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By *arkside007 OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Chesterfield

Was chatting for a few days with a lady and all was going ok then out of the blue BLOCKED.

Is it me or would a no thanks your not for me suffice rather than an instant block?

I know many women complain about women getting pestered and men not taking a no as no but just blocking without reason after chatting for a while I feel is rude

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

I once went into the paper shop and bought papers for a few days. God I loved that man ..

Then when I went one sunday morning it was shut for good! I couldn't get in....... I was fucking devastated. The least he could have said was thanks for buying a paper is it okay if I close my shop up ?

Some people . ffs...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

37 weeks ago

East Sussex

You felt it was going ok, maybe she didn't.

Sorry you feel it was rude of her to block you perhaps it's an indication that the two of you aren't compatible

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

People are cunts. The sooner everyone realises this the better.

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By *arkside007 OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Chesterfield


"You felt it was going ok, maybe she didn't.

Sorry you feel it was rude of her to block you perhaps it's an indication that the two of you aren't compatible "

I was brought up with manners maybe I’m different lol

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
37 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I'm sure if she sees the little public foot stomping about it she will immediately unblock you and apologise. It certainly won't confirm that blocking was the right choice

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
37 weeks ago

Basingstoke


"You felt it was going ok, maybe she didn't.

Sorry you feel it was rude of her to block you perhaps it's an indication that the two of you aren't compatible

I was brought up with manners maybe I’m different lol"

If you're in a pub chatting with someone and the conversation moves on and you both move away to talk to other people, do your manners mean you'll seek that person out to wish them goodbye before you leave? Or to say thanks for chatting earlier, but I don't think we'll chat again if we see each other in here in the future?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
37 weeks ago

Leeds

Saves the messages afterwards asking why not, what if and the general abuse when you say not for me.

Think of it as time saved chatting to someone you weren't compatible with.

Mrs

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
37 weeks ago

in Lancashire


"People are cunts. The sooner everyone realises this the better. "

Some are indeed, not all though..

Hold on to the latter..

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By *iasubTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Ilkeston

No one owes anyone a message and they can stop at any time whether is a block or a no thank you. I often when people give off red flags

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"People are cunts. The sooner everyone realises this the better. "

Would those be the ones that don't revolve their lives and behaviours around people they don't know or the ones that built their hopes on shifting fanny ?

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"You felt it was going ok, maybe she didn't.

Sorry you feel it was rude of her to block you perhaps it's an indication that the two of you aren't compatible

I was brought up with manners maybe I’m different lol

If you're in a pub chatting with someone and the conversation moves on and you both move away to talk to other people, do your manners mean you'll seek that person out to wish them goodbye before you leave? Or to say thanks for chatting earlier, but I don't think we'll chat again if we see each other in here in the future?"

Classic straw man.

His good manners may bring him to raise his hand in farewell at said person. Or a friendly nod of the head on the way out if they catch his eye.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"You felt it was going ok, maybe she didn't.

Sorry you feel it was rude of her to block you perhaps it's an indication that the two of you aren't compatible

I was brought up with manners maybe I’m different lol

If you're in a pub chatting with someone and the conversation moves on and you both move away to talk to other people, do your manners mean you'll seek that person out to wish them goodbye before you leave? Or to say thanks for chatting earlier, but I don't think we'll chat again if we see each other in here in the future?

Classic straw man.

His good manners may bring him to raise his hand in farewell at said person. Or a friendly nod of the head on the way out if they catch his eye.

"

You can't call out a straw man with a straw man.

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By *arkside007 OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Chesterfield


"You felt it was going ok, maybe she didn't.

Sorry you feel it was rude of her to block you perhaps it's an indication that the two of you aren't compatible

I was brought up with manners maybe I’m different lol

If you're in a pub chatting with someone and the conversation moves on and you both move away to talk to other people, do your manners mean you'll seek that person out to wish them goodbye before you leave? Or to say thanks for chatting earlier, but I don't think we'll chat again if we see each other in here in the future?

