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By *sWyld OP   Woman
38 weeks ago

Edinburgh

When it comes to sex

I know countless posts say otherwise but hear me out..

While we sometimes agonise over lingerie, clothes, our hair, our make up, our shoes.

The underwear thing is a minefield, try to feel confident, so we hide bits that make us insecure, then we have to faff around deciding how it might work in certain positions, access issues, if said men will like it etc etc.

It's stressful.

While men, they just turn up clean and take their kit off!

I might go on strike

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By *ellinever70Woman
38 weeks ago

Ayrshire

You don't speak for all women

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
38 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I like the getting ready part.

If I didn't I'd deal with naked

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By *sWyld OP   Woman
38 weeks ago

Edinburgh


"You don't speak for all women "

Oh I realise that

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

And then you get there and someone like me is just taking it all off anyway

Just turn up naked. Pre-lube if you want to put in some effort.

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By *sWyld OP   Woman
38 weeks ago

Edinburgh


"I like the getting ready part.

If I didn't I'd deal with naked "

I like it, i just wish I was more confident with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago


"When it comes to sex

I know countless posts say otherwise but hear me out..

While we sometimes agonise over lingerie, clothes, our hair, our make up, our shoes.

The underwear thing is a minefield, try to feel confident, so we hide bits that make us insecure, then we have to faff around deciding how it might work in certain positions, access issues, if said men will like it etc etc.

It's stressful.

While men, they just turn up clean and take their kit off!

I might go on strike

"

So very relatable! This is me constantly! Minus the striking! My sex drive could never…

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
38 weeks ago

Maidstone

I'm too old to care these days. It gets to a point where it takes so long to look nice that I've given up. I'm a take me as I am kinda meet. I'll be clean but I'm promising nothing rise!!

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By *luebell888Woman
38 weeks ago

Glasgowish


"When it comes to sex

I know countless posts say otherwise but hear me out..

While we sometimes agonise over lingerie, clothes, our hair, our make up, our shoes.

The underwear thing is a minefield, try to feel confident, so we hide bits that make us insecure, then we have to faff around deciding how it might work in certain positions, access issues, if said men will like it etc etc.

It's stressful.

While men, they just turn up clean and take their kit off!

I might go on strike

"

I just turn up clean and take my kit off too. Naked will always be the best way for me and if the hair gets messed up and the lipstick gets smudged then so be it. I think it's much harder for men to be honest as they have the stresses or keeping an erection.

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By *sWyld OP   Woman
38 weeks ago

Edinburgh


"When it comes to sex

I know countless posts say otherwise but hear me out..

While we sometimes agonise over lingerie, clothes, our hair, our make up, our shoes.

The underwear thing is a minefield, try to feel confident, so we hide bits that make us insecure, then we have to faff around deciding how it might work in certain positions, access issues, if said men will like it etc etc.

It's stressful.

While men, they just turn up clean and take their kit off!

I might go on strike

I just turn up clean and take my kit off too. Naked will always be the best way for me and if the hair gets messed up and the lipstick gets smudged then so be it. I think it's much harder for men to be honest as they have the stresses or keeping an erection."

I realise it's an insecurity thing for me and know they also have hang ups.. It just seems like less faff for them

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

I can’t wear make up or fancy underwear as it drives me fucking insane.

I am really really not confident about my body when it’s clothed at all !!!!! but if I’m happy to be naked around someone - I am far more at ease and generally don’t care / forget what my body looks like - it’s just getting there that’s the problem for me as I very rarely find anyone I want to be naked around haha

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By *alcon77Man
38 weeks ago

under the sun & the moon

My hair takes about a day to dry..

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By *ealitybitesMan
38 weeks ago

Belfast

Fuck that crap.

I expect to turn up and have someone take my kit off for me

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago


"Fuck that crap.

I expect to turn up and have someone take my kit off for me "

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By *valanche1001Man
38 weeks ago

Leeds


"When it comes to sex

I know countless posts say otherwise but hear me out..

While we sometimes agonise over lingerie, clothes, our hair, our make up, our shoes.

The underwear thing is a minefield, try to feel confident, so we hide bits that make us insecure, then we have to faff around deciding how it might work in certain positions, access issues, if said men will like it etc etc.

It's stressful.

