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"I have been cheated on I haven't cheated yet but I am now allowed to 'cheat' as she put it! ![]() ![]() So with permission, its not cheating ![]() | |||
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"I have been cheated on I haven't cheated yet but I am now allowed to 'cheat' as she put it! ![]() ![]() ![]() Now you put it like that ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I have been cheated on and it was a pain like I've never known. It's why I would never knowingly meet with someone who is cheating. J" I have never cheated. | |||
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"Ailsa cheated on me when we were young. Some years later I had an emotional affair, which never turned physical. We discovered that we didn’t mind the connection to others, but the deceit and lack of trust was destructive. We are much stronger now because of this, and we have total honesty with each other. " It's great to hear about people communicating about it and things becoming better. Pleased it all worked out for you guys. Mrs | |||
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"I have and it was an awful thing to do. In my defence I was young, had a lot going on in my life and the relationship was toxic. I would never do it again. " If you were in a toxic relationship then it’s understandable ,isn’t it? | |||
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"I cheated after many years in an affection and loveless marriage Yes I did try the discussions, the arguments,the wooing, the weekends away all to no avail. In the end I couldn’t stand being in that relationship and had my first and only affair with my now second wife. Don’t get me wrong, I felt lousy in doing that and hurting my ex but I can sincerely say I did try so hard and she did understand how I felt but she simply didn’t change one bit I’m sure that there will be some comments on here from people who frankly have never been in that position I’m sure the ,”You should have left and not had the affair,” comment will come up Life doesn’t always work that way For me finding affection was the the point at which I had finally done with working my ass off to provide someone the lifestyle that they selfishly enjoyed I recall my ex saying to me that she felt jealous that someone else would be having the meals and the holidays that should be hers She didn’t say,”I love you,” or “Don’t go.” " exactly they probably have been in that position but are so pig headed they can't admit to it ![]() | |||
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"Ailsa cheated on me when we were young. Some years later I had an emotional affair, which never turned physical. We discovered that we didn’t mind the connection to others, but the deceit and lack of trust was destructive. We are much stronger now because of this, and we have total honesty with each other. It's great to hear about people communicating about it and things becoming better. Pleased it all worked out for you guys. Mrs " It was many many years ago, and we’ve been through far worse since. But it’s also how you discover the nature and depth of the love that exists between you. If it doesn’t break you, it makes you stronger. Thank you for your kind words Xx | |||
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"Ailsa cheated on me when we were young. Some years later I had an emotional affair, which never turned physical. We discovered that we didn’t mind the connection to others, but the deceit and lack of trust was destructive. We are much stronger now because of this, and we have total honesty with each other. It's great to hear about people communicating about it and things becoming better. Pleased it all worked out for you guys. Mrs It was many many years ago, and we’ve been through far worse since. But it’s also how you discover the nature and depth of the love that exists between you. If it doesn’t break you, it makes you stronger. Thank you for your kind words Xx" ![]() | |||
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"I cheated after many years in an affection and loveless marriage Yes I did try the discussions, the arguments,the wooing, the weekends away all to no avail. In the end I couldn’t stand being in that relationship and had my first and only affair with my now second wife. Don’t get me wrong, I felt lousy in doing that and hurting my ex but I can sincerely say I did try so hard and she did understand how I felt but she simply didn’t change one bit I’m sure that there will be some comments on here from people who frankly have never been in that position I’m sure the ,”You should have left and not had the affair,” comment will come up Life doesn’t always work that way For me finding affection was the the point at which I had finally done with working my ass off to provide someone the lifestyle that they selfishly enjoyed I recall my ex saying to me that she felt jealous that someone else would be having the meals and the holidays that should be hers She didn’t say,”I love you,” or “Don’t go.” " So do you swing with your wife now? | |||
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"I have and it was an awful thing to do. In my defence I was young, had a lot going on in my life and the relationship was toxic. I would never do it again. If you were in a toxic relationship then it’s understandable ,isn’t it?" If someone had asked me that at the time, I would have said yes. They hurt me and it was my way of getting them back for everything they did. Now I realise how immature it was and I should have just left but I didn’t have the guts to do it. I’m nothing like the person I was back then. | |||
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"I cheated after many years in an affection and loveless marriage Yes I did try the discussions, the arguments,the wooing, the weekends away all to no avail. In the end I couldn’t stand being in that relationship and had my first and only affair with my now second wife. Don’t get me wrong, I felt lousy in doing that and hurting my ex but I can sincerely say I did try so hard and she did understand how I felt but she simply didn’t change one bit I’m sure that there will be some comments on here from people who frankly have never been in that position I’m sure the ,”You should have left and not had the affair,” comment will come up Life doesn’t always work that way For me finding affection was the the point at which I had finally done with working my ass off to provide someone the lifestyle that they selfishly enjoyed I recall my ex saying to me that she felt jealous that someone else would be having the meals and the holidays that should be hers She didn’t say,”I love you,” or “Don’t go.” So do you swing with your wife now? " No my wife went through the change and has refused a sexual relationship for many years Friends tell her to try HRT and other things but she flatly refuses I don’t want an affair at all I don’t want out of this relationship, but the loss of a sexual aspect in my marriage is very upsetting and sexually frustrating I cannot afford a second divorce even if I considered one, which I don’t want I’m on here to see if there is the option of simply sexual contacts but I find that there isn’t I like to browse the site and comment on forums I find it very interesting to see how different people judge others against their own moral standards To me I couldn’t sexually share my wife with others She thinks all swingers are dirty so and so’s. We all have our views and our standards and cheating on this site seems to be the big no So a man or woman isn’t cheating provided their partner knows or is joining in With Swinginging couples who is to say how many also swing without their swinging partners knowledge Is that cheating also By the standards of wedding vows it all certainly is cheating I suppose I want my cake and eat it as I want a relationship but I also want the sexual side which I cannot have. Is it wrong to want and need that? Is it wrong to try and find a solution which isn’t divorce, cannot be swinging as my wife detests the idea, cannot be a fwb I suppose that morally I am expected to just be satisfied with masturbation….but it’s not the same | |||
