman
46 weeks ago

West Midlands

"I can only cum with my legs down, completely straight.

Totally true. It’s a faff lol "

Ive never really given it much thought, but now you've said, im the same with my toy, legs always straight otherwise doesnt happen

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By *merican WomanWoman
46 weeks ago

live by the Pool xx

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
46 weeks ago

wonderland.

"I can only cum with my legs down, completely straight.

Totally true. It’s a faff lol "

I have a different orgasm that way. Can't explain it but it is very different... I can orgasm from penetration but only if my heads in the right place. I struggle to orgasm from oral. (

Cali

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By *ust want fun 888Man
46 weeks ago

nearby

It’s so interesting, learning this from different women’s points of views, how and if you orgasm and ways of getting one, interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

"I can only cum with my legs down, completely straight.

Totally true. It’s a faff lol "

Lol. s is like this. And only with a very specific toy, too. I've only made her cum a few times with other means, it's always been basically by accident and then it doesn't work the next time

Unless a play partner says they want an orgasm specifically I don't really care about trying to get them to cum. Due to the nature of what I enjoy there needs to be a lot of communication anyway; I make sure we all get what we want, and often it's not an orgasm anyway, they're just a happy accident

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

..although I should add that demanding an orgasm from someone that can't achieve one, while upping the intensity of whatever you're doing, can definitely be a lot of fun

if you're into that sort of thing, of course. Bonus points for punishing faked orgasms

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

"It is far more important that men have orgasms as they will be accompanied by ejaculation and, hopefullyinsemination.

Women's desire to hopefully achieve orgasm is there to encourage them into participation.

All part of God's wondrous plan to create babies.

Without babies being created, church congregations would eventually decrease to unsustainable levels.

There was a scene taken with internal cameras on what happens during a penetrative orgasm.

The undulations push the cervix down into the pool of sperm. I assume that's only a good thing and probably a better way of ensuring successful insemination.

I dunno about church though

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By *ackformore100Man
46 weeks ago

Tin town

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By *rilingualMan
46 weeks ago

Guildford

"I can only cum with my legs down, completely straight.

Totally true. It’s a faff lol "

I’d consider it an honour to unfair your faff in the most faffable way possible

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By *rilingualMan
46 weeks ago

Guildford

". my body only likes tongue

Madam, kindly lay back and for the next couple of hours forget the world exists.

Penetration schmenetration… I could spend all day down there and wouldn’t even need breathing apparatus

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
46 weeks ago

tf1

I cum from penetration more than clitoral but sometimes it just doesn’t happen.

Doesn’t mean I haven’t enjoyed it. I just can’t get there

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By *parkle1974Woman
46 weeks ago

Leeds

I cum much easier through oral than I do during penetrative sex. If I am well in tune with the guy and know him well then my body responds...I have never and will never fake an orgasm x

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By *heekyDemandCouple
46 weeks ago

Leicester

"In my life 3 men have made me orgasm through penetrative sex, one of which is from here…

Was this all 3 at once? Maybe getting airtight is what popped that cork

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By *odgerMooreMan
46 weeks ago

Nowhere

I have had a lot if orgasm denial - i ask for a shag and they say No!! Can’t believe its actually a kink… i read that somewhere!!

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

Always been truthful, my face gives me away when I need to cum so I can't lie or hide it.

I'm also very lucky it seems as I can orgasm through oral and penetrative sex.

Always helps to find someone that can read you well and get you to that point of no return.

Communication can be key to a good orgasm.

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By *unseeker100Man
46 weeks ago

batley

"I don't mention it because then it becomes a challenge for them and it gets tedious. "

You don't have to mention it just guide your partner to your needs

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By *eliWoman
46 weeks ago

I can orgasm quite easily during penetration, they're great but they're not quite the intense combined clitoral/penetration ones I favour.

Oral rarely brings me to orgasm, I think for one I can't quite get out of my head enough and secondly, it's not... filling enough for me.

I'm truthful about when I'm coming, when something is working for me and when it's not. I have erm faked it before and then I realised that it was a beeping stupid idea. Now I don't need to or want to.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
46 weeks ago

Leicester

"I can orgasm quite easily during penetration, they're great but they're not quite the intense combined clitoral/penetration ones I favour.

Oral rarely brings me to orgasm, I think for one I can't quite get out of my head enough and secondly, it's not... filling enough for me.

Gymnastics aside I've found it a lot easier to get oral orgasms with a dick inside, you need an extra

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By *et and WillingCouple
46 weeks ago

Nuneaton

I must be very lucky then as i orgasam from penetration both vaginal and anal and from clit play

Mrs W&W xx

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By *eliWoman
46 weeks ago

"I can orgasm quite easily during penetration, they're great but they're not quite the intense combined clitoral/penetration ones I favour.

Oral rarely brings me to orgasm, I think for one I can't quite get out of my head enough and secondly, it's not... filling enough for me.

Gymnastics aside I've found it a lot easier to get oral orgasms with a dick inside, you need an extra "

Oh have you heard about fucklicking? Delightful term I know. Anyway; get another person and then it's less gymnastics but still with the intensity. I've never had it done to me, have a very strong feeling I will before the year is through.

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By *exyScientistsCouple
46 weeks ago

Castlebar

"I don't and won't fake it, if blokes can't understand that I don't cum on demand that's their issue not mine.

I feel like a right dick trying to fake an orgasm I end up in my own head, id just rather be honest.

I can thoroughly enjoy the sex without an orgasm.

Mrs "

Same...I can't fake it, it doesn't always happen with oral or otherwise and I'm fine with that.

It's not a challenge but if a guy feels like it is I will point out that it might not happen. I thought it would never happen with oral for me either but apparently it can

Good news for me

Mrs

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By *heekyDemandCouple
46 weeks ago

Leicester

Gymnastics aside I've found it a lot easier to get oral orgasms with a dick inside, you need an extra

Fucklicking is one of life's true pleasures, but even without that maybe just someone slowly thrusting a big dildo whilst they lick your clit, it's either fireworks, waterworks, or both

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