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By *os_Goddessofdawn OP Woman
48 weeks ago

In the clouds

How do you overcome it??

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By *smith87Man
48 weeks ago

totton

"How do you overcome it??

Looking after yourself. Remember how strong and amazing you are

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By *ools and the brainCouple
48 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

"How do you overcome it??

I wish I knew

Never had an issue.

Get covid and since then WHAMMY!

I'm a nervous wreck

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
48 weeks ago

Aberdeen

"How do you overcome it??

Medication, exercise and people around me who know when I'm not right.

MrsAbz

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I don’t know.

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
48 weeks ago

Basingstoke

I'm not sure you ever overcome it, but learning ways of recognising it and managing it, helps to make it feel far less controlling.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
48 weeks ago

London

With difficulty.

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By *obilebottomMan
48 weeks ago

All over

Tiny little steps that take you out if that situation. Lots of fresh air, walks, a pet, understanfing family and friends, a day at a spa... Different people deal with it in different ways. I hope you manage to tame yours. All the best

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By *edeWoman
48 weeks ago

the abyss

With difficulty.

Sometimes talking about it can help, sometimes going out for a walk, sometimes some self care/cosy sofa day helps.

Sometimes nothing helps and I just have to hope for the best and wait for the wave of emotion to pass

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By *oveGiving44Man
48 weeks ago

Bristol

I'm not saying this is the right way to do it, it's probably not, but I force myself to face situations that cause me anxiety. 99% of the time it's not as bad as I thought.

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By *agneto.Man
48 weeks ago

Bham

Fake it till you make it.

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By *reative-mindMan
48 weeks ago

Exeter

Personally medication makes it a controllable part of my life but its not somthing you'll ever get over or rid of.

Just exercise, staying busy and learning to known the signs of it are what I do. Plus knowing my limits, in Fab terms it's a killer but worse things I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I genuinely don’t know.

But I do know how torturing it can be so I’m sorry if you’re struggling OP

Maybe talking to someone you trust about what’s causing your anxiety could help?

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By *randmrsbigboobsCouple
48 weeks ago

Romsey

I think for me it’s a constant battle to be honest along with depression, but there are ways to keep on top of it and it’s finding things that work for you cause everyone’s so different.

Medication really helps me and I’ve stayed on this dose for a pretty long time now.

Therapy can be really helpful, I’ve had it 4 different times, two times I’ve found it really helpful (the last time I tried was November time and it’s really helped me my mental health is probably the best it’s ever been in my adult life recently). Twice it didn’t help - one time I think it was my mindset and the other time it was definitely the practitioner I was matched with wasn’t a good fit for me but I also am neurodiverse and struggled to put that across so ended up getting myself discharged from the service instead.

Talking to other people can really help, inbox is always open, as I say my mental health is the best now it’s been in years and it has taken a lot of work. I’ve invested in physical toolkits to help myself, art and craft supplies as that’s what I enjoy to relax and switch off, and also invested time in myself and made small changes that over time have really helped.

Sorry for the essay and as I say if you need to reach out please do

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Definitely look at how to control it rather than thinking it will completely disappear.

Medication can help but from personal experience it can numb you emotionally but it could have opposite effects for different people.

There is an element of pushing yourself to start.

I always find one of the most effective ways to assist you is going outside for fresh air, wether it be a walk or jog etc.

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By *oupleus30Couple
48 weeks ago

Minster

Mr) I don't think you get over it. It's how you manage your reaction to it

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Deep breathing and trying to relax

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By *iss.BellaWoman
48 weeks ago

Chester

Baby steps out of your comfort zone. build a little each time. If you have a push back, accept it take the time you need before trying again. Try and flip your concerns into positives.. trickier than it sounds. Accept that it's going to be difficult and some days (or periods of time) will be more difficult than others. Set yourself smaller goals to work towards the end goal. Good luck and if you need any support my inbox is open. You've got this, one day at a time

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By *electableicecreamMan
48 weeks ago

The West

Start small. Learning to recognise what's happening really helped me.

I find that if I'm going through a phase where I might have to deal with anxiety that what helps me the most is a consistent routine. Shower, eat, walk works for well for me.

Sometimes I can't manage the anxiety bit I can manage the things around it so as not to make it worse.

And sometimes I just have to close the front door and batton down the hatches and ride it out with movies and icecream and that's ok too.

Allowing yourself to feel like crap if really important. You can't fight the wind.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
48 weeks ago

Reading

Consider nedication. It can be a life changer

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By *ildo_swagginsthe3rdWoman
48 weeks ago

Wales

Certain situations and people can give me anxiety, I don't know whether it's the same for you, or whether it's not linked to anything in particular.

I just know that some places I've worked in, I've not felt at all comfortable and/or worried about doing a good job.

Also, important people in your life shouldn't make you feel anxious.

It's worth reflecting on where the anxiety is coming from and whether you can change that...

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By *icassolifelikeMan
48 weeks ago

Luton

"I'm not saying this is the right way to do it, it's probably not, but I force myself to face situations that cause me anxiety. 99% of the time it's not as bad as I thought."

Got to agree. Head in the sand never solves an issue, nor makes a problem go away.

Meditation, fitness, healthy eating, toning down alcohol, proper hydration and sleep hygiene.

It’s all about balance.

The real answer is we need to work it all out for ourselves. No one can do it for us. It requires buy in and a want to get better.

I suffered mental health from my first tour when I was 18. I was a kid doing stuff I couldn’t process. It took another 18 years and having a child to begin getting myself better.

