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Is "black men only" on a profile racist?

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By *oshbrat OP   Woman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I only want to meet black guys and fed up being called racist when I'm not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see it as racist, I see it as a personal choice.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Then ignore people who say that....delete and block them and they are out of your life

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By *r OreoMan
over a year ago

Croydon

Really wish they would sort a filter out here for race.

Being an Asian guy myself I would much rather know if the person we are about to message would welcome us getting in touch or not - saves everyone time and hassle.

I have no issue if someone doesn't wanna meet me cos of my skin colour - all down to personal choice which has now been hijacked by the 'PC' hug-a-tree brigade!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only want to meet black guys and fed up being called racist when I'm not. "

No it's not at all. It's your own personal preference just like someone who will only meet someone aged 30 plus.. Ignore them and don't take it to hart and block them..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Technically, and literally, yes it is....

But who gives a fuck....We all have preferences...

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By *icked weaselCouple
over a year ago

Near Edinburgh..


"Technically, and literally, yes it is....

But who gives a fuck....We all have preferences... "

It`s almost like when you go to a shop.. are you racist if you Prefer the white or the black dress the shop assistant is wearing..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no ism when it comes to sexual preference. Its your body and your right to choose who you allow to be intimate with.

Just cos someone only likes guys 30-45 is not ageism

A straight person who doesn't sleep both sexes, that is not sexism

so therefore someone who is attracted to one race only isn't racism

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By *reenonionsMan
over a year ago

Nr Exeter

You guys don't really 'get' or understand what's being asked...

If you turn it around and said 'no black guy's then by default the question is suggested...

I don't think it makes you racist but in this bent up, PC correct, piss poor world it might look that way to some people.

The funny thing is that its always white folk who bleat and drivel on about racism Or have opinions having never been a victim.

Try it - it changes alot of your false perceptions in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Technically, and literally, yes it is....

But who gives a fuck....We all have preferences...

It`s almost like when you go to a shop.. are you racist if you Prefer the white or the black dress the shop assistant is wearing.. "

This, from someone who looks gorgeous in black or white....

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

surely if you got a thing for black guys its up to you

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"You guys don't really 'get' or understand what's being asked...

If you turn it around and said 'no black guy's then by default the question is suggested...

I don't think it makes you racist but in this bent up, PC correct, piss poor world it might look that way to some people.

The funny thing is that its always white folk who bleat and drivel on about racism Or have opinions having never been a victim.

Try it - it changes alot of your false perceptions in life."

Why would putting no black guys on your profile be seen as racism? What about people who put no bi people, no bbws, no people over 45?

Surely we can decide who we want to have sex with. How do you know the people that are "bleating" have never been victims?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no it is not racist its a choice, and you will find its mainly disgruntled men that cant get a meet that say its racist.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Technically it is because you are excluding a whole race of people without looking at individual merits however as this involves you and your body o don't think that the equality act quite applies.

If you would prefer not to meet and have sex with men of other races then you have the right to make that choice. How you communicate it could result in accusations of racism so now it's down to how you handle it.

If I have a guy accuse me of racism because ihave turned him down iI simply say 'if it makes the rejection easier to take then you can believe that' and then block them. What do they hope to achieve? To shame you into sleeping with them? It's quite sad that they are that desperate for a shag.

At the end of the day it is highly unlikely that anyone is going yo male a serious claim just because someone doesn't want yo shag them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is "black men only" on a profile racist?

its definately repetitive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Black, white or brown. Tall or short. Big or thin. Male or female.

If I fancy em, I fuck em. If I don't, then I don't.

Simples!!

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By *nvictusMan
over a year ago

Beeston

Racism is about prejudice, antagonism or descrimination directed towards another race to imply the superority or inferiority of another race.

"Black guys only" is a preference and is hardly racist is it? 'Technically racist?' - that's a new one on me that leaves me shaking my head. Especially as we are all still allowed preferences on who we have sex with and Fab is there to facilitate that.

We are grown ups here, real racism is ugly and generally pretty bloody obvious when you see it. Sadly most people who point at someone who dares to ask for a black coffee will then quickly scuttle past a genuine racist event in the street with their eyes downcast.

Jumping at every shadow, light hearted comment or 'politically incorrect' term merely antagonises the issue with over protectiveness and leaves everyone walking on egg shells afraid to speak. The only times I've ever been accused of racism it's been white, middle class people who live miles from the nearest black or Asian person in quaint English villages

So put "black guys only" if that's your thing. I congratulate you on the fact you have the self-confidence in your own beliefs to not bow down to any pressures from others over sensitivity to the issue. What is in YOUR heart and mind is important and no one should question your preferences in that manner with their own assumptions in mind.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"Racism is about prejudice, antagonism or descrimination directed towards another race to imply the superority or inferiority of another race.

