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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

Leeds

They've all made me a little sad this morning - to me swinging is about openness, trust and communication however following all these threads is fab more just a cheaters paradise?

I wouldn't meet man or woman cheating this is fun to us I ain't out to ruin someone's life.

Those that are cheating do you not think showing your partner the attention you give random strangers would help things??

Having been cheated on in all but one of my relationships I just find it so sad that people can so easily hurt the ones they love for a quick fuck, disregard their feelings like they don't matter for what an ego boost?

I'm no angel I've cheated once and once was enough to see the hurt it caused, I'd never do that to another person.

I've kinda lost faith in this place after all these posts, someone restore my faith in humanity.

Mrs

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
37 weeks ago

Southampton

Hugs xx

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By *heekyDemandCouple
37 weeks ago

Leicester

There will always be cheating men masquerading as single men, you could just have a couples-only rule? Won't fix the problem as a whole, but at least you know you aren't contributing to it by unknowingly inviting a married single to join.

Personally, we have no issues as it's not on us if someone is cheating and if it wasn't us, they would still go somewhere else.

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Stay strong guys, you are gorgeous and sexy and this place wouldn't be the same without you x

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Hi OP, from my experience here on fab from chatting....there seems to be a vast amount of cheating married men here unfortunately....& I think you're right in calling it "a cheaters paradise"....

Because of the vast amount of cheaters here who contact me ....my profile is hidden alot cos some of them have great difficulty in accepting a NO.

For me Married, Cheating & Deceitful people are a major turn off for many many reasons....I just could never ever be attracted to such either.

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By *929Man
37 weeks ago

newcastle

Good post I fully agree

Cheating literally ruins lives like you say, I was cheated on then left for someone else before she realised it was a mistake and asked me to come back in 2014, our kids were 4 and 6 at the time and have never been truly happy since even though we got back together till 2021, starting to think the only way to ever actually be happy again is to invent a Time Machine and live in the time prior to that event forever

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Hugs I know the feeling not liked it myself to be honest

Have been cheated on in the past amongst other things I know how painful it was

And wouldn’t want to help inflict that pain on someone else by helping them cheat

Both the cheater and the partisan are to blame not just one

The cheating partner should have just left

And the partisan should have sed no

There no excuse for it

Ither be open and honest or don’t be here

How can I trust someone in the sack and all that

If they all ready showin to be brake someone’s trust all ready

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By *sWyldWoman
37 weeks ago

Edinburgh

There's always two sometimes three sides to every story.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

The other issue with all the cheater bashing is that it just pushes people to lie & pretend they are single.

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By *d4fun73Man
37 weeks ago

Shipley


"There will always be cheating men masquerading as single men, you could just have a couples-only rule? Won't fix the problem as a whole, but at least you know you aren't contributing to it by unknowingly inviting a married single to join.

Personally, we have no issues as it's not on us if someone is cheating and if it wasn't us, they would still go somewhere else.

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Stay strong guys, you are gorgeous and sexy and this place wouldn't be the same without you x"

Not just men that cheat you know! Plenty of cheating women on here

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By *ora the explorerWoman
37 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I agree to a certain extent if you’re referring to the ones who pretend they’re single. If they’re upfront about it I don’t see what business it is of anyone else’s. People can then make an informed choice as to whether to go ahead. If it’s not for you then just avoid them. Pretty simple really. But yeah the ones who lie about it, I agree.

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By *ornucopiaMan
37 weeks ago

Bexley


"The other issue with all the cheater bashing is that it just pushes people to lie & pretend they are single. "

Very true!

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
37 weeks ago

Gloucester

It’s why we are reluctant to meet singles (men and women as both are capable of cheating) and focus mainly on couples who are married.

I’ve been cheated on before and it really hurts, more so when my ex actually cheated with the female partner of a couple we had previously had fun with.

Sending hugs.

Kink (Mrs)

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By *arminsideMan
37 weeks ago

Barnsley

I'm confused.So your current partner hubby has cheated on you?,or just cheating in general?. X

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By *gent CoulsonMan
37 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

My last partner cheated on me we had been together 5 years and it nearly killed me.

It was the last straw that lead to my breakdown and took me months to recover

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"There's always two sometimes three sides to every story. "

There is but nothing excuses it to be honest, you can't communicate and find a solution then leave, surely that's the decent thing to do rather than hurt and lie.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"There will always be cheating men masquerading as single men, you could just have a couples-only rule? Won't fix the problem as a whole, but at least you know you aren't contributing to it by unknowingly inviting a married single to join.

Personally, we have no issues as it's not on us if someone is cheating and if it wasn't us, they would still go somewhere else.

.

Stay strong guys, you are gorgeous and sexy and this place wouldn't be the same without you x

Not just men that cheat you know! Plenty of cheating women on here "

This is also very true.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Every week it won’t change.

But people are free to post about whatever they want to.

So just like life, there will be things I need to try and ignore.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
37 weeks ago

Stratford

It’s interesting though isn’t it because WE chose to refer to solo profiles as ‘single’ profiles and assume a certain amount of pre conceived notions and judgements with that judgement.

Just because someone has a solo profile doesn’t mean that are masquerading as a single individual imo. And through communication and engagement at that point someone may or may not to express their status and situation.

How people chose to use this site is solely up to them. If people lead you on or lie or aren’t honest when asked then that’s not cool and on them but let’s get off our high horses for a second

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Hang on! Women cheat too ya know!

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By *ruceyyMan
37 weeks ago

London

It's happened ever since the dawn of man and is just something you have to accept happens. Like fleas on cute animals. There's always a shitter to good things xox

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"Every week it won’t change.

But people are free to post about whatever they want to.

So just like life, there will be things I need to try and ignore.

"

I'm not saying people can't post about it, I just don't understand it especially in this community.

I should take a leaf out of your book and try to ignore.

Mrs

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By *owthen99Man
37 weeks ago

Attenborough


"The other issue with all the cheater bashing is that it just pushes people to lie & pretend they are single. "

Exactly everyone wants honesty well I'm quite honest and open about my status!

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
37 weeks ago

Manchester-ish


"Hang on! Women cheat too ya know!"

The OP didn't specify men or women.

J

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By *TK421-Man
37 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Lots of rejection for my profile because I link my partners one in it. I'm not single and never would claim to be.

You can see the desperation of some people to meet in any way they can.

Our lifestyle is built on trust and understanding. Without it we are just seedy cheaters.

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By *elshcouple18Couple
37 weeks ago

Cardiff


"There will always be cheating men masquerading as single men, you could just have a couples-only rule? Won't fix the problem as a whole, but at least you know you aren't contributing to it by unknowingly inviting a married single to join.

