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"Main turn off... me not being attracted to something in the profile or photos. I can't be more specific. Sorry "spot on totally agree its all about attraction dont matter if the profile is good if theres no attraction | |||
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"Profiles that look like they’ve been created by committee in order not to offend anyone. They’re just bland and make the person look like they’d do or say anything to get laid." So... most men's profiles? Haha | |||
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"Im no oil painting ovcourse x" If you press reply+quote when replying to someone then it'll be easier to know who you're replying to. If that's to me... being no oil painting isn't necessarily what I'm talking about. But being attractive to *me* is. I find a variety of features attractive, and it depends on a variety of things. Looks aren't the be all and end all. | |||
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"Profiles that look like they’ve been created by committee in order not to offend anyone. They’re just bland and make the person look like they’d do or say anything to get laid. So... most men's profiles? Haha" Quite a lot of them, yeah. Men should just be themselves, and if they can’t get laid by being themselves then what they write on a profile is not what they need to focus on. | |||
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"Profiles that look like they’ve been created by committee in order not to offend anyone. They’re just bland and make the person look like they’d do or say anything to get laid. So... most men's profiles? Haha Quite a lot of them, yeah. Men should just be themselves, and if they can’t get laid by being themselves then what they write on a profile is not what they need to focus on." Sad isn't it. I mean, I find it virtually impossible to get laid but, I'm not gonna lie! For one thing, lies ALWAYS end up being exposed, for another, you've pretty much got to have no conscience if you lie to get someone into bed. I also can't really understand why someone would find sex so important that they would diminish who they are and weaken themselves as a person by lying. | |||
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"Im sure il be guilty of many. Be brutal im thick skinned!! " toilet pics, women in photos, fleshlight, single people who say they are into same room swapping how you gonna swap without a partner and guys who just tick all the boxes when it comes to interests. The list goes on but those are most relevant to yours | |||
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"Pictures with willies next to objects to show size of Willy for eg: bottle of deodorant sprays. Scruffy rooms in the background For eg: dirty clothes on floor, dirty plates or food or animals in shot. ( this goes for all profiles, m, f, m/f, tv/ts. ) I saw a picture the other day with the dog in shot I was like WTF ! " My cat has ruined so many pictures I've taken! | |||
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"Seen my fair share of those. ?? guilty of a few in travelodge rooms through work "I know I'm a guy, and you've probably had more luck on here than me but, I would suggest breaking your profile text into paragraphs to make it easier to read. Solid blocks of text are quite intimidating. | |||
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"Main turn off... me not being attracted to something in the profile or photos. I can't be more specific. Sorry "Twas you new to the forums also x | |||
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"Main turn off... me not being attracted to something in the profile or photos. I can't be more specific. Sorry
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"Main turn off... me not being attracted to something in the profile or photos. I can't be more specific. Sorry
Twas you new to the forums also x
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"Im sure il be guilty of many. Be brutal im thick skinned!! toilet pics, women in photos, fleshlight, single people who say they are into same room swapping how you gonna swap without a partner and guys who just tick all the boxes when it comes to interests. The list goes on but those are most relevant to yours " Pretty much my whole profile | |||
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"Toilet bowls in the background. Seats up, not clean, floaters, seen it all on here " As iv said sure iv ticked a few pet hates. Floaters though wow | |||
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"I don’t like looking at a male profile where the photos are mainly of naked women and very little of the guy in the photo - it’s as if look who I can pull rather than this is a pic of me " Men and their egos/dreamers probably. Have a few of an ex fb with me in them too, all feedback welcome x | |||
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"Dirty fingernails and fingernails with chipped nail varnish " Im a plumber and seems like iv f***ed it there then hopefully theres no pictures with my hands in x | |||
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"I don't understand this thread. OP, are asking for a critique on your profile?" Profiles in general as stated im sure there’s a few faux pas on my behalf | |||
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"I don’t like looking at a male profile where the photos are mainly of naked women and very little of the guy in the photo - it’s as if look who I can pull rather than this is a pic of me Men and their egos/dreamers probably. Have a few of an ex fb with me in them too, all feedback welcome x" You’re spot on, probably is their ego however I do wonder do the females know their body is on fab 
My points aren’t based on your profile by the way as this appears to be a general thread however you’re answering each post as if it’s personal to you | |||
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"Single male profiles where it's more girl than guy. Blank profiles with no public pics and not much text. Ones with just a collection of cock pics held up against various objects. Any with regular updates like "need draining" or "who wants to suck me". " And their the ones who moan fab is shit!! Had my fair share of “straight guys” offering me a bj that fit what you’ve just mentioned ?? | |||
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"I don’t like looking at a male profile where the photos are mainly of naked women and very little of the guy in the photo - it’s as if look who I can pull rather than this is a pic of me Men and their egos/dreamers probably. Have a few of an ex fb with me in them too, all feedback welcome x You’re spot on, probably is their ego however I do wonder do the females know their body is on fab
My points aren’t based on your profile by the way as this appears to be a general thread however you’re answering each post as if it’s personal to you "Im loving the feedback and not taking it personal whatsoever. Nice to see others constructive perspectives x | |||
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"I don’t like looking at a male profile where the photos are mainly of naked women and very little of the guy in the photo - it’s as if look who I can pull rather than this is a pic of me " Scroll further down im sure that there will be a good few of me by myself thats a no  | |||
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. Will try anything once.. (jeez really)....