Classic straw man.

His good manners may bring him to raise his hand in farewell at said person. Or a friendly nod of the head on the way out if they catch his eye.

"

Exactly I must be in the minority

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

It wasn't a straw man in any case to my mind.... twas more an analogy.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
37 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"You can't call out a straw man with a straw man."

Can and will

Gods bless the Internet.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"You can't call out a straw man with a straw man.

Can and will

Gods bless the Internet."

All hallowed be her frame.

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
37 weeks ago

London or Bedford

I feel ya.

But their are no rules saying we have to be polite or even courteous.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

37 weeks ago

East Sussex


"You felt it was going ok, maybe she didn't.

Sorry you feel it was rude of her to block you perhaps it's an indication that the two of you aren't compatible

I was brought up with manners maybe I’m different lol

If you're in a pub chatting with someone and the conversation moves on and you both move away to talk to other people, do your manners mean you'll seek that person out to wish them goodbye before you leave? Or to say thanks for chatting earlier, but I don't think we'll chat again if we see each other in here in the future?

Classic straw man.

His good manners may bring him to raise his hand in farewell at said person. Or a friendly nod of the head on the way out if they catch his eye.

Exactly I must be in the minority "

You really aren't in the minority, there are very many people on this website with good manners.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"You felt it was going ok, maybe she didn't.

Sorry you feel it was rude of her to block you perhaps it's an indication that the two of you aren't compatible

I was brought up with manners maybe I’m different lol

If you're in a pub chatting with someone and the conversation moves on and you both move away to talk to other people, do your manners mean you'll seek that person out to wish them goodbye before you leave? Or to say thanks for chatting earlier, but I don't think we'll chat again if we see each other in here in the future?

Classic straw man.

His good manners may bring him to raise his hand in farewell at said person. Or a friendly nod of the head on the way out if they catch his eye.

You can't call out a straw man with a straw man."

They exaggerated to make a point. And misrepresented what the op was trying to say.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

Thank you. I'd like to give joyous cheer to Nicecouple's recognition of the majority of FAB users Netiquette..... all of mine hang on every wall.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"It wasn't a straw man in any case to my mind.... twas more an analogy."

It could be both. Methinks

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"You felt it was going ok, maybe she didn't.

Sorry you feel it was rude of her to block you perhaps it's an indication that the two of you aren't compatible

I was brought up with manners maybe I’m different lol

If you're in a pub chatting with someone and the conversation moves on and you both move away to talk to other people, do your manners mean you'll seek that person out to wish them goodbye before you leave? Or to say thanks for chatting earlier, but I don't think we'll chat again if we see each other in here in the future?

Classic straw man.

His good manners may bring him to raise his hand in farewell at said person. Or a friendly nod of the head on the way out if they catch his eye.

You can't call out a straw man with a straw man.

They exaggerated to make a point. And misrepresented what the op was trying to say. "

No. It was a good analogy designed to provide comparison and provoke thought. It really wasn't a straw man.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

There's always a reason, one person's great conversation is another person's nightmare. People are hard to read over messages and miscommunication happens very easily. Whilst it's the better thing to communicate rather than ghost, some people don't want or need the confrontation or explanation. You can't control what others do, just move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

If I send a message and its read I usually block them after a week if I don't receive a reply

I block them not because I'm upset that they haven't replied, I block them as I'm not for them.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"It wasn't a straw man in any case to my mind.... twas more an analogy.

It could be both. Methinks

"

Methinks onest wilst readeth it onest moreth and redecideth .....

butteth i'm pretty sureth i'll thill stink it's an analogy

Desist in letting go one moment whilst I check.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
37 weeks ago

Essex

Blocking isnt always rude. Sometimes it just stops you accidentally starting g a conversation up again with someone that for whatever reason you changed your mind about. It could be looks, a certain kink, something they said that set your spidey sense off….

Because sometimes you forget.