While men, they just turn up clean and take their kit off!

I might go on strike

I just turn up clean and take my kit off too. Naked will always be the best way for me and if the hair gets messed up and the lipstick gets smudged then so be it. I think it's much harder for men to be honest as they have the stresses or keeping an erection."

Oh well I wasn’t worrying about that till now

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By *agnar73Man
38 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

I wish.

Theres making sure you’re clean, double making sure, the shaving, the hairs in errant places, the mild panic looking in the mirror.

Will she be okay with these boxers?

Is she a shoe judger?

Where are the actually decent socks?

Will this after shave be okay?

Mouthwash

Teeth brushing

Trying to sort the shaving cuts

Face scrub

Hope the second bestest socks are okay.

The ach she’ll just say you’re nice panic.

Mints!

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago


"My hair takes about a day to dry.."

And what a fine head of hair it is too!

I have cut my hair off ! Drives me mad having to dry it. Love long hair - but I cba with it myself so kudos to you for having the patience and putting in the time!

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By *ellhungvweMan
38 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Ladies - wear what you want. I really don’t mind. If you are happy in spending hours putting on your makeup, doing your hair and making a thousand and one clothes choices that, in reality, I probably won’t actually notice, then please do so. If you want to rock up in comfy jeans and a t shirt then that’s more than awesome.

I am just pleased you turned up and I just want you to be comfortable and happy in yourself. You don’t have to impress me.

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By *alcon77Man
38 weeks ago

under the sun & the moon


"My hair takes about a day to dry..

And what a fine head of hair it is too!

I have cut my hair off ! Drives me mad having to dry it. Love long hair - but I cba with it myself so kudos to you for having the patience and putting in the time! "

Used to be longer, around knee length.

I noticed my life was being planned around it..

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

God know that all to well couple that with the fact off shaveing the night before and it is a real nightmare

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By *luebell888Woman
38 weeks ago

Glasgowish


"Ladies - wear what you want. I really don’t mind. If you are happy in spending hours putting on your makeup, doing your hair and making a thousand and one clothes choices that, in reality, I probably won’t actually notice, then please do so. If you want to rock up in comfy jeans and a t shirt then that’s more than awesome.

I am just pleased you turned up and I just want you to be comfortable and happy in yourself. You don’t have to impress me."

What a lovely thing to say.

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By *tlanshiaWoman
38 weeks ago

Chatham

Oh I hate it.

Women:

Shoes. Hair. Makeup. Shave. Moisture. Hair again. Undies. Heels. Stockings. Not another pair that one has a hole in. Suspender belt. Coat to hide it all. All that work for 3 minutes of mediocrity if we're lucky.

Men:

Shower. Lynx. Clothes. Leave.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
38 weeks ago

SW Scotland

We were just talking about this last night.

Women: hair, make up, lingerie, dress etc. cheaper club entry.

Men: pair of clean boxers, lynx and expensive club entry.

Kind of works out the same

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By *heelerMan
38 weeks ago

Northants


"When it comes to sex

I know countless posts say otherwise but hear me out..

While we sometimes agonise over lingerie, clothes, our hair, our make up, our shoes.

The underwear thing is a minefield, try to feel confident, so we hide bits that make us insecure, then we have to faff around deciding how it might work in certain positions, access issues, if said men will like it etc etc.

It's stressful.

While men, they just turn up clean and take their kit off!

I might go on strike

I just turn up clean and take my kit off too. Naked will always be the best way for me and if the hair gets messed up and the lipstick gets smudged then so be it. I think it's much harder for men to be honest as they have the stresses or keeping an erection."

To me naked is most fun .

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago


"My hair takes about a day to dry..

And what a fine head of hair it is too!

I have cut my hair off ! Drives me mad having to dry it. Love long hair - but I cba with it myself so kudos to you for having the patience and putting in the time!

Used to be longer, around knee length.

I noticed my life was being planned around it.."

WOW!!!! bum length is as far as I got

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

I’d probably agonise about lots of things but then again that’s hypothetical anyway.

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
38 weeks ago

Wales


"When it comes to sex

I know countless posts say otherwise but hear me out..

While we sometimes agonise over lingerie, clothes, our hair, our make up, our shoes.