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Profiles where he talks about exactly how he wants you to provide pleasure for him, without seeing to realise that you are a person too with wants and needs and not a wank-in-a-human resource | |||
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"Just got a dm from a fella with 1 female photo on his profile....I asked him what's the story with his profile pic? He informs me it's to show he likes to give massage but there's absolutely zero evidence of massage in the said explicit female photo
He's not in the photo at all "Report the photo please. It's not allowed | |||
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"Just got a dm from a fella with 1 female photo on his profile....I asked him what's the story with his profile pic? He informs me it's to show he likes to give massage but there's absolutely zero evidence of massage in the said explicit female photo
He's not in the photo at all
Report the photo please. It's not allowed "Jeez I sure will | |||
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" Quite a lot of them, yeah. Men should just be themselves, and if they can’t get laid by being themselves then what they write on a profile is not what they need to focus on." Looks like I’ll be getting me coat. Waiter…. The bill. | |||
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"Profiles that look like they’ve been created by committee in order not to offend anyone. They’re just bland and make the person look like they’d do or say anything to get laid." I 100% understand where you are coming from. But as a single guy, I can understand how it gets to that stage for some. When you get very limited interactions, and then the ones you do go really well, and then just stop, and you have no idea why, it can have you over analysing every single thing you do. For women and couples, you guys have unlimited options on here, you have to find the ones that are good fits, with unlimited options you can dismiss anyone for the tiniest thing and move onto the next. There are guys that arnt just after getting laid, they would like to find genuine connections, but if people won't even engage with them they have to think why and try to adress that, as it can probably end up quite depressing for them and for some the constant rejection possibly damages their self worth. So they play it as safe as possible. | |||
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"Toilet bowls in the background. Seats up, not clean, floaters, seen it all on here As iv said sure iv ticked a few pet hates. Floaters though wow" Not forgetting skid marks and pebble dashing! | |||
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"Constant updates about being at the gym but in all honesty if she goes to the gym as often as she tries to portray....Her body would look alot different than it actually is.... (harsh but true) "Any reference at all to gyms would have me running a mile (But preferably swimming a mile). | |||
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"Profiles that look like they’ve been created by committee in order not to offend anyone. They’re just bland and make the person look like they’d do or say anything to get laid. I 100% understand where you are coming from. But as a single guy, I can understand how it gets to that stage for some. When you get very limited interactions, and then the ones you do go really well, and then just stop, and you have no idea why, it can have you over analysing every single thing you do. For women and couples, you guys have unlimited options on here, you have to find the ones that are good fits, with unlimited options you can dismiss anyone for the tiniest thing and move onto the next. There are guys that arnt just after getting laid, they would like to find genuine connections, but if people won't even engage with them they have to think why and try to adress that, as it can probably end up quite depressing for them and for some the constant rejection possibly damages their self worth. So they play it as safe as possible. " I’m unsure how ‘playing it safe’ would lead to a ‘genuine connection’ though? Surely giving people something to go on when it comes to what your personality is would be the only way to make a genuine connection? Otherwise they are basically looking at some pictures and the same thing every other bloke has typed. | |||
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" I’m unsure how ‘playing it safe’ would lead to a ‘genuine connection’ though? Surely giving people something to go on when it comes to what your personality is would be the only way to make a genuine connection? Otherwise they are basically looking at some pictures and the same thing every other bloke has typed." Maybe playing it safe atleast opens up the door to conversation and then allows that person the opportunity to show more personality? I do understand what you are saying, I've had the least safe profile and it allowed me to connect to people with the same humour (granted they were all 500 miles away) But if I'd never had an interaction I'd probably start self analysing to see where I was going wrong. I do however understand that people will water themselves down so they can try to read the other person's energy and appeal to that, I just don't think that's always the case. | |||
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""There are guys that arnt just after getting laid, they would like to find genuine connections, but if people won't even engage with them they have to think why and try to adress that, as it can probably end up quite depressing for them and for some the constant rejection possibly damages their self worth" I am one of these guys you're describing here but, I refuse to water anything down or pretend to be something I'm not. Is it depressing? Yes. Does it make me feel ugly and worthless? Yes. I still however feel that, I need to be who I am if I'm going to create connections with the right people. If it never happens then, so be it. At least I've been true to myself." And yours is a great profile, it’s not offensive at all but it’s also not bland. Keep plugging away and you’ll get there. | |||
