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"Here I am 100% me as are YOU , yet you don't realise it. In 'reality' or face to face or social setting we present a configuration of ourselves our social mask if you like. Here, part of you comes out that you may not use in social settings with people you are not yet on intimate terms with BUT it is none the less 100% YOU. e.g. someone cannot feign using intellectual ideas / language / humour/ being physically attractive ( AI excepted ) if it is not already part of them. So at times being here may be a certain configuration or a partial you but it is none the less YOU . In simple terms we see sides... and it's no different here than it is in reality. The problem arises only if in 'talks' you make promises that are not likely to arise in reality. I'm not into FAKE shouts all the time. That makes me feel the shouter is a pretty myopic being. " I agree Granny | |||
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"Here I am 100% me as are YOU , yet you don't realise it. In 'reality' or face to face or social setting we present a configuration of ourselves our social mask if you like. Here, part of you comes out that you may not use in social settings with people you are not yet on intimate terms with BUT it is none the less 100% YOU. e.g. someone cannot feign using intellectual ideas / language / humour/ being physically attractive ( AI excepted ) if it is not already part of them. So at times being here may be a certain configuration or a partial you but it is none the less YOU . In simple terms we see sides... and it's no different here than it is in reality. The problem arises only if in 'talks' you make promises that are not likely to arise in reality. I'm not into FAKE shouts all the time. That makes me feel the shouter is a pretty myopic being. " Unless the person in question presents with a mental health disorder. | |||
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"I mostly agree with what Granny said." I think she was just rambling again, you can tell when she hasn’t taken her medication. | |||
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"I mostly agree with what Granny said. I think she was just rambling again, you can tell when she hasn’t taken her medication. " Was she. Poor dear. I think she's missing her walk. I still agree with her way of thinking tho ..... | |||
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"I'm not sure if there is an actual fantasy version of me but that would obviously be for others to say. My fab persona is as close as it's possible to get to reality (pun intended). I'm not confrontational by nature so I'm probably a little quicker off the mark on here when challenging others than I would normally be but the everyday me still doesn't stand idly by. The fab version of me is just as approachable and relatable as the real version and that is proven by the fact I haven't sent a single first contact message in more than 4 years and yet I've still managed to have lots of conversations in that time with women who like what they see and what they read. The general consensus when they get in touch is that they like the fact I don't shower people with false praise or follow the herd. Anyone who has ever met me through fab can confirm that I am no different in person. " As often happens I post and then think of something to add. I don't do other forms of social media so this is the only platform where I engage with others. I may have nude pics on here but I don't believe I'm giving anyone a false impression because I'm not a very sexual person generally. I don't talk about sex and I don't have fantasies and that is all reflected in my bio and forum engagement. The nude pics are simply an expression of me as an almost 60 year old man who isn't trying to create a fantasy image but rather showing a little pride in how I believe I look for my age. Obviously I can't do that anywhere else so this is just an outlet for that expression and not done for shallow validation. | |||
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"I know for sure that i cannot possibly live up to the fantasy that some people have already built in their minds and in honesty that puts me off ever meeting them as i feel they would be disappointed, even though its their projection not mine I reality I'm quite shy, but probably come across as friendlier and more approachable than in my forum responses and profile" You’re such a warm & inviting person in reality. I felt instantly comfortable. And obviously you’re gorgeous, but we all knew that xx | |||
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"I used to be concerned that I was a catfish. I don’t use filters, but as HC said - pick the most flattering pictures. I’ve been assured I’m the same in the flesh so that’s all good. I’m 100% honest here, but perhaps in person I’m a little more ebullient. Definitely more awkward. It just depends what situation you have me in. And how we get along. " You're wickedly funny and you have cute eyes and buns | |||
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"I know for sure that i cannot possibly live up to the fantasy that some people have already built in their minds and in honesty that puts me off ever meeting them as i feel they would be disappointed, even though its their projection not mine I reality I'm quite shy, but probably come across as friendlier and more approachable than in my forum responses and profile You’re such a warm & inviting person in reality. I felt instantly comfortable. And obviously you’re gorgeous, but we all knew that xx" | |||
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"…… So my question is, do you feel the fantasy of you is different to the reality of you? " Absolutely. | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 10/03/24 09:47:19] I saw that " I can't even remember what it said Don't remind me either x | |||
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"[Removed by poster at 10/03/24 09:47:19] I saw that I can't even remember what it said Don't remind me either x" I remember now !!! | |||
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"Following on from Pickles 'Better in Person "thread. My answer was no. Mostly because on here, behind a screen, filtered and staged pictures, we can all become a different version of ourselves. It's one of the reasons I keep returning to Fab. I like to be that part of me, that in every day life I'm not. So I'm always worried when I meet people that the reality of me might be too different or a bit of a let down. That doesn't mean I'm deceiving anyone, it is just different, more ordinary I guess. So my question is, do you feel the fantasy of you is different to the reality of you? " I genuinely can’t imagine anyone having a fantasy version of me! I’m just the bloke off the internet. As I alluded in my ‘Pickles post’, I worry people may think I’m as erudite in person when I clearly won’t be. As for meeting others, I’m terrible for allowing my brain to film in the blanks using idealised parameters. If their pictures are teasers in which I can’t see their face, my brain will build the remainder of that picture for me. And I’m always wrong. Same with personality. But that’s on me and isn’t a fantasy of you, it’s based on a mental projection. | |||
