FabSwingers.com forum: Who is Fab more difficult for, men, women or couples?

By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

I’ve had a few couples tell me in detail about how hard it is for them to meet people. They seem to assume that it’s a lot easier for single women as we have the whole site to choose from. And then there’s the struggles of single men, outnumbering everyone else, trying to stand out. I think for different reasons it can be hard for everyone.

So my question is, who do you think it’s harder for on Fab, Single men, single women or couples? And why?

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By *ea wangMan
37 weeks ago

scunthorpe

Men over a certain age lol

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
37 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
37 weeks ago

Leeds

I think it's difficult for everyone to be fair, unless you don't mind who you shag, for a lot of us we need attraction and 3/4 way attraction is difficult, for men they vastly outnumber couples and women so I guess it's harder for them to be seen.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Me. It’s hard for me.

And if a woman is lucky, could be hard for her too

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By *ty31Man
37 weeks ago

NW London

Men have it the hardest in terms of getting responses due to ratios at play and the idiots sending stupid messages clogging up women and couples inboxes.

Women are in a privileged position in terms of being the most in demand group but have to put up with a large number of idiots in their inbox.

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By *risky999Man
37 weeks ago

Redditch

I think it is difficult for single men to get party invites. Do others agree?

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By *eliWoman
37 weeks ago

None of those categories.

A new one - people who moan a lot about Fab. Who don't use filters, do expect others to fall hungrily in to their laps, spend their energy comparing others' journeys whilst not nourishing their own. And those who aren't practically proactive.

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By *naswingdressWoman
37 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's difficult for everyone* in different ways. I don't think it's a competition.

* except me. My filters are set to fuck off and so I don't get unsolicited messages. My experience is delightful

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By *viatrixWoman
37 weeks ago

Redhill

I have a couple’s profile and we get so little attention that we just left it. We do so much better on our individual profiles and we go to club for moresome fun if/when we fancy it.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
37 weeks ago

North West

"Me. It’s hard for me.

And if a woman is lucky, could be hard for her too

^^^Ba-dum-tsh

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
37 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"None of those categories.

This one

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

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By *ulfilthmentMan
37 weeks ago

Just around the corner

I think it’s hard for everyone. It doesn’t matter what sex or how old you are, you need to put in a fair amount of effort into looking for the ‘right’ people.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Us Trans - we often get overlooked, as per this thread

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By *exxyyDy11Man
37 weeks ago

North West

Everyone has their own struggles. I'm a single male, so I'm just a drop in an ocean of single men. Numerical disadvantage.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

An honest answer.

It’s Swings and roundabouts.

We All have problems to overcome when here as there’s good and bad with almost everything.

I’d say most of the people on the forum, and are not desperate for sex, have a very easy ride. Am I wrong?

If you are looking for sex, and you don’t give a shit who you have sex with, it’s easy for anyone.

If you do fall in a category, where you need to fancy someone, and have some kind of a connection with who you share your body with, it’s difficult for any sex… probably harder for a single male, because like it, or not, a woman, can find sex a lot easier than a man.

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
37 weeks ago

As a couple we struggle. Aside from the odd message from single guys, or sometimes a totally mismatched couple that hasn’t read our profile, our inbox is gathering dust

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By *ex HolesMan
37 weeks ago

Up North

The cheating men apparently

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By *iscean_dreamMan
37 weeks ago

Llanelli

Definitely harder for single women, I've seen the crap they have to scroll through until they get to someone they like and then find out he's cheating or something.

On the flip guys can find it difficult to get anywhere but that's usually because they just send a dick pic and a short message if the ladies get really lucky

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By *iasubTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Ilkeston

"Us Trans - we often get overlooked, as per this thread

Agreed there

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By *iscean_dreamMan
37 weeks ago

Llanelli

"As a couple we struggle. Aside from the odd message from single guys, or sometimes a totally mismatched couple that hasn’t read our profile, our inbox is gathering dust

Fab won't even let us post from couples profile I have with fwb, not even been able to post once yet.

It's very difficult finding a couple as a couple that attraction is there for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Men 100% most difficult.

Couples and women just sit back and the messages just roll in. Then pick who to chat/meet

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
37 weeks ago

Leeds

"Men 100% most difficult.

Couples and women just sit back and the messages just roll in. Then pick who to chat/meet "

You think we get a lot of messages? Shows how little you know.

Then to add the quality of those messages "hi (insert cock)"

Mrs

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By *gent CoulsonMan
37 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I don't actually think it's that easy for anyone, with couples you have the attraction issue, both parties have to be attracted to each other.

For the single women, hundreds of messages a day.

Single guys outnumber the singe women and couples and the genuine ones get lost in the crowd

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By *uckurcumMan
37 weeks ago

Bishop Auckland

It's difficult across every demographic I think ...each one faces different challenges to get a meet ...