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"Dick pics and action shots. Even more so if they show unprotected sex." when yu say action shots, what are we talking abut? jumping acrpss tall buildings, wrestling crocagators, that wort of thing? | |||
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"I think lack of any personality plus close-up dick pics is very off-putting. Because then the only thing I associate with that person is a penis. And that's not enough for me. Lack of personality for me - "looking for fun" "man looking for women" "nice, genuine, professional". So anodyne, bland and boring." Unfortunately it seems that many men either lack personality and so have to rely on their penis, or they have the personality of a penis. | |||
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"I think lack of any personality plus close-up dick pics is very off-putting. Because then the only thing I associate with that person is a penis. And that's not enough for me. Lack of personality for me - "looking for fun" "man looking for women" "nice, genuine, professional". So anodyne, bland and boring. Unfortunately it seems that many men either lack personality and so have to rely on their penis, or they have the personality of a penis." Those are the assumptions I make if there's no other evidence. | |||
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"How abou women hae you for being a member of the male species in the first place? That seems a pretty big turn off for women on here." Not for you to say, is it. | |||
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"I'm not fond of... gosh how to explain this. Dissonance between text and what the person actually wants. So it might seem really lovely and very much, I want a deeper connection, I'm not about the NSA life etc. And then they'll have veried someone saying they fucked her in all three holes within a hour of meeting her and treat her with respect. You know, when someone is typing what they think you want to read but there are signs showing that's far from reality. That sort of thing." YES! That dissonance got me very recently. Messages talking all about connection and conversation. Profile says otherwise. I just don't buy it and I think they're spinning me a line. | |||
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"I'm not fond of... gosh how to explain this. Dissonance between text and what the person actually wants. So it might seem really lovely and very much, I want a deeper connection, I'm not about the NSA life etc. And then they'll have veried someone saying they fucked her in all three holes within a hour of meeting her and treat her with respect. You know, when someone is typing what they think you want to read but there are signs showing that's far from reality. That sort of thing. YES! That dissonance got me very recently. Messages talking all about connection and conversation. Profile says otherwise. I just don't buy it and I think they're spinning me a line. " Yes! It's not really just a man thing, people do it. I struggle with that kind of dissonance because I don't quite believe it and then walls go up even higher. Some people really are looking for connections. I guess it's about how genuine you believe someone is. | |||
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"I think lack of any personality plus close-up dick pics is very off-putting. Because then the only thing I associate with that person is a penis. And that's not enough for me. Lack of personality for me - "looking for fun" "man looking for women" "nice, genuine, professional". So anodyne, bland and boring. Unfortunately it seems that many men either lack personality and so have to rely on their penis, or they have the personality of a penis. Those are the assumptions I make if there's no other evidence. " Well, what else can you do? | |||
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"Dirty fingernails and fingernails with chipped nail varnish " Oh god yeah totally dirty finger nails.. Not having them anywhere near me.. X | |||
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"Toilet bowls in the background. Seats up, not clean, floaters, seen it all on here " I agree with the toilet pics, omg at floaters | |||
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"I think lack of any personality plus close-up dick pics is very off-putting. Because then the only thing I associate with that person is a penis. And that's not enough for me. Lack of personality for me - "looking for fun" "man looking for women" "nice, genuine, professional". So anodyne, bland and boring. Unfortunately it seems that many men either lack personality and so have to rely on their penis, or they have the personality of a penis. Those are the assumptions I make if there's no other evidence. Well, what else can you do? " Proudly display a plate of jaffa cakes to prove your suitability, virility and ability to satisfy the deepest of craven desires. | |||
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"BS legal notice on your profile. You are covered by many laws, if you are that worried about it DO NOT SHARE NUDIES. " Yes, this too! | |||
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"I think lack of any personality plus close-up dick pics is very off-putting. Because then the only thing I associate with that person is a penis. And that's not enough for me. Lack of personality for me - "looking for fun" "man looking for women" "nice, genuine, professional". So anodyne, bland and boring. Mundane!! Unfortunately it seems that many men either lack personality and so have to rely on their penis, or they have the personality of a penis. Those are the assumptions I make if there's no other evidence. Well, what else can you do? Proudly display a plate of jaffa cakes to prove your suitability, virility and ability to satisfy the deepest of craven desires. " | |||
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