"Black guys only" is a preference and is hardly racist is it? 'Technically racist?' - that's a new one on me that leaves me shaking my head. Especially as we are all still allowed preferences on who we have sex with and Fab is there to facilitate that.

We are grown ups here, real racism is ugly and generally pretty bloody obvious when you see it. Sadly most people who point at someone who dares to ask for a black coffee will then quickly scuttle past a genuine racist event in the street with their eyes downcast.

Jumping at every shadow, light hearted comment or 'politically incorrect' term merely antagonises the issue with over protectiveness and leaves everyone walking on egg shells afraid to speak. The only times I've ever been accused of racism it's been white, middle class people who live miles from the nearest black or Asian person in quaint English villages

So put "black guys only" if that's your thing. I congratulate you on the fact you have the self-confidence in your own beliefs to not bow down to any pressures from others over sensitivity to the issue. What is in YOUR heart and mind is important and no one should question your preferences in that manner with their own assumptions in mind."

^^^THIS!

BTW I like sex with blue women.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I only want to meet black guys and fed up being called racist when I'm not. "
You can always take the statement off your profile and ignore all other messages apart from the ones you are interested in?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You guys don't really 'get' or understand what's being asked...

If you turn it around and said 'no black guy's then by default the question is suggested...

I don't think it makes you racist but in this bent up, PC correct, piss poor world it might look that way to some people.

The funny thing is that its always white folk who bleat and drivel on about racism Or have opinions having never been a victim.

Try it - it changes alot of your false perceptions in life."

I think you will find many profiles where they say no balck or asian and many a thread started about that

Try the forum search

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why do you even need to ask that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it's not a race thing it's a skin colour thing so you are being colourist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you prefer Black cock,i see no big deal here. It's actually the people who are commenting on your preference who are being racist here,think about it.

They hate the idea of a black man potentially getting something they never will,wreaks of racism.

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

We don't think it's racist at all.

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By *or Fox SakeCouple
over a year ago

Thornaby


"Really wish they would sort a filter out here for race.

Being an Asian guy myself I would much rather know if the person we are about to message would welcome us getting in touch or not - saves everyone time and hassle.

I have no issue if someone doesn't wanna meet me cos of my skin colour - all down to personal choice which has now been hijacked by the 'PC' hug-a-tree brigade!

"

Thank you for being bloody sensible and open and honest, nail on the head re the tree huggers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Black, white or brown. Tall or short. Big or thin. Male or female.

If I fancy em, I fuck em. If I don't, then I don't.

Simples!! "

I like this .. Awesome

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By *ondering_yorkshiremanMan
over a year ago

Somewhere near NE Derbyshire/S Yorkshire/Nottinghamshire border

Ultimately its personal choice, no racism at all. I speak to a few ladies who meet black guys only and have some great chats, and they have made it clear we wont play Im fine with that.

However i think how its wrote can give off the wrong impression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's not being racist that's like saying guys who only want to meet guys being sexist!

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By *oshbrat OP   Woman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Thanks for all your positive comments I have friends from all over the world but only fancy black guys x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Technically it isn't......but if you say "Whites only" it is......WTF !!!!!!!

But hey we all have a choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a member of the human race so what planet do the people who throw the racist comment come from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was fed up with a discussion I'd avoid starting a similar one. Do you really care what people making those comments think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Debatable whether it is racist but it is certainly shallow. Then again we all could be accused of that on here!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

block all guys and search for black guys.

good luck

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

ps... No, it is not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you prefer Black cock,i see no big deal here. It's actually the people who are commenting on your preference who are being racist here,think about it.

They hate the idea of a black man potentially getting something they never will,wreaks of racism."

Wtf??

These guys that "hate the idea of a black man getting something they never will wreaks of racism" ? Lmao so let's see the White guys that are peed off that a woman only meets black guys are the real racists according to you and not the women with the "black guys

only" explain cos you've lost me there.

Everyone is entitled to their own choices. Just because it's a swingers site doesn't mean your going to fuck everything that moves.

I will only meet White guys/women/tv's/couples not because I'm a racist but because I'm not attracted to other races.

