FabSwingers.com forum: Blocked for saying ‘hey fancy a chat?’

By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

With face pics so as I’m still fairly new to this what does everyone think is that worthy of a block that was the only message I sent so let me know x

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By *etsgetnakedCouple
47 weeks ago

tyldesley

They will have had 100 messages that say fancy a chat.

You need to send something that's stands out

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"With face pics so as I’m still fairly new to this what does everyone think is that worthy of a block that was the only message I sent so let me know x"

Don't dwell on it. Move on. Also, block the person blocking you. For your own sanity.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

Thanking you

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By *iasubTV/TS
47 weeks ago

Ilkeston

To be honest id probably delete the message but block probably not unless you kept messaging

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By *allySlinkyWoman
47 weeks ago

Leeds

It might not be the message which provoked the block. It could be numerous reasons. Something in your profile text. Your location. You pics. They might have recognised you.

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By *iss.BellaWoman
47 weeks ago

Chester

It's more than likely you're not what the person is looking for currently. Or maybe you're a little *too* local. Could be anything, best not to dwell OP people use the block button in different ways

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

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By *mf123Man
47 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Ok so say you were net fishing for a very specific fish pulled up the net and there 2000 of the wrong kind of fish you had to move before finding what you want you would move all the dud fish out of the way to find it yes?

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By *ifemale32GGWoman
47 weeks ago

Telford

It is about the least imaginative way of starting a conversation I can imagine! I’ve started chats on here with guys who have messaged “is that a fish tank in your photo” or “how far did you run today?” or “your first threesome? How was it?”

“Fancy a chat?” would never get a reply from me and if the sender was 100 miles away even less so. The problem is if you reply then when you decide to “block all” it doesn’t block that user. Personally I only block individuals if they spam me repeatedly and I can’t see the messages I want to see for repeated messages from them, but every individual has the right to block whoever they want to!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
47 weeks ago

East Sussex

They didn't fancy a chat. For people who receive a lot of messages it's often easier to block than say no.

I'm not saying it's a nice experience but if you can have the mindset that a block or no response is the same as a 'no thanks ' you'll probably find it easier.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

I hear that but I don’t spam was just one message I was thinking ‘no’ would’ve been a fair answer haha

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
47 weeks ago

Around the Midlands

Agree with what others have said. If someone blocks you, it could be for a whole host of reasons so best not to let it get to you or dwell on it OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

"They didn't fancy a chat. For people who receive a lot of messages it's often easier to block than say no.

I'm not saying it's a nice experience but if you can have the mindset that a block or no response is the same as a 'no thanks ' you'll probably find it easier.

Good luck

Fanks

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By *mf123Man
47 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

"I hear that but I don’t spam was just one message I was thinking ‘no’ would’ve been a fair answer haha"
but your 1 message may be added to there 50 or more

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
47 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I hear that but I don’t spam was just one message I was thinking ‘no’ would’ve been a fair answer haha"

The FAQS say that no reply is acceptable.

Fab can be very tough on single men. Really the best way to approach it is to expect nothing.

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By *iasubTV/TS
47 weeks ago

Ilkeston

"I hear that but I don’t spam was just one message I was thinking ‘no’ would’ve been a fair answer haha"

Not saying you would but it never stops at no either they try to convince you why or the abuse starts. Its easier to just block. Its definitely not nice to experience but its the reality of the site

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Its a site tool people including myself use for any number of reasons

Use your time energy efforts on those who will be interested not on those who aren't

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
47 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Block just means they're not for you and saves either

you appearing in each others searches or inbox again.

Don't take it as an offensive move. Just a time saving one.

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By *ikeSM23Man
47 weeks ago

Manchester

"With face pics so as I’m still fairly new to this what does everyone think is that worthy of a block that was the only message I sent so let me know x"

In my experience on this, and other meet sites, anyone opening with ‘fancy a chat’ is typically getting their kicks from initiating online fantasy convo’s and not looking to meet at all. Block and move on is a good tactic to stay sane and reduce wasted time.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I’d block someone if they sent me a face picture. Who did they actually think they are?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

"I’d block someone if they sent me a face picture. Who did they actually think they are?

Most people ask for a face pic bud

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

"I’d block someone if they sent me a face picture. Who did they actually think they are?

Most people ask for a face pic bud "

If they want to see a face picture first, they should sign up for tinder or feeld.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

"I’d block someone if they sent me a face picture. Who did they actually think they are?

Most people ask for a face pic bud

If they want to see a face picture first, they should sign up for tinder or feeld. "

I don’t know about that it is a site where you potentially meet up so I get why they’d wanna see your face before haha

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By *obilebottomMan
47 weeks ago

All over

It's not a very nice thing and if you are new here you assume it is a bot like in the world outside where if you say hi to someone they will most probably say hi back. Not the same and as others said just don't let it worry you. Getting involved in the forums is a good way to interact with prople as of coitse are socials though not always for everyone. Uou take your time. Evrryone has different reasons for blocking and ofyem not even anything to do with the message you sent. All the best.

