FabSwingers.com forum: Tinder is easier?!

By *urvedmagic87 OP Man
39 weeks ago

Derby

Been on here a little while and I must say its hard to arrange a meet or even get much interest in my profile? Any tips or is this just the way it goes for the average guy on here?!

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Incoming

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
39 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Hi OP, before the barrage of sarky comments arrive, I'd recommend that you do a quick search through the forum as this very subject is regularly raised, and you'll find loads of help already there for you.

Good luck!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
39 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

You state you want to keep your identity under wraps but insist on people sending their face pics

I’ve just won FAB bingo with all the cliches in your profile write up

You’ve got two pics - one is a cock pic - hardly setting any fires is it.

People get out of FAB what they put in (did someone need that for their bingo card?

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Tinder is just as bad as this, if not worse. Tinder is filled with Instagram people (those that just want to take the perfect photo) and if you’re not running through the mud, running a marathon, climbing a mountain, or sat on a yacht drinking cocktails, you don’t fit in.

Fab is at least upfront with what it’s about, it’s about swingers and swinging. It’s very sex themed. So if we have comparing Tinder, which is supposedly a dating site, to a swinging site, you’re comparing apples to oranges.

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By *urvedmagic87 OP Man
39 weeks ago

Derby

I keep it under wraps publicly but if someone sends me a private messege il happily share! Just looking for some pointers really, and some friendly advice without the sarcy comments! ??

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By *igdeano89Man
39 weeks ago

ashford

Tinder and this is so hard to get attention I need tips

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By *urvedmagic87 OP Man
39 weeks ago

Derby

Thankyou for your help! Il be sure to have a search.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
39 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

"I keep it under wraps publicly but if someone sends me a private messege il happily share! Just looking for some pointers really, and some friendly advice without the sarcy comments! ?? "

I’m pointing out the inconsistencies in your profile - you asked for advice and it was trying to help.

There’s a lot of guys that do well on here - look at their profiles and pics and see how they sell themselves.

But honestly you really have to try and stand out as a single guy on here - in personality, in pics and your profile.

Don’t take things seriously either.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

As another poster said - lots of threads on this. But my general advice

- Have a nice variety of pics on your profile. And make sure it’s recent.

- Text should give an idea of you as a person - not just be about what you want or like.

- Send a friendly but not too long opening message, with a face pic ideally

- Manage expectations. This is not ‘sex on tap’. Yes might be a hook up site but it’s real people, all with their own interests, lives and feelings, not just there for someone else’s fantasy or convenience. No one on here ‘deserves’ sex whenever they want it

Also keep in mind ladies get many many messages. Tbh I find tinder far worse as guys seen to swipe on anyone and everyone and you end up with tons of matches to have to go through - sometimes it just feels like too hard work!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
39 weeks ago

Central

It's tough for you single men, so you have to have realistic expectations. And give others what they need, in order to be more certain that you should be the one who they want to meet.

It almost seems the reverse of this. In capital letters, you open with 'STRAIGHT', securing the greatest prominence in your whole profile. Is this the best you can do? Keep asking yourself this, with everything you include. Exclude or get workarounds, for what's lower priority.

How can a woman know she's potentially attracted to you? How can she know that you are compatible? The closer you get to giving her that, the easier you have made it for her

You won't be mutually compatible with most other people. At least you'll get the best chances that the right people know that you are right for them.

Every recipient of your messages will view your profile, before they read your message.

Your pics are too limited. There's a somewhat messy deluge of this, that and the other, throughout the text, much of which doesn't fulfil the outline above.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
39 weeks ago

Central

"Tinder and this is so hard to get attention I need tips

This is curvedmagic's thread. You can ask elsewhere, as well as look through the other threads.

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By *ts the taking part thatMan
39 weeks ago

southampton

Be patient & it comes out of the blue but '_eyond purity' gave some great honest feedback in her first response & from a female outlook so ignore at a cost.

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By *illy IdolMan
39 weeks ago

Midlands

"I keep it under wraps publicly but if someone sends me a private messege il happily share! Just looking for some pointers really, and some friendly advice without the sarcy comments! ??

I’m pointing out the inconsistencies in your profile - you asked for advice and it was trying to help.

There’s a lot of guys that do well on here - look at their profiles and pics and see how they sell themselves.

But honestly you really have to try and stand out as a single guy on here - in personality, in pics and your profile.

Don’t take things seriously either.

Good luck

OP, this man is worth listening to. Your best bet is to find a hot girlfriend and then reap the rewards that comes with it

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By *eyond PurityCouple
39 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

"I keep it under wraps publicly but if someone sends me a private messege il happily share! Just looking for some pointers really, and some friendly advice without the sarcy comments! ??