According to you though I'm a racist??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there is wording and how it translates to others is what is the key, if u want to effectively communicate with others instead of spouting ones preferences as WHITE MEN ONLY/BLACK MEN ONLY only in my eyes looks angry, so in turn, angry people tend to attract angry people.Not saying anyone should say 'sorry I only like..(insert)'- however, I think I'd rather say something like, 'my preference is for (insert only)'

Ive said the same before to a couple who only wanted to meet white men only as they complained about being branded racists

Finally, ffs..someone mails anyone calling them a racist?-for no reason of course...simple:-

REPORT and BLOCK

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you prefer Black cock,i see no big deal here. It's actually the people who are commenting on your preference who are being racist here,think about it.

They hate the idea of a black man potentially getting something they never will,wreaks of racism.

Wtf??

These guys that "hate the idea of a black man getting something they never will wreaks of racism" ? Lmao so let's see the White guys that are peed off that a woman only meets black guys are the real racists according to you and not the women with the "black guys

only" explain cos you've lost me there.

Everyone is entitled to their own choices. Just because it's a swingers site doesn't mean your going to fuck everything that moves.

I will only meet White guys/women/tv's/couples not because I'm a racist but because I'm not attracted to other races.

According to you though I'm a racist??"

any person that mails someone because they are out of the persons preference is in fact an IDIOT and when its about ones preferences for 1 particular race, well yes of course they are childlike individuals using race cards.

why mail ANYONE who does not want said mailers and states this on their profile?

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By *uyuksno1Man
over a year ago

poole

well i have a best friend on fabs and she is black and she says no black guys white blonde guys only and she hasnt had any flack?????/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any choice is just that on here a choice!! Having a preference for one skin colour, sex or age isn't racist/sexist/ageism at all!!

It limits who your target audience is on here and who you meet of course it does, but like anyone who blocks men and puts "no single men" again thats their choice.

A race or sexuality button would hopefully stop all this but until they are added if ever they are the idiots contacting you will still do it, block delete and report if they are nasty.

hateful bigoted people shouldn't be swingers!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not if you're a black man this thread gets more boring every week x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only want to meet black guys and fed up being called racist when I'm not. "

It's your personal choice, but I always find it amusing to think that one of us 'nice white folks' gets all offended and starts shouting racism when the tables are turned on them... Perhaps it's a little lesson about how to live with the rest of us on this Planet that they need to learn anyway....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's quite easy jock(there's an example of racism)to understand. Of course im not calling people like you racist,just the ones who mailed the young lady in question,about their racist attitudes. It's not very hard to work that out surely ?

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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago

Costa del Medway


"No it's not a race thing it's a skin colour thing so you are being colourist "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simply no.i only want too meet women.does that make me sexist.?! No

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By *e nicerWoman
over a year ago

Costa del Medway

could have been put better.

Wondering about the women. Is it only black women too?

Also what about sort of coffee coloured peeps, where do they stand?

Anyway there is no such thing as black in skin.

Yours sincerely,

B. Awkward

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

for every profile that says black guys only... i will bet i can show you one saying... white guys only...

or.... bi guys only...

or..... tall guys only...

or .... think guys only

or..... VWE only.....

or..... young guys only....

and ect... and ect..

but you'll find the only people who tend to complain and then play "cards" are those who are left out by someone elses preference....

see... as a black guy.... do i want someone to play with me because I happen to be black... no!!!

I want someone to play with me for me!!! because they got to know me...

because they like me....

because I am the best me I can be!!!

there is a difference... and it is sorting between those who like me... and those who see me as some sort of "niche"

thats why i am against the infamous "racial filter" some want here....

to be seen as "just a colour" is probably about as dehumanising as it gets for me, because I aint nobodies stereotype....

simple as!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"for every profile that says black guys only... i will bet i can show you one saying... white guys only...

or.... bi guys only...

or..... tall guys only...

or .... think guys only

or..... VWE only.....

or..... young guys only....

and ect... and ect..

but you'll find the only people who tend to complain and then play "cards" are those who are left out by someone elses preference....

see... as a black guy.... do i want someone to play with me because I happen to be black... no!!!

I want someone to play with me for me!!! because they got to know me...

because they like me....

because I am the best me I can be!!!

there is a difference... and it is sorting between those who like me... and those who see me as some sort of "niche"

thats why i am against the infamous "racial filter" some want here....

to be seen as "just a colour" is probably about as dehumanising as it gets for me, because I aint nobodies stereotype....

simple as!!!"

Where do I get a 'think guy'? They sound interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

totally agree _abio,

I can see it from each side really, however I do think when people state they arent 'attracted' to other races as being a bit weird...regardless of which races they discount.

I dont really genericize any particular group of people based on their ethnic history- as I know how mixed my family has been throughout the ages.

