FabSwingers.com forum: When was the last time you proper cried?

By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

I mean tears running down your face, snotty nose uncontrollable sobbing? And if you don’t mind saying, what did you cry about?

I feel like I’ve got a good cry bottled up but it just won’t come, looking for inspiration. Or if anybody is up for breaking a delicate heart hit me up

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By *anManCoolMan
38 weeks ago

Camborne

Once a month for sure, divorce and loosing my mum to cancer same year really hurt and destroyed my emotions and it still hurts even after 11 years

I learnt to hold back alot of tears but sometimes when it comes i let it go till i cry out all i have that time.

Time heals they say, but ive not found that yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Yesterday. Sobbed in the kitchen over losing my dad in December.

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By *rofessor ElementalMan
38 weeks ago

Durham

The last time tears fell from my eyes was when I said goodbye to my beloved dog as he passed away.

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By *sWyldWoman
38 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Early January.

A certain person.

I've been close a few times since but I've kept the tears at bay

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Last week. Some stuff from the past escaped the jar it was pickled in.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"I mean tears running down your face, snotty nose uncontrollable sobbing? And if you don’t mind saying, what did you cry about?

I feel like I’ve got a good cry bottled up but it just won’t come, looking for inspiration. Or if anybody is up for breaking a delicate heart hit me up

Holding my dads hand two weeks ago as he slipped away x

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"Yesterday. Sobbed in the kitchen over losing my dad in December. "

Xxxx

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By *idewinder01Man
38 weeks ago

Poole

Silly, but just thinking about what I last really cried about, has made me cry again. Damn

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By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

I’m sorry for all your losses and heartbreaks.

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
38 weeks ago

Basingstoke

When I was watching the final 3 episodes of One Day last week. I was utterly inconsolable. Sobbing and wailing.

I think it just hit me in the exact spot to get me thinking about decisions I could have made differently, mourning relationships that are no more, and what's missing in my life.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
38 weeks ago

The night before last. Anniversary of losing my husband, knowing what he and my children have missed out on

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By *loriouscurvesWoman
38 weeks ago

wild west lothian

End of Jan

The loneliness of life plus after the first Christmas without my parents

And currently keeping the tears at bay.

Tomorrow is another day

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"I mean tears running down your face, snotty nose uncontrollable sobbing? And if you don’t mind saying, what did you cry about?

I feel like I’ve got a good cry bottled up but it just won’t come, looking for inspiration. Or if anybody is up for breaking a delicate heart hit me up

Lovely thread OP

Thank you x

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By *illy IdolMan
38 weeks ago

Midlands

Haven't properly cried for a while. Last time was when my friends lost their 2nd full term baby

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

The last time I saw my dad alive in hospital and walk out of the ward, then week later when he died

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

The last time I properly, uncontrollably cried was 10 years ago when I was at my grandmothers funeral when I was 12. It still hurts even now, she was amazing and I miss her so much.

I have had a few gut punches and the odd tear down my cheek since then but nothing has made me uncontrollably cry.

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By *aizyWoman
38 weeks ago

west midlands

Last November, I finally got the all clear from breast cancer, I just ugly cried in the surgeons office, It was like a dam burst from the relief, it was still ugly crying tho!

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By *lynJMan
38 weeks ago

Morden

"I mean tears running down your face, snotty nose uncontrollable sobbing? And if you don’t mind saying, what did you cry about?

I feel like I’ve got a good cry bottled up but it just won’t come, looking for inspiration. Or if anybody is up for breaking a delicate heart hit me up

A couple of weeks ago, watching the the episode of Death in Paradise where Humphrey is in London and meets up with Martha. It reminded me of my late partner.

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By *urora1912Woman
38 weeks ago

Norfolk East anglia

New years eve.

A guy I had been dating sadly lost his battle with cancer

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By *xfordjohnMan
38 weeks ago

Oxford

This afternoon whilst driving up the M6 I was overtaken by an ambulance which reminded me of the several times I was in an ambulance with my wife last year before she passed away. I did cry and pulled over to the inside lane and slowed down until it passed.

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By *hesblokeMan
38 weeks ago

Derbyshire village

Few months back, mental health not that great and pressure built up a bit.

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By *emidemiWoman
38 weeks ago

basingstoke

Yesterday. My pharmacy messed up my prescription so I’ve been without my anti depressants for a whole week, for the first time in 12 years of taking them.

I wasn’t handling it well, my emotions were all over the place and a situation happened at work that just tipped me over the edge and I cried for about 20 minutes in the stairwell.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
38 weeks ago

your head

A couple of weeks ago. A mixture of stress, lack of sleep, hormones and pure frustration.

