FabSwingers.com forum: Ever fallen in love (with someone you shouldn't've)

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Heard this song today for the first time in ages and got me thinking .... actually I haven't. I've lusted after those I shouldn't, but can't say I've ever fallen in love. Just wondering how often this happens and if it really is love or just lust?

The end

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes ...... we live and learn .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

And it is difficult

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Yes I have and now that song is playing around in my head.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Yes I have and wish I never.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes

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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago

Costa del Medway

Yes, it happens. Happened to me with a younger guy unexpectedly and painfully and I did not realise that my patience would change nothing for quite a long time.

I think you know it's love when you still feel the same for someone after a really long time. They may still be with you or they may not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

Sadly, it has made me wary of ever doing it again.

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Oh gosh yes and I have paid a substantial price

However

I am out the other side, a wiser, much happier and far savvier woman than I was....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeh my best friends sister

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I think I am a sad bugger, as I really don't think I have ever been 'in love' with

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Yes.

Sadly, it has made me wary of ever doing it again."

Same here.... which is sad because everyone deserves love....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.. Currently in love with someone I shouldn't be...

fire

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I think I am a sad bugger, as I really don't think I have ever been 'in love' with "

Ooops! With anyone!

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By *llie RoseWoman
over a year ago

By the seaside

No I haven't. Lusted after and wanted ones I shouldn't but never loved. Not sure if that makes me lucky or not though lol.

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

Been there, done that ....got a few tee shirts....

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Yes.. Currently in love with someone I shouldn't be...

fire "

Asbestos gloves required...

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Yup

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

"No I haven't. Lusted after and wanted ones I shouldn't but never loved. Not sure if that makes me lucky or not though lol. "

Whatever......happy birthday....

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By *adyH and GrissomCouple
over a year ago

Llantarnum

Married one I shouldn't of but long after we broke up, fell in love and married the one the one I should of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Heard this song today for the first time in ages and got me thinking .... actually I haven't. I've lusted after those I shouldn't, but can't say I've ever fallen in love. Just wondering how often this happens and if it really is love or just lust?

The end

S x"

I had strong feelings for my first meet. still have deep down, but waste of time I know he wont want to meet me again. He found out about them and that ended that. Id be happy with meeting for just coffee or a drink if I could see him again. They wont go away either I know that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes.

Sadly, it has made me wary of ever doing it again.

Same here.... which is sad because everyone deserves love.... "

If you could walk a mile in the past with the knowledge we have today we would all have blessed lives.

Sadly we all make decisions we regret - some with our eyes open and some blinded by love.

Don't run away from them or be scared to confront them and certainly don't let your past mistakes prevent you from finding future happiness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes.. Currently in love with someone I shouldn't be...

fire

Asbestos gloves required..."

Asbestos heart!

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Yes.. Currently in love with someone I shouldn't be...

fire

Asbestos gloves required...

Asbestos heart! "

when you figure out how to do that let me know......One coating required here

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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago

Costa del Medway

if you can't be with the one you love , love the one your are with ...........

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

"if you can't be with the one you love , love the one your are with ..........."

Do do do do do da da da.....

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Yep .. I was a bit in love with him before he met his wife.. sadly that hasnt changed .

such is my lonely life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can honestly say no, I am been with people I shouldn't have but not fallen in love with them....just more a mistake and time showed that.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Yes.

Sadly, it has made me wary of ever doing it again.

Same here.... which is sad because everyone deserves love....

If you could walk a mile in the past with the knowledge we have today we would all have blessed lives.

Sadly we all make decisions we regret - some with our eyes open and some blinded by love.

Don't run away from them or be scared to confront them and certainly don't let your past mistakes prevent you from finding future happiness."

I don't regret any of those experiences. I have made the same mistake several times but each time I get a bit better at fixing myself and refining what happens. I've learnt a lot about other people and myself through these experiences.

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

never ends well clues in the title

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"if you can't be with the one you love , love the one your are with ...........

Do do do do do da da da....."

Hey! You can't change the song half way through!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if you can't be with the one you love , love the one your are with ..........."

Done that too

Didnt work for me

Would sooner have nothing than something just for the sake of it

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"if you can't be with the one you love , love the one your are with ...........