*I made the genericize word up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If only wanting black men is racist then surely that makes wanting only men sexist?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no it is not racist its a choice, and you will find its mainly disgruntled men that cant get a meet that say its racist."

Now we're being sexist... or elitist....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"no it is not racist its a choice, and you will find its mainly disgruntled men that cant get a meet that say its racist.

Now we're being sexist... or elitist.... "

???????????????????.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only want to meet black guys and fed up being called racist when I'm not. "

As many people have stated on here, it's "your" personal choice. This is a post that has been here so many times before and though it's easier for some just ignore the ones who are giving you hassle over your choices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"totally agree _abio,

I can see it from each side really, however I do think when people state they arent 'attracted' to other races as being a bit weird...regardless of which races they discount.

I dont really genericize any particular group of people based on their ethnic history- as I know how mixed my family has been throughout the ages.

*I made the genericize word up"

why is it weird.. have u not noticed how different races have different features for example

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"totally agree _abio,

I can see it from each side really, however I do think when people state they arent 'attracted' to other races as being a bit weird...regardless of which races they discount.

I dont really genericize any particular group of people based on their ethnic history- as I know how mixed my family has been throughout the ages.

*I made the genericize word up

why is it weird.. have u not noticed how different races have different features for example"

Personally I find it weird too as it effectively says if you're a certain race you're not attractive and seems to me people of all races can be attractive, or not. That may not be 'wrong' or 'right' but just as people have the right to make their choices, others have the right to feel they're weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here we go again the word RACISM pops up its ugly fucking head, if the word never excited we would never have a problem. To the poster of the thread do what you want to do, we are all here to make friends and enjoy each other regardless of skin colour, race, size etc. Now lets all cuddle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a personal choice and I am sure if site owners thought it was racist they would soon let you know. I dont play with under 40s does that make me ageist lol have fun hun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"totally agree _abio,

I can see it from each side really, however I do think when people state they arent 'attracted' to other races as being a bit weird...regardless of which races they discount.

I dont really genericize any particular group of people based on their ethnic history- as I know how mixed my family has been throughout the ages.

*I made the genericize word up

why is it weird.. have u not noticed how different races have different features for example

Personally I find it weird too as it effectively says if you're a certain race you're not attractive and seems to me people of all races can be attractive, or not. That may not be 'wrong' or 'right' but just as people have the right to make their choices, others have the right to feel they're weird."

how can it make one race unattractive.. just makes them unattractive to one person..

beauty is in the eye of the beholder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"totally agree _abio,

I can see it from each side really, however I do think when people state they arent 'attracted' to other races as being a bit weird...regardless of which races they discount.

I dont really genericize any particular group of people based on their ethnic history- as I know how mixed my family has been throughout the ages.

*I made the genericize word up

why is it weird.. have u not noticed how different races have different features for example

Personally I find it weird too as it effectively says if you're a certain race you're not attractive and seems to me people of all races can be attractive, or not. That may not be 'wrong' or 'right' but just as people have the right to make their choices, others have the right to feel they're weird."

it doesnt say that at all, it says im on a swinging site looking for fun/sex in the way i want it and that way is by choosing to play with black guys on this site, the op never stated anywhere that in there vanilla life they dont find other races attractive they are basically stating that they are making a choice to use this site to look for black men only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If person A is not attracted to the skin colour of person B then this is the only natural true fact for person A.

An attempt to reason, rationalise or label that fact is always going to be infected by the opinion, background or agenda of the person or people attempting to rationalise or label.

There are no laws or rules governing attraction, attraction cannot be controlled or externally measured. It is there or it isn't.

Rejection based on attraction is a core pillar of our evolution and one of the reasons we exist in the form we are today. It could be argued that it is one of the few natural phenomenon that is universal to all life as we know it.

Those who (usually based on their own rejection) attempt to pigen-hole it into some convenient manufactured category are simply missing the point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just personal preference - I only want to meet black fellas, I'm in no way racist, putting that in my profile hopefully stops white fellas wasting their time messaging me. It's the same as someone putting that they are looking for bbw's or bisexual people - stops the shedloads of messages coming in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are no laws as to who you chose as friends, There are no laws as to what food you like or dislike.

Some people are like food, they can cause a reaction that upsets you and make you throw up.

It’s what’s inside that counts. So please your self and sod anyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"totally agree _abio,

I can see it from each side really, however I do think when people state they arent 'attracted' to other races as being a bit weird...regardless of which races they discount.