It’s also quite difficult sometimes to say - I just find you unattractive/boring/creepy…

We are, after all, just strangers on the internet.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

37 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Thank you. I'd like to give joyous cheer to Nicecouple's recognition of the majority of FAB users Netiquette..... all of mine hang on every wall."

I can't display mine, we're not allowed to stick stuff up with blu tack in here and they keep the hammer and nails away from me since ...well since 'you know what happened to you know who'

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

Done...... Pretty good analogy.

I'd prove it line by line but ...... Jesus .... I'd sooner not.

Anyway ..... im firm on that now.

No WAY Jose is it a straw person.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"Thank you. I'd like to give joyous cheer to Nicecouple's recognition of the majority of FAB users Netiquette..... all of mine hang on every wall.

I can't display mine, we're not allowed to stick stuff up with blu tack in here and they keep the hammer and nails away from me since ...well since 'you know what happened to you know who'"

I do ..... luckily I still have three fingers on one hand....

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By *uliette500Woman
37 weeks ago

Hull


"Was chatting for a few days with a lady and all was going ok then out of the blue BLOCKED.

Is it me or would a no thanks your not for me suffice rather than an instant block?

I know many women complain about women getting pestered and men not taking a no as no but just blocking without reason after chatting for a while I feel is rude "

Because a 'sorry not for me' normally leads to a 'why?' if we give reasons it leads to the guy trying to convince us we are wrong, if we keep saying no it leads to abuse.

Yes you may not be like that but we learn from experience on here that a lot of men are.

Blocking saves us from the abuse which, even though we know it's not true can still be upsetting to read.

Its amazing on here how fast you can go from the perfect person for to an ugly fat cow just for saying no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"You felt it was going ok, maybe she didn't.

Sorry you feel it was rude of her to block you perhaps it's an indication that the two of you aren't compatible

I was brought up with manners maybe I’m different lol

If you're in a pub chatting with someone and the conversation moves on and you both move away to talk to other people, do your manners mean you'll seek that person out to wish them goodbye before you leave? Or to say thanks for chatting earlier, but I don't think we'll chat again if we see each other in here in the future?

Classic straw man.

His good manners may bring him to raise his hand in farewell at said person. Or a friendly nod of the head on the way out if they catch his eye.

You can't call out a straw man with a straw man.

They exaggerated to make a point. And misrepresented what the op was trying to say.

No. It was a good analogy designed to provide comparison and provoke thought. It really wasn't a straw man."

Maybe the analogy was specious. And was trying to make out that the op is not allowed to be aggrieved by rude behaviour, by exaggerating. It’s obvious nobody would do that. Chase someone around a pub. But if they had good manners they might discreetly acknowledge the other person before they left.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"You felt it was going ok, maybe she didn't.

Sorry you feel it was rude of her to block you perhaps it's an indication that the two of you aren't compatible

I was brought up with manners maybe I’m different lol

If you're in a pub chatting with someone and the conversation moves on and you both move away to talk to other people, do your manners mean you'll seek that person out to wish them goodbye before you leave? Or to say thanks for chatting earlier, but I don't think we'll chat again if we see each other in here in the future?

Classic straw man.

His good manners may bring him to raise his hand in farewell at said person. Or a friendly nod of the head on the way out if they catch his eye.

You can't call out a straw man with a straw man.

They exaggerated to make a point. And misrepresented what the op was trying to say.

No. It was a good analogy designed to provide comparison and provoke thought. It really wasn't a straw man.

Maybe the analogy was specious. And was trying to make out that the op is not allowed to be aggrieved by rude behaviour, by exaggerating. It’s obvious nobody would do that. Chase someone around a pub. But if they had good manners they might discreetly acknowledge the other person before they left. "

and maybe it was just an EXCELLENT analogy designed to illuminate rather than obfuscate by layering up with opinions , points of view and maybes.

