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"Lies ain't sexy, deceit ain't sexy, If they have that little respect for their loved ones what respect can a random meet expect?! Mrs " Totally this | |||
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"Their relationship status isn't my concern. " This. Their private life is their private life, my experience of attached men means there is less complications and unlikely to want more from me than I am willing to offer | |||
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"There isn't one answer. Each person will have their own views, personal circumstances and moral compass. It's a bit like asking if everyone likes McDonald's or KFC." Donald's breakfast and KFC for dinnertimes  | |||
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"There isn't one answer. Each person will have their own views, personal circumstances and moral compass. It's a bit like asking if everyone likes McDonald's or KFC." This is the best comment of all. I know guys who have lovely wives and have regular sex but can't help themselves and want extra. Saying steak every night gets boring and once in a while they want a juicy fat burger. I also know a good friend who would never leave his partner but she's gone off sex and wont talk about it. I suggested this site to him but he's too scared of being caught. But he's only 38 and should he not have sex for the test of his life? Not everything is black and white and people should be less judgmental. | |||
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"There isn't one answer. Each person will have their own views, personal circumstances and moral compass. It's a bit like asking if everyone likes McDonald's or KFC. This is the best comment of all. I know guys who have lovely wives and have regular sex but can't help themselves and want extra. Saying steak every night gets boring and once in a while they want a juicy fat burger. I also know a good friend who would never leave his partner but she's gone off sex and wont talk about it. I suggested this site to him but he's too scared of being caught. But he's only 38 and should he not have sex for the test of his life? Not everything is black and white and people should be less judgmental. " Your friends sound lovely | |||
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"Total turn off plus they might be looking to leave their marriage so could be a whole heap of trouble. " This is exactly why I won't have anything to do with a married man | |||
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"Lies ain't sexy, deceit ain't sexy, knowing someone can hurt the one they supposedly love over a quick fuck doesn't turn me on. If they have that little respect for their loved ones what respect can a random meet expect?! Mrs " Exactly this  | |||
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"For us, if the guy claims to have a ‘Hall Pass’ to play solo , we simply ask that his Wife calls us to confirm this. Or we challenge him, if it’s worth loosing his wife over .. Only our view point on this subject matter. " How often do you get to talk to the wife? Lol. | |||
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"Turn off. They obviously have zero respect for the women in their life." Couldn't help loving the ironic, probably unintentional, humour there! | |||
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"There isn't one answer. Each person will have their own views, personal circumstances and moral compass. It's a bit like asking if everyone likes McDonald's or KFC. This is the best comment of all. I know guys who have lovely wives and have regular sex but can't help themselves and want extra. Saying steak every night gets boring and once in a while they want a juicy fat burger. I also know a good friend who would never leave his partner but she's gone off sex and wont talk about it. I suggested this site to him but he's too scared of being caught. But he's only 38 and should he not have sex for the test of his life? Not everything is black and white and people should be less judgmental. " I left my then husband when I was 38 because I’d lived without sex for 6 years at that point. He wouldn’t talk about it, I eventually realised he Durga respect me so I left. Cheating is not the only solution. | |||
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"Their relationship status isn't my concern. This. Their private life is their private life, my experience of attached men means there is less complications and unlikely to want more from me than I am willing to offer " Quote - "There is less complications and unlikely to want more from me than I am willing to offer".... ^^^^^^^ Not the case from my experience at all. I was roped into seeing a married man who I believed to be single. He kept lieing & insisting he wasn't married  . I would never ever internationally meet a cheating deceitful married man. I have many many reasons not to....too many to mention here but some are of a moral ground
Anyway....When I finally discovered he was married & told him I wanted nothing to do with married men, he ended up stalking me....it was an horrific experience tbh....& Was the most complicated meet I ever had. I had met him many many times under the pretense that he was single....so he betrayed me too with his lieing & deceitful ways 
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"Their relationship status isn't my concern. This. Their private life is their private life, my experience of attached men means there is less complications and unlikely to want more from me than I am willing to offer Quote - "There is less complications and unlikely to want more from me than I am willing to offer".... ^^^^^^^ Not the case from my experience at all. I was roped into seeing a married man who I believed to be single. He kept lieing & insisting he wasn't married . I would never ever internationally meet a cheating deceitful married man. I have many many reasons not to....too many to mention here but some are of a moral ground