The underwear thing is a minefield, try to feel confident, so we hide bits that make us insecure, then we have to faff around deciding how it might work in certain positions, access issues, if said men will like it etc etc.

It's stressful.

While men, they just turn up clean and take their kit off!

I might go on strike

"

I enjoy getting ready, until it gets stressful because I can't find a particular dress or underwear or piece of jewellery.

Hours to get ready and half the time it all gets taken off in the first fifteen minutes

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By *illy IdolMan
38 weeks ago

Midlands

No wonder some of you just lay there like a sack of spuds. Bet you're exhausted after all that prep

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By *ea monkeyMan
38 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

I didn’t realise that it was a competition!

I think that we all have the little stresses and anxieties associated with getting ready and wanting to feel our best. No one has it easier, just different.

I think that the issue is when people start to resent the other person for the things we’re doing, when in reality these stresses are placed upon us by ourselves and we’re doing them so we feel our best for ourselves.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
38 weeks ago

Maidstone


"No wonder some of you just lay there like a sack of spuds. Bet you're exhausted after all that prep"

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By *ea monkeyMan
38 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Oh I hate it.

Women:

Shoes. Hair. Makeup. Shave. Moisture. Hair again. Undies. Heels. Stockings. Not another pair that one has a hole in. Suspender belt. Coat to hide it all. All that work for 3 minutes of mediocrity if we're lucky.

Men:

Shower. Lynx. Clothes. Leave. "

No, really tell us how you feel about the guys that you meet!

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By *agnar73Man
38 weeks ago

glasgow-ish


"No wonder some of you just lay there like a sack of spuds. Bet you're exhausted after all that prep"

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By *agnar73Man
38 weeks ago

glasgow-ish


"Oh I hate it.

Women:

Shoes. Hair. Makeup. Shave. Moisture. Hair again. Undies. Heels. Stockings. Not another pair that one has a hole in. Suspender belt. Coat to hide it all. All that work for 3 minutes of mediocrity if we're lucky.

Men:

Shower. Lynx. Clothes. Leave. "

Lynx Africa if you please.

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
38 weeks ago

London or Bedford

Lingerie? Make-up? IDGAF

Show up in your birthday suit. Bring pizza, if you can

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By *ruceyyMan
38 weeks ago

London


"When it comes to sex

I know countless posts say otherwise but hear me out..

While we sometimes agonise over lingerie, clothes, our hair, our make up, our shoes.

The underwear thing is a minefield, try to feel confident, so we hide bits that make us insecure, then we have to faff around deciding how it might work in certain positions, access issues, if said men will like it etc etc.

It's stressful.

While men, they just turn up clean and take their kit off!

I might go on strike

"

Oh yeah once she's there like, come on then you beast of a man, then it is pretty easy.

Condoms do make the sex less fun for men though whereas you ladies are still getting a poking aren't ya?!

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By *imandher123456Couple
38 weeks ago

gosport

And if your very lucky they will even take their socks off .......

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago


"Oh I hate it.

Women:

Shoes. Hair. Makeup. Shave. Moisture. Hair again. Undies. Heels. Stockings. Not another pair that one has a hole in. Suspender belt. Coat to hide it all. All that work for 3 minutes of mediocrity if we're lucky.

Men:

Shower. Lynx. Clothes. Leave. "

Hence why I insist on rounds if they not willing to put in the effort off going rounds for a couple off hours

I am not willing to put in the effort to get ready for a meet

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By *ulie RobertsTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Southampton


"When it comes to sex

I know countless posts say otherwise but hear me out..

While we sometimes agonise over lingerie, clothes, our hair, our make up, our shoes.

The underwear thing is a minefield, try to feel confident, so we hide bits that make us insecure, then we have to faff around deciding how it might work in certain positions, access issues, if said men will like it etc etc.

It's stressful.

While men, they just turn up clean and take their kit off!

I might go on strike

Haha sounds just like me

"

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By *loriouscurvesWoman
38 weeks ago

wild west lothian

It’s the suspenders and stockings or hold ups that cause me stress

Many a hold up failure where it turns into an ankle sock is rather embarrassing in public

I’m sure I’ve given plenty an eyeful as I’ve tried to reposition it!