I’m pointing out the inconsistencies in your profile - you asked for advice and it was trying to help.

There’s a lot of guys that do well on here - look at their profiles and pics and see how they sell themselves.

But honestly you really have to try and stand out as a single guy on here - in personality, in pics and your profile.

Don’t take things seriously either.

Good luck

OP, this man is worth listening to. Your best bet is to find a hot girlfriend and then reap the rewards that comes with it"

Do you know how I got a hot girlfriend? I had a decent profile on here

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By *ittle. BeaverWoman
39 weeks ago

Launceston

OK, you asked for advice....and I've been dying to use this since it appeared on another thread, so here goes......if you want your inbox to go into melt down, put a frock and some lippy on, and wait to be inundated!! (That's right isn't it TV gurls?)

Sorry OP, just follow the more sensible advice given!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
39 weeks ago

Portsmouth

I never had any joy on Tinder, so maybe seeing my face first put people off?

I found men on there even less capable of having a convo and they usually cock blocked themselves in the first 5 messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

I get ignored either way

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By *urvedmagic87 OP Man
39 weeks ago

Derby

Thanks for your help guys I've altered my profile off the strength of these comments with a fresh outlook! So appreciate the imput. R x

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
39 weeks ago

Worcester

"Been on here a little while and I must say its hard to arrange a meet or even get much interest in my profile? Any tips or is this just the way it goes for the average guy on here?! "

The problem with tinder for women is that it’s quite common to lose your account because salty men report you as being fake when you turn them down.

But if it works for you then it works for you; go for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

The problem I have with Tinder, is when I stopped paying for monthly subscription, I’ve now got 10 matches in a week, and I can’t see unless I pay. ..

But I didn’t seem to match that many when I was already paying…, it seems a mystery.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

"Been on here a little while and I must say its hard to arrange a meet or even get much interest in my profile? Any tips or is this just the way it goes for the average guy on here?! "

In my subjective experience Tinder/Badoo is much easier meet people for fun.

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By *rHotNottsMan
39 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Easier? More opportunities for sex maybe but not always better quality experiences

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By *otsMan
39 weeks ago

Higham

"OK, you asked for advice....and I've been dying to use this since it appeared on another thread, so here goes......if you want your inbox to go into melt down, put a frock and some lippy on, and wait to be inundated!! (That's right isn't it TV gurls?)

Sorry OP, just follow the more sensible advice given! "

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By *rHotNottsMan
39 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"The problem I have with Tinder, is when I stopped paying for monthly subscription, I’ve now got 10 matches in a week, and I can’t see unless I pay. ..

But I didn’t seem to match that many when I was already paying…, it seems a mystery. "

I don't think tinder is worth using at all unless you pay. Annual membership is cheaper

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

FAB is a bit of fun, as someone has already said don’t take it to seriously

Post on the forum, post pics , send messages and put up statuses

The worst thing you can do Is have a tantrum if you don’t meet as some have done before

Which really shows their try personality

Remember as a male your odds are 1000/1 against you

Pics are very important and remember lots actually check what’s in the background

So if you want to stand out make sure there’s something interesting or an interesting location

Not just the bathroom while your hiding from your sexless marriage

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By *ruceyyMan
39 weeks ago

London

I agree actually! I hopped on Tinder again recently and slept with 2 women within the space of a week who were hot and everything

PLAYERRR I know.

This is actually true. Promise. Here I can't do shit! Some women are interested but miles and miles away and another close by wants me to be verified first. But I can't!

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
39 weeks ago

chichester

I always find POF is pretty solid to get quick hookups if you are good at filtering out the fakes

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By *ruceyyMan
39 weeks ago

London

"I always find POF is pretty solid to get quick hookups if you are good at filtering out the fakes "

Do you fuck women?

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By *waffham1102Man
39 weeks ago

King's Lynn, Norfolk

Nothing wrong with your profile, I would certainly arrange a meet with you. I suggest you remove the age range

I would rather have sex with a fit 50 year old than a fat ugly 35 year old.

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By *AYENCouple
39 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

"Been on here a little while and I must say its hard to arrange a meet or even get much interest in my profile? Any tips or is this just the way it goes for the average guy on here?! "

A lot of single guys seem to think that all they need do is post a picture of their cock and the cock hungry women of Fab will be queuing up - so maybe reconsider your understanding of what swinging is, and change your approach and your expectations.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
39 weeks ago

Worcester

"Nothing wrong with your profile, I would certainly arrange a meet with you. I suggest you remove the age range

I would rather have sex with a fit 50 year old than a fat ugly 35 year old."

