FabSwingers.com forum: Do you think people take advantage of you?

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37 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Probably

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By *olinOfBathMan
37 weeks ago

Corsham

Constantly.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Yes. But I don’t always mind. If I’m aware and I allow it, it’s on me not them.

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By *iasubTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Ilkeston

More than likely

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
37 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

Question really should be, why do you let people take advantage......

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Not anymore. Its a benefit of being antisocial

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By (user no longer on site) OP
37 weeks ago

"Question really should be, why do you let people take advantage......

Mr "

For my next thread, I will…

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
37 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

"Question really should be, why do you let people take advantage......

For my next thread, I will…"

Happy days then....

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

They used to when I was younger. I'm now older and wiser and say NO more often

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Yes but I allow it because they mean a lot to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Yes but I allow it because they mean a lot to me. "

I’d let you take advantage of me…..

* someone else is going to say it.

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
37 weeks ago

Markfield

"Yes. But I don’t always mind. If I’m aware and I allow it, it’s on me not them. "

I’m pretty much along these lines too

I don’t feel like it’s a fab thing, only a “regular” life thing. Usually due to me being over ambitious with my friendship trust compass.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
37 weeks ago

Stratford

Yes but it’s cool because it says more about them than me

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By *irthandgirthMan
37 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

Some have mistaken my kindness for weakness and have found that there are limits to my generosity.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I do lots of things for other people but I choose to do it so that’s not being taken advantage of. I wouldn’t let anyone take advantage of me

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By *rHotNottsMan
37 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

No. I’m generous with people I care about, its my choice & they don’t ask. A few try too but I spot them v easily.

I also can be demanding in return and will never say someone’s No for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Yes but I allow it because they mean a lot to me.

I’d let you take advantage of me…..

* someone else is going to say it. "

Woody

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By *ellinever70Woman
37 weeks ago

Ayrshire

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Used to a lot in my 20s but soon learnt to show kindness where due

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By *ntrigued888Woman
37 weeks ago

Beds

Unfortunately yes, I always see the good in people and give 2nd chances when I shouldn't.

I'm trying to toughen up

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Yes.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
37 weeks ago

chichester

No as I am extremely blunt and harsh

in general mannerisms

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By *avexxMan
37 weeks ago

cheshire

may have done when i was younger,, not now much wiser and older

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Yes but I allow it because they mean a lot to me.

I’d let you take advantage of me…..

* someone else is going to say it.

Woody

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Yes

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
37 weeks ago

North West

Sometimes yes.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
37 weeks ago

Reading

Yes but not to a harmful degree

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
37 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

Absolutely not

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I am so aware of how easily I am taken advantage of now that I rarely let anyone get close to me - especially physically… It’s one of the things about my autism that drives me fucking insane BUT I’ve had to learn to accept it - I’m not good at boundaries in real life so I have to protect myself before I get there.

Years of therapy has helped me accept it but I doubt I’ll ever be able to stop it happening. I’ve accepted it though - I have LET people take advantage of me rather than them just doing it but it’s not actually my fault - it’s my brains - technically hehe

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By *sWyldWoman
37 weeks ago

Edinburgh

They definitely used to but not anymore

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By *ddie1966Man
37 weeks ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

I try my best to be a polite, kind and generous person. Some mistake this as being taken advantage of.

They couldn't be further from the truth.

If I say no, I mean NO!

Push it and I'll always push back harder.

Keep pushing and the friendship ends.

Full stop.

Am I bad for my attitude ?

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By *eliWoman
37 weeks ago

Sometimes yes. I'm quite soft, forgive easily and care deeply. I don't want to change those parts of me though, harden up through cynicism and life. So I accept that it *could* potentially happen and hope it doesn't. Have hope in people.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
37 weeks ago

Leeds

Not often I know a dodgy cunt when I see one, but I have been fooled once or twice.

The mr

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By *emidemiWoman
37 weeks ago

basingstoke

Yes. I’m a people pleaser and just don’t know how to say no, and people abuse that.

Although my New Year’s resolution was to get better at setting boundaries with it, and I think I’m doing well..

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By *rystal DreamtimeTV/TS
37 weeks ago

horsham

Hell yeah !! Mostly my kind a generous nature and the fact I’ve got a huge cock and an asshole that can’t take it up to the brim … means they are all knocking in my door … NOT !!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
37 weeks ago

Leeds

Yes I'm a people pleaser, I'm way too soft but I allow it so it's my own fault.

Mrs

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
37 weeks ago

Basingstoke

People actually have to communicate with you for that to happen. So no, I don't get taken advantage of.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
37 weeks ago

East Sussex

Nope

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By *andynecklaceWoman
37 weeks ago

West Brom

Yeah definitely

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"Yes. But I don’t always mind. If I’m aware and I allow it, it’s on me not them. "

You are gorgeous x

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
37 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I think less people succeed than those who try.

But also I know more people succeed than I would like

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

I think with age it becomes easier to spot the people more likely to try

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"I think with age it becomes easier to spot the people more likely to try"

We tolerate less too.

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By *ad NannaWoman
37 weeks ago

East London

Do you want to?

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
37 weeks ago

kent

In the past, yes. I’ve been blatantly used. These days, not a chance. Lessons learned Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Not anymore. I used to tolerate far too much bad behaviour from people in the past.

I now have a great circle of family and friends.

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By *929Man
37 weeks ago

newcastle

Was just on about this the other day saying I wish I was useless and broke so had fuck all to offer people haha. Being the handy one out of all my mates is such a fucking curse

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Do you think people do that to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Depends.

Work always.

Yes... Friends sure at times love them taking advantage of my skills

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

"I think with age it becomes easier to spot the people more likely to try

We tolerate less too. "

Modt definitely - or rather perhaps we recognise our own value

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By *elboy1978Man
37 weeks ago

Fellgate

Yes people take advantage of me to get what they want then ignore me

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
37 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I'm a very generous person but wouldn't let anyone take advantage of me

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By *ellhungvweMan
37 weeks ago

Cheltenham

If someone is taking the piss then I will call them out on it. Life is too short to be a doormat.

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By *rill PhilMan
37 weeks ago

Crediton

Definitely.

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By *merican WomanWoman
37 weeks ago

live by the Pool xx

I get spotted on here. They think they could take advantage. They are so wrong lol

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