Done that too

Didnt work for me

Would sooner have nothing than something just for the sake of it "

Awww I loves you if that helps...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if you can't be with the one you love , love the one your are with ...........

Done that too

Didnt work for me

Would sooner have nothing than something just for the sake of it "

Exactly and through age, god that sounds bad

you realise that life is too short to just be there, to just do a daily routine and it is far better to be with someone you do actually love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't but my father in law may beg to differ.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

YES I HAVE ! wot a dickhead ! wont happen again ! lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I have, took me a while to get over it too so now I stick to knowing what I want without letting feelings get in the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I have and it hurts like hell especially of they don't feel the same way , but hey Ho that's life

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

"if you can't be with the one you love , love the one your are with ...........

Do do do do do da da da.....

Hey! You can't change the song half way through!!!!

Thought that bit was in it......it's csn.....doin the harmonies..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, my ex wife, shouldnt have fallen in love with her, even her own family warned me off her and she lived up to the hype. One plus though, we are better as friends than we were ever as lovers

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive only been in love twice ones from 17-22 and now. Im certainly not one to fall in and of love at the drop of a hat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hmmmm....it would seem I am somewhat in a minority here (unless of course there are more of those that haven't can't be bothered to post!)

I'm thinking, based on many of your comments, that I am one of the lucky ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hmmmm....it would seem I am somewhat in a minority here (unless of course there are more of those that haven't can't be bothered to post!)

I'm thinking, based on many of your comments, that I am one of the lucky ones."

And me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done it more than once, love and lust I try and avoid married men but they keep seeming to find me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"hmmmm....it would seem I am somewhat in a minority here (unless of course there are more of those that haven't can't be bothered to post!)

I'm thinking, based on many of your comments, that I am one of the lucky ones.

And me lol "

either that or we're just hard-nosed bitches that don't fall for this lovey dovey stuff??!!

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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago

Costa del Medway

"Ive only been in love twice ones from 17-22 and now. Im certainly not one to fall in and of love at the drop of a hat"

naaa me neither - now boxers ..........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hmmmm....it would seem I am somewhat in a minority here (unless of course there are more of those that haven't can't be bothered to post!)

I'm thinking, based on many of your comments, that I am one of the lucky ones.

And me lol

either that or we're just hard-nosed bitches that don't fall for this lovey dovey stuff??!!

Erm, erm, I am as sweet as....hmm! Yes...just sweet as will do

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"hmmmm....it would seem I am somewhat in a minority here (unless of course there are more of those that haven't can't be bothered to post!)

I'm thinking, based on many of your comments, that I am one of the lucky ones.

And me lol

either that or we're just hard-nosed bitches that don't fall for this lovey dovey stuff??!!

That has made me wonder if people have fallen in love with you but not had it reciprocated?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And lets not forget falling for the right person at the wrong time ?

Or falling for the right person but the only people who know it are you and them ?

Sadly far too many relationships dont get off the ground because of the interferances of others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hmmmm....it would seem I am somewhat in a minority here (unless of course there are more of those that haven't can't be bothered to post!)

I'm thinking, based on many of your comments, that I am one of the lucky ones.

And me lol

either that or we're just hard-nosed bitches that don't fall for this lovey dovey stuff??!!

That has made me wonder if people have fallen in love with you but not had it reciprocated?"

I would say in my case yes and I should have got the "out" sorted, but sometimes in life things are comfortable and you just ride with it.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"hmmmm....it would seem I am somewhat in a minority here (unless of course there are more of those that haven't can't be bothered to post!)

I'm thinking, based on many of your comments, that I am one of the lucky ones.

And me lol

either that or we're just hard-nosed bitches that don't fall for this lovey dovey stuff??!!

Erm, erm, I am as sweet as....hmm! Yes...just sweet as will do

well in that case I'm joining you, because I'm definitely that sweet too!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And lets not forget falling for the right person at the wrong time ?

Or falling for the right person but the only people who know it are you and them ?

Sadly far too many relationships dont get off the ground because of the interferances of others"

Or even end because of interference from others...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hmmmm....it would seem I am somewhat in a minority here (unless of course there are more of those that haven't can't be bothered to post!)

I'm thinking, based on many of your comments, that I am one of the lucky ones.