Anyway....When I finally discovered he was married & told him I wanted nothing to do with married men, he ended up stalking me....it was an horrific experience tbh....& Was the most complicated meet I ever had. I had met him many many times under the pretense that he was single....so he betrayed me too with his lieing & deceitful ways
"That’s different. And bang out of order. I’m talking about people who are upfront about being married. Lying about being single isn’t ok to me. | |||
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"Do ladies find that cheating married men are less of a turn on. Or is it a extra excitement secret forbidden kink thing, knowing it's just NSA, with less chance of commitment. X" I'd say they get so excited, i may be wrong mind  | |||
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"I had a fling with a guy who had been a cheating married man (several years before I met him) - he loved his wife dearly but after their son was born she had complications and couldn’t have sex for a few years - in his desperation and as he called it “arrogance and selfishness” he went out and cheated and somehow it caught up with him and destroyed his life - I’m talking he lost his wife, his child, his teaching job - ended up 40 in a house share addicted to . I tried to help him get over it - explained that maybe it was his way of avoiding depression and needing to have the fix was part of him being a man - I wasn’t sure of any of this I was just trying to get into the psychology of it… anyways he was completely unable to forgive himself and when I met him he’d not had sex for 3+ years. He found it incredibly difficult even then so there wasn’t a great deal of actual sex involved. He’d not even had a cuddle - was scared to allow anyone near him / Felt completely unworthy of love or intimacy and hated himself for being such a prick when he could have just watched porn and had a wank. Be careful what you wish for " Immediately deletes account | |||
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"Do ladies find that cheating married men are less of a turn on. Or is it a extra excitement secret forbidden kink thing, knowing it's just NSA, with less chance of commitment. X" If the guy is cheating I'd say zero chance of commitment because he's already cheating and can't be trusted | |||
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"I had a fling with a guy who had been a cheating married man (several years before I met him) - he loved his wife dearly but after their son was born she had complications and couldn’t have sex for a few years - in his desperation and as he called it “arrogance and selfishness” he went out and cheated and somehow it caught up with him and destroyed his life - I’m talking he lost his wife, his child, his teaching job - ended up 40 in a house share addicted to . I tried to help him get over it - explained that maybe it was his way of avoiding depression and needing to have the fix was part of him being a man - I wasn’t sure of any of this I was just trying to get into the psychology of it… anyways he was completely unable to forgive himself and when I met him he’d not had sex for 3+ years. He found it incredibly difficult even then so there wasn’t a great deal of actual sex involved. He’d not even had a cuddle - was scared to allow anyone near him / Felt completely unworthy of love or intimacy and hated himself for being such a prick when he could have just watched porn and had a wank. Be careful what you wish for Immediately deletes account "Don't you "click" with your partner anymore? | |||
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Don't you "click" with your partner anymore? "Haven't had sex for over a year | |||
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"So much for women empowering women.. seems some do until they think your hubby is looking fit to fuck and has given you some bullshit story as to why he's getting no action at home "Exactly why I don’t go near married men. They always say bullshit like ‘I’ll be honest with you’ or ‘I want to tell you the truth’ and I just think go home and be honest with the woman who’s washing your socks and cooking your tea
That and the fact that I know I’m worth more than a quick fuck at half 5 on his way home from work. | |||
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"So much for women empowering women.. seems some do until they think your hubby is looking fit to fuck and has given you some bullshit story as to why he's getting no action at home "None of them see the reasons they aren't getting it at home either, attention elsewhere rather than on the wife, spending more time showing your cock to anyone that'll look rather than the Mrs, sneaky behaviour, no wonder they don't want to fuck, it's hardly sexy being lied too. But then it's never their fault is it. Mrs | |||
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"So much for women empowering women.. seems some do until they think your hubby is looking fit to fuck and has given you some bullshit story as to why he's getting no action at home
None of them see the reasons they aren't getting it at home either, attention elsewhere rather than on the wife, spending more time showing your cock to anyone that'll look rather than the Mrs, sneaky behaviour, no wonder they don't want to fuck, it's hardly sexy being lied too.