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By *adCherriesCouple
47 weeks ago

Cheshire/Northwest

It's a fairly boring message but I just block all guys from messaging and do my own hunting.

Mrs

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
47 weeks ago

chichester

"With face pics so as I’m still fairly new to this what does everyone think is that worthy of a block that was the only message I sent so let me know x"

They didn’t find attractive. Don’t worry delete sent box and carry on the game

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
47 weeks ago

London

Maybe isn't your first time texting her/him (they) and you don't remember it

Maybe they recognized you from real life or a previous account.

Maybe they keep a second account where you already have sent the same copy-paste message.

Maybe too many messages and blocking them is easier

Maybe you live too close and it's risky for them

Maybe they press the wrong bottom, happens to me a lot.

Maybe you need to put some minimum effort and elaborate a proper opening line.

Maybe the account/gender/ age/ is fake

Maybe is sb. spying on his/her crush not intending to meet.

Maybe they are evil and enjoy playing with your lonely heart

PS: Yesterday I asked directly to meet for a social with a guy who had been texting every hour. He blocked me instantly. Fake account. I bet he is 15 years old

Don't worry about it, get used to it and move on. Good luck!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
47 weeks ago

Leeds

See it as a good thing, saves you wasting your time on someone who isn't compatible with you.

One sentence closed messages are hard to reply to - answer is yes or no, in this case a block see it as a no thank you.

Mrs

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By *eyond PurityCouple
47 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Your status update suggests you aren’t hanging around so maybe they feel you are just looking for quick sex.

But there’s also 100 other reasons why they felt the need to block - you’ll never know and just see it as you aren’t compatible and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

"Your status update suggests you aren’t hanging around so maybe they feel you are just looking for quick sex.

But there’s also 100 other reasons why they felt the need to block - you’ll never know and just see it as you aren’t compatible and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Welcome to Fab.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
47 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

"With face pics so as I’m still fairly new to this what does everyone think is that worthy of a block that was the only message I sent so let me know x"

Don't stress it, it's part of fab life being blocked on the daily...

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By *TG3Man
47 weeks ago

Dorchester

"With face pics so as I’m still fairly new to this what does everyone think is that worthy of a block that was the only message I sent so let me know x"
Its the way of this site but could be many reasons didn’t like beards, didn't fancy you, didn't like your location too close too far, didn't like your message, so they block so they don't have to deal with you again, just move on try not to let it upset you

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By *hrimper36Couple
47 weeks ago

Central France dept 36

Had a message today replied no thank you and he blocked us which is ok because he doesn’t want to bother us again which is a good use of the block button.

If no interest then block.

Not a good fit then block.

I’m going to block me now!!!

It’s fab and very normal just like no reply.

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By *ittle miss sunshineWoman
47 weeks ago

south sheilds

I always start conversations with “hey fancy a chat”

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By *quirrel!Man
47 weeks ago

Sooooooo……..anyone…….fancy a chat?

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By *ittle miss sunshineWoman
47 weeks ago

south sheilds

"Sooooooo……..anyone…….fancy a chat?

I’m always happy to chat

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By *UFSWoman
47 weeks ago

belfast

"With face pics so as I’m still fairly new to this what does everyone think is that worthy of a block that was the only message I sent so let me know x"

Just about anything is worthy of a block,if the other person wants no contact from you.

It's not all about what you want

Try not to take it personally

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By (user no longer on site) OP
47 weeks ago

"With face pics so as I’m still fairly new to this what does everyone think is that worthy of a block that was the only message I sent so let me know x

Just about anything is worthy of a block,if the other person wants no contact from you.

It's not all about what you want

Try not to take it personally "

Cheers yeah didn’t think of it that way so will in future x

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
47 weeks ago

kent

"With face pics so as I’m still fairly new to this what does everyone think is that worthy of a block that was the only message I sent so let me know x"

Welcome OP. Try not to second guess a stranger’s choices. They will have their reasons, and you will never know what they are. You will encounter all kinds of mystifying behaviours that will seem unreasonable to you but perfectly valid to them. Just roll with it and don’t take it to heart x

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
47 weeks ago

Reading

Anyone can block for any reasons. Move on.

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By *an_spMan
47 weeks ago

Coventry

I’ve been blocked by not just one, but 3 people who initiated the conversation. People on here can block you virtually for any reason you can think of. Don’t stress about it, it’s just how it works

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By *orthern StarsCouple
47 weeks ago

Durham

There could be 1001 different reasons why they blocked you so I wouldn't waste another second of your life thinking about it. We are all strangers on an internet site so don't take things personally.

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By *r_reusMan
47 weeks ago

Coventry

"They will have had 100 messages that say fancy a chat.

You need to send something that's stands out"

Fancy a fuck?

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