And me lol

either that or we're just hard-nosed bitches that don't fall for this lovey dovey stuff??!!

Erm, erm, I am as sweet as....hmm! Yes...just sweet as will do

well in that case I'm joining you, because I'm definitely that sweet too!!

Sugar and spice and all things nice

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"And lets not forget falling for the right person at the wrong time ?

Or falling for the right person but the only people who know it are you and them ?

Sadly far too many relationships dont get off the ground because of the interferances of others"

So true. I have experienced all of those.

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

"Yes.. Currently in love with someone I shouldn't be...

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Ditto - and it hurts.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"hmmmm....it would seem I am somewhat in a minority here (unless of course there are more of those that haven't can't be bothered to post!)

I'm thinking, based on many of your comments, that I am one of the lucky ones.

And me lol

either that or we're just hard-nosed bitches that don't fall for this lovey dovey stuff??!!

That has made me wonder if people have fallen in love with you but not had it reciprocated?"

hmmm interesting spin....I once had a guy claim to have fallen in love with me to get out of his recent engagement..but there aren't any that I'm aware of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, wish I could just turn the feelings off,

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By *iker BullMan
over a year ago

leeds

Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have

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By *iker BullMan
over a year ago

leeds

"Yes, wish I could just turn the feelings off,"
yes me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have"

I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes was in love with my mates girlfriend but nothing ever came of it.

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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago

Costa del Medway

"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have

I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?

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can be quite painful if it is unrequieted. However, with some self control and positive thinking it is not so hard to remember just the good bits and wish well to that person rather than mooch around feeling sorry for yourself.

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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago

Costa del Medway

You can never turn the feelings off, you have to channel them. I believe there is more than one person for us in this world, our genes know it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes.

Sadly, it has made me wary of ever doing it again.

Same here.... which is sad because everyone deserves love....

If you could walk a mile in the past with the knowledge we have today we would all have blessed lives.

Sadly we all make decisions we regret - some with our eyes open and some blinded by love.

Don't run away from them or be scared to confront them and certainly don't let your past mistakes prevent you from finding future happiness."

V wise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes been in love when shouldn't, had amazing double life experience for 2 years. Then had to make a wrong decision and have regretted it ever since. Met the love of my life, still think of her every day morning nd night but had to walk away. Still this lady soooo much It's a killer. But I'd add amazing experience when you suddenly get that knocked off your feet first look and you both are in oar of each other ! Just take care can wreck your life xxxx the sex is incredible when you really really love em xxxxx night all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have

I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?

can be quite painful if it is unrequieted. However, with some self control and positive thinking it is not so hard to remember just the good bits and wish well to that person rather than mooch around feeling sorry for yourself."

I kind of mean, how do you fall in love with basically then a regret or unfortunate after taste as to me it must have been clear from the outset that things were not a two way street?

Is it falling in love? Or just lust?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have

I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?

from my pov, simply the pain. The absolute heart ripped out, whole world stops spinning pain.

you can't get away from it, can't switch it off & i don't wish it on anyone, ever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have

I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?

from my pov, simply the pain. The absolute heart ripped out, whole world stops spinning pain.

you can't get away from it, can't switch it off & i don't wish it on anyone, ever

Well I would say, relish the good times you remember and also although extremely hard to do or think remember life goes on and what is meant to be will be.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have

I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?

I kind of mean, how do you fall in love with basically then a regret or unfortunate after taste as to me it must have been clear from the outset that things were not a two way street?

Is it falling in love? Or just lust? "

Love and lust/crushes are very similar. The difference is the depth of feeling and its longevity. Both create a feeling akin to madness and anxiety. With reciprocated and deep love you lose the anxiety.

I wish everyone I have ever loved well, even those that have really hurt me. I love them still but that doesn't mean I want to be with them now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it's right you will you know. It's just amazing a whirlwind that runs out of control. Real love is like loosing yourself when in that persons company, you can feel their alive with every breath. Then suddenly it hits hard and rips your heart nd guts out

but that's human. So take care, if you have room for live great if not walk on

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

well that is human nature and maybe it is better to have loved and lost than not at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have

I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?

I kind of mean, how do you fall in love with basically then a regret or unfortunate after taste as to me it must have been clear from the outset that things were not a two way street?