But then it's never their fault is it.
Mrs "Nope, always the wife to blame. I'm surprised the women who fuck them don't have a supply of tissues to wipe their tears away from hearing their sob stories. | |||
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"Surely if your playing away from your marriage, is it time to leave the marriage, rather than cheating" It seems as long as your "honest" with anyone willing to fuck you then it's ok...never mind being honest with someone you are supposed to care about  | |||
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"True.. To an extent on all points. Bit like asking did you have safe sex and them saying yes, but pics tell other wise. Phones do not lie. Do they... " Depends which phone! | |||
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" ... Felt completely unworthy of love or intimacy and hated himself for being such a prick when he could have just watched porn and had a wank. Be careful what you wish for " If only watching porn and having a wank was an adequate substitute for intercourse. If it was we would surely have a world with far fewer babies in it. | |||
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" ... Felt completely unworthy of love or intimacy and hated himself for being such a prick when he could have just watched porn and had a wank. Be careful what you wish for If only watching porn and having a wank was an adequate substitute for intercourse. If it was we would surely have a world with far fewer babies in it." Well - I’ve managed to get to 40 without any unwanted babies… and those were his words not mine x | |||
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"Do ladies find that cheating married men are less of a turn on. Or is it a extra excitement secret forbidden kink thing, knowing it's just NSA, with less chance of commitment. X If the guy is cheating I'd say zero chance of commitment because he's already cheating and can't be trusted " Quote - "Can't be trusted".... ^^^^^^^ This I do reckon a cheating deceitful married man can never be trusted .... From my own experience of seeing a married man who I believed was single cos he convinced & lied to me he was....I discovered he was fkin many others left right & centre even though he told me he was exclusive to me ha !!!! I found this out after I discovered a large veri trail accidentally & he was conniving enough to say to his numerous other fk meets not to verify him....Not only was he betraying his wife....He was also betraying me.... | |||
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"There isn't one answer. Each person will have their own views, personal circumstances and moral compass. It's a bit like asking if everyone likes McDonald's or KFC. This is the best comment of all. I know guys who have lovely wives and have regular sex but can't help themselves and want extra. Saying steak every night gets boring and once in a while they want a juicy fat burger. I also know a good friend who would never leave his partner but she's gone off sex and wont talk about it. I suggested this site to him but he's too scared of being caught. But he's only 38 and should he not have sex for the test of his life? Not everything is black and white and people should be less judgmental. I left my then husband when I was 38 because I’d lived without sex for 6 years at that point. He wouldn’t talk about it, I eventually realised he Durga respect me so I left. Cheating is not the only solution. " Yes there is that and one of the lads has said in that situation he'd leave but the mate in question has confided in me that he'd never leave her and their child because apart from no sex, everything else is wonderful. Fair play to him I say! | |||
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"Tempted to go and live a godly, upright and sober life after reading this and similar threads! Remind me why being married once before was enough." Nah just do you. Don’t know why people care what strangers think of what they do or feel the need to seek validation. I couldn’t give a toss what others do and don’t do. Neither do I care what others think of what I do and don’t do. Not that anyone would know anyway. Tis a strange place here for sure | |||
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"It seems as long as your "honest" with anyone willing to fuck you then it's ok...never mind being honest with someone you are supposed to care about "^^ Interestingly no one who thinks it's ok to cheat replies to comments like this or express how they would feel if the shoe was on the other foot; ie they were the one being cheated on. That says it all really. | |||
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"It seems as long as your "honest" with anyone willing to fuck you then it's ok...never mind being honest with someone you are supposed to care about
^^ Interestingly no one who thinks it's ok to cheat replies to comments like this or express how they would feel if the shoe was on the other foot; ie they were the one being cheated on. That says it all really."Not really. People don’t have to explain themselves to a bunch of people on-line  . Unless they want to. I meet married men.
