FabSwingers.com forum: WHY?

By *onameyet2 OP Man
39 weeks ago

chorley

How do you non drinkers out there respond to that very strange question

Why do you NOT drink?

Not a dig at you drinkers btw

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By *ealitybitesMan
39 weeks ago

Belfast

40 years ago I was told by a friend that I wasn't a real man if I didn't drink.

My response was that a real man doesn't need a crutch.

I've been told by an Englishwoman on a course and an American while on holidays that I couldn't call myself a true Irishman if I didn't drink.

If anyone asks why I don't I tell them the truth.

I don't want to.

I don't need to.

I never have done

I never will.

Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

I tell them it is because I'm straight edge.

If that fails I just tell them I can't because I am on meds and they usually stop.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
39 weeks ago

London

It tastes like shit.

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By *ellinever70Woman
39 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I don't think it's a strange question really

People probably only ask out of curiosity

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By *mmaleiaWoman
39 weeks ago

East Northamptonshire

I have wine with a nice meal, I don’t goto the pub & I don’t drink at home, it’s more of a social thing for me

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By *hrimper36Couple
39 weeks ago

Central France dept 36

Personally I don’t like the taste so why would I do something just because others think it’s normal.

Just like I don’t do drugs or kick dogs.

I just do me.

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By *imply DeeWoman
39 weeks ago

Wherever

Because I don’t want to, my choice.

Strange question to be asked really.

Same as people keep asking me why I don’t eat certain foods.

I don’t want to, my choice.

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By *a LunaWoman
39 weeks ago

South Wales

“Because I spill most of it”

I do drink, but if I’m in the mood not to drink, then inquisitive minds get the above response.

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By *ndrew CareyMan
39 weeks ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

"How do you non drinkers out there respond to that very strange question

Why do you NOT drink?

Not a dig at you drinkers btw"

I have a drink once in a while but for the most part I do not drink.

Reason is, I just do not need alcohol to have a good time.

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By *onameyet2 OP Man
39 weeks ago

chorley

"I don't think it's a strange question really

People probably only ask out of curiosity "

Do you ask people why they don’t take Heroin?

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By *elix SightedMan
39 weeks ago

Cloud 8

"How do you non drinkers out there respond to that very strange question

Why do you NOT drink?

Not a dig at you drinkers btw"

Ten years ago when I first stopped drinking I got this question weekly. My friends and dates just couldn’t get it. But it seems to have become far more common and now I usually just get a ‘Oh right, ok then.”

It doesn’t irritate me, though, because I know I’m still in a minority so I’m happy to explain.

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By *elix SightedMan
39 weeks ago

Cloud 8

Ps was the username ‘nonameyet1’ already taken?!

Have you both connected and started an anonymity club? (anonymously).

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By *ellinever70Woman
39 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"I don't think it's a strange question really

People probably only ask out of curiosity

Do you ask people why they don’t take Heroin?"

Given the obvious differences between the 2, no

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

My body does not tolerate alcohol. If someone is an ass about it I tell them to fuck off.

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By *ellhungvweMan
39 weeks ago

Cheltenham

It’s not that I am not a non drinker - it’s just that I am not an active drinker. I stopped after a relationship ended because I didn’t want to be “that guy” who drank at home alone and I realised I just felt much much better for no/reduced levels of alcohol. Now I find that even a single drink really makes me feel it in the morning.

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By *onameyet2 OP Man
39 weeks ago

chorley

"Ps was the username ‘nonameyet1’ already taken?!

Have you both connected and started an anonymity club? (anonymously)."

Yes it’s my profile name on the other site, serves me right for being lazy I suppose

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By *gent CoulsonMan
39 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

If I started again, I probably wouldn't stop

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By *sWyldWoman
39 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I choose not to.

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By *rill PhilMan
39 weeks ago

Crediton

I don't like being d*unk and I don't like hangovers even more. Since I have stopped drinking I have realized how obnoxious, idiotic and boring d*unk people are. And if you can't have a good time without alcohol, well I feel deeply sorry for you.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
39 weeks ago

in Lancashire

"I choose not to. "

This..

And if that's not enough then perhaps reassess the friendship..

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By *rill PhilMan
39 weeks ago

Crediton

"I don't think it's a strange question really

People probably only ask out of curiosity

Do you ask people why they don’t take Heroin?

Given the obvious differences between the 2, no"

The obvious difference between the two being that one is legal and the other isn't?

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
39 weeks ago

Worcester

My bestie doesn’t drink because him and his wife are trying to conceive. The doctor suggested alcohol can affect sperm quality so he gave it up.

Seems sensible to me.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
39 weeks ago

Worcester

"I don't like being d*unk and I don't like hangovers even more. Since I have stopped drinking I have realized how obnoxious, idiotic and boring d*unk people are. And if you can't have a good time without alcohol, well I feel deeply sorry for you."