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By *arla SwingerWoman
38 weeks ago

Somewhere

Sobbing, pure sobbing... When my older dog passed away. Held her in my arms as she passed at vets... Next time will be my mum but very different

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By *arla SwingerWoman
38 weeks ago

Somewhere

"Sobbing, pure sobbing... When my older dog passed away. Held her in my arms as she passed at vets... Next time will be my mum but very different "
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I'm not a crier

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
38 weeks ago

In the clouds

About half an hour ago

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
38 weeks ago

Wales

A couple of weeks ago, I just feel like I'm not enough for my daughter. I don't think my life is as together as it should be and I'm not entirely sure who "I" am.

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By *arla SwingerWoman
38 weeks ago

Somewhere

"Sobbing, pure sobbing... When my older dog passed away. Held her in my arms as she passed at vets... Next time will be my mum but very different .

I'm not a crier"
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I didn't cry as doggo passed btw. I couldn't do that to her

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By *arla SwingerWoman
38 weeks ago

Somewhere

"A couple of weeks ago, I just feel like I'm not enough for my daughter. I don't think my life is as together as it should be and I'm not entirely sure who "I" am.

"
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You're probably way more than you think!

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

A couple of years ago when someone I really liked vanished on me. Total ghost, after months of being FWB. We called, messaged, met up and everything was going so well.

I woke up one Sunday morning, to find she had vanished from Messenger. I text, tried to call, emailed and nothing.

I completely broke down and cried non-stop for the rest of the day.

To be abandoned like that, it just made me feel like I was worthless. Like everything I had ever done meant nothing.

I didn't want to live anymore. I was ready to leave this world and just be done with being constantly fucked around by people.

I was prepared. I've tired before and I was ready to give it another go.

I still don't know what stopped me, but I decided to pack my bags and just go to the nearest hospital or mental health institution. I wanted a lobotomy, so I didn't have to feel anymore.

It still hurts, even now. I've never forgotten those that vanished, who I thought were genuinely going to be around for a long time. Some took pieces of me with them. I'll never be whole again.

My life has been one continuous adjustment to loss and it hasn't deviated from that course one little bit.

As recent as the end of last year, a friend of two years decided to try and destroy my life, after we tried FWB and it didn't work out, because I couldn't put up with her jealousy of my other (non-sexual) friends I spend time with. I was slandered, all trust betrayed, private messages and media passed around and in the process I lost a bunch of other close friends, who took her side.

Again, loss. Hers? Maybe, but definitely mine. Again.

Most days I wonder if it's all worth jumping through these hoops, but honestly that little bit of hope things like this create? I think it's the only thing really keeping me going. Otherwise I would likely just give up altogether.

Sure, I have some good friends and my sister is amazing. But they can't heal the wounds and scars I have from such a fucked-up life and a neurodivergent brain. It helps and for the most part, I stick around because I know what it would do to them, if I myself decided to ghost them.

I've actually forgotten if I answered the question by this point, but I've also been holding in a good cry today. A few moments where I thought it would come out and even as I've typed that, nothing.

Such is life.

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By *omKsubSMan
38 weeks ago

Newton

Most recent first

the loss of my cat from a massive stroke.

the death of my father from cancer

the death of my brother from a careless driver

the loss of my dogs, one to bone cancer, the other to kidney failure.

...

And the death of my daughter and the rapid approach of what should have been her 18th birthday.

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By *a LunaWoman
38 weeks ago

South Wales

My step-aunties funeral in November. My first solo funeral too.

Her children put together a photo montage of her over the years for the Service and it made me sniffle.

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By *essicagraceWoman
38 weeks ago

birmingham

I never full on sob (let's not dig in to that) but last time i cried was a few weeks ago. Just a really challenging few days with stress and a few relationships in my life. I got a fine for travelling without a ticket on the train (I'm appealing the ticket machine was ballsed) and I made it out of the station and just... broke. Feel like I've got another big one coming my way soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Last November when my dad passed

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By *rs D.Woman
38 weeks ago

Tyne And Wear

"When I was watching the final 3 episodes of One Day last week. I was utterly inconsolable. Sobbing and wailing.

I think it just hit me in the exact spot to get me thinking about decisions I could have made differently, mourning relationships that are no more, and what's missing in my life. "

Alice and Jack is another year jerker, had me in tears ??

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
38 weeks ago

kent

A long while ago, when it became apparent that someone I thought was a close friend didn’t give a shit about me on the anniversary of my daughter’s funeral. A lot of deep hurts came to the surface that day.

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By *ackdaw52Man
38 weeks ago

Chesterfield

Last year after my first trip to Pandoras.