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By *emini58Woman
37 weeks ago

Central belt

Happens to us all....I was chatting to a guy on here seemed nice..met for coffee and a chat, thanked him for the coffee came home. Sent message once again thanking him for coffee but politely said sorry no thanks ...blocked by him...some can't take being rejected

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By *ou only live onceMan
37 weeks ago

London


"You felt it was going ok, maybe she didn't.

Sorry you feel it was rude of her to block you perhaps it's an indication that the two of you aren't compatible

I was brought up with manners maybe I’m different lol

If you're in a pub chatting with someone and the conversation moves on and you both move away to talk to other people, do your manners mean you'll seek that person out to wish them goodbye before you leave? Or to say thanks for chatting earlier, but I don't think we'll chat again if we see each other in here in the future?

Classic straw man.

His good manners may bring him to raise his hand in farewell at said person. Or a friendly nod of the head on the way out if they catch his eye.

You can't call out a straw man with a straw man.

They exaggerated to make a point. And misrepresented what the op was trying to say.

No. It was a good analogy designed to provide comparison and provoke thought. It really wasn't a straw man.

Maybe the analogy was specious. And was trying to make out that the op is not allowed to be aggrieved by rude behaviour, by exaggerating. It’s obvious nobody would do that. Chase someone around a pub. But if they had good manners they might discreetly acknowledge the other person before they left. "

This is so weird. If you were trying to "chat someone up" in a pub and they gave you the brush off, they don't then acknowledge you on the way out. Nothing to do with manners!

I didn't think it was a straw man, but made a point about how people say they are not interested. IRL, body language would play a huge part, which we don't have here.

What would the pre-block message say? "I think you're a dick and don't want to chat anymore"? How is that better? I appreciate being blocked stings a bit - we've all been there - but don't think it's got anything to do with manners.

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By *elshcouple18Couple
37 weeks ago

Cardiff

Not rude, maybe she felt there was no connection, and just decided you weren't for her? If you can't take that kind of rejection, maybe this site isn't for you? Happens to us, we just move on, and don't think anything of it..

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"You felt it was going ok, maybe she didn't.

Sorry you feel it was rude of her to block you perhaps it's an indication that the two of you aren't compatible

I was brought up with manners maybe I’m different lol

If you're in a pub chatting with someone and the conversation moves on and you both move away to talk to other people, do your manners mean you'll seek that person out to wish them goodbye before you leave? Or to say thanks for chatting earlier, but I don't think we'll chat again if we see each other in here in the future?

Classic straw man.

His good manners may bring him to raise his hand in farewell at said person. Or a friendly nod of the head on the way out if they catch his eye.

You can't call out a straw man with a straw man.

They exaggerated to make a point. And misrepresented what the op was trying to say.

No. It was a good analogy designed to provide comparison and provoke thought. It really wasn't a straw man.

Maybe the analogy was specious. And was trying to make out that the op is not allowed to be aggrieved by rude behaviour, by exaggerating. It’s obvious nobody would do that. Chase someone around a pub. But if they had good manners they might discreetly acknowledge the other person before they left.

and maybe it was just an EXCELLENT analogy designed to illuminate rather than obfuscate by layering up with opinions , points of view and maybes. "

The Op is entitled to his opinion. Right or wrong. He doesn’t need to be bullied with pseudo intellectual cuntwaffle.

They made out he wanted to hound the person who blocked him. Chase after them. Make them feel uncomfortable

When he said he would like a polite no thank you. That’s all.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"You felt it was going ok, maybe she didn't.

Sorry you feel it was rude of her to block you perhaps it's an indication that the two of you aren't compatible

I was brought up with manners maybe I’m different lol

If you're in a pub chatting with someone and the conversation moves on and you both move away to talk to other people, do your manners mean you'll seek that person out to wish them goodbye before you leave? Or to say thanks for chatting earlier, but I don't think we'll chat again if we see each other in here in the future?

Classic straw man.

His good manners may bring him to raise his hand in farewell at said person. Or a friendly nod of the head on the way out if they catch his eye.