I dont really genericize any particular group of people based on their ethnic history- as I know how mixed my family has been throughout the ages.

*I made the genericize word up

why is it weird.. have u not noticed how different races have different features for example

Personally I find it weird too as it effectively says if you're a certain race you're not attractive and seems to me people of all races can be attractive, or not. That may not be 'wrong' or 'right' but just as people have the right to make their choices, others have the right to feel they're weird.

how can it make one race unattractive.. just makes them unattractive to one person..

beauty is in the eye of the beholder"

Perhaps in the same way that some say one race is attractive?

That however wasn't my point - I did of course mean it was in the opinion of the individual, hence as I said while some can have those thoughts/feelings/opinions, others can find them weird. I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The world has gone PC mad!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about a white guy with a black cock?????? Yeah that's got you thinking

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester


"I don't see it as racist, I see it as a personal choice. "

Exactly!

One question though for the op, these ppl that say that you are racist. What race are the majority of them?

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester


"Racism is about prejudice, antagonism or descrimination directed towards another race to imply the superority or inferiority of another race.

"Black guys only" is a preference and is hardly racist is it? 'Technically racist?' - that's a new one on me that leaves me shaking my head. Especially as we are all still allowed preferences on who we have sex with and Fab is there to facilitate that.

We are grown ups here, real racism is ugly and generally pretty bloody obvious when you see it. Sadly most people who point at someone who dares to ask for a black coffee will then quickly scuttle past a genuine racist event in the street with their eyes downcast.

Jumping at every shadow, light hearted comment or 'politically incorrect' term merely antagonises the issue with over protectiveness and leaves everyone walking on egg shells afraid to speak. The only times I've ever been accused of racism it's been white, middle class people who live miles from the nearest black or Asian person in quaint English villages

So put "black guys only" if that's your thing. I congratulate you on the fact you have the self-confidence in your own beliefs to not bow down to any pressures from others over sensitivity to the issue. What is in YOUR heart and mind is important and no one should question your preferences in that manner with their own assumptions in mind."

Great response!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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The funny thing is that its always white folk who bleat and drivel on about racism Or have opinions having never been a victim."

I consider that to be a racist comment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but is it racist when a black man sends you a message saying BBC u interested he advertising he got a big BLACK cock not just a BC big cock that could be termed sort of racist. We are a democratic society and can shag who we prefer to shag, some dont find certain races attractive it works all ways live let live let ppl make their personal choice lets a;; enjoy

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over a year ago


"but is it racist when a black man sends you a message saying BBC u interested he advertising he got a big BLACK cock not just a BC big cock that could be termed sort of racist. We are a democratic society and can shag who we prefer to shag, some dont find certain races attractive it works all ways live let live let ppl make their personal choice lets a;; enjoy "

my point in finding other races attractive or not attractive I mentioned earlier.

How can people generalize one particular race? features?smell?

thats all UTTER PISH

while its obvious some people are pretty generic looking for their known race...it never actually brings the diversity of the human kind

its like us saying all cats look alike...the cats themselves can probbly determine 100 extra features that make them unique

all I'am saying is there is a mix of people in races...some white people can have negroid features, some asians can appear more italian/european etc etc etc

I might have the preference to play with one type of people, but there is no way I can say I wouldnt be attracted to someone based on their ethnicity when I in fact havent seen much of the other billions of people in the world

generic generalisations do my fucking head in, whether they are sexual,racial or social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but is it racist when a black man sends you a message saying BBC u interested he advertising he got a big BLACK cock not just a BC big cock that could be termed sort of racist. We are a democratic society and can shag who we prefer to shag, some dont find certain races attractive it works all ways live let live let ppl make their personal choice lets a;; enjoy

my point in finding other races attractive or not attractive I mentioned earlier.

How can people generalize one particular race? features?smell?

thats all UTTER PISH

while its obvious some people are pretty generic looking for their known race...it never actually brings the diversity of the human kind

its like us saying all cats look alike...the cats themselves can probbly determine 100 extra features that make them unique

all I'am saying is there is a mix of people in races...some white people can have negroid features, some asians can appear more italian/european etc etc etc

I might have the preference to play with one type of people, but there is no way I can say I wouldnt be attracted to someone based on their ethnicity when I in fact havent seen much of the other billions of people in the world

generic generalisations do my fucking head in, whether they are sexual,racial or social

"

well i like long floppy hair and prefer blonde as a rule.. can i find that in all races?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but is it racist when a black man sends you a message saying BBC u interested he advertising he got a big BLACK cock not just a BC big cock that could be termed sort of racist. We are a democratic society and can shag who we prefer to shag, some dont find certain races attractive it works all ways live let live let ppl make their personal choice lets a;; enjoy

my point in finding other races attractive or not attractive I mentioned earlier.