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"I cheated after many years in an affection and loveless marriage Yes I did try the discussions, the arguments,the wooing, the weekends away all to no avail. In the end I couldn’t stand being in that relationship and had my first and only affair with my now second wife. Don’t get me wrong, I felt lousy in doing that and hurting my ex but I can sincerely say I did try so hard and she did understand how I felt but she simply didn’t change one bit I’m sure that there will be some comments on here from people who frankly have never been in that position I’m sure the ,”You should have left and not had the affair,” comment will come up Life doesn’t always work that way For me finding affection was the the point at which I had finally done with working my ass off to provide someone the lifestyle that they selfishly enjoyed I recall my ex saying to me that she felt jealous that someone else would be having the meals and the holidays that should be hers She didn’t say,”I love you,” or “Don’t go.” So do you swing with your wife now? No my wife went through the change and has refused a sexual relationship for many years Friends tell her to try HRT and other things but she flatly refuses I don’t want an affair at all I don’t want out of this relationship, but the loss of a sexual aspect in my marriage is very upsetting and sexually frustrating I cannot afford a second divorce even if I considered one, which I don’t want I’m on here to see if there is the option of simply sexual contacts but I find that there isn’t I like to browse the site and comment on forums I find it very interesting to see how different people judge others against their own moral standards To me I couldn’t sexually share my wife with others She thinks all swingers are dirty so and so’s. We all have our views and our standards and cheating on this site seems to be the big no So a man or woman isn’t cheating provided their partner knows or is joining in With Swinginging couples who is to say how many also swing without their swinging partners knowledge Is that cheating also By the standards of wedding vows it all certainly is cheating I suppose I want my cake and eat it as I want a relationship but I also want the sexual side which I cannot have. Is it wrong to want and need that? Is it wrong to try and find a solution which isn’t divorce, cannot be swinging as my wife detests the idea, cannot be a fwb I suppose that morally I am expected to just be satisfied with masturbation….but it’s not the same " The right thing to do would be to talk to your wife, explore options, and decide if being on this site is within the binderies of your relationship. If she says it’s not, then pay the £600 for a divorce and shag away to your hearts content. | |||
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"I have and it was an awful thing to do. In my defence I was young, had a lot going on in my life and the relationship was toxic. I would never do it again. If you were in a toxic relationship then it’s understandable ,isn’t it? If someone had asked me that at the time, I would have said yes. They hurt me and it was my way of getting them back for everything they did. Now I realise how immature it was and I should have just left but I didn’t have the guts to do it. I’m nothing like the person I was back then. " I think that it’s strong if you to say that you didn’t have the guts to do it and very honest. Did you really do it to hurt them or to have affection for yourself? | |||
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"I cheated after many years in an affection and loveless marriage Yes I did try the discussions, the arguments,the wooing, the weekends away all to no avail. In the end I couldn’t stand being in that relationship and had my first and only affair with my now second wife. Don’t get me wrong, I felt lousy in doing that and hurting my ex but I can sincerely say I did try so hard and she did understand how I felt but she simply didn’t change one bit I’m sure that there will be some comments on here from people who frankly have never been in that position I’m sure the ,”You should have left and not had the affair,” comment will come up Life doesn’t always work that way For me finding affection was the the point at which I had finally done with working my ass off to provide someone the lifestyle that they selfishly enjoyed I recall my ex saying to me that she felt jealous that someone else would be having the meals and the holidays that should be hers She didn’t say,”I love you,” or “Don’t go.” So do you swing with your wife now? No my wife went through the change and has refused a sexual relationship for many years Friends tell her to try HRT and other things but she flatly refuses I don’t want an affair at all I don’t want out of this relationship, but the loss of a sexual aspect in my marriage is very upsetting and sexually frustrating I cannot afford a second divorce even if I considered one, which I don’t want I’m on here to see if there is the option of simply sexual contacts but I find that there isn’t I like to browse the site and comment on forums I find it very interesting to see how different people judge others against their own moral standards To me I couldn’t sexually share my wife with others She thinks all swingers are dirty so and so’s. We all have our views and our standards and cheating on this site seems to be the big no So a man or woman isn’t cheating provided their partner knows or is joining in With Swinginging couples who is to say how many also swing without their swinging partners knowledge Is that cheating also By the standards of wedding vows it all certainly is cheating I suppose I want my cake and eat it as I want a relationship but I also want the sexual side which I cannot have. Is it wrong to want and need that? Is it wrong to try and find a solution which isn’t divorce, cannot be swinging as my wife detests the idea, cannot be a fwb I suppose that morally I am expected to just be satisfied with masturbation….but it’s not the same The right thing to do would be to talk to your wife, explore options, and decide if being on this site is within the binderies of your relationship. If she says it’s not, then pay the £600 for a divorce and shag away to your hearts content." Thought I had answered that | |||
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" The right thing to do would be to talk to your wife, explore options, and decide if being on this site is within the binderies of your relationship. If she says it’s not, then pay the £600 for a divorce and shag away to your hearts content. Thought I had answered that " The thing is, most people who believe they are in monogamous relationships would consider it cheating if a man was on a site like this looking to fuck other people - which your profile indicates you are doing. So you need to either talk to her and see if she considers it cheating for you to be here (and if she does you should delete your profile immediately) or pay your six hundred quid and move into a mates spare bedroom. Seems pretty simple to me, tbh. | |||
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