I spent the whole night trying to socialise but no one wanted to talk to me, let alone sleep with me. I've never felt so unattractive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

Sending a huge virtual hug to every one of you

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By *educedWoman
38 weeks ago

Birmingham

I cry daily!

I quite like a good cry!

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

2 years ago this week, when I was diagnosed with melanoma skin cancer; and then this time last year, when my specialist gave me the all clear. The happy tears of relief certainly felt the better of the two

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By *issmorganWoman
38 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'm so sorry for all the people suffering heartbreak on this post.

Love to you all

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By *issmorganWoman
38 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

"2 years ago this week, when I was diagnosed with melanoma skin cancer; and then this time last year, when my specialist gave me the all clear. The happy tears of relief certainly felt the better of the two

That's great, congratulations x

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By *ddie1966Man
38 weeks ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

When I was 18 and my grandfather passed away.

At his funeral.

He tought me so much about life and to accept what life throws at us.

I haven't shed a tear since then.

40 years now.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
38 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I had a couple of laughter tears seeing Daniel Sloss perform tonight.

Sad sobbing tears? Would have been early December. I'd had a pretty massive foundation ripped out from under me and was just about managing to hold it together through it alone. Until I told someone I might be a little off for a while while processing things. And the outpouring of love and support is what broke the dam on the tears

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By *hoirCouple
38 weeks ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

Uhm last night I think? Overwhelmed by looking after 2 sick kids and a 10 month old baby by myself for a week while C had to go away for a bit.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
38 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

2022 December, when I received my all clear confirmation, tears of uncontrollable joy and relief

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
38 weeks ago

Norwich

I don’t. I get a lump in my throat from time to time, but no tears. My eyes water so it’s not a functional deficit.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Last week, watching the last episode of one day

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Quite recently when a so called friend fucked me over royally.

Ignore red flags at your peril!!

I dont cry easily but sometimes it just has to happen.

There is another deluge on the way but I'm trying not to think about that until it happens

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By *agnar73Man
38 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

I didn’t used to, sort of stoic sad face for the worst of things.

Things happen, maybe I changed as a person.

Frustrating email on Friday and I let it out when walking the dog.

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By *essicagraceWoman
38 weeks ago

birmingham

Last proper sob sob was when I found out someone I thought was a friend was using my STI status to insinuate I'm a bad and dirty person. Which felt cruel as I'd only told them in an effort to be super transparent about it as we were all interlinked in a friendship group. That was rough.

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By *ltmeeMan
38 weeks ago

wrexham

A few hours ago. My ex was told by the vets that one of the cats has something neurologically wrong with them and they haven't got long. Yesterday she phoned to tell me he's getting worse. So I went there and had him on my knee all day. He's been a loving cat the whole time of having him and they do have personalities and I'll miss him dearly. I really don't think he's going to come home from the vets tomorrow.

I think I've cried more about losing the cat than I did losing my dad two years ago. Not going to analyse that too much.

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By *orksRockerMan
38 weeks ago

Bradford

Watching After Life on Netflix.... So many times, I just couldn't hold it back.

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By *odgers and PartingCouple
38 weeks ago

edinburgh

Saying goodbye to our dog. Still so many things trigger me now. I’ve lost people and never batted an eye lid. The dog was different level. K

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By *andE2000Man
38 weeks ago

Bathgate

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By *andE2000Man
38 weeks ago

Bathgate

Last night I was watching "The Adam Project" film. A scene of heartfelt conversation between mum and son briught out my mum issues to the surface and made me loose control of my tears.

Few miniutes later I found myself crying like a baby over what's happening to the children of Gaza.

The last time I cried that hard was in my grand father's funeral in my early 20's

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By *ornycougaWoman
38 weeks ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

9th Nov when my daughter surprised me at Heathrow after I'd come home after 5 months away. I was hysterical to see her!

That was tears of joy ofc. Sadness - I honestly don't know. At least 6 years ago as I haven't cried since becoming a single woman

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

I fight back the tears often if not daily. But that’s my heartache, and I feel pathetic when I read through things like this and sit or listen to other peoples stories.

But, last year in April I sobbed for hours uncontrollably. A reality check where I was in life, and the hatred of living with myself put me in a very bad place and wanting give up. I’m glad someone gave me hope, that person doesn’t know that they possibly saved me that night.

because I do have a chance of a good life and some happiness.

*A big hug for anyone in here that’s posted.

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By *ris GrayMan
38 weeks ago

Dorchester

I got to be honest i don't recall ever crying must be great, carry on the good work.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
38 weeks ago

Norwich

Holding my little dog as she was put to sleep

Steve

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By *assy69Man
38 weeks ago

West Sussex and Wales

"I mean tears running down your face, snotty nose uncontrollable sobbing? And if you don’t mind saying, what did you cry about?