How can people generalize one particular race? features?smell?

thats all UTTER PISH

while its obvious some people are pretty generic looking for their known race...it never actually brings the diversity of the human kind

its like us saying all cats look alike...the cats themselves can probbly determine 100 extra features that make them unique

all I'am saying is there is a mix of people in races...some white people can have negroid features, some asians can appear more italian/european etc etc etc

I might have the preference to play with one type of people, but there is no way I can say I wouldnt be attracted to someone based on their ethnicity when I in fact havent seen much of the other billions of people in the world

generic generalisations do my fucking head in, whether they are sexual,racial or social

well i like long floppy hair and prefer blonde as a rule.. can i find that in all races?"

many people dye their hairs...its not science fiction

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but is it racist when a black man sends you a message saying BBC u interested he advertising he got a big BLACK cock not just a BC big cock that could be termed sort of racist. We are a democratic society and can shag who we prefer to shag, some dont find certain races attractive it works all ways live let live let ppl make their personal choice lets a;; enjoy

my point in finding other races attractive or not attractive I mentioned earlier.

How can people generalize one particular race? features?smell?

thats all UTTER PISH

while its obvious some people are pretty generic looking for their known race...it never actually brings the diversity of the human kind

its like us saying all cats look alike...the cats themselves can probbly determine 100 extra features that make them unique

all I'am saying is there is a mix of people in races...some white people can have negroid features, some asians can appear more italian/european etc etc etc

I might have the preference to play with one type of people, but there is no way I can say I wouldnt be attracted to someone based on their ethnicity when I in fact havent seen much of the other billions of people in the world

generic generalisations do my fucking head in, whether they are sexual,racial or social

well i like long floppy hair and prefer blonde as a rule.. can i find that in all races?

many people dye their hairs...its not science fiction"

there is a huge difference between dark haired dyed blonde and those with natural light hair that may add a few highlights..!! its all in pigmentaion in hair and skin and thats why it affects skin tones too.. not science fiction, just science.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but is it racist when a black man sends you a message saying BBC u interested he advertising he got a big BLACK cock not just a BC big cock that could be termed sort of racist. We are a democratic society and can shag who we prefer to shag, some dont find certain races attractive it works all ways live let live let ppl make their personal choice lets a;; enjoy

my point in finding other races attractive or not attractive I mentioned earlier.

How can people generalize one particular race? features?smell?

thats all UTTER PISH

while its obvious some people are pretty generic looking for their known race...it never actually brings the diversity of the human kind

its like us saying all cats look alike...the cats themselves can probbly determine 100 extra features that make them unique

all I'am saying is there is a mix of people in races...some white people can have negroid features, some asians can appear more italian/european etc etc etc

I might have the preference to play with one type of people, but there is no way I can say I wouldnt be attracted to someone based on their ethnicity when I in fact havent seen much of the other billions of people in the world

generic generalisations do my fucking head in, whether they are sexual,racial or social

well i like long floppy hair and prefer blonde as a rule.. can i find that in all races?

many people dye their hairs...its not science fiction

there is a huge difference between dark haired dyed blonde and those with natural light hair that may add a few highlights..!! its all in pigmentaion in hair and skin and thats why it affects skin tones too.. not science fiction, just science. "

oh and ur anaology of cats is utter pish.. have u seen the difference between a siamise and a persian? each breed has different features that are noticable..

you also contradict your self by going on about the diversity of the human kind.. but diversity isnt just physical, it covers opinions, thoughts, _iews, beliefs.. and the diversity of how everyone percieves beauty..

so just cos u cant see an attraction or no attraction in each race, doesnt mean others cant

so respect diversity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but is it racist when a black man sends you a message saying BBC u interested he advertising he got a big BLACK cock not just a BC big cock that could be termed sort of racist. We are a democratic society and can shag who we prefer to shag, some dont find certain races attractive it works all ways live let live let ppl make their personal choice lets a;; enjoy

my point in finding other races attractive or not attractive I mentioned earlier.

