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By *agnar73 OP   Man
38 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Is it better to be good at ‘vanilla’ stuff and know not much on the kink side or to be kinky but a bit lacking in the basics?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
38 weeks ago

Leeds

Give me good vanilla over shit kink anyday.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

I think kink is too much of a broad term to compare it to something more vanilla so it's hard to make a decision

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By *iasubTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Ilkeston

It really depends as i have had amazing kinky meets where no sex has happened so in that sense the vanilla knowledge wouldnt matter anyway

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By *gent CoulsonMan
38 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Personally I prefer to be good at both, but I can live without kink

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By *ris GrayMan
38 weeks ago

Dorchester

I'm rather partial to a neopolitan

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Some people's kink can also be other people's vanilla ! I think I'm kinky but I'm probably your standard vanilla to many ?

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By *rill PhilMan
38 weeks ago

Crediton

I think it's better to be good at the vanilla stuff. You can learn and develop any skills but only if you have the fundamentals in place

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By *irthandgirthMan
38 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

Being better at vanilla stuff is probably more beneficial if you have multiple partners.

Kink can be a little more niche and also depends on finding someone with the same kinks as you.

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By *agnar73 OP   Man
38 weeks ago

glasgow-ish


"It really depends as i have had amazing kinky meets where no sex has happened so in that sense the vanilla knowledge wouldnt matter anyway "

As one offs or as a lead up to something with more sex?

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By *elix SightedMan
38 weeks ago

Cloud 8

It shouldn’t matter. Enjoy what you like and meet people who also enjoy what you like. If you click, you click and it will be good. If you don’t, consider moving on.

Goodness is in the eye of the beholder.

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By *sWyldWoman
38 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Ah, but what is vanilla?

We will all have very different interpretations!

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By *agnar73 OP   Man
38 weeks ago

glasgow-ish


"Ah, but what is vanilla?

We will all have very different interpretations! "

Also what is kink? As someone alluded to above.

I think expectations of what are ‘the basics’ would vary heavily too.

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
38 weeks ago

Sheffield


"It really depends as i have had amazing kinky meets where no sex has happened so in that sense the vanilla knowledge wouldnt matter anyway

As one offs or as a lead up to something with more sex?"

For lifestyle kinky people (not bedroom only kink), kink does not have to include sex. We do plenty of kink that doesn't lead to sex, for example, rules not been followed will lead to a punishment, this is kink, it has no sexual element to it and will not lead to any sex.

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By *sWyldWoman
38 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Personally I think everyone is too hung up on labels and terminology.

I just want to meet people I have some chemistry with, the attraction and that thrill of first kisses that leave us wanting more.

Whatever happens next could be somewhere and anywhere on the whole spectrum of fuckery.

So long as there's mutual respect, we are reading each other well and both equally enjoying whatever happens then I'm happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

I would call myself vanilla, because bdsm is not my scene, and I’m fabulous at the basics, just in case anyone was wondering

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By *herry delightWoman
38 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

As I am not kinky, so I try to be good at the vanilla stuff.

Not sure I am but I am still happy to learn.

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