Personally, we have no issues as it's not on us if someone is cheating and if it wasn't us, they would still go somewhere else.

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Stay strong guys, you are gorgeous and sexy and this place wouldn't be the same without you x

Not just men that cheat you know! Plenty of cheating women on here "
well said before it turns into a man bashing thread.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"I'm confused.So your current partner hubby has cheated on you?,or just cheating in general?. X"

In general.

Mrs

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By *oxy jWoman
37 weeks ago

somerset

the problem is you just dont know whos married or not some are very very good at telling lies so like it of not if your a swinger then the chances are very high that youve been with married without even knowing...

its something that just cant be controlled people lie people cheat

i blocked couples on this site for one main reason and that was male halfs wanting to meet without the wife knowing real swinger not fake ive seen these couples at clubs so when you get a active swinging couple and one wants to cheat to me thats really taking the piss alot of men would give their right arm to be in a swinging relationship

its the same with those who say no bi erm sorry but 100% you've been with bi

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"Hang on! Women cheat too ya know!"

Where did I say men?

Mrs

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By *onnie 90Woman
37 weeks ago

Leeds

I agree. The number of "single" cheating males is beyond belief. Easy to spot now with experience of swinging and been on FAB for approaching 7 years.

I don't think they know what shame and respect are.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"Lots of rejection for my profile because I link my partners one in it. I'm not single and never would claim to be.

You can see the desperation of some people to meet in any way they can.

Our lifestyle is built on trust and understanding. Without it we are just seedy cheaters. "

I love this.

Mrs

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
37 weeks ago

Reading

I am not sure i have faith in monogamy any more. I dont think that it's the way forward. Ethical non monogamy will be good for society IMHO.

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By *oxy jWoman
37 weeks ago

somerset

oh and lets be very clear its not men only

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"I am not sure i have faith in monogamy any more. I dont think that it's the way forward. Ethical non monogamy will be good for society IMHO."

I totally agree with th ethical part.

Cheating however isn't ethical none monogamy, maybe I expected too much on the ethics front here.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"oh and lets be very clear its not men only "

No where did I state men.

We've had plenty of women trying to meet us too cheating it's always a no.

Mrs

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By *lik and PaulCouple
37 weeks ago

Flagrante


"They've all made me a little sad this morning - to me swinging is about openness, trust and communication however following all these threads is fab more just a cheaters paradise?

I wouldn't meet man or woman cheating this is fun to us I ain't out to ruin someone's life.

Those that are cheating do you not think showing your partner the attention you give random strangers would help things??

Having been cheated on in all but one of my relationships I just find it so sad that people can so easily hurt the ones they love for a quick fuck, disregard their feelings like they don't matter for what an ego boost?

I'm no angel I've cheated once and once was enough to see the hurt it caused, I'd never do that to another person.

I've kinda lost faith in this place after all these posts, someone restore my faith in humanity.

Mrs "

With you here OP although when you consider how many people are on the site, the number of people on the forums who say they would meet a cheater is relatively small although it is somewhat depressing as it goes against everything that swinging is.

The more time goes on the less that Fab appears to be a swingers site and I wonder if we are becoming a minority on here.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"They've all made me a little sad this morning - to me swinging is about openness, trust and communication however following all these threads is fab more just a cheaters paradise?

I wouldn't meet man or woman cheating this is fun to us I ain't out to ruin someone's life.

Those that are cheating do you not think showing your partner the attention you give random strangers would help things??

Having been cheated on in all but one of my relationships I just find it so sad that people can so easily hurt the ones they love for a quick fuck, disregard their feelings like they don't matter for what an ego boost?

I'm no angel I've cheated once and once was enough to see the hurt it caused, I'd never do that to another person.

I've kinda lost faith in this place after all these posts, someone restore my faith in humanity.

Mrs

With you here OP although when you consider how many people are on the site, the number of people on the forums who say they would meet a cheater is relatively small although it is somewhat depressing as it goes against everything that swinging is.

The more time goes on the less that Fab appears to be a swingers site and I wonder if we are becoming a minority on here."

You get me!! It does go against everything swinging is, you've worded it much better than me.

Mrs

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By *endalshaggersCouple
37 weeks ago

Kendal

Our prospective is - we won't meet cheats, however if they are cheating then then that's a them problem and really none of our business. If they wish to do that then it's on them. Say no, move along.

Also, on here we've experienced both sexes are as bad as each other for cheating. Women seem to get less of a rap than men however. A cheater is cheater, simple.

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By *d4fun73Man
37 weeks ago

Shipley


"I agree. The number of "single" cheating males is beyond belief. Easy to spot now with experience of swinging and been on FAB for approaching 7 years.

I don't think they know what shame and respect are."

Ah yes the usual holier than though blaming men as usual!

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By *issmorganWoman
37 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

To complicate it even more, some couples are cheats too, married to other peoeple who don't know about fab.

I can work many out, but some are v sneaky and don't state they're married or admit it when asked.

At least those who are honest are giving people the choice to meet or avoid them though and some do get abuse for it sadly.

There are loads of married people who come out in threads and don't have anything about it in their profiles, I always put a private note on those accounts, in case they ever contact me.

If I'm ever in any doubt someone's single, I just wouldn't ever meet that person.

There are still lots of actual single people on here though but I do understand what you mean.It makes me sad when I see people bashing their partners or being gleeful about cheating.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
37 weeks ago

Leicester


"

Not just men that cheat you know! Plenty of cheating women on here

This is also very true.

Mrs "

Almost the second we posted, noted that, but again it's not on you. Don't feel bad.

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By *onnie 90Woman
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"oh and lets be very clear its not men only "

Just the vast majority.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
37 weeks ago

Stratford


"To complicate it even more, some couples are cheats too, married to other peoeple who don't know about fab.

I can work many out, but some are v sneaky and don't state they're married or admit it when asked.

"

This is also VERY true

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By *heekyDemandCouple
37 weeks ago

Leicester


"oh and lets be very clear its not men only

Just the vast majority. "

Oddly enough, some hotwife scenarios the hubby is fully aware and consenting, but Wifey says she is cheating as part of the kink. Go figure.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
37 weeks ago

East Sussex

It's life innit.

People cheat.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"

Not just men that cheat you know! Plenty of cheating women on here

This is also very true.

Mrs

Almost the second we posted, noted that, but again it's not on you. Don't feel bad."

I stated both men and women in my post just no one read it.