You can't call out a straw man with a straw man.

They exaggerated to make a point. And misrepresented what the op was trying to say.

No. It was a good analogy designed to provide comparison and provoke thought. It really wasn't a straw man.

Maybe the analogy was specious. And was trying to make out that the op is not allowed to be aggrieved by rude behaviour, by exaggerating. It’s obvious nobody would do that. Chase someone around a pub. But if they had good manners they might discreetly acknowledge the other person before they left.

This is so weird. If you were trying to "chat someone up" in a pub and they gave you the brush off, they don't then acknowledge you on the way out. Nothing to do with manners!

I didn't think it was a straw man, but made a point about how people say they are not interested. IRL, body language would play a huge part, which we don't have here.

What would the pre-block message say? "I think you're a dick and don't want to chat anymore"? How is that better? I appreciate being blocked stings a bit - we've all been there - but don't think it's got anything to do with manners."

Nowhere does it say “chatting someone up “. Chat with someone maybe.

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By *arkside007 OP   Man
37 weeks ago

Chesterfield

I can take rejection just a no thanks is suffice weall arnt idiots who get abusive at a no as I said men and women have a right to say no and leave it at that

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By *iasubTV/TS
37 weeks ago

Ilkeston


"You felt it was going ok, maybe she didn't.

Sorry you feel it was rude of her to block you perhaps it's an indication that the two of you aren't compatible

I was brought up with manners maybe I’m different lol

If you're in a pub chatting with someone and the conversation moves on and you both move away to talk to other people, do your manners mean you'll seek that person out to wish them goodbye before you leave? Or to say thanks for chatting earlier, but I don't think we'll chat again if we see each other in here in the future?

Classic straw man.

His good manners may bring him to raise his hand in farewell at said person. Or a friendly nod of the head on the way out if they catch his eye.

You can't call out a straw man with a straw man.

They exaggerated to make a point. And misrepresented what the op was trying to say.

No. It was a good analogy designed to provide comparison and provoke thought. It really wasn't a straw man.

Maybe the analogy was specious. And was trying to make out that the op is not allowed to be aggrieved by rude behaviour, by exaggerating. It’s obvious nobody would do that. Chase someone around a pub. But if they had good manners they might discreetly acknowledge the other person before they left.

and maybe it was just an EXCELLENT analogy designed to illuminate rather than obfuscate by layering up with opinions , points of view and maybes.

The Op is entitled to his opinion. Right or wrong. He doesn’t need to be bullied with pseudo intellectual cuntwaffle.

They made out he wanted to hound the person who blocked him. Chase after them. Make them feel uncomfortable

When he said he would like a polite no thank you. That’s all. "

Mine and probably the vast majorities experience is that it never ends at just a no thank you so blocking is far easier

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"Was chatting for a few days with a lady and all was going ok then out of the blue BLOCKED.

Is it me or would a no thanks your not for me suffice rather than an instant block?

I know many women complain about women getting pestered and men not taking a no as no but just blocking without reason after chatting for a while I feel is rude "

Had the same thing a few times. Shit happens just gotta move on and start again mate

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"You felt it was going ok, maybe she didn't.

Sorry you feel it was rude of her to block you perhaps it's an indication that the two of you aren't compatible

I was brought up with manners maybe I’m different lol

If you're in a pub chatting with someone and the conversation moves on and you both move away to talk to other people, do your manners mean you'll seek that person out to wish them goodbye before you leave? Or to say thanks for chatting earlier, but I don't think we'll chat again if we see each other in here in the future?

Classic straw man.

His good manners may bring him to raise his hand in farewell at said person. Or a friendly nod of the head on the way out if they catch his eye.

You can't call out a straw man with a straw man.

They exaggerated to make a point. And misrepresented what the op was trying to say.

No. It was a good analogy designed to provide comparison and provoke thought. It really wasn't a straw man.

