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By *ea monkey OP   Man
43 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

After a comment from one of my partners over the weekend, I’ve been left mulling and it’s percolated through into the steamy brew of a rumination and a question. Now I know that this isn’t the best place for this question but for those of you that are into the spicier side of sex, I’ve got a poser;

Do you think that it’s possible and reasonable to have several kink dynamics with different people at the same time?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
43 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Yes definitely

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
43 weeks ago

East Sussex

I think it's possible to have a different dynamic with several different people. Some personalities lend themselves more to certain things and bring out different characteristics in others

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
43 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Of course it is.

I think if you're doing that 24/7 TPE thing then it's unreasonable to try to have other partners expected to work around that.

But personally, what I do with one person is absolutely nothing to do with another

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

Yes. Just remember who likes to be fucked from behind on a St Andrews cross and who prefers to cuddle.

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By *viatrixWoman
43 weeks ago

Redhill

Being the territorial b*tch that I am, no.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
43 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Yes it is possible and I have this, I have a primary who is my partner and my collared sub and also a kinky play partner as well, both sexual, both fulfill my kink needs and wants, being poly this kind of thing is quite normal in the kink world

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By *iasubTV/TS
43 weeks ago

Ilkeston

100% each dynamic is different and 1 point i had 3 on the go as each catered to different interests. As long as boundaries are set and clear expectations then it is possible

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By *ubytuesdaysTV/TS
43 weeks ago

birmingham

Iam a bit stuck for room ,three maybe 4 is the safe limit. Sometimes people think they know themselves before they come to me and can offer resistance, but are easily corrected and happier, celebrity types are the worst.

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By *ndisMan
43 weeks ago

Liverpool

Absolutely yes! Different tastes for different mates! Love to mix kinks up, depending on who I meet and what they like. Im happy with changing depending on what they want.

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By *J_OuizziCouple
43 weeks ago

Nottingham

Absolutely. What works as a dynamic between two people doesn't (or shouldn't) detract from relationships with others so long as you are all aware and happy with that set up.

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By *ellinever70Woman
43 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I think it's probably both possible and reasonable

But I also think it could be a potential source of conflict in multiple intimate relationships

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By *heGateKeeperMan
43 weeks ago

Stratford

Not my side of the game at all, but I would be inclined to say yes based on the fact that the nature of all those sexual or emotional relationships will be different in nature

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
43 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Definitely! What I enjoy with one partner, holds no joy for me with other partners.

But maybe that's because my kink is (to some extent) pleasing, and seeing my partner aroused. What turns him on - whomever he is at the time - gets me turned on.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
43 weeks ago

Reading

I do and i have.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
43 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

In principal, yes of course. To me, I don't think the notion is any different from having multiple partners.

In practice, I guess it depends on what that kink dynamic is and whether it may affect other partners in ways they are uncomfortable with e.g. seeing marks on you left by another person. For me it all comes back to the same thing, communication - what works for one partner may not work for another. But that's down to the individuals concerned to work out, I don't think there's a one size fits all.

Mrs TMN x

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago


"After a comment from one of my partners over the weekend, ….."

Gentle boast. haha.

And answering your question.

Yes. And I think that’s why I leant towards an open relationship. There are some things I know I can’t or don’t want to do with someone, and I could with someone else.

Eg - I’m not going to be submissive to someone I want to bang like a fucktoy. …

But I think if I found someone that wanted everything with me, and I want it ALL with them, that would feel pretty special.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
43 weeks ago

Manchester-ish


"In principal, yes of course. To me, I don't think the notion is any different from having multiple partners.

In practice, I guess it depends on what that kink dynamic is and whether it may affect other partners in ways they are uncomfortable with e.g. seeing marks on you left by another person. For me it all comes back to the same thing, communication - what works for one partner may not work for another. But that's down to the individuals concerned to work out, I don't think there's a one size fits all.

Mrs TMN x"

You've said it perfectly

J

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