Is it falling in love? Or just lust? "

Because some times you are so blinded that you fail to see all the traffic is going the same way

And also some people (and i include both men and women in this) are very clever at making you believe one thing to their own ends

Sadly there are some selfish people out there who will stoop lower than a worms tit to get their own way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have

I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?

I kind of mean, how do you fall in love with basically then a regret or unfortunate after taste as to me it must have been clear from the outset that things were not a two way street?

Is it falling in love? Or just lust?

I wish everyone I have ever loved well, even those that have really hurt me. I love them still but that doesn't mean I want to be with them now."

Yes I see that, imo I have truly only loved one man and that in turn is deep and "real", that is rip your heart out time, but I believe and always will do falling in "lust" and actually loving someone are truly two different things.

What keeps a relationship working is not a notion, but you actually truly love them and are madly and deeply in love with them, which in my opinion nothing and no one could tear apart or break.

If it is broken, you didn't really have either to start with and also I am great believer in never regret anything, the past should stay where it belongs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have

I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?

I kind of mean, how do you fall in love with basically then a regret or unfortunate after taste as to me it must have been clear from the outset that things were not a two way street?

Is it falling in love? Or just lust?

Because some times you are so blinded that you fail to see all the traffic is going the same way

And also some people (and i include both men and women in this) are very clever at making you believe one thing to their own ends

Sadly there are some selfish people out there who will stoop lower than a worms tit to get their own way."

Yes hence I believe it is lust not love, maybe love on your part but not theirs and yes people are easily swayed and impressed emotionally by people who will say what they want for a specific period when really they mean the opposite.

What I am saying is I am not sure how, although they say love is blind, people do not know when really it is false, for either one or both parties....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, but we cant always have what we want !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have

I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?

I kind of mean, how do you fall in love with basically then a regret or unfortunate after taste as to me it must have been clear from the outset that things were not a two way street?

Is it falling in love? Or just lust?

Because some times you are so blinded that you fail to see all the traffic is going the same way

And also some people (and i include both men and women in this) are very clever at making you believe one thing to their own ends

Sadly there are some selfish people out there who will stoop lower than a worms tit to get their own way.

What I am saying is I am not sure how, although they say love is blind, people do not know when really it is false, for either one or both parties...."

Some peopld just don't see it

Thankfully this hasn't happened to me yet and any1 love i have found has always been reciprocated

But having that love reciprocated doesnt always mean that they are 'the one'

When you do find that person you will question everything that has gone before.

Getting back to what you say tho some people do fall too easily or are so desperate for love they will grasp anything that vaguely resembles it.

Finding out that it isnt it can be very painful irrespective of the circumstances

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

And also some people (and i include both men and women in this) are very clever at making you believe one thing to their own ends

Sadly there are some selfish people out there who will stoop lower than a worms tit to get their own way.

What I am saying is I am not sure how, although they say love is blind, people do not know when really it is false, for either one or both parties...."

There a few feelings worse than believing you have a reciprocated love, it might indeed be long term, but then discover only you felt the love and the other felt no more than a duty to remain.

You recover from lost lust than lost love. It's the only real, tangible difference that I have felt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have

I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?

I kind of mean, how do you fall in love with basically then a regret or unfortunate after taste as to me it must have been clear from the outset that things were not a two way street?

Is it falling in love? Or just lust?

Because some times you are so blinded that you fail to see all the traffic is going the same way

And also some people (and i include both men and women in this) are very clever at making you believe one thing to their own ends

Sadly there are some selfish people out there who will stoop lower than a worms tit to get their own way.

What I am saying is I am not sure how, although they say love is blind, people do not know when really it is false, for either one or both parties....

Some peopld just don't see it

Thankfully this hasn't happened to me yet and any1 love i have found has always been reciprocated

But having that love reciprocated doesnt always mean that they are 'the one'

When you do find that person you will question everything that has gone before.

Getting back to what you say tho some people do fall too easily or are so desperate for love they will grasp anything that vaguely resembles it.

Finding out that it isnt it can be very painful irrespective of the circumstances"

Yes completely agree, I am not actually a tough "bitch" lol just wonder often and I know the honeymoon period of a relationship can be very misleading.....