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" As for meeting others, I’m terrible for allowing my brain to film in the blanks using idealised parameters. If their pictures are teasers in which I can’t see their face, my brain will build the remainder of that picture for me. And I’m always wrong. Same with personality. But that’s on me and isn’t a fantasy of you, it’s based on a mental projection." Why let yourself do that though? I can't imagine a scenario where you would ever correctly picture someone based on their body!? So you will continually be disappointed on meeting them?! | |||
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" As for meeting others, I’m terrible for allowing my brain to film in the blanks using idealised parameters. If their pictures are teasers in which I can’t see their face, my brain will build the remainder of that picture for me. And I’m always wrong. Same with personality. But that’s on me and isn’t a fantasy of you, it’s based on a mental projection. Why let yourself do that though? I can't imagine a scenario where you would ever correctly picture someone based on their body!? So you will continually be disappointed on meeting them?! " You are absolutely right, it’s daft and I’ll never be right. I don’t know why I do it - it’s not a conscious thought process. That being said I can’t consciously make myself not do it. Importantly, it is rare for me to be disappointed. Someone’s face may look different from how I pictured it, but there’s every chance I’ll still be attracted. Not least because personality goes a long way for me | |||
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"Midnight. You’d better be as I expect. If you turn out to be a 50yr old guy, I’m never speaking to you again. " Err well as you thought i was in my 30s i can't see how its going to go well lol !! Ok lets set expectations... I'm short, dumpy, with greasy hair and lots of body hair... Oh and I'm OLD Woody.. OLD!! | |||
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"Midnight. You’d better be as I expect. If you turn out to be a 50yr old guy, I’m never speaking to you again. Err well as you thought i was in my 30s i can't see how its going to go well lol !! Ok lets set expectations... I'm short, dumpy, with greasy hair and lots of body hair... Oh and I'm OLD Woody.. OLD!! " You forgot to mention the monobrow! J | |||
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"Midnight. You’d better be as I expect. If you turn out to be a 50yr old guy, I’m never speaking to you again. Err well as you thought i was in my 30s i can't see how its going to go well lol !! Ok lets set expectations... I'm short, dumpy, with greasy hair and lots of body hair... Oh and I'm OLD Woody.. OLD!! " Did I say 30s? Haha. That sounds like me. | |||
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"Midnight. You’d better be as I expect. If you turn out to be a 50yr old guy, I’m never speaking to you again. Err well as you thought i was in my 30s i can't see how its going to go well lol !! Ok lets set expectations... I'm short, dumpy, with greasy hair and lots of body hair... Oh and I'm OLD Woody.. OLD!! You forgot to mention the monobrow! J" Shit Julie, i thought we were friends | |||
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"Midnight. You’d better be as I expect. If you turn out to be a 50yr old guy, I’m never speaking to you again. Err well as you thought i was in my 30s i can't see how its going to go well lol !! Ok lets set expectations... I'm short, dumpy, with greasy hair and lots of body hair... Oh and I'm OLD Woody.. OLD!! You forgot to mention the monobrow! J Shit Julie, i thought we were friends " I still would, even with the monobrow. J | |||
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"Midnight. You’d better be as I expect. If you turn out to be a 50yr old guy, I’m never speaking to you again. Err well as you thought i was in my 30s i can't see how its going to go well lol !! Ok lets set expectations... I'm short, dumpy, with greasy hair and lots of body hair... Oh and I'm OLD Woody.. OLD!! You forgot to mention the monobrow! J Shit Julie, i thought we were friends I still would, even with the monobrow. J" you'll get used to the tickle | |||
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" you'll get used to the tickle " You can tickle my bits anytime, Midders. | |||
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" you'll get used to the tickle You can tickle my bits anytime, Midders. " Offtt that gave me a tingle | |||
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"Following on from Pickles 'Better in Person "thread. My answer was no. Mostly because on here, behind a screen, filtered and staged pictures, we can all become a different version of ourselves. It's one of the reasons I keep returning to Fab. I like to be that part of me, that in every day life I'm not. So I'm always worried when I meet people that the reality of me might be too different or a bit of a let down. That doesn't mean I'm deceiving anyone, it is just different, more ordinary I guess. So my question is, do you feel the fantasy of you is different to the reality of you? " I think when you only meet someone for short periods of time it can be easy to mix up someone's life with the small part of it you experience. Very few of us don't have a large portion of mundanity in our lives. I suppose it takes a level of maturity to recognise and deal with that. | |||
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"Midnight. You’d better be as I expect. If you turn out to be a 50yr old guy, I’m never speaking to you again. Err well as you thought i was in my 30s i can't see how its going to go well lol !! Ok lets set expectations... I'm short, dumpy, with greasy hair and lots of body hair... Oh and I'm OLD Woody.. OLD!! " Oh, so you're hotter than I thought | |||
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"Midnight. You’d better be as I expect. If you turn out to be a 50yr old guy, I’m never speaking to you again. Err well as you thought i was in my 30s i can't see how its going to go well lol !! Ok lets set expectations... I'm short, dumpy, with greasy hair and lots of body hair... Oh and I'm OLD Woody.. OLD!! Oh, so you're hotter than I thought " | |||
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