Someone cheated on me they’d be out the door. | |||
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"So much for women empowering women.. seems some do until they think your hubby is looking fit to fuck and has given you some bullshit story as to why he's getting no action at home
None of them see the reasons they aren't getting it at home either, attention elsewhere rather than on the wife, spending more time showing your cock to anyone that'll look rather than the Mrs, sneaky behaviour, no wonder they don't want to fuck, it's hardly sexy being lied too.
But then it's never their fault is it.
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Nope, always the wife to blame. I'm surprised the women who fuck them don't have a supply of tissues to wipe their tears away from hearing their sob stories."Some women love sex some women don't though always two sides to a coin, some women make the best mothers and home makers and are great friends with their partners but sexually nothing, sex with one person can become monotonous don't you think? | |||
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"In an office I worked in, the boss was a target for a lot of the women. No matter what they say, put a reasonable looking guy in a suit with some "power" and they will try!" I've witnessed this too....Women falling to their knees for managerial good looking married men in suits in the office.... (for me personally suits are a turn off....) Anyway I could tell the guy had difficulty in saying no to some of the younger hot women..But he never took the bait..I know cos he's a good work mate of mine & he confided in me..the poor man is plagued ha..& he detests wearing suits too..but he has told me he loves his wife dearly & would never stray..he even said he detests the unwanted sexual advances & some are bordering on sexual harassment.. | |||
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"So much for women empowering women.. seems some do until they think your hubby is looking fit to fuck and has given you some bullshit story as to why he's getting no action at home
None of them see the reasons they aren't getting it at home either, attention elsewhere rather than on the wife, spending more time showing your cock to anyone that'll look rather than the Mrs, sneaky behaviour, no wonder they don't want to fuck, it's hardly sexy being lied too.
But then it's never their fault is it.
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Nope, always the wife to blame. I'm surprised the women who fuck them don't have a supply of tissues to wipe their tears away from hearing their sob stories.Some women love sex some women don't though always two sides to a coin, some women make the best mothers and home makers and are great friends with their partners but sexually nothing, sex with one person can become monotonous don't you think? "If you don't think you can live the rest of your life only having sex with one person, then you shouldn't agree to enter a relationship where that is the agreed arrangement. | |||
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"In an office I worked in, the boss was a target for a lot of the women. No matter what they say, put a reasonable looking guy in a suit with some "power" and they will try!" Yep, women might have different triggers and methods but they can be just as predatory as men. | |||
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"So much for women empowering women.. seems some do until they think your hubby is looking fit to fuck and has given you some bullshit story as to why he's getting no action at home
None of them see the reasons they aren't getting it at home either, attention elsewhere rather than on the wife, spending more time showing your cock to anyone that'll look rather than the Mrs, sneaky behaviour, no wonder they don't want to fuck, it's hardly sexy being lied too.
But then it's never their fault is it.
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Nope, always the wife to blame. I'm surprised the women who fuck them don't have a supply of tissues to wipe their tears away from hearing their sob stories.Some women love sex some women don't though always two sides to a coin, some women make the best mothers and home makers and are great friends with their partners but sexually nothing, sex with one person can become monotonous don't you think? "Then don't enter a monogamous relationship if you don't want sex with just 1 person, that's on you. If you don't like the sex/how much and it's an issue communicate and be honest. Mrs | |||
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"So much for women empowering women.. seems some do until they think your hubby is looking fit to fuck and has given you some bullshit story as to why he's getting no action at home
None of them see the reasons they aren't getting it at home either, attention elsewhere rather than on the wife, spending more time showing your cock to anyone that'll look rather than the Mrs, sneaky behaviour, no wonder they don't want to fuck, it's hardly sexy being lied too.