Mrs

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By *dswingersCouple
37 weeks ago

chelmsford

we have blocked 4 so far today they was open about it after being asked but we won’t go there

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
37 weeks ago

East Sussex


"

Not just men that cheat you know! Plenty of cheating women on here

This is also very true.

Mrs

Almost the second we posted, noted that, but again it's not on you. Don't feel bad.

I stated both men and women in my post just no one read it.

Mrs "

You did.

I think men get blamed more because they tend to talk about it more

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"Every week it won’t change.

But people are free to post about whatever they want to.

So just like life, there will be things I need to try and ignore.

I'm not saying people can't post about it, I just don't understand it especially in this community.

I should take a leaf out of your book and try to ignore.

Mrs "

I do try to ignore. The ones that wi d me up the most (and you are right, t should have no place in swinging where openess and honesty is the foundation of any relationship more so when swinging has been introduced to you both) is when the thread sound like it’s a meet request for anyone who thinks this is a thrill to cheat behind someone’s back. Seeing if they can find others who think it’s exciting.

I wish they’d just keep it quiet, and to themselves. I’m not here to judge, but I will if it’s in my face.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I agree. It's so sad.

I will never understand how people can do it. It's always some bullshit excuse that they come up with to try and justify their shitty behaviour.

It's one of the only reasons why I can stand religions, they actually have punishments for people that harm other people.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
37 weeks ago

kent

Women are just as likely to cheat as men, and infidelity rarely happens in a vacuum. It’s rarely black and white, almost always shades of grey. People are free to make up their own minds in their own way, but a reductionist conversation that reduces something very complex to merely: cheaters = shit men, does nobody any favours Xx

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By *andynecklaceWoman
37 weeks ago

West Brom

It's just proper scumbag behaviour

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By *tlanshiaWoman
37 weeks ago

Chatham

I'm the same, It particularly, makes me laugh when in one paragraph they say they're here without they're partners consent, but then describe themselves as honest and trustworthy.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"Women are just as likely to cheat as men, and infidelity rarely happens in a vacuum. It’s rarely black and white, almost always shades of grey. People are free to make up their own minds in their own way, but a reductionist conversation that reduces something very complex to merely: cheaters = shit men, does nobody any favours Xx"

Where did I say it was exclusive to men? I said men & women.

Mrs.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Completely agree with everything you've said. If you're not happy, leave. Cheaters will use the excuse "It's not that easy" and I often think that's just trying to justify their behaviour.

If a relationship is dead in the water, to the point where you're cheating, then leave. It really is that easy.

I understand that people get scared and look for ways out, but cheating is the worst way due to what it can ruin. Not just those involved, but those around you as well. It has so much destructive potential and the fallout can be horrific.

I've made a point to say "no cheaters" in my profile. I've never cheated and would never even consider the prospect of doing so. Absolutely against it and everything it represents.

I'll admit, I very nearly entertained the idea of meeting someone wanting a bit on the side. But it made me question how desperate I was to meet up here. And it turns out, not THAT desperate at all. I'd rather wait longer, than deal with that sort of shit.

I want nothing to do with it and especially don't want to end up being the target of aggression if and when their other half finds out, then decides to come and try to fuck up my life as well.

It's not worth it.

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
37 weeks ago

kent


"Women are just as likely to cheat as men, and infidelity rarely happens in a vacuum. It’s rarely black and white, almost always shades of grey. People are free to make up their own minds in their own way, but a reductionist conversation that reduces something very complex to merely: cheaters = shit men, does nobody any favours Xx

Where did I say it was exclusive to men? I said men & women.

Mrs."

You didn’t say it was exclusive to men. I was suggesting that from my sporadic nosey across the threads today, the general thrust of the conversation has been a reductionist one, heading in only one direction Xx

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"Women are just as likely to cheat as men, and infidelity rarely happens in a vacuum. It’s rarely black and white, almost always shades of grey. People are free to make up their own minds in their own way, but a reductionist conversation that reduces something very complex to merely: cheaters = shit men, does nobody any favours Xx

Where did I say it was exclusive to men? I said men & women.

Mrs.

You didn’t say it was exclusive to men. I was suggesting that from my sporadic nosey across the threads today, the general thrust of the conversation has been a reductionist one, heading in only one direction Xx"

You missed the cheating wife's post then.

Mrs

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By *parkle1974Woman
37 weeks ago

Leeds

Oh don't you know its ok as long as they are "being honest" with those willing to fuck them. Often makes me laugh when people say that because if they can't be honest with someone they profess to care about, they sure as hell aren't going to be honest with anyone else.

A lot more men seem to get off on the whole "cheating wife/gf than women do for "cheating husbands/bf..

Cheaters, whatever sex they may be are the lowest of the low.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"Oh don't you know its ok as long as they are "being honest" with those willing to fuck them. Often makes me laugh when people say that because if they can't be honest with someone they profess to care about, they sure as hell aren't going to be honest with anyone else.

A lot more men seem to get off on the whole "cheating wife/gf than women do for "cheating husbands/bf..

Cheaters, whatever sex they may be are the lowest of the low."

Absolutely being honest makes it perfectly ok to lie and deceive.

I must admit I think I thought the swingers community was much more honest and open which drew me to it in the first place, seems my thoughts were incorrect, I'm quite saddened.

Mrs

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By *adyBugsWoman
37 weeks ago

cognito

I’m sorry it made you feel sad

I see it this way, every choice I make involves putting my personal safety first. If someone lies and cheats, that means that can’t communicate clearly and effectively with others. I can’t guarantee that they’ll have my safety in mind or be able to understand my safety is at risk in certain situations if they can’t communicate clearly and effectively with me. Therefore I am not interested in people who cheat.

Secondly, I want to be able to meet someone when I want to in line with my schedule, not just when their partner is out/away etc. If you aren’t openly available, I’m not going to be interested in having my time wasted waiting around for when you are free.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
37 weeks ago

Worcester

I think it’s a huge problem.

I require anyone I get naked with to respect me. It’s non-negotiable.

These cheats who write on their profile that they’re “respectful” make me laugh. If you can’t even respect the one person you promised to devote your life to, why would you respect anyone else? Are you going to give more respect to a random shag than your life partner?

I’ve said it before and it got me messages of hate but I’ll say it again - cheats aren’t swinging. Swinging requires mutual trust and respect. Cheats can’t be trusted and don’t respect people.

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By *ose and her beastCouple
37 weeks ago

Watford

People just don't understand what swinging is and perceive the site as a hook up site

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
37 weeks ago

London or Bedford

Wow

Theirs alotta judgemental people in this thread, whom I’ve sure have not lived a completely saintly existence

All of you are or have been the villain in someone else’s story.