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over a year ago

And also some people (and i include both men and women in this) are very clever at making you believe one thing to their own ends

Sadly there are some selfish people out there who will stoop lower than a worms tit to get their own way.

What I am saying is I am not sure how, although they say love is blind, people do not know when really it is false, for either one or both parties....

There a few feelings worse than believing you have a reciprocated love, it might indeed be long term, but then discover only you felt the love and the other felt no more than a duty to remain.

You recover from lost lust than lost love. It's the only real, tangible difference that I have felt."

Fair enough and my first husband, well the fact that the divorce lasted 6 years proves this, I had a duty to remain but never loved....so hence I am not sure I entirely understand why people get to the stage of being heartbroken and holding on to at any cost something they must realise isn't there?

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over a year ago

And also some people (and i include both men and women in this) are very clever at making you believe one thing to their own ends

Sadly there are some selfish people out there who will stoop lower than a worms tit to get their own way.

What I am saying is I am not sure how, although they say love is blind, people do not know when really it is false, for either one or both parties....

There a few feelings worse than believing you have a reciprocated love, it might indeed be long term, but then discover only you felt the love and the other felt no more than a duty to remain.

You recover from lost lust than lost love. It's the only real, tangible difference that I have felt.

I must add 3 of those not being together lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I fell in Love with someone I shouldn't have...

And I've also walked away from someone I didn't love...

I would sooner be single and alone than be with someone and be lonley xx

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over a year ago

Yep, sometimes it just hits you when you least expect it, was never planned, it just happens. Hurts like hell when it doesn't work out but I still believe in better to have loved and lost. Having had my heart broken more than once now I know I can survive and will come out the other side eventually. Life's for living and I'd rather ride the rollercoaster than stand on the side and watch...

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By *azzaahhWoman
over a year ago

north wales / chester

Yep xx but had real special times x

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yea my best mates wife weve bin meeting up for years x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, but you learn to live with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmm, yes and no.

I fell for someone I met on here but unfortunately it couldn't last. I have two exs who cheated on me and hurt me.

Some people would say these were people I shouldn't have fallen in love with, but the experiences made me who I am today so actually, I SHOULD'VE fallen in love with them.

I currently have a friendship with someone who loves me/is in love with me, but I don't feel as strongly about him. He thinks we should be together anyway because he'll give me what I want but as previous posters have said, it's better to have nothing than to settle for someone not quite right

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over a year ago

"Hmmm, yes and no.

I fell for someone I met on here but unfortunately it couldn't last. I have two exs who cheated on me and hurt me.

Some people would say these were people I shouldn't have fallen in love with, but the experiences made me who I am today so actually, I SHOULD'VE fallen in love with them.

quite right x

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I wish sometimes I had men falling at my feet...I used to chase but have stopped myself from doing that..l

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over a year ago

"I wish sometimes I had men falling at my feet...I used to chase but have stopped myself from doing that..l"
id fall between ur legs x

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I wish sometimes I had men falling at my feet...I used to chase but have stopped myself from doing that..l"
Then you would be tripping over.

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over a year ago

"I wish sometimes I had men falling at my feet...I used to chase but have stopped myself from doing that..lThen you would be tripping over.

And potentially hurt yourself... Sprained ankles broken bones ect

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"I wish sometimes I had men falling at my feet...I used to chase but have stopped myself from doing that..lThen you would be tripping over.

And potentially hurt yourself... Sprained ankles broken bones ect

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Exactly! Really not worth it.

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By *ussypussWoman
over a year ago

South Birmingham waiting for the bf to come back after crimbo

Totally agree, fell for a guy who's wife had left him 8 months previously, although he openly told me that he still loved her. Our feelings for each other developed and he said that he wasn't feeling quite the same about her as he used to ... until she suddenly came back home. I don't want to be part of that type of relationship but do still have feelings for him, it hurts but I know that I'll get over him eventually, just got to get out there and look for one where there isn't a wife to come back home and is perfectly free to develop feelings for me in the same way as I can for him. Who knows, he may be closer than I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most of us have loved someone we shouldn't have at one point or another. It's just a learning curve til you meet the one your supposed to love.