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago


"Lingerie? Make-up? IDGAF

Show up in your birthday suit. Bring pizza, if you can "

PIZZA!!!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Do men not worry about how they look, whether their partner will enjoy it, whether they will perform, whether they’ve got everything they need and whatever else? Or is it just me?

Preparing for sex can be hard for anyone.

Also plenty of women turn up, take their kit off and also get down to it. Not even matching underwear! The cheek!

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

You are right. That’s a good point.

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By *atch1982Man
38 weeks ago

Abingdon

Wait, you lot are actually getting laid?!?!?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Also, obviously, men who have sex with men do even more prep than most straight guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

It’s exhausting

After all that I’m ready to go to bed. Alone.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
38 weeks ago

Glasgow / London


"Also plenty of women turn up, take their kit off and also get down to it. Not even matching underwear! The cheek! "

Wait, wait, wait. The women you meet wear underwear?

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago


"Also plenty of women turn up, take their kit off and also get down to it. Not even matching underwear! The cheek!

Wait, wait, wait. The women you meet wear underwear? "

I wish they didn’t tbh

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By *hriscooperMan
38 weeks ago

Warrington


"Oh I hate it.

Women:

Shoes. Hair. Makeup. Shave. Moisture. Hair again. Undies. Heels. Stockings. Not another pair that one has a hole in. Suspender belt. Coat to hide it all. All that work for 3 minutes of mediocrity if we're lucky.

Men:

Shower. Lynx. Clothes. Leave. "

Does lynx actually work? I stopped using it like most do at 17.

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By *viatrixWoman
38 weeks ago

Redhill


"It’s the suspenders and stockings or hold ups that cause me stress

Many a hold up failure where it turns into an ankle sock is rather embarrassing in public

I’m sure I’ve given plenty an eyeful as I’ve tried to reposition it! "

I love the idea of holdups but mine never “hold up” for more than 5 minutes.

Suspender belts? Stockings? Naaaah, too fiddly!

But I totally get the lingerie/outfit thing. I make an extra effort there in the hope it would distract from the ever expanding list of imperfections in my body.

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By *hriscooperMan
38 weeks ago

Warrington

I totally get what you kean OP..

For me personally, getting to spend time with a woman who I share a mutual attraction with is all that matters.

The best sex is always when you're both totally comfortable with everything and feel confident to do or say whatever you are feeling at that time. If certain underwear may make you overthink things or worry about certain situations, just take it out of the equation.

I know some like to really take time and make sure the makeup and underwear etc are extremely sexy, but that is because they enjoy that process as it makes THEM feel sexy. Then some just like to get naked as soon as possible as THAT'S what makes them feel sexy, but ultimately most of it is going to end up in a heap on the floor anyway.

The most important thing is to do whatever you need to do to make sure you feel comfortable and bugger everything else..

Be happy with who you are and what you have as there's not much you can do about it anyway, especially in that moment, so why worry about something you can't change?

Get skin on skin and enjoy..

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
38 weeks ago

Maidstone


"

Also plenty of women turn up, take their kit off and also get down to it. Not even matching underwear! The cheek! "

Yeah but I apologised for the holes though

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By *rRiosMan
38 weeks ago

dublin


"

Also plenty of women turn up, take their kit off and also get down to it. Not even matching underwear! The cheek!

Yeah but I apologised for the holes though

"

I’m sure the holes are just there to be filled…

sorry

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By *eyeYCouple
38 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

MsWyld, you know how we love your posts..

This time however, I (mr) respectfully disagree.

Feel that sex is easier for ladies than gentlemen in the actual act.. Guys cannot fake interest.

Although I thoroughly agree with you that I can be ready and out the door in half an hour, mainly due to the male lack of choice in outfits and personally I don't have to do makeup, coiffeur my barnet (it does what it wants generally)

Y will have, an hour or so doing her makeup and hair to the point she feels confident, then of course which underwear (3/4 sets) dress (x4) shoes (2/3 pairs), then handbag and coat..

Hence it's rare we'll make pre drinks..

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By *oiluvfunMan
38 weeks ago

Penrith


"

Feel that sex is easier for ladies than gentlemen in the actual act.. Guys cannot fake interest.

"

I absolutely agree with this point, and let’s not forget the dreaded performance anxiety; will I get hard, will I give her a good time, will I cum too soon, will she want a second meet, will she tell her friends how I performed…….

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