Everyone’s different, and it’s not easy. Good luck and believe in yourself.

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By *os_Goddessofdawn OP Woman
48 weeks ago

In the clouds

Thanks, I am teetotal so no problems there.. just interested in other people's techniques.

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By *smith87Man
48 weeks ago

totton

Also lifting heavy weights in the gym is my therapy

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By *hoccaMan
48 weeks ago

local

Acknowledge what triggers it, the thoughts that make it worse. And understanding that they’re just thoughts not reality.

Once you master the art of talking yourself out of anxiety it can never get the better of you. With that been said there’s no overnight fix.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
48 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I think you have to learn to live with it. Mine comes and goes in different levels, stress makes it much worse!

Sometimes you just gave you ride it out, other times you have to front it up.

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By *a LunaWoman
48 weeks ago

South Wales

I was put on medication. Best thing ever. I’m like a different person.

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By *heel markMan
48 weeks ago

beside the sea

Propranolol works for me ,usually. I get it really bad sometimes , it's been know to make me physically sick, but that was before my diagnosis.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I find the gym a place where my mind clears and quietens. When I lift heavy there is literally nothing in my head other then god I hope this doesn’t go wrong and it gives me an hour or two of stillness, despite being in a busy commercial gym.

I can’t recommend it enough for everyone

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
48 weeks ago

Leeds

Fake it til I make it.

Works for me.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Yoga works for me!

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
48 weeks ago

Worcester

Therapy and medication.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Worth talking to your GP if you haven’t already. Cognitive behavioural therapy helps a lot, not sure if still available on the nhs though.

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By *ea monkeyMan
48 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

For me; medication, therapy and a level of understanding of my triggers has helped but ultimately it never goes away.

It really sucks to be in the state of constant worry, if I knew how to stop it, I would

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I'm still trying to work that out but medication helps. Book an appointment with your GP. I hope you're feeling not too bad.

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By *ad NannaWoman
48 weeks ago

East London

Avoid caffeine, fizzy drinks, sweets or anything loaded with sugar.

Deep breathing.

I don't feel better going for walks but it helps other people.

Find a distraction.

Take my medication.

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By *ad NannaWoman
48 weeks ago

East London

I know that when my stomach is bad my anxiety is too.

I drank too much alcohol yesterday which affects my stomach and I've been under it all day.

I know it will pass and I'm already feeling better.

Talk to someone.

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By *os_Goddessofdawn OP Woman
48 weeks ago

In the clouds

I'm already on Sertraline for depression, didn't really want anymore

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By *k_123Man
48 weeks ago

the north

For me it’s CBT and regular exercise. I do park run now on Saturdays and it’s changed my life x

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By *irexMan
48 weeks ago

Hertford

You’ve done the first step in acknowledging it in my opinion. Following that it was talking to people about it, then talking some more that helped me. Take care.

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By *weetCherryWoman
48 weeks ago

London

I don’t think you overcome it completely, you learn coping techniques and learn to live with it

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By *rill PhilMan
48 weeks ago

Crediton

I spend as much time as I can curled up in bed with my cat.

That sort of helps.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
48 weeks ago

Norwich

Distraction, breathing, exercise.

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By *inxy777Woman
48 weeks ago

essex

I had acupuncture as I had a panic attack whilst driving, it worked for me.

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
48 weeks ago

Next Door

Out of the 8yr + since I was diagnosed with it, I've don't think it's ever gone away fully but I have learnt to cope.

Not being able to sleep can make my anxiety worth.

When it's really bad, I have to go back to my black or white (yes or no questions). I ask myself simple questions to see if I can change the situation or problem or isn't someone else's issue etc.

Mediation also helps me.

This month is the best I've felt in 6yrs, my mind is clear, I'm getting better sleep, I'm back exercising.

I've had a change in my prescription meds (hrt) and changed the magnesium I take at night.

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
48 weeks ago

Wirral

Take a day at a time and hope tomorrow is a better day

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
48 weeks ago

Next Door

Don't be too hard on yourself and acknowledge how you are feeling.

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By *exycarlashane181Couple
48 weeks ago

Leamington Spa

Well I medicate mine... Its still there to a degree but bearable

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
48 weeks ago

Somewhere

Hard gym workout and cold water therapy works for me to keep it under control.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"How do you overcome it??

By understanding why your body reacts to anxiety the way it does.

I had panic attacks for 16 years, then I was picked to do a trial 6 week course for people like me to learn to understand why the body reacts to different stimulus and releases more adrenaline than is needed.

Since then ive only had a drug induced panic attack. (Usually Amitriptyline that will bring on an attack after 4 days useage, I refuse to take it now if offered)

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"How do you overcome it??

By understanding why your body reacts to anxiety the way it does.

Since then ive only had a drug induced panic attack. (Usually Amitriptyline that will bring on an attack after 4 days useage, I refuse to take it now if offered)"

Course was taken in 2003

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By *anJenny 181Couple
48 weeks ago

Preston

First of all Anxiety is normal & we all have it to some extent, it's probably some primeval thing that keep us alert to danger.

We all have something that makes us Anxious

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By *untime1969Couple
48 weeks ago

Huddersfield

Avoiding alcohol and lots of walking and swimming have really helped me, I had medication, and still have some around but try not to take it because it piles the weight on me!

I find when I'm having an attack getting home as soon as possible and wanking really helps me, must be taking my mind of what's going on and raising my heart rate or something!

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