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'Face pics in first message or no reply'

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By *r_reus OP   Man
38 weeks ago

Coventry

People's thoughts on this statement in profiles?

Particularly when stated by those who don't have face pics themselves.

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By *iasubTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Ilkeston

Absolutely if its not on the profile. I like to know who im talking too. Even better if it doesnt follow a dick pic

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By *d4fun73Man
38 weeks ago

Shipley


"People's thoughts on this statement in profiles?

Particularly when stated by those who don't have face pics themselves."

Because they can

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By *ris GrayMan
38 weeks ago

Dorchester


"People's thoughts on this statement in profiles?

Particularly when stated by those who don't have face pics themselves."
Did you not know theirs a pecking order so women rule no pic no reply, then couples no pic no reply, then guys no pic no reply and thats how it works so if you scrub up you'll do well here if not patience is the quay

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Risky game if ask me! Been sent face pic in first message over the years by:

A neighbour

An ex

An ex boss and a family member. I don’t do it and don’t expect one in first message but everyone is different and I live in a small town and worked in a good few pubs in the area

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By *host63Man
38 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

If they have no face pic of themselves then ar as I am concerned that is hypocritical.

They say because of family, job, ect but the same goes for others.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
38 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I don’t state it but I very rarely reply to messages. If there’s a face pic and I like it I’d probably reply. No face pic and I probably wouldn’t.

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By *ilverfox for youMan
38 weeks ago

Hull

Yes I agree .if that’s how shallow and rude they are just delete or don’t message

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
38 weeks ago

Aberdeen


"People's thoughts on this statement in profiles?

Particularly when stated by those who don't have face pics themselves."

It really doesn't bother me.

It isn't a demand for you to send a face pic no matter what, just don't message them. Live and let live.

Problem solved.

MrsAbz

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By *AYENCouple
38 weeks ago

Lincolnshire


"People's thoughts on this statement in profiles?

Particularly when stated by those who don't have face pics themselves."

So are you saying you won't send a private face pic unless they have a public face pic?

If you think there's an imbalance in the first instance, there definitely is in the second.

But as always on here, just do what suits you and avoid anything that doesn't.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
38 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

It's a request. Simple as that. If I see it and I'm interested in starting a chat with someone then I'll send one. If I'm not I won't.

Someone has to go first and if you're initiating the conversation then why not you? Plus it'll establish early doors if they're at all interested or not. Litlle point in a conversation starting, carrying on for a while and then coming to an abrupt end because there's no attraction when you finally send a photo. It's one of the reasons people often shout 'timewaster' or 'fake'.

There is always the option to have the photo deleted as soon as it's seen, but if messaging a couple I rarely hit that as it's common that both won't be reading at the same time.

I send totally vanilla face pics. No nudity. What's the worst that could happen?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
38 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Seems fine to me.

They're not asking you to have one public for everyone to see.

They're asking that if you contact them you provide an indication of how attractive you are to them.

If you don't want to do that, then just don't message them.

People get their knickers in such a twist over things that aren't even their problem.

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By *hil most chillMan
38 weeks ago

South East & Europe

Women get a million messages a day and don't have time to mess with lame blokes not even willing to show their faces. Sounds like a quick and easy filter system to me

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Can understand both sides if people don’t want their face on the site fair enough

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By *imisugarWoman
38 weeks ago

Rugby

I don't engage with profiles that make demands of others they don't follow themselves.

Asking for a face picture isn't a problem to me but I usually expect the one that messaged first to supply one.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago


"I don't engage with profiles that make demands of others they don't follow themselves.

Asking for a face picture isn't a problem to me but I usually expect the one that messaged first to supply one. "

Agreed

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By *exymarvelMan
38 weeks ago

cardiff

I dont get it, they need to be discrete but expect full transparency. If u want face pics then be prepared to provide too

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

If I received a message indicating meeting up, I always ask for a face pic and send them mine. I like to see who I am chatting with before I commit with keeping in touch with a view to meeting socially. If they get a bit "shirty" and don't bother, its a no thank you from me. I want to avoid lengthy period of messaging each other to find I'm not attracted to them. No one wants to waste time.