Maybe the analogy was specious. And was trying to make out that the op is not allowed to be aggrieved by rude behaviour, by exaggerating. It’s obvious nobody would do that. Chase someone around a pub. But if they had good manners they might discreetly acknowledge the other person before they left.

and maybe it was just an EXCELLENT analogy designed to illuminate rather than obfuscate by layering up with opinions , points of view and maybes.

The Op is entitled to his opinion. Right or wrong. He doesn’t need to be bullied with pseudo intellectual cuntwaffle.

They made out he wanted to hound the person who blocked him. Chase after them. Make them feel uncomfortable

When he said he would like a polite no thank you. That’s all.

Mine and probably the vast majorities experience is that it never ends at just a no thank you so blocking is far easier "

Well, that’s fair enough. I didn’t think about that to be honest. I don’t get many people bombarding me with messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

Over the last 10 years, I've been ghosted, blocked and ignored more times than I care to count by people I've been chatting with and met (more than once).

You just keep going and try not to think about it too much. It's just part of the game and the rules are dirty.

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By *ou only live onceMan
37 weeks ago

London


"You felt it was going ok, maybe she didn't.

Sorry you feel it was rude of her to block you perhaps it's an indication that the two of you aren't compatible

I was brought up with manners maybe I’m different lol

If you're in a pub chatting with someone and the conversation moves on and you both move away to talk to other people, do your manners mean you'll seek that person out to wish them goodbye before you leave? Or to say thanks for chatting earlier, but I don't think we'll chat again if we see each other in here in the future?

Classic straw man.

His good manners may bring him to raise his hand in farewell at said person. Or a friendly nod of the head on the way out if they catch his eye.

You can't call out a straw man with a straw man.

They exaggerated to make a point. And misrepresented what the op was trying to say.

No. It was a good analogy designed to provide comparison and provoke thought. It really wasn't a straw man.

Maybe the analogy was specious. And was trying to make out that the op is not allowed to be aggrieved by rude behaviour, by exaggerating. It’s obvious nobody would do that. Chase someone around a pub. But if they had good manners they might discreetly acknowledge the other person before they left.

This is so weird. If you were trying to "chat someone up" in a pub and they gave you the brush off, they don't then acknowledge you on the way out. Nothing to do with manners!

I didn't think it was a straw man, but made a point about how people say they are not interested. IRL, body language would play a huge part, which we don't have here.

What would the pre-block message say? "I think you're a dick and don't want to chat anymore"? How is that better? I appreciate being blocked stings a bit - we've all been there - but don't think it's got anything to do with manners.

Nowhere does it say “chatting someone up “. Chat with someone maybe. "

No, you're right - it was an inference, but a poor choice of phrase.

I assume the chat on here was in view to meeting, and perhaps in view to doing The Sex. That is, working out if they liked each other, in the same way you might chat to someone in a bar and ask for someone's number.

But either way, and even if just chatting about the weather, I don't think people acknowledge strangers on the way out of a pub if they don't like them. And the blocking to real life analogy is that she decided she didn't like him. You don't need to explain why, frustrating as that may feel on the receiving end.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

If I don't block at least 3 people per day.....I've failed!

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago

God, so serious in here

Out!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"You felt it was going ok, maybe she didn't.

Sorry you feel it was rude of her to block you perhaps it's an indication that the two of you aren't compatible

I was brought up with manners maybe I’m different lol

If you're in a pub chatting with someone and the conversation moves on and you both move away to talk to other people, do your manners mean you'll seek that person out to wish them goodbye before you leave? Or to say thanks for chatting earlier, but I don't think we'll chat again if we see each other in here in the future?

Classic straw man.

His good manners may bring him to raise his hand in farewell at said person. Or a friendly nod of the head on the way out if they catch his eye.

You can't call out a straw man with a straw man.

They exaggerated to make a point. And misrepresented what the op was trying to say.

No. It was a good analogy designed to provide comparison and provoke thought. It really wasn't a straw man.