All of you have left tears in your wake at some point.

And all of you have betrayed someone else’s trust.

“Judge not, lest ye be judged”

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By *ellinever70Woman
37 weeks ago

Ayrshire


"I am not sure i have faith in monogamy any more. I dont think that it's the way forward. Ethical non monogamy will be good for society IMHO."

I don't think it would be a cure for cheating

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By *lik and PaulCouple
37 weeks ago

Flagrante


"Oh don't you know its ok as long as they are "being honest" with those willing to fuck them. Often makes me laugh when people say that because if they can't be honest with someone they profess to care about, they sure as hell aren't going to be honest with anyone else.

A lot more men seem to get off on the whole "cheating wife/gf than women do for "cheating husbands/bf..

Cheaters, whatever sex they may be are the lowest of the low.

Absolutely being honest makes it perfectly ok to lie and deceive.

I must admit I think I thought the swingers community was much more honest and open which drew me to it in the first place, seems my thoughts were incorrect, I'm quite saddened.

Mrs "

I think it's possibly a Fab issue as true swingers are open and honest. Something just popped into my head which I can't justify at all but there have been many threads about the large influx of single guys and I wonder if that coincided with the Ashley Madison issue??

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"Wow

Theirs alotta judgemental people in this thread, whom I’ve sure have not lived a completely saintly existence

All of you are or have been the villain in someone else’s story.

All of you have left tears in your wake at some point.

And all of you have betrayed someone else’s trust.

“Judge not, lest ye be judged”"

I’m not 100% sure you’re correct here about people being really judgemental… the whole point of being a swinger is that you are open about your sexuality with your partners - the concept of swinging is about mutual fun and consent and not choosing to live a monogamous life when you know that you were not designed for it.

A swinging website - therefore - is not the natural place really for cheating to occur. I doubt people here are as judgemental as the general none swinging population - since swingers tend to be judged harshly themselves for their own unorthodox lifestyle as it is

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
37 weeks ago

Worcester


"Wow

Theirs alotta judgemental people in this thread, whom I’ve sure have not lived a completely saintly existence

All of you are or have been the villain in someone else’s story.

All of you have left tears in your wake at some point.

And all of you have betrayed someone else’s trust.

“Judge not, lest ye be judged”"

Yeah, many of us have done that. And we realized we were absolute cunts and needed to be and do better.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
37 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

If they put it on their profile then it gives people an opportunity to walk on by if they aren’t interested.

The profiles that state they are single but then tell you they are married after chatting for a while are, for me, the worst type of people.

They know they won’t get as many interactions if they put it on their profile.

This lifestyle is about being able to be honest - so I do not like people who lie to get something.

Some walk amongst us.

K

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By *andT2023Couple
37 weeks ago

in the middle

My hubby has his own solo profile of which i wholeheartedly approve of .. we would never do anything behind each others back . He states clearly on his profile that he is married and i know and approve ..but the venom he gets from people for this is awful.

I dont think this is cheating ..we have a very open and honest marriage . People can be very judgemental.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"My hubby has his own solo profile of which i wholeheartedly approve of .. we would never do anything behind each others back . He states clearly on his profile that he is married and i know and approve ..but the venom he gets from people for this is awful.

I dont think this is cheating ..we have a very open and honest marriage . People can be very judgemental. "

This definitely isn’t cheating… all they need to do is ask for you to verify if they’re worried… some people are just not wired right. X

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
37 weeks ago

Reading


"My hubby has his own solo profile of which i wholeheartedly approve of .. we would never do anything behind each others back . He states clearly on his profile that he is married and i know and approve ..but the venom he gets from people for this is awful.

I dont think this is cheating ..we have a very open and honest marriage . People can be very judgemental. "

Its absolutely not cheating. People are ignorant.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"Wow

Theirs alotta judgemental people in this thread, whom I’ve sure have not lived a completely saintly existence

….."

Probably not. But a lot of people don’t go around as if it’s something to be proud when as they are in the middle of cheating and betraying someone’s trust.

If someone posts a thread saying they’re cheating and trying to justify it or hook up with someone as some kind of taboo kink. It’s fair game to be judged.

Just my oppinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"My hubby has his own solo profile of which i wholeheartedly approve of .. we would never do anything behind each others back . He states clearly on his profile that he is married and i know and approve ..but the venom he gets from people for this is awful.

I dont think this is cheating ..we have a very open and honest marriage . People can be very judgemental. "

Quote - "I dont think this is cheating ..we have a very open and honest marriage . People can be very judgemental."....

^^^^^^^ Ye definitely aren't cheating on each other if ye "have a very open and honest marriage"....I get "venom" thrown at me too even though my partner has full knowledge of me being here....I have married cheating deceitful men trying to tell me that it's the same thing cos I have a partner. They don't seem to understand the term "Open Relationship" & tbh it can be head wrecking when they're trying to tell me I'm the same as them....

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By *parkle1974Woman
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"Wow

Theirs alotta judgemental people in this thread, whom I’ve sure have not lived a completely saintly existence

All of you are or have been the villain in someone else’s story.

All of you have left tears in your wake at some point.

And all of you have betrayed someone else’s trust.

“Judge not, lest ye be judged”"

Not through cheating I haven't.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"Wow

Theirs alotta judgemental people in this thread, whom I’ve sure have not lived a completely saintly existence

All of you are or have been the villain in someone else’s story.

All of you have left tears in your wake at some point.

And all of you have betrayed someone else’s trust.

“Judge not, lest ye be judged”"

There is one key difference. Most of us don't get off on causing psychological damage to another human like cheaters do.

Yes we have all made errors, but willingly fucking someone behind a partners back is not an error, its a calculated step taken over the course of several hours if not longer.

If people do stupid shit they have every right to be judged. We all have the right to judge others for making horrible decisions that harm other people.

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By *WB85Man
37 weeks ago

Staffordshire

There's always going to be people who cheat on their partner on here but it's often very clear when you talk to them.

Me and my partner have a couples account and solo accounts to explore the lifestyle.

I'm very open on my profile, I don't hide my relationship, if people don't like it, that's their perogative.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Central

Don't lose faith OP. The forum are a very tiny minority of Fab users. Many people here are trustworthy and you can find people who are open and honest

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
37 weeks ago

East Sussex

^^ also you're probably going to find a higher concentration of people looking for sex without their partners knowledge on a site like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Ladies i am single guaranteed

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By *andC1000Couple
37 weeks ago

Ashford


"Wow

Theirs alotta judgemental people in this thread, whom I’ve sure have not lived a completely saintly existence

All of you are or have been the villain in someone else’s story.