It's not just this site but most of them these days ... It's turned looking for meets into the equivalent of Just Eat for sex !

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By *agnar73Man
37 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Clubs have women and couples nights, so there’s your answer.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
37 weeks ago

East Sussex

In my opinion fab is the most difficult for people who have unrealistic expectations of the site.

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By *iasubTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Ilkeston

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By *viatrixWoman
37 weeks ago

Redhill

"The cheating men apparently "

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
37 weeks ago

Stockport

We met as singles on here and are now marries So we know all sides of this debate

As a single guy it was brutally tough , but I did have the kind of single guys profile that we now try to avoid

As a single lady , the world was her oyster , message wise , there was no comparison

Now as a couple , finding a girl , guy or couple isn't easy

Guys think that you owe them a favour

Single lady can come with lots of rules attached

And couples , well there's usually one or the other pulling the strings

The lady wants more , the guy has performance issues

It's a minefield out there !

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
37 weeks ago

Basingstoke

"Couples and women just sit back and the messages just roll in. Then pick who to chat/meet "

#notallcouplesandwomen

I think this is a real misnomer - some couples, and some single women will get loads of messages. Many don't!

Anyone who who is proactive (be they couples, single ladies, single men, trans people) are probably more successful when they choose to message those they want to get to know and not just shag.

I say this because generally they take much more care to craft a personalised message, and take the time to get the know the person/couple they're interested in.

Whereas many single guys (and I'm not tarring everyone with this brush) instead assume that a message gets the front door opened and the knickers round the ankles straight away. Those are the ones that will have the toughest time here!

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By *ose and her beastCouple
37 weeks ago

Watford

I think honestly its not hard per say for couples but very difficult to get 4 way attraction so hard to get what they are looking for x

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By *eyond PurityCouple
37 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

The people who think that it’s a quick pick up site and therefore don’t spend any time on their profile and pics.

Then message everyone in their area and then further afield and then come on hoping to be knee deep in messages and be faced with their messages deleted.

Imagine doing that for months on end and then blaming the site and the time wasters

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
37 weeks ago

Reading

Couples for sure as they have two people that have to feel the chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Me.

Arbitrary but there it is.

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By *hinstrapMan
37 weeks ago

Barnsley

Depends which way you look at it.

Both man a women have a battle on there hands

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By *illy IdolMan
37 weeks ago

Midlands

This place is only as hard as you make for yourself.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
37 weeks ago

Worcester

It’s probably easier for women to meet men than the other way round. If you had few requirements you could have a constant stream, no doubt.

But the constant barrage of misogyny and misogynistic abuse makes this a very tough place for women indeed. It’s certainly something I talk about with my therapist.

However, when you meet a decent person it makes it all worth it.

(But it would be nice if we could dial down the misogyny, for sure.)

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By *ruceyyMan
37 weeks ago

London

I mean it's obviously men surely.

Women and couples might not get the right messages, but they sure as shit get messages!

Trans...I have no idea actually and if they say it's hard than it's hard, but it's rarer and a fetishised thing so I would have assumed they would have got attention.

Men...unless you REALLY put the work in in some form, like your body to get the best abs or the best chat...it's dust in the wind.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"This place is only as hard as you make for yourself."

That’s wanking.

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By *ore4fundevonCouple
37 weeks ago

West Devon

We all have our struggles.

Pre Pandemic, I would have said we had it pretty easy. Never struggled when we posted a meet and had a choice of guy(s).

Since resuming last year we've really struggled. Probably had 8 or 9 opportunities which we've attempted to arrange a meet and everyone of them has been plagued by time wasters, ghosters and no shows. It's really put us off social meets or private play meets to the point we won't bother now unless we've met before. We'd rather go to a club to get our kicks now instead. Still hit or miss at times but at least there is generally someone there to talk to socially if nothing else.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

As a single man i'd say fab is difficult

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By *illy IdolMan
37 weeks ago

Midlands

"This place is only as hard as you make for yourself.

That’s wanking. "

2nd of March was a good day

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

More difficult for men in hetero couples because more time they’ve got to deal with nobody actually being interested in them but pretending to be.

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By *issmorganWoman
37 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I don't think it's easy for anyone,for different reasons.

Men struggle due to the numbers of other men competing for meets.

Couples struggle because getting a four way attraction is so difficult, I'm half a couple so can confirm this is true.

For single ladies, especially if they're bi they're the most in demand group. Most couples want one as a fantasy, so they can feel as if they're a play thing or just there to fulfill the couples fantasy.

Straight women who are just after a man to meet, could have a meet a day if they weren't bothered about who they meet. Sadly it can be hard to get the connection and attraction that many of us look for.

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