But then it's never their fault is it.
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Nope, always the wife to blame. I'm surprised the women who fuck them don't have a supply of tissues to wipe their tears away from hearing their sob stories.Some women love sex some women don't though always two sides to a coin, some women make the best mothers and home makers and are great friends with their partners but sexually nothing, sex with one person can become monotonous don't you think?
If you don't think you can live the rest of your life only having sex with one person, then you shouldn't agree to enter a relationship where that is the agreed arrangement."In this day and age how long does a long term relationship last 15 years 20 tops so I'm not sure your argument makes any sense, so what you are saying is that people who can go the distance but don't actually have any religious belief and have taken holy vows should honour these no matter what, they are just words, having said that i never cheated but i left a happy marriage because i couldn't continue without sex, I'm still friendly with my ex and i have regrets of course you do, you liked each other, loved each other, still love each other but for me a relationship includes sex everything that a marriage offers should be there to be enjoyed. Oh and how the hell could you possibly know how long it will last when you enter into it you can't | |||
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" If you don't think you can live the rest of your life only having sex with one person, then you shouldn't agree to enter a relationship where that is the agreed arrangement. In this day and age how long does a long term relationship last 15 years 20 tops so I'm not sure your argument makes any sense, so what you are saying is that people who can go the distance but don't actually have any religious belief and have taken holy vows should honour these no matter what, they are just words, having said that i never cheated but i left a happy marriage because i couldn't continue without sex, I'm still friendly with my ex and i have regrets of course you do, you liked each other, loved each other, still love each other but for me a relationship includes sex everything that a marriage offers should be there to be enjoyed. Oh and how the hell could you possibly know how long it will last when you enter into it you can't "If you think they're 'just words' and the words and promises don't mean anything, then you should only be in a relationship with a person who understand that you feel that way. If I was dating a man and he told me that he doesn't think promises between us mean anything, I wouldn't see him even one more time. | |||
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"My point is you shouldn't judge a cheater because you're not in their shoes, you can choose not to meet them and have thoughts on what they are doing but to criticise them is totally unfair, you don't live their life "Whilst that's true, we only hear their side of the story on here too, not their partners side or even the actual truth. There are also men and women on here, who do have regular sex at home and say they're just greedy and want more. We all judge people, it's human nature. | |||
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"My point is you shouldn't judge a cheater because you're not in their shoes, you can choose not to meet them and have thoughts on what they are doing but to criticise them is totally unfair, you don't live their life "Many years ago I was sleeping with a married man who told me he was unhappy at home because his wife wouldn't give him sex. Not since she carried and birthed his child five years before. Miraculously his wife got pregnant while we were having an affair. He was not thrilled when I asked where I should send the flowers to to celebrate the immaculate conception. I suspect that he is not the only cheat lying about the lack of sex. Turns out, like many cheats, he just felt entitled to sex with more than one woman without the consent of his life partner. | |||
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" If you don't think you can live the rest of your life only having sex with one person, then you shouldn't agree to enter a relationship where that is the agreed arrangement. In this day and age how long does a long term relationship last 15 years 20 tops so I'm not sure your argument makes any sense, so what you are saying is that people who can go the distance but don't actually have any religious belief and have taken holy vows should honour these no matter what, they are just words, having said that i never cheated but i left a happy marriage because i couldn't continue without sex, I'm still friendly with my ex and i have regrets of course you do, you liked each other, loved each other, still love each other but for me a relationship includes sex everything that a marriage offers should be there to be enjoyed. Oh and how the hell could you possibly know how long it will last when you enter into it you can't
If you think they're 'just words' and the words and promises don't mean anything, then you should only be in a relationship with a person who understand that you feel that way.