I feel like I’ve got a good cry bottled up but it just won’t come, looking for inspiration. Or if anybody is up for breaking a delicate heart hit me up

The first time I watched Up at the cinema , first ten minutes had me crying like a baby!!!

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By *ilddukeMan
38 weeks ago

notts

Every now an then

I lost a few good people between 2020 and 2022

Fond memeries always bring a tear

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
38 weeks ago

Wales

Sending cwtches to everyone in need of them

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By *rgasmicChemistryCouple
38 weeks ago

east coast

When I found out me mum got the big C

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
38 weeks ago

Gloucester

This morning. Over my cat. (Ex gave her away and it still hurts)

Mrs

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By *ustBoWoman
38 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

The last time I cried was just over a month ago as I held one of my dogs while he was put to sleep.

The time before that when I had a proper cry was when I got home after finding out a close family member had being diagnosed with cancer.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

When people hurt me I cry.

I say why me all the time. Done nothing wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Friday when my sister died of cancer hadn't even started chemo

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By *elowJayMan
38 weeks ago

Lincoln

Losing Grandad

Also logging in to find an empty inbox

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

In January when my dad died. Not so much for him more reopening the emotions of my mum dying at the end of 2022

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By *amierebelMan
38 weeks ago

nae danger.

About a month ago and let's just say custody battle

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By *2000ManMan
38 weeks ago

Worthing

Uncles funeral.

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By *edonisticRockerMan
38 weeks ago

Chorley

Father's funeral

I find it hard to process emotion especially sorrow alot of the time it doesn't quite logic in my brain but that day I was in histerics

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By *ario1972Man
38 weeks ago

Guildford

I nursed her at home through nearly a decade of early onset dimentia.

I did her personal care, feeding, washing and dressing.

If she didn't recognise me it didn't matter - I knew who she was and she was the love of my life.

Late last year she died peacefully in my arms at home.

You ask when's the last time I sobbed. Now - writing this.

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By *heFabtasticsCouple
38 weeks ago

brentwood

When I found my best mate who had hung himself

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By *JandCMCouple
38 weeks ago

cardiff

Last time I cried was with relief, it was about 15 years ago, I was in court n the day of sentencing n I was looking at a 10 year sentence n I did start to cry with relief when the judge did say "that there would be no reason for a custodial sentence".

It was a bit over the top as it was just for copyright n trademark offences.

Another case of don't try n rip off some millionaires for a few £££.

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By *lirtyfun123Woman
38 weeks ago

essex

I cry quite often over a long term fwb that well and truly played and still plays with my head. I have a regular meltdown then am fine until the next time

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

A couple of months ago now since removing the source of the reason I cried. I'm still healing but those days of sobbing have well and truly passed.

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By *ig_eric_tionMan
38 weeks ago

IPSWICH

I can't remember the last time but the next time could be soon. Life gets you like that sometimes.

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By *rill PhilMan
38 weeks ago

Crediton

Pretty much since I woke up today.

I had the most wonderful dream that spanned 5 years. I've never been so happy and content, waking from it has left me feeling bereaved, in a very real way.

In a matter of seconds I lost my partner and my children.

I know it was a dream so its stupid but, it was so real. So so real. I watched my daughters grow from to being 4 and 5 years old, had a wonderful relationship and now... poof. It was all nonsense created by my subconscious.

I feel so broken.

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By *akedMechanicMan
38 weeks ago

Manchester

When I had to get my dog put to sleep late last year. She meant the world and I still miss her now

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By *hoirCouple
38 weeks ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

"I mean tears running down your face, snotty nose uncontrollable sobbing? And if you don’t mind saying, what did you cry about?

By thus definition, I have never had a good cry. I had a few seconds of heavy crying after my dog was put to sleep but nothing close to that.

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By *elshcouple18Couple
38 weeks ago

Cardiff

A few days ago..I really upset wifey, had a few health issues and it just got the better of me.. hugged it out tho..

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By *ir SupremacyMan
38 weeks ago

Bolton

When my Rottie got put to sleep in 2017 I broke my heart took week off work unpaid...not even the paras could make me that tough...didn't eat or sleep for over a week .

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

In January over an issue at work. I was exhausted and overwhelmed with work. I still am but I'm able to handle it now without being so emotional, well so far last month and this month.

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By *andy CanesWoman
38 weeks ago

south

15 years old when my grandmother died it broke my heart & took years to except it I still miss her every single day

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By *andy CanesWoman
38 weeks ago

south

"15 years ago when my grandmother died it broke my heart & took years to except it I still miss her every single day "

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By *olarbear73Man
38 weeks ago

Glasgow

Last October when I got some news.

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