All of you have left tears in your wake at some point.

And all of you have betrayed someone else’s trust.

“Judge not, lest ye be judged”

There is one key difference. Most of us don't get off on causing psychological damage to another human like cheaters do.

Yes we have all made errors, but willingly fucking someone behind a partners back is not an error, its a calculated step taken over the course of several hours if not longer.

If people do stupid shit they have every right to be judged. We all have the right to judge others for making horrible decisions that harm other people. "

Exactly this. Yes mistakes can happen but more often than not cheating is a well calculated choice especially if active on here, fabguys or any other site/messaging apps people chose to use

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"Wow

Theirs alotta judgemental people in this thread, whom I’ve sure have not lived a completely saintly existence

All of you are or have been the villain in someone else’s story.

All of you have left tears in your wake at some point.

And all of you have betrayed someone else’s trust.

“Judge not, lest ye be judged”

I’m not 100% sure you’re correct here about people being really judgemental… the whole point of being a swinger is that you are open about your sexuality with your partners - the concept of swinging is about mutual fun and consent and not choosing to live a monogamous life when you know that you were not designed for it.

A swinging website - therefore - is not the natural place really for cheating to occur. I doubt people here are as judgemental as the general none swinging population - since swingers tend to be judged harshly themselves for their own unorthodox lifestyle as it is "

This I totally agree with, swinging & cheats/liars are the total opposite, to me swinging promotes trust and honestly - cheating neither of those things.

Mrs

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By *TG3Man
37 weeks ago

Dorchester

The way i see it is sex with one partner forever is a very difficult concept, love and trust and friendship is obviously on the cards. Sex is an in that moment thing your turned on and its lovely and as 'swingers' we continue this theme with the club scene, where sex can be extended artificially no names, quite often no chat, just sex. A relationship where the sex just stops for years but you still love and respect each other is a nightmare, you either leave that family unit or you cheat, i chose to leave and it has been a very difficult decision but i made it, many here chose to cheat its not our place to criticise them we aren't in their place.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

When you meet couples in order to avoid cheaters - do you check their marriage certificate and photographs ?

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By *TG3Man
37 weeks ago

Dorchester


"When you meet couples in order to avoid cheaters - do you check their marriage certificate and photographs ?"
this applies especially in clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"When you meet couples in order to avoid cheaters - do you check their marriage certificate and photographs ?"

No,, but…no. But also …damn!

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By *TG3Man
37 weeks ago

Dorchester

This scene can also inspire cheaters couples that swing together and have high sex drives but one or both of them meet the women or guys they've met on the side with out permission.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"It's happened ever since the dawn of man and is just something you have to accept happens. Like fleas on cute animals. There's always a shitter to good things xox"

Not quite Brucey. It's only happened since the dawn of enforced monogamy and legally binding marriage contracts.

Before that..... no one cheated

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"When you meet couples in order to avoid cheaters - do you check their marriage certificate and photographs ?

No,, but…no. But also …damn! "

Tsk ...... now you have to

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"When you meet couples in order to avoid cheaters - do you check their marriage certificate and photographs ?

No,, but…no. But also …damn!

Tsk ...... now you have to"

That could be another tick on a profile.

Face verified.

Marriage certified.

In fairness, the op has photos to prove theirs.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
37 weeks ago

Southampton

The posts that get my goat are the ones trying to "persuade" the other person... have a conversation by all means but if they're not comfortable don't force the issue

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"The posts that get my goat are the ones trying to "persuade" the other person... have a conversation by all means but if they're not comfortable don't force the issue "

These bug me too, they are already on here lying trying to persuade their loved one they are currently lying to to join a community that should be full of trust and honesty.

Mrs

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
37 weeks ago

Southampton


"The posts that get my goat are the ones trying to "persuade" the other person... have a conversation by all means but if they're not comfortable don't force the issue

These bug me too, they are already on here lying trying to persuade their loved one they are currently lying to to join a community that should be full of trust and honesty.

Mrs "

Maybe there should be a separate website. Fabcheaters ...let them have their own sordid party

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"Wow

Theirs alotta judgemental people in this thread, whom I’ve sure have not lived a completely saintly existence

All of you are or have been the villain in someone else’s story.

All of you have left tears in your wake at some point.

And all of you have betrayed someone else’s trust.

“Judge not, lest ye be judged”

There is one key difference. Most of us don't get off on causing psychological damage to another human like cheaters do.

Yes we have all made errors, but willingly fucking someone behind a partners back is not an error, its a calculated step taken over the course of several hours if not longer.

If people do stupid shit they have every right to be judged. We all have the right to judge others for making horrible decisions that harm other people. "

1. Cheaters do not get off on causing psychological damage. They HOPE not to get caught.

2. I agree it takes quite a lot of thought and planning beforehand but sometimes it is just a spur of the moment hard cock decision and it is simply an ERROR.

3. It's only 'stupid shit' in the eyes of those that call it stupid shit.

4. No one has the 'right' to judge others. Of course we do disown certain acts but we don't have a 'right' to judge others

.... and then we come full circle.... it's only a horrible decision in the eyes of others and it is NOT designed to hurt others. It's designed to get sex and not have to have a lonely jerk off once more. It's designed for some human excitement.

That said ..... I'm not condoning all instances of extra marital sex.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

P.S

NO I do not believe it's okay to cheat

NO I have never cheated

I believe once someone cheats then their relationship and vows are a lie.

I don't see the world as fairy story perfect either

FINALLY I don't use my idea of perfection to bash anyone else in order to appear righteous and forgive myself anything I may have done

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
37 weeks ago

East Sussex

I'm inclined to agree with granny.

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By *TG3Man
37 weeks ago

Dorchester


"I'm inclined to agree with granny. "
omg don't agree with her she struggles to get through her door frames as it is

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By *ommander_StraxMan
37 weeks ago

Telford

The whole reason this works for my wife and I is that we are open and honest. We do this together a lot but also on our own. To cheat and lie would be utterly pointless and counter productive.

Sadly we have ran into a fair few people playing away and being brazen about it too.

I just don’t get it myself. If you’re not happy together, or something is missing… talk about it. Dont hurt others.

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By *archelCouple
37 weeks ago

A field somewhere

Can't speak for our experience with single women on here, but from our personal experience with single guys...9/10 who contact us aren't genuine swingers. The majority of them also being married/attached. We find it incredibly easy to spot them too.