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By *r_reus OP   Man
38 weeks ago

Coventry


"I don't engage with profiles that make demands of others they don't follow themselves.

Asking for a face picture isn't a problem to me but I usually expect the one that messaged first to supply one. "

I understand why people would want to see a face picture prior to meeting, it's the bit you kiss after all, but when people are demanding in how they ask for one, particularly if you've not had any actual contact with them beforehand, it comes across as hostile.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
38 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I don't engage with profiles that make demands of others they don't follow themselves.

Asking for a face picture isn't a problem to me but I usually expect the one that messaged first to supply one.

I understand why people would want to see a face picture prior to meeting, it's the bit you kiss after all, but when people are demanding in how they ask for one, particularly if you've not had any actual contact with them beforehand, it comes across as hostile."

Your OP was about a statement in profiles though.

So you wouldn't have had any contact with them beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

My profile has them, so I don't see the point in sending duplicates. Just have a peek. But then I haven't messaged anyone with that in the profile, or seen it so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

I ask for a pic and i send one if i message first.. saves time having idle chat then seeing a pic and theres no attraction

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By *adCherriesCouple
38 weeks ago

Cheshire/Northwest

Doesn't bother us, we don't send face pics on a first message nor do we ask for them. I do feel women and couples get the upper hand when asking for pictures because frankly they have more choice and the statement is normally aimed at men.

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By *ris GrayMan
38 weeks ago

Dorchester


"It's a request. Simple as that. If I see it and I'm interested in starting a chat with someone then I'll send one. If I'm not I won't.

Someone has to go first and if you're initiating the conversation then why not you? Plus it'll establish early doors if they're at all interested or not. Litlle point in a conversation starting, carrying on for a while and then coming to an abrupt end because there's no attraction when you finally send a photo. It's one of the reasons people often shout 'timewaster' or 'fake'.

There is always the option to have the photo deleted as soon as it's seen, but if messaging a couple I rarely hit that as it's common that both won't be reading at the same time.

I send totally vanilla face pics. No nudity. What's the worst that could happen? "
yes but deleting the pic as soon as you send it bugs some, you just can't please em all

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Their profile their choice as to how they wish to work it

Others also have choices either to accept their criteria or not

If you're not happy with their request hit the back button and find a profile that does interest

I ask folk who contact me first to send a face picture their choice to do so or not

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago


"People's thoughts on this statement in profiles?

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Cool, I know their preference if I want to send a message.

I actually prefer to be asked to send a face picture, and I’m alright with it. Because I would prefer a face picture in my box if somebody picked sent me a message, that way, I know who I’m speaking to. It’s a lot more personal.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

I sometimes ask for their bank details and mothers maiden name in the first message.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
38 weeks ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"People's thoughts on this statement in profiles?

Particularly when stated by those who don't have face pics themselves."

My thoughts are that they'd like to be able to decide whether or not they want to reply to the person sending the message as opposed to just the words in the message.

Second paragraph of the OP is entirely irrelevant.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago


"Yes I agree .if that’s how shallow and rude they are just delete or don’t message"

I don't see how it's shallow at all. People arnt looking to meet people on here to play chess with are.

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By *elshcouple18Couple
38 weeks ago

Cardiff

Fake couples profiles biggest give away.. sending face pics with first message, or having them on profile but not photo verified.. we rarely send in first message.

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By *naswingdressWoman
38 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

1. The menu items on profile demands are a) take it or b) leave it

2. Their body, their time, their choice. That's all but absolute.

3. The usual part of this - which you've done - is getting mad that they demand a PRIVATE picture because they have the nerve not to have a PUBLIC face picture. How dare they ask you to show your face to one person when they haven't shown their face to potentially tens of thousands of people. oh noes!

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By *odgerMooreMan
38 weeks ago

Carlisle

I insist women send me boob pics and have yoghurt splattered on their faces so i can picture what our first meet will look like … not had any sent yet - but early days yet.. only been on here 15 years!!

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