How can people generalize one particular race? features?smell?

thats all UTTER PISH

while its obvious some people are pretty generic looking for their known race...it never actually brings the diversity of the human kind

its like us saying all cats look alike...the cats themselves can probbly determine 100 extra features that make them unique

all I'am saying is there is a mix of people in races...some white people can have negroid features, some asians can appear more italian/european etc etc etc

I might have the preference to play with one type of people, but there is no way I can say I wouldnt be attracted to someone based on their ethnicity when I in fact havent seen much of the other billions of people in the world

generic generalisations do my fucking head in, whether they are sexual,racial or social

well i like long floppy hair and prefer blonde as a rule.. can i find that in all races?

many people dye their hairs...its not science fiction

there is a huge difference between dark haired dyed blonde and those with natural light hair that may add a few highlights..!! its all in pigmentaion in hair and skin and thats why it affects skin tones too.. not science fiction, just science.

oh and ur anaology of cats is utter pish.. have u seen the difference between a siamise and a persian? each breed has different features that are noticable..

you also contradict your self by going on about the diversity of the human kind.. but diversity isnt just physical, it covers opinions, thoughts, _iews, beliefs.. and the diversity of how everyone percieves beauty..

so just cos u cant see an attraction or no attraction in each race, doesnt mean others cant

so respect diversity"

whatever the analogy about cats..I meant to add ginger cats.. its doesnt get away from the fact I can say every different race has the same structure that I would not find attractive..

its urself that said that really..then for ur own argument brought in blonde hair...of course I dont think ud shag any man with blonde hair

so Ive said, diversity...is in amongst many races..its not a separate entity of each race

and culture?- thats fuck all to do with genetics really...which is the highlight of the post

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By *inocchioMan
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Sooo much bollocks in one thread!

Wow.

We're talking about the human sexual response. There's some heavy stuff submerged in our unconscious, which leads strong women to enjoy being dominated against their judgement, and masculine men to get turned on by being cuckolded. And we don't have to justify any of it, if it's about adult consensual behaviour.

To say "Attractive/Ugly Black/white men/women only" is just expressing a personal preference that doesn't have to be justified.

It'd be different if it was a job advert. But this is about sex.

I fancy black women. Not exclusively, but there it is. Some black women (thank God) fancy white men. So?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sooo much bollocks in one thread!

Wow.

We're talking about the human sexual response. There's some heavy stuff submerged in our unconscious, which leads strong women to enjoy being dominated against their judgement, and masculine men to get turned on by being cuckolded. And we don't have to justify any of it, if it's about adult consensual behaviour.

To say "Attractive/Ugly Black/white men/women only" is just expressing a personal preference that doesn't have to be justified.

It'd be different if it was a job advert. But this is about sex.

I fancy black women. Not exclusively, but there it is. Some black women (thank God) fancy white men. So?"

well put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Then ignore people who say that....delete and block them and they are out of your life"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sooo much bollocks in one thread!

Wow.

We're talking about the human sexual response. There's some heavy stuff submerged in our unconscious, which leads strong women to enjoy being dominated against their judgement, and masculine men to get turned on by being cuckolded. And we don't have to justify any of it, if it's about adult consensual behaviour.

To say "Attractive/Ugly Black/white men/women only" is just expressing a personal preference that doesn't have to be justified.

It'd be different if it was a job advert. But this is about sex.

I fancy black women. Not exclusively, but there it is. Some black women (thank God) fancy white men. So?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Technically, and literally, yes it is....

But who gives a fuck....We all have preferences... "

Technically and literally? How is that racist? People should stop misinterpretating racism. It can be discriminating but nothing like racism. Its her own pussy or his cock.she or he chooses who to fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure about being racist but it is sure as hell shallow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it's racist citizen.The State will do your thinking for you..!

..which is of course utter bollocks..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure about being racist but it is sure as hell shallow!"

Nothing wrong with being shallow in a 'no strings attached' fantasy environment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No it's not and neither is saying white men only its a preference and I would rather someone out it on their profile, it saves me the time of messaging someone I have no chance if getting a meet with its that simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's preference that's all just let the racist remarks go over your head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if quoting an old NASA joke about a stupid astronauts & an intelligent monkey in space is now classified as racialism, then I guess any mention of any colour or animal must be also!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because this seems to be worrying the OP, I suppose it depends on their reasons.

I am colour blind, and the colour of a persons skin is irrellvent to me. its the person I see. but luckily we are all different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only want to meet black guys and fed up being called racist when I'm not. "

Psychologists would claim it us a form of inverted racism n would be more interested as to why you actually adopt the stance of wanting ONLY to meet black guys n whether this extends to other ethnicities e.g Asian etc

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

#boredofthesamequestion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure about being racist but it is sure as hell shallow!