So yes I do believe this site is a cheaters paradise, rather than what it's really meant for...swingers.

We're on other swingers apps and the problem is nowhere near as bad as it is here. They tend to leave very quickly as they won't pay the membership fees to be ignored by the genuine swingers. We don't miss them lol

Not bashing the genuine single swinger guys just to be clear..we like you guys

Mrs

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By *ora the explorerWoman
37 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"I'm inclined to agree with granny. "

Me too. Because she doesn’t just see black or white. Too many people do.

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By *rill PhilMan
37 weeks ago

Crediton


"Wow

Theirs alotta judgemental people in this thread, whom I’ve sure have not lived a completely saintly existence

All of you are or have been the villain in someone else’s story.

All of you have left tears in your wake at some point.

And all of you have betrayed someone else’s trust.

“Judge not, lest ye be judged”"

Translation: I've cheated on all of my partners and I don't feel even slightly bad about it. Don't judge me!

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By *agnar73Man
37 weeks ago

glasgow-ish


"I'm inclined to agree with granny.

Me too. Because she doesn’t just see black or white. Too many people do. "

Me too

I just get annoyed at the well being poisoned, so to speak for guys in my situation and I’ve seen status updates ‘like where do all the tall guys go during the day or at weekends?’

or other comments implying cheating or the assumption that not being able to

accommodate means I live with a woman.

I don’t, but I don’t want strangers in a house where my kids live.

If things had different I wouldn’t be on fab and whatever the ups and downs of my relationship with my late wife, I would never have came on here.

But that’s only my perspective and I strangely have guilt at times as I still feel married.

But, judgements and assumptions come along with the lies and cheating and some of the fall out lands on people that aren’t.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
37 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"I'm inclined to agree with granny.

Me too. Because she doesn’t just see black or white. Too many people do.

Me too

I just get annoyed at the well being poisoned, so to speak for guys in my situation and I’ve seen status updates ‘like where do all the tall guys go during the day or at weekends?’

or other comments implying cheating or the assumption that not being able to

accommodate means I live with a woman.

I don’t, but I don’t want strangers in a house where my kids live.

If things had different I wouldn’t be on fab and whatever the ups and downs of my relationship with my late wife, I would never have came on here.

But that’s only my perspective and I strangely have guilt at times as I still feel married.

But, judgements and assumptions come along with the lies and cheating and some of the fall out lands on people that aren’t."

That’s true too. Ridiculous how “can’t accommodate” means you’re attached. I know plenty single men who won’t because of kids and safety etc. more respect for them than those who don’t care who comes in and out of their house!

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By *agnar73Man
37 weeks ago

glasgow-ish


"I'm inclined to agree with granny.

Me too. Because she doesn’t just see black or white. Too many people do.

Me too

I just get annoyed at the well being poisoned, so to speak for guys in my situation and I’ve seen status updates ‘like where do all the tall guys go during the day or at weekends?’

or other comments implying cheating or the assumption that not being able to

accommodate means I live with a woman.

I don’t, but I don’t want strangers in a house where my kids live.

If things had different I wouldn’t be on fab and whatever the ups and downs of my relationship with my late wife, I would never have came on here.

But that’s only my perspective and I strangely have guilt at times as I still feel married.

But, judgements and assumptions come along with the lies and cheating and some of the fall out lands on people that aren’t.

That’s true too. Ridiculous how “can’t accommodate” means you’re attached. I know plenty single men who won’t because of kids and safety etc. more respect for them than those who don’t care who comes in and out of their house!"

Perception is reality unfortunately.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
37 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
37 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

CBA. No one is going to change their mind on the back of this thread. The same people will have the same opinions they do every time this hot button is pressed.

J

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By *ornyfriendlygentlemanMan
37 weeks ago

Mid-Sussex

If you go into a club I'm sure your not going around all men in the club are you married or single . If you fancied having sex you wouldn't bother wether they are married or single. This is a swingers site so most circumstances anything goes its polite to ask wether you can join them for sex or whatever,but it's not guarantee that you'll going to have sex.

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By *ustincamebridgeCouple
37 weeks ago

manchester


"They've all made me a little sad this morning - to me swinging is about openness, trust and communication however following all these threads is fab more just a cheaters paradise?

I wouldn't meet man or woman cheating this is fun to us I ain't out to ruin someone's life.

Those that are cheating do you not think showing your partner the attention you give random strangers would help things??

Having been cheated on in all but one of my relationships I just find it so sad that people can so easily hurt the ones they love for a quick fuck, disregard their feelings like they don't matter for what an ego boost?

I'm no angel I've cheated once and once was enough to see the hurt it caused, I'd never do that to another person.

I've kinda lost faith in this place after all these posts, someone restore my faith in humanity.

Mrs "

Hope your life is better now.

I have always believed that being with someone who wants to be with you creates happiness knowing that person loves you. Is life changing

Mr

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By *TG3Man
37 weeks ago

Dorchester


"CBA. No one is going to change their mind on the back of this thread. The same people will have the same opinions they do every time this hot button is pressed.

J"
exactly its always the same people and same negative comments, they live life in the negative

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By *rispyDuckMan
37 weeks ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Women cheat!

Men cheat!

You just hope you chose a decent person who doesn’t cheat on you

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
37 weeks ago

Manchester-ish


"CBA. No one is going to change their mind on the back of this thread. The same people will have the same opinions they do every time this hot button is pressed.

Jexactly its always the same people and same negative comments, they live life in the negative "

I think we're allowed some negativity about something that could destroy a marriage.

J

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By *TG3Man
37 weeks ago

Dorchester


"CBA. No one is going to change their mind on the back of this thread. The same people will have the same opinions they do every time this hot button is pressed.

Jexactly its always the same people and same negative comments, they live life in the negative

I think we're allowed some negativity about something that could destroy a marriage.

J"
over and over though and its their marriage and probably over anyway if one of them is cheating

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By *ornucopiaMan
37 weeks ago

Bexley

Could Fab perhaps conduct a survey to establish quite how few swinging couples are really as pure as driven snow and totally truthful with their partner (assuming they are even a genuine couple in the first place)?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
37 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"Could Fab perhaps conduct a survey to establish quite how few swinging couples are really as pure as driven snow and totally truthful with their partner (assuming they are even a genuine couple in the first place)?"

Exactly. I can assure you that not all are.

Glass houses and stones come to mind. But like I’ve said many a time why bother what other people do. I’ll never get my head around how much folk are bothered by what doesn’t affect them!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"CBA. No one is going to change their mind on the back of this thread. The same people will have the same opinions they do every time this hot button is pressed.