Maybe the analogy was specious. And was trying to make out that the op is not allowed to be aggrieved by rude behaviour, by exaggerating. It’s obvious nobody would do that. Chase someone around a pub. But if they had good manners they might discreetly acknowledge the other person before they left.

This is so weird. If you were trying to "chat someone up" in a pub and they gave you the brush off, they don't then acknowledge you on the way out. Nothing to do with manners!

I didn't think it was a straw man, but made a point about how people say they are not interested. IRL, body language would play a huge part, which we don't have here.

What would the pre-block message say? "I think you're a dick and don't want to chat anymore"? How is that better? I appreciate being blocked stings a bit - we've all been there - but don't think it's got anything to do with manners.

Nowhere does it say “chatting someone up “. Chat with someone maybe.

No, you're right - it was an inference, but a poor choice of phrase.

I assume the chat on here was in view to meeting, and perhaps in view to doing The Sex. That is, working out if they liked each other, in the same way you might chat to someone in a bar and ask for someone's number.

But either way, and even if just chatting about the weather, I don't think people acknowledge strangers on the way out of a pub if they don't like them. And the blocking to real life analogy is that she decided she didn't like him. You don't need to explain why, frustrating as that may feel on the receiving end."

I didn’t get that from the analogy. I often strike up conversations in pubs with strangers. Usually they come to a dead end. There was no inference of asking for numbers. It just said you are chatting to someone. That’s where my straw man accusation came from. It has nothing to do with what the op was saying. And trying to take what he said and turn it into something else.

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By *aizyWoman
37 weeks ago

west midlands


"God, so serious in here

Out!!!!"

Blocking is a serious business DF, its not all cakes and candles you know!

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37 weeks ago

I’m blocking myself from the forums.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"I’m blocking myself from the forums. "

Oh now don't do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"I’m blocking myself from the forums.

Oh now don't do that. "

It’s for the best. I don’t stand a chance with the profundity and articulation of the users of this forum.

I left school at 14. I preferred going fishing.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"God, so serious in here

Out!!!!

Blocking is a serious business DF, its not all cakes and candles you know!"

Well it should be wasted energy otherwise!!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"I’m blocking myself from the forums.

Oh now don't do that.

It’s for the best. I don’t stand a chance with the profundity and articulation of the users of this forum.

I left school at 14. I preferred going fishing. "

Oh now stop it with the cuntwaffle. You're being a bit stickleback when you are so obviously more rainbow trout....

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"I’m blocking myself from the forums.

Oh now don't do that.

It’s for the best. I don’t stand a chance with the profundity and articulation of the users of this forum.

I left school at 14. I preferred going fishing.

Oh now stop it with the cuntwaffle. You're being a bit stickleback when you are so obviously more rainbow trout...."

I’m actually serious. I’m one of those pseudo intellectuals.

You certainly fell for it.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
37 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"I’m blocking myself from the forums.

Oh now don't do that.

It’s for the best. I don’t stand a chance with the profundity and articulation of the users of this forum.

I left school at 14. I preferred going fishing.

Oh now stop it with the cuntwaffle. You're being a bit stickleback when you are so obviously more rainbow trout....

I’m actually serious. I’m one of those pseudo intellectuals.

You certainly fell for it. "

I certainly didn't.

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By *lueLotusWoman
37 weeks ago

the wilderness

A block is just another way of saying no thanks. You can train yourself not to take it personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
37 weeks ago


"I’m blocking myself from the forums.

Oh now don't do that.

It’s for the best. I don’t stand a chance with the profundity and articulation of the users of this forum.

I left school at 14. I preferred going fishing.

Oh now stop it with the cuntwaffle. You're being a bit stickleback when you are so obviously more rainbow trout....

I’m actually serious. I’m one of those pseudo intellectuals.

You certainly fell for it.

I certainly didn't. "

Well done. I need to go back to work now. Those nuclear reactors don’t look after themselves.

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