If I was dating a man and he told me that he doesn't think promises between us mean anything, I wouldn't see him even one more time."A relationship as i said only lasts 15 to 20 years and i kept to the vows of my marriage but how long can some people keep to these vows in all the different scenarios that life thrusts at them, its very difficult I'd say even with all the good intentions you start out with | |||
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" If you don't think you can live the rest of your life only having sex with one person, then you shouldn't agree to enter a relationship where that is the agreed arrangement. In this day and age how long does a long term relationship last 15 years 20 tops so I'm not sure your argument makes any sense, so what you are saying is that people who can go the distance but don't actually have any religious belief and have taken holy vows should honour these no matter what, they are just words, having said that i never cheated but i left a happy marriage because i couldn't continue without sex, I'm still friendly with my ex and i have regrets of course you do, you liked each other, loved each other, still love each other but for me a relationship includes sex everything that a marriage offers should be there to be enjoyed. Oh and how the hell could you possibly know how long it will last when you enter into it you can't
If you think they're 'just words' and the words and promises don't mean anything, then you should only be in a relationship with a person who understand that you feel that way.
If I was dating a man and he told me that he doesn't think promises between us mean anything, I wouldn't see him even one more time.A relationship as i said only lasts 15 to 20 years and i kept to the vows of my marriage but how long can some people keep to these vows in all the different scenarios that life thrusts at them, its very difficult I'd say even with all the good intentions you start out with "It doesn't matter how long your relationship lasts. If I make a promise to a partner or a friend, I should keep that promise. If I cannot keep that promise, I should inform them at the earliest opportunity and allow them to decide what the right course of action is for them. It's called being respectful. It is respectful to inform a loved one or friend (or anyone, in fact) if you can no longer keep a promise, or keep to the agreed terms of a relationship. | |||
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" If you don't think you can live the rest of your life only having sex with one person, then you shouldn't agree to enter a relationship where that is the agreed arrangement. In this day and age how long does a long term relationship last 15 years 20 tops so I'm not sure your argument makes any sense, so what you are saying is that people who can go the distance but don't actually have any religious belief and have taken holy vows should honour these no matter what, they are just words, having said that i never cheated but i left a happy marriage because i couldn't continue without sex, I'm still friendly with my ex and i have regrets of course you do, you liked each other, loved each other, still love each other but for me a relationship includes sex everything that a marriage offers should be there to be enjoyed. Oh and how the hell could you possibly know how long it will last when you enter into it you can't
If you think they're 'just words' and the words and promises don't mean anything, then you should only be in a relationship with a person who understand that you feel that way.
If I was dating a man and he told me that he doesn't think promises between us mean anything, I wouldn't see him even one more time.A relationship as i said only lasts 15 to 20 years and i kept to the vows of my marriage but how long can some people keep to these vows in all the different scenarios that life thrusts at them, its very difficult I'd say even with all the good intentions you start out with
It doesn't matter how long your relationship lasts.
If I make a promise to a partner or a friend, I should keep that promise. If I cannot keep that promise, I should inform them at the earliest opportunity and allow them to decide what the right course of action is for them.
It's called being respectful. It is respectful to inform a loved one or friend (or anyone, in fact) if you can no longer keep a promise, or keep to the agreed terms of a relationship."Well yes i guess it is respectful and the right thing to do but if you can't communicate with that person for whatever reason then how can you be respectful | |||
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"Lies ain't sexy, deceit ain't sexy, knowing someone can hurt the one they supposedly love over a quick fuck doesn't turn me on. If they have that little respect for their loved ones what respect can a random meet expect?! Mrs " Well said | |||
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"My point is you shouldn't judge a cheater because you're not in their shoes, you can choose not to meet them and have thoughts on what they are doing but to criticise them is totally unfair, you don't live their life
Many years ago I was sleeping with a married man who told me he was unhappy at home because his wife wouldn't give him sex. Not since she carried and birthed his child five years before.