J"

With you Julie, I just don't see why this is the place for it when it's the opposite of what swinging is all about.

Mrs

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
37 weeks ago

Worcester


"Could Fab perhaps conduct a survey to establish quite how few swinging couples are really as pure as driven snow and totally truthful with their partner (assuming they are even a genuine couple in the first place)?

Exactly. I can assure you that not all are.

Glass houses and stones come to mind. But like I’ve said many a time why bother what other people do. I’ll never get my head around how much folk are bothered by what doesn’t affect them! "

People using the swing scene to cheat do affect all swingers though. They damage the reputation of those who do not cheat by association, and they make it harder to be accepted as a swinger in general society.

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By *had_ThunderCockMan
37 weeks ago

a place somewhat adjacent to you…


"My hubby has his own solo profile of which i wholeheartedly approve of .. we would never do anything behind each others back . He states clearly on his profile that he is married and i know and approve ..but the venom he gets from people for this is awful.

I dont think this is cheating ..we have a very open and honest marriage . People can be very judgemental. "

I do get judged hard, without usually being spoken to first. It’s takes really strong mature people to pause for a moment and have a conversation.

All the person I think I might grow to like, immediately gets my wife’s details, so they can converse and establish their own rapport. That is always important to me for the trust & authenticity. Whether it works out or not.

in my own relationship with my wife.

We each have our own profiles.

We each have blessings of the other.

We have a northstar around transparency and truth.

We each have talked to Persons of interest on each others profiles.

In fact, I love it when my wife has direct interaction with those I’m friends with. It establishes trustful intent & accountability back on me to maintain it.

No lies, no deception, no replacements,

We also Never talk negatively about each other.

I make it sound like we’re crazy off with other people, shagging all the time ; we’re not in fact far from it.

I’m talking with less than a handful of really high quality, highly authentic candid people, I want to chat to; all wonderful individuals from here, where I am cultivating the friendship first and just seeing how it goes, feeling it out, I’m/they’re happy either way. But, I know at the base I have good friends I care about first. What happens next is up to us.

My wife’s has maybe found her FWB in this process and yet is still enjoying meeting new friends. Alway makes me a bit nervous; But we’re not off away crazy shagging.

We just want to compliment what we already value, with high quality people that we can invite into our circle. As above ;no lies, all open, all friends, with blessings.

Doesn’t make my wife, any 3rd, or I bad people.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"I'm inclined to agree with granny. omg don't agree with her she struggles to get through her door frames as it is "

No i'm okay Fred. I crab walk in these days....

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By *TG3Man
37 weeks ago

Dorchester


"I'm inclined to agree with granny. omg don't agree with her she struggles to get through her door frames as it is

No i'm okay Fred. I crab walk in these days.... "
lol hey how many legs do you have?

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By *parkle1974Woman
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"CBA. No one is going to change their mind on the back of this thread. The same people will have the same opinions they do every time this hot button is pressed.

Jexactly its always the same people and same negative comments, they live life in the negative "

So what your saying is everyone should be positive about people cheating and patting the ones on the head and saying well done for helping to facilitate that cheat??

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By *TG3Man
37 weeks ago

Dorchester


"CBA. No one is going to change their mind on the back of this thread. The same people will have the same opinions they do every time this hot button is pressed.

Jexactly its always the same people and same negative comments, they live life in the negative

So what your saying is everyone should be positive about people cheating and patting the ones on the head and saying well done for helping to facilitate that cheat??"
no I'm saying its a site for people who come in many different forms if you didn't know they were cheating you wouldn't be bothered about it, say for example at a club, you would if you fancied that person just have sex with them but the fact they've been honest about it seems to draw all the negative comments yet nobody knows except them whats driven them here, i appreciate that some of you have got here because your partners have cheated on you and so therefore you have a vested interest in that negativity and maybe in your case it was unfair but two sides to every story

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By *parkle1974Woman
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"CBA. No one is going to change their mind on the back of this thread. The same people will have the same opinions they do every time this hot button is pressed.

Jexactly its always the same people and same negative comments, they live life in the negative

So what your saying is everyone should be positive about people cheating and patting the ones on the head and saying well done for helping to facilitate that cheat??no I'm saying its a site for people who come in many different forms if you didn't know they were cheating you wouldn't be bothered about it, say for example at a club, you would if you fancied that person just have sex with them but the fact they've been honest about it seems to draw all the negative comments yet nobody knows except them whats driven them here, i appreciate that some of you have got here because your partners have cheated on you and so therefore you have a vested interest in that negativity and maybe in your case it was unfair but two sides to every story "

Well considering I don't go to clubs that part doesn't come into play for me.

And yes you're right there are 2 sides to every story....his or hers (if its the female cheating) and the truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"They've all made me a little sad this morning - to me swinging is about openness, trust and communication however following all these threads is fab more just a cheaters paradise?

I wouldn't meet man or woman cheating this is fun to us I ain't out to ruin someone's life.

Those that are cheating do you not think showing your partner the attention you give random strangers would help things??

Having been cheated on in all but one of my relationships I just find it so sad that people can so easily hurt the ones they love for a quick fuck, disregard their feelings like they don't matter for what an ego boost?

I'm no angel I've cheated once and once was enough to see the hurt it caused, I'd never do that to another person.

I've kinda lost faith in this place after all these posts, someone restore my faith in humanity.

Mrs "

Oh mrs.. Sorry to hear your traumatic time of here. How can your faith be restored.

It is annoying the repeat posts. More so negative ones about cheating.

Hope faith is restored soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I find it a hard question. I also feel for a long long time this subject rears time after time. People here like to discuss it openly. There are loads of forum users having sex with other women besides their own wife. Every has a story to tell.

Each to our own. Cheating in any form sucks.

Maybe have a married filter introduced.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
37 weeks ago

Worcester


"I find it a hard question. I also feel for a long long time this subject rears time after time. People here like to discuss it openly. There are loads of forum users having sex with other women besides their own wife. Every has a story to tell.

Each to our own. Cheating in any form sucks.

Maybe have a married filter introduced. "

Being married isn’t a problem.

Cheating is a problem.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
37 weeks ago

Manchester-ish


"I find it a hard question. I also feel for a long long time this subject rears time after time. People here like to discuss it openly. There are loads of forum users having sex with other women besides their own wife. Every has a story to tell.

Each to our own. Cheating in any form sucks.

Maybe have a married filter introduced. "

People would just lie. Also a married filter would be a bit tricky for all the actual married couples on here.