It’s quite an assumption to think that people who sometimes consume alcohol can’t have fun without any alcohol.

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By *ympha LuxuriaWoman
39 weeks ago

La La Land

"If I started again, I probably wouldn't stop"

This

Stopped drinking 5 years ago and don't plan to start again

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Depends on my mood.

If I'm feeling happy I'll just say: Because I don't want to.

If I'm annoyed I'll just say: Because organ failure, smelling like shit, behaving like shit and pissing away my money do not sound like appealing past times. Plus all alcohol just tastes the same anyway unless you water it down incredibly and at that point I might aswell just get a heckin soda.

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By *v123456Man
39 weeks ago

tameside

It's only an honest curious question and I get that but I like to say that I also don't smoke or take heroin and people never ask why.

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By *hoirCouple
39 weeks ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

Bad experiences or being the designated driver are my go to explanations. I'm not teetotal though, I do drink sometimes. Mostly I just can't be bothered.

Anyone that gets funny about it isn't mature enough for me to be pay attention to

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By *rill PhilMan
39 weeks ago

Crediton

It’s quite an assumption to think that people who sometimes consume alcohol can’t have fun without any alcohol."

I'm not making that assumption about people who sometimes consume alcohol. I'm making that assumption about people for whom every activity revolves around drinking.

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By *asisfan25Man
39 weeks ago

Essex

I’d rather do things in my spare Time that are more positive to my health and mental health and I would rather check my bank account on Monday, and it not be overdrawn cause of a heavy weekend lol

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By *ellinever70Woman
39 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"I don't think it's a strange question really

People probably only ask out of curiosity

Do you ask people why they don’t take Heroin?

Given the obvious differences between the 2, no

The obvious difference between the two being that one is legal and the other isn't?"

I was more thinking that one is a perfectly normal thing that quite a large percentage of the population do as part of socialising

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39 weeks ago

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By *uri00620Woman
39 weeks ago

Croydon

I don't drink but I don't notice that people ask now. It's pretty common nowdays.

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By *rill PhilMan
39 weeks ago

Crediton

"I don't think it's a strange question really

People probably only ask out of curiosity

Do you ask people why they don’t take Heroin?

Given the obvious differences between the 2, no

The obvious difference between the two being that one is legal and the other isn't?

I was more thinking that one is a perfectly normal thing that quite a large percentage of the population do as part of socialising "

Should drinking till you fall over and can't function the next day be a normal part of socialising though?

I prefer to socialise over a cup of tea and a nice meal. Maybe even a glass of wine but, 12 pints of gutrotter doesn't seem like something one should do at a social occasion to me.

Also, there seems to be a lot of violence as a result of drinking which seems like pretty antisocial behaviour to me.

I'm not defending heroin users by the way, I just think the distinctions are largely arbitrary.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
39 weeks ago

Wirral.

I don't drink 'cos I don't like the taste.

I've never come across any incredulity or negativity because of it. Maybe because I'm happy to be out in drinkers' company, enjoying myself? Or maybe 'cos they know they'll get a lift home

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By *icecouple561Couple
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39 weeks ago

East Sussex

I'm not a non drinker but if someone challenges a perfectly reasonable choice I've made I just turn the question back on them and ask them why they made the choice they did. Or, if I'm feeling particularly fed up I just smile and reply "rude!" .

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

I used to drink alot never at home though stopped drinking about 14yrs ago

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By *hocolate37Man
39 weeks ago

Heathrow

I found that telling people I'm the designated driver shuts them up quickly...

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By *ittle. BeaverWoman
39 weeks ago

Launceston

"It's only an honest curious question and I get that but I like to say that I also don't smoke or take heroin and people never ask why. "

This is what I don't get either!

Because people being nosy asking personal questions like that will leave themselves open to getting an awkward answer! I think its time people wake up and engage their brain before opening their mouth! Just respect that for whatever reason some people don't consume alcohol!

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By *iss.ddWoman
39 weeks ago

Leeds + Newcastle

I've never dignified it with an answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

"Just personal choice. It's never been something that appealed to me"

That's usually my answer but I find it hilarious when I've been in clubs or group socials and they ask if it's for religious reasons. Like yeah, I can have sex with random strangers but my soul would be damned if I drink alcohol

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By *tylebender03Man
39 weeks ago

Manchester

First it shouldn’t be presumed that I’d take part in something that is ultimately very unhealthy. But I just say I don’t need it to have a good time, I don’t need the hangovers and I don’t need the regrets lol

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
39 weeks ago

chichester

"How do you non drinkers out there respond to that very strange question

Why do you NOT drink?

Not a dig at you drinkers btw"

I reply simply I am not mentally weakened with the need to contaminate the purity of my body

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By *itty9899Man
39 weeks ago

Craggy Island

I choose not to.

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
39 weeks ago

Wales

I did enough of it in my 20s to last me a life time

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