Miraculously his wife got pregnant while we were having an affair.
He was not thrilled when I asked where I should send the flowers to to celebrate the immaculate conception.
I suspect that he is not the only cheat lying about the lack of sex. Turns out, like many cheats, he just felt entitled to sex with more than one woman without the consent of his life partner."Yes but you made the decision to sleep with that married man and he was fairly honest with you about his sex life with his wife, remember it only takes one sperm to make a baby | |||
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" Well yes i guess it is respectful and the right thing to do but if you can't communicate with that person for whatever reason then how can you be respectful "If you can't communicate with a person then you should not be in a relationship with them anyway because you're not enough of a grown up to cope with an adult relationship. Honestly, I don't understand how grown adult men seem to believe that they can share finances, mortgages, and children with a woman but they still can't manage to fucking open their mouth and talk to her. | |||
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" Well yes i guess it is respectful and the right thing to do but if you can't communicate with that person for whatever reason then how can you be respectful
If you can't communicate with a person then you should not be in a relationship with them anyway because you're not enough of a grown up to cope with an adult relationship.
Honestly, I don't understand how grown adult men seem to believe that they can share finances, mortgages, and children with a woman but they still can't manage to fucking open their mouth and talk to her."Oh you understand how communication breaks down you're an intelligent woman | |||
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"If you don't think you can live the rest of your life only having sex with one person, then you shouldn't agree to enter a relationship where that is the agreed arrangement." this is so true ... | |||
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"Has been asked before and answer seems to be: - Married men - awful thing to do and can't believe men cheat. - Married women - that's ok, husband clearly doesn't deserve her and she has needs." Much of that is due to the amount of men who get off on meeting married women and feel they're getting one over on her hubby I think. | |||
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"Has been asked before and answer seems to be: - Married men - awful thing to do and can't believe men cheat. - Married women - that's ok, husband clearly doesn't deserve her and she has needs." That about sums it up I'm afraid. | |||
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"Maybe a controversial one but when I was younger and first fabbing this was a line I wouldn't cross, but I soon realised a lot of the guys we'd meet were married and we had no way of proving it before or after. Eventually made my peace with it and realised it's not my place to decide the rules of their marriage and it has actually let me be more open and intimate on meets when we can be honest instead of forcing guys to lie" Amy Amy Amy  | |||
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" Well yes i guess it is respectful and the right thing to do but if you can't communicate with that person for whatever reason then how can you be respectful
If you can't communicate with a person then you should not be in a relationship with them anyway because you're not enough of a grown up to cope with an adult relationship.
Honestly, I don't understand how grown adult men seem to believe that they can share finances, mortgages, and children with a woman but they still can't manage to fucking open their mouth and talk to her."THIS  x 1000  | |||
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" Well yes i guess it is respectful and the right thing to do but if you can't communicate with that person for whatever reason then how can you be respectful
If you can't communicate with a person then you should not be in a relationship with them anyway because you're not enough of a grown up to cope with an adult relationship.
Honestly, I don't understand how grown adult men seem to believe that they can share finances, mortgages, and children with a woman but they still can't manage to fucking open their mouth and talk to her.
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"As a general response to Fred333, I was about to message to him privately but realised that an 'in forum' message would be better: I've enjoyed reading your posts, Fred. You make some very valid points on this topic. Well reasoned and balanced and showing the voice of experience. Well contributed. Thank you." You're welcome | |||
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"Do ladies find that cheating married men are less of a turn on. Or is it a extra excitement secret forbidden kink thing, knowing it's just NSA, with less chance of commitment. X" When i've stopped cock watching i'll read the question again | |||
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"I don't find a married or taken man a turn off. I don't find them "extra exciting" either. I really do like the fact I can give them the fuck back as I don't want to keep them! "Indeed it takes a lot away from the clingy issue. I fuck girls with boyfriend's but I wouldn't marry one | |||
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