J

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
37 weeks ago

Worcester


"CBA. No one is going to change their mind on the back of this thread. The same people will have the same opinions they do every time this hot button is pressed.

Jexactly its always the same people and same negative comments, they live life in the negative

So what your saying is everyone should be positive about people cheating and patting the ones on the head and saying well done for helping to facilitate that cheat??no I'm saying its a site for people who come in many different forms if you didn't know they were cheating you wouldn't be bothered about it, say for example at a club, you would if you fancied that person just have sex with them but the fact they've been honest about it seems to draw all the negative comments yet nobody knows except them whats driven them here, i appreciate that some of you have got here because your partners have cheated on you and so therefore you have a vested interest in that negativity and maybe in your case it was unfair but two sides to every story "

I dunno how you think clubs work but it’s generally not just strangers jumping on each other with no chat beforehand.

I’d say most people go to have sex with their partner, to watch and be watched. Others like to invite people to play that they already know, and others (like myself) like to go to meet people who you can then meet again in private.

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By *TG3Man
37 weeks ago

Dorchester


"CBA. No one is going to change their mind on the back of this thread. The same people will have the same opinions they do every time this hot button is pressed.

Jexactly its always the same people and same negative comments, they live life in the negative

So what your saying is everyone should be positive about people cheating and patting the ones on the head and saying well done for helping to facilitate that cheat??no I'm saying its a site for people who come in many different forms if you didn't know they were cheating you wouldn't be bothered about it, say for example at a club, you would if you fancied that person just have sex with them but the fact they've been honest about it seems to draw all the negative comments yet nobody knows except them whats driven them here, i appreciate that some of you have got here because your partners have cheated on you and so therefore you have a vested interest in that negativity and maybe in your case it was unfair but two sides to every story

Well considering I don't go to clubs that part doesn't come into play for me.

And yes you're right there are 2 sides to every story....his or hers (if its the female cheating) and the truth."
Well their is that but so many of you ask for honesty, they've been honest and still get slagged and no i don't expect you to pat them on the head or meet them, i guess their is no right or wrong in these situations just a break down of communication.

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By *parkle1974Woman
37 weeks ago

Leeds


"CBA. No one is going to change their mind on the back of this thread. The same people will have the same opinions they do every time this hot button is pressed.

Jexactly its always the same people and same negative comments, they live life in the negative

So what your saying is everyone should be positive about people cheating and patting the ones on the head and saying well done for helping to facilitate that cheat??no I'm saying its a site for people who come in many different forms if you didn't know they were cheating you wouldn't be bothered about it, say for example at a club, you would if you fancied that person just have sex with them but the fact they've been honest about it seems to draw all the negative comments yet nobody knows except them whats driven them here, i appreciate that some of you have got here because your partners have cheated on you and so therefore you have a vested interest in that negativity and maybe in your case it was unfair but two sides to every story

Well considering I don't go to clubs that part doesn't come into play for me.

And yes you're right there are 2 sides to every story....his or hers (if its the female cheating) and the truth.Well their is that but so many of you ask for honesty, they've been honest and still get slagged and no i don't expect you to pat them on the head or meet them, i guess their is no right or wrong in these situations just a break down of communication. "

Seems the concensus is that there is wrong!.

The ones that don't see it as wrong are the ones doing it or helping others to do so....go figure.

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By *had_ThunderCockMan
37 weeks ago

a place somewhat adjacent to you…


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Being married isn’t a problem.

Cheating is a problem."

Bingo, this above.

‘Cheating is cheating’ = non consensual deceptive and lies.

Everything else I’ve read Is when honest and open is consensual & fine

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"

Being married isn’t a problem.

Cheating is a problem.

Bingo, this above.

‘Cheating is cheating’ = non consensual deceptive and lies.

Everything else I’ve read Is when honest and open is consensual & fine"

^^^^^^^ This....

Exactly....Being Married isn't the issue at all....There's many open

Marriages where both play away with their other halves having full knowledge

It's the cheating deceitful deceptive people that's the problem & their other halves totally oblivious to the sexual extra marital affairs of their partners ....These conniving cheaters try to rope others into their game & they lie & betray to get what they want from my experience....(I had an affair with a married man who I believed was single from what he had told me, he betrayed me also in a few ways but I won't go there....)

"Cheating" is in the subject title of this thread isn't it & that's what's not acceptable to me.... CHEATING

Open Marriages are a totally different thing

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"I agree. The number of "single" cheating males is beyond belief. Easy to spot now with experience of swinging and been on FAB for approaching 7 years.

I don't think they know what shame and respect are.

Ah yes the usual holier than though blaming men as usual! "

Legit, you can tell she’ll be a barrel of laughs for a Sunday roast

She’s itching for taylor swift to bring out the new single and be posting it as her status on here, swinging for 7 years congratulations but the typical comment on here, stereotyping single men, condescending Karen. Imagine a social with her, presumption is a mofo is the saying.

(Yes I can spell mother f***er) and the epitome of narrow minded keyboard hero’s like the OP and many on here, sorry you’re false and pointless replies daily, get a grip and stop reading daily mail x

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By *rHotNottsMan
37 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

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By *rHotNottsMan
37 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"They've all made me a little sad this morning - to me swinging is about openness, trust and communication however following all these threads is fab more just a cheaters paradise?

I wouldn't meet man or woman cheating this is fun to us I ain't out to ruin someone's life.

Those that are cheating do you not think showing your partner the attention you give random strangers would help things??

Having been cheated on in all but one of my relationships I just find it so sad that people can so easily hurt the ones they love for a quick fuck, disregard their feelings like they don't matter for what an ego boost?

I'm no angel I've cheated once and once was enough to see the hurt it caused, I'd never do that to another person.

I've kinda lost faith in this place after all these posts, someone restore my faith in humanity.

Mrs "

Online dating not just FAB pretty well known to have high numbers of cheats, liars, fakes and worse . but forum posts are like the news they don’t have a true picture of reality

There are lots of really good genuine people on here, I know I’ve met loads of them and I’ve many of them as friends. People who truly value honesty & loyalty would not knowingly, regularly, fuck other peoples partners. There’s always exceptions, I’m quite fond of someone myself who is in a relationship, Challenges me how I feel about her I do sympathise with her situation. But that’s v different from saying it’s none of my business & I’ll just go out there and bang married women who are cheating - I won’t.

My advice surround yourself with and give time and energy to people that share the same values, You tend to be naturally drawn to each other anyway. And just accept that others are different, tolerate at arms length and don’t let them get under your skin

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