Nothing wrong with being shallow in a 'no strings attached' fantasy environment. "

this sums it up. its a fantasy, not reality x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

It is racist because a preference is being ecpressed for one race over another. While this is against the law in all other areas of life quite rightly, it isn't against the law to use race as a preference for sexual partners. There is such a thing as positive discrimination

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

No it is not racist.

Yes it will attract a certain number of those you seek, however, equally it will put off a number of those you seek.

It's your profile, do with it as you wish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

reminds me a bit of the gollywogs,they was removed because they was black,and classed as racist,so does this apply to a guy if hes black,how would you say otherwise if you didnt want to meet a black guy,its just a colour of the skin,ive know some wonderful black guys,not intimately,who are more of a gent than white guys,its not he colour its the person inside that counts,and most black guys dont bother about being called that,as they are black,as we are white.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure about being racist but it is sure as hell shallow!

Nothing wrong with being shallow in a 'no strings attached' fantasy environment. "

But it is much better if it isn't purely superficial. Unless you really don't mind if you like the person you are playing with!

Not sure how skin colour defines attractiveness anyway.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village


"Not sure about being racist but it is sure as hell shallow!

Nothing wrong with being shallow in a 'no strings attached' fantasy environment.

But it is much better if it isn't purely superficial. Unless you really don't mind if you like the person you are playing with!

Not sure how skin colour defines attractiveness anyway.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Skin colour isn't the only definition of attractiveness but it is a contributing factor. Fake tanning products and sun beds wouldn't be so popular if it wasn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only want to meet black guys and fed up being called racist when I'm not. "

If you go to a bar and only welcome approaches from black men you are not racist as long as your rejection of approaches from white men is polite.

I don't see a problem.

I am attracted to certain types of ladies it does not mean I am racist or elitist against others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your decision same as would be mine to put white only on mine sadly and this has happened a few asian/black folk gave me right aggro about it.

Good luck and if you get abuse report and block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only want to meet black guys and fed up being called racist when I'm not.

Psychologists would claim it us a form of inverted racism n would be more interested as to why you actually adopt the stance of wanting ONLY to meet black guys n whether this extends to other ethnicities e.g Asian etc "

as its been said that would then apply sexual prefence to agism and sexism... it doesnt exsist in prefence..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure about being racist but it is sure as hell shallow!

Nothing wrong with being shallow in a 'no strings attached' fantasy environment.

But it is much better if it isn't purely superficial. Unless you really don't mind if you like the person you are playing with!

Not sure how skin colour defines attractiveness anyway.

"

i guess the same way some people dont see size as an issue and some do or age or height or any physical feature

we all have our own physical features that we find more or less attractive on a person or we wouldnt be himan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not racism, just personal preference. I suspect those who are calling you racist are the ones who are jealous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is it also ageist if you don't have 18 to 99 on your profile

and of course its homophobic if you only want straight people

and any disclaimer against Sydney university is sooooooo racist against the auzzies

sorry i mean Australians (don't want to offend anyone)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No different to having a preference on size, as long as it isn't worded in an offensive way there is nothing wrong with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only want to meet black guys and fed up being called racist when I'm not. "

no it is not racist as women only wanting to meet other women sexist nope it is not.

Shezz the people calling you racist need to get over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's NOT racist but it certainly is discriminatory - but then ALL meets are discriminatory because of the boundaries within which we ourselves wish to play.

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By *obbobeanMan
over a year ago

dagenham


"I only want to meet black guys and fed up being called racist when I'm not. "

Personal choice in my book, you like black guys and black cock good for you. It shows you are a woman who knows what she likes and wants. You go for it girl. I should imaging the guys/girls calling you racist will be white, and yet you see many a profile with no blacks, Asians, bi, gay etc. what's the difference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I only want to meet black guys and fed up being called racist when I'm not.

Personal choice in my book, you like black guys and black cock good for you. It shows you are a woman who knows what she likes and wants. You go for it girl. I should imaging the guys/girls calling you racist will be white, and yet you see many a profile with no blacks, Asians, bi, gay etc. what's the difference?"

erm...racism certainly doesn't only come from white people, there are idiots in all cultures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The term racism is far too strong for people who have 'black only' or 'no blacks' in their profile.

Mrs Z likes black men with big cocks and not because she thinks they are more handsome then other races. That to me is fine as there is certainly not a 'black only' policy.

Whereas myself I rarely find oriental women attractive but I have not put that in our profile. This is because I am not that narrow minded and believe that within this one billion plus population, there will be some real sexy women.

People who put no Asians or no blacks are definitely narrow minded but does not make them bad people and definitely does not mean racist! Far too strong a word as they don't hate you just don't want to fuck you.

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