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over a year ago

And also some people (and i include both men and women in this) are very clever at making you believe one thing to their own ends

Sadly there are some selfish people out there who will stoop lower than a worms tit to get their own way.

What I am saying is I am not sure how, although they say love is blind, people do not know when really it is false, for either one or both parties....

There a few feelings worse than believing you have a reciprocated love, it might indeed be long term, but then discover only you felt the love and the other felt no more than a duty to remain.

You recover from lost lust than lost love. It's the only real, tangible difference that I have felt.

I guess its the money and kids that make people hold onto a relationship that is nothing more than perhaps brother and sister, being lonely, fear of going it alone, the admission that they have failed (a reason my mother didn't leave my step dad)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I have had the misfortune to have fallen in love with someone I should'nt have

I have to question why though? Why regret falling in love? Why was it a misfortune?

Because its painful to love someone that doesn't feel the same about you maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This song my dad would sing Johnny Cash and Thing Called LOVE . Shows no matter your size love can still get to you , lol.

Six foot six he stood on the ground

He weighed two hundred and thirty-five pounds

But I saw that giant of a man brought down

To his knees by love

He was the kind of man that would gamble on luck

Look you in the eye and never back up

But I saw him crying like a little whipped pup

Because of love

You can't see it with your eyes, hold it in your hands

But like the wind it covers our land

Strong enough to rule the heart of any man

This thing called love

It can lift you up never let you down

Take your world and turn it around

Ever since time nothing's ever been found

That's stronger than love .

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

Yes, but I am more than twice her age so no chance of it going further!

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By *hooter McGavinMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Yes I'm in that situation right now and she could not care less

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, but I am more than twice her age so no chance of it going further!

Why ?

cos she doesn't want it, or cos u think it isn't feasible or just because other people don't like the idea of it ?

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By *icky55Man
over a year ago

Warm an cosy cave. Brist

Love no never, learnt the difference between lust and a crush long ago.

Love is unconditional if you expect any thing from it you will never find it. It just happens when it does time seems to stop It just feels right, and nothing matters but that moment. You can't make it happen or predict it, you can't buy it or share it or demand it. with sex you can.

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

"Yes, but I am more than twice her age so no chance of it going further!

Why ?

cos she doesn't want it, or cos u think it isn't feasible or just because other people don't like the idea of it ?"

All of those, plus my wife wouldn't let me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I never have.

The song is by the Buzzcocks though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes, but I am more than twice her age so no chance of it going further!

Why ?

cos she doesn't want it, or cos u think it isn't feasible or just because other people don't like the idea of it ?

All of those, plus my wife wouldn't let me!

ah !

well yeah that could be a major sticking point

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over a year ago

"Yep I have and it hurts like hell especially of they don't feel the same way , but hey Ho that's life "

yes..and its the saddest loneliest place to be...but you can't help who you fall in love with....it just happens

away for a good cry now!!!!!

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over a year ago

"Yep I have and it hurts like hell especially of they don't feel the same way , but hey Ho that's life

yes..and its the saddest loneliest place to be...but you can't help who you fall in love with....it just happens

away for a good cry now!!!!!

Yes and not a healthy place to be. I was with my ex for 6 years and boom I had to tell her that my parents were setting me up abroad. At the time I was young naive I didn't fight for her, she was devastated so was I. I didn't know weather to follow my heart or head. I was so confused i didnt know what to do of who to speak to. i was scared of embarrassing my fam. In the end I went with it thinking my parents new what was best for me. The person I was set up with I had a baby to, we parted as I told her about my ex, still think about my ex every day. The song adell came out with sliced my heart but this is now a semi distance memory as my child is my everything. I would never stand in the way of my child if she said she found love. But I'm not the 23 year old religious person I was. With the help of a few friends and some fam I pulled through, yet to bump into my ex. It's a sad place to be in when you are thinking about that special 1. Wish I could tell her my side of the story till this day I haven't met any1 who was loving and caring as my ex was!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when i was 17 i fell in love with a criminal then a married man but i didnt know he was married at first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep - a heavy weight on the heart will always be felt - but we learn from our mistakes.

At least I hope I do

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By *rivingforceMan
over a year ago

yorkshire

well as google says It's amazing how someone can break your heart, but you still love them with all the little pieces

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