People shouldn’t adjust their preferences just to get laid.

But you should probably adjust your attitude towards women.

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By *waffham1102Man
39 weeks ago

King's Lynn, Norfolk

"Nothing wrong with your profile, I would certainly arrange a meet with you. I suggest you remove the age range

I would rather have sex with a fit 50 year old than a fat ugly 35 year old.

People shouldn’t adjust their preferences just to get laid.

But you should probably adjust your attitude towards women."
why?

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
39 weeks ago

Hell

"I keep it under wraps publicly but if someone sends me a private messege il happily share! Just looking for some pointers really, and some friendly advice without the sarcy comments! ?? "

Do you also keep your face hidden on tinder?

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
39 weeks ago

chichester

"I always find POF is pretty solid to get quick hookups if you are good at filtering out the fakes

Do you fuck women?"

go course

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By *sWyldWoman
39 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Personally I get no interest on Tinder at all, in fact it's the same on all the dating apps I have tried. Maybe my face is really scary

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"Been on here a little while and I must say its hard to arrange a meet or even get much interest in my profile? Any tips or is this just the way it goes for the average guy on here?! "

Post a dick pic bro seems to work wonder with the ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Yesterdays results for me

Tinder 1

Fab 0

I logged in yesterday - I got talking to someone local, and a date is set for Tue.

Some research is done for the op, currently in his favour.

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
38 weeks ago

London or Bedford

Tinder is easier, you say?

Hmm

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By *ris GrayMan
38 weeks ago

Dorchester

You're just a guy in amongst 63,473 guys and attention isn't gained easily one wrong word in here and your fairy dust, patience is the quay

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"The problem I have with Tinder, is when I stopped paying for monthly subscription, I’ve now got 10 matches in a week, and I can’t see unless I pay. ..

But I didn’t seem to match that many when I was already paying…, it seems a mystery. "

They are manipulating results.

Same is done with speed dating.

The organisers will try their best to have zero matches. So that you keep coming to their speed dates.

So best is to get out of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"The problem I have with Tinder, is when I stopped paying for monthly subscription, I’ve now got 10 matches in a week, and I can’t see unless I pay. ..

But I didn’t seem to match that many when I was already paying…, it seems a mystery.

They are manipulating results.

Same is done with speed dating.

The organisers will try their best to have zero matches. So that you keep coming to their speed dates.

So best is to get out of it. "

Absolutely, it’s completed obvious when the results you get are so startlingly different to paid and free subscriptions.

I actually might try speed dating. It seems fun.

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By *rHotNottsMan
38 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Yesterdays results for me

Tinder 1

Fab 0

I logged in yesterday - I got talking to someone local, and a date is set for Tue.

Some research is done for the op, currently in his favour.

If I became visible and logged on to tinder here or even London there would be 1-200 within an hour or two. I’m not lying. In some cities it could be 500

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"The problem I have with Tinder, is when I stopped paying for monthly subscription, I’ve now got 10 matches in a week, and I can’t see unless I pay. ..

But I didn’t seem to match that many when I was already paying…, it seems a mystery.

They are manipulating results.

Same is done with speed dating.

The organisers will try their best to have zero matches. So that you keep coming to their speed dates.

So best is to get out of it.

Absolutely, it’s completed obvious when the results you get are so startlingly different to paid and free subscriptions.

I actually might try speed dating. It seems fun.

You meet some nice people.

After the event, nearly all head for the bar. That’s when you ask for phone number, etc.

Organisers will avoid matches.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"Yesterdays results for me

Tinder 1

Fab 0

I logged in yesterday - I got talking to someone local, and a date is set for Tue.

Some research is done for the op, currently in his favour.

If I became visible and logged on to tinder here or even London there would be 1-200 within an hour or two. I’m not lying. In some cities it could be 500"

I got 9

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"The problem I have with Tinder, is when I stopped paying for monthly subscription, I’ve now got 10 matches in a week, and I can’t see unless I pay. ..

But I didn’t seem to match that many when I was already paying…, it seems a mystery.

They are manipulating results.

Same is done with speed dating.

The organisers will try their best to have zero matches. So that you keep coming to their speed dates.

So best is to get out of it.

Absolutely, it’s completed obvious when the results you get are so startlingly different to paid and free subscriptions.

I actually might try speed dating. It seems fun.

You meet some nice people.

After the event, nearly all head for the bar. That’s when you ask for phone number, etc.

Organisers will avoid matches. "

So would you recommend it?

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"Been on here a little while and I must say its hard to arrange a meet or even get much interest in my profile? Any tips or is this just the way it goes for the average guy on here?! "
what do you do on tinder ?

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