FabSwingers.com forum: Labels

By *loomy Girl OP Woman
40 weeks ago

leicester

I hate labels and never attach them to myself and really don’t like it when people attach them to me either.

I get messages calling me a BBW or asking if I’m goth cos they like to fetishise certain groups of people (eg, I’ve never been with a goth before or I’d love to try a bbw).

No…I’m just me, I don’t conform to most labels.

Do you guys label yourselves? Would you chat with people that want to hook up with you just because you fall under some kind of category?

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By *mf123Man
40 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

I had one that said £8.99 once but turned out id forgot to take the tag of my t shirt

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Thought this was going to be able labels on clothes

And how they put them on the most stupid places and your only option is to cut the label and then have a little bit off it dig in to you

As it’s always attached to important things

Like the side seem off a skirt waist band of knickers stuff that if you cut the stitches the whole garment falls apart ok ok

I have went way off track and waffled on

To your question

Not a fan of those labels myself we all humans we are all people treat us as such not as a label

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
40 weeks ago

Basingstoke

I label myself as a unique individual. If anyone wants to call me something that I don't identify as being, I'll pull them up on it, no problem!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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40 weeks ago

East Sussex

I think labels have their uses. It's a shorthand way of describing yourself. I'd describe myself as an older woman for instance, I'm not keen on the stereotypes that are attached to that description though.

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By *ealitybitesMan
40 weeks ago

Belfast

I'm very strict on my age filters but a glitch in the fab matrix means that couples where one half is above my lower age filter can still contact me even if the other is well below those filters.

As a result over the years I've had a few young women in their 20s get in touch that way and they have always used that line about wanting to "try" an older guy.

I wasn't interested at all but I wasn't happy either about being tagged that way.

In another thread started by a couple seeking an 18 year old, people were attacking them for age related issues and concerns.

I couldn't get passed the fact they said they wanted to "try" an 18 year old and were looking for recommendations from anyone who had already done so.

That level of objectivity is alien to me.

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By *estarossa.Woman
40 weeks ago

Flagrante

Its a double edged sword for me.

I don't like terms like Bbw or Bbc, but being a Redhead has advantages as well as sometimes being a box men want to tick.

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By *oo..Woman
40 weeks ago

Boo's World

I don't label myself, never will do and I hate it when people send messages doing that exact thing.

Gets right on my tits!.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Please dont take anything i say here as hate, this is purely my honest opinion on your post.

"I hate labels and never attach them to myself and really don’t like it when people attach them to me either."

People base their initial perceptions on visuals. This is 100% human nature. If you don't label yourself as how you appear thats fine, but you can't expect others to be mind readers. If they approach you and engage in conversation based on their perception you should politely tell them "actually i prefere to be.....etc" if they then ignore that and continue to "label" you as they did previously only then are they in the wrong.

"I get messages calling me a BBW or asking if I’m goth "

Because thats how you appear, you even call yourself "a big girl" on your profile.

"cos they like to fetishise certain groups of people (eg, I’ve never been with a goth before or I’d love to try a bbw)."

Again because of your appearance. Plus both of those things, goth and bbw, are common sexual fetishes, most who choose to appear as such, especially on an adult hook up site, embrace it and activly look for similar or those who do indeed have it as a fetish.

"No…I’m just me, I don’t conform to most labels."

As above, if you choose to vilify a natural human impulse, it's on you.

"Do you guys label yourselves? Would you chat with people that want to hook up with you just because you fall under some kind of category? "

I don't consciously label myself , nor do i get cut up if people do label me based on my appearance.

My advice to you would be to calm down, stop taking yourself so seriously. If someone "labels" you, and you dont like it, politely correct them, if they continue, stop communicating with them, block them, move on.

Life is too short, trust me. Don't make normal human behavior out to be something more sinister, nobody needs more stress in their lives, especially self created reasons to be triggered.

Im happy to chat with someone who has contacted me based off my profile or pictures of me. Chances are they are 100% correct or at least very close and we will have more in common.

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By *mf123Man
40 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

"I don't label myself, never will do and I hate it when people send messages doing that exact thing.

Gets right on my tits!."
i think you will find only the word boo on your tits

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By *oo..Woman
40 weeks ago

Boo's World

"I don't label myself, never will do and I hate it when people send messages doing that exact thing.

Gets right on my tits!.i think you will find only the word boo on your tits

Attention to detail is spot on

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By *mf123Man
40 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

"I don't label myself, never will do and I hate it when people send messages doing that exact thing.

Gets right on my tits!.i think you will find only the word boo on your tits

Attention to detail is spot on

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By *hil most chillMan
40 weeks ago

South East & Europe

I honestly don't know if I'm slim, athletic or average. I also don't care. People are going to label others based on what they see in the profile or in forum posts. I only label the ladies here as "would" or "wouldn't", and forum posts sway that more than pics a lot of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

We understand the world by categorising it. People are no different if we don’t know them. So someone uses a ‘label’ so what? It’s not acknowledging, limiting or defining anything about you. It’s someone perceiving you in a category. That’s all it is.

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By *empest2KMan
40 weeks ago

Derby

I don't usually label anyone except myself, and I would label myself as ‘unassuming’. Whether folk think that's accurate (or not) then that's down to them, especially if they've met me

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By *agnar73Man
40 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"Its a double edged sword for me.

I don't like terms like Bbw or Bbc, but being a Redhead has advantages as well as sometimes being a box men want to tick."

Wait redhead..

Sorry.

But in terms of labels, it’s a necessary evil at times, maybe the quickest way to describe myself or situation. Some I don’t mind, others I do have an issue.

But there are people and groups who look to be an identity and others that don’t, sometimes common interest or cause or through experience or disability.

Others go for ‘we are all people first’, and that may be true, but is often used to try and break the factor of identity or identifying with similar others, sometimes for not so good reasons or to try and mitigate or down play what someone is saying.

It’s a toughie, I don’t think it’s helped by the pornification of things around sex, a woman is a babe, then a milf, then a mature, then gilf. (Sometimes woman is enough)

Fit or BB and on it goes to make a categorisation. For a website and younger guys that have grown up with it, think that’s the language or the shorthand and it really isn’t spoken.

I doubt I’ve ever said ‘MILF’ out loud, it’s a ridiculous thing applied to women whether or not they’ve had kids.

Equally I’d laugh at being called a DILF.

It’s weird and at the same time commonplace as that’s how online things spill out into real life.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
40 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Labels are useful for some things.

If someone approaches with oh I want to fuck a goth girl / bbw / older woman, then off they fuck.

I may or may not be all of the above to them. But I'm also not an object or a tick box for someone's fetish list. And people who think that way are absolutely not of interest to me ever

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
39 weeks ago

Central

I want to be of interest to be satisfied and not to primarily be a notch, because someone wanted to achieve a fetish goal, etc.

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By *ansoffateMan
39 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

I find using words can be useful sometimes.

I suppose grunts or expressive dance have their merits at times.

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By *TG3Man
39 weeks ago

Dorchester

I'm not a great lover of labels either i tend to ignore that shite and just message

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By *loomy Girl OP Woman
39 weeks ago

leicester

"I want to be of interest to be satisfied and not to primarily be a notch, because someone wanted to achieve a fetish goal, etc. "

Exactly this

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
39 weeks ago

Leeds

Labels have their uses, no one wants to pick up a tin of dog food instead of beans however no I wouldn't meet anyone just because they liked a certain label.

If people didn't have their sexuality labelled I'd spend a hell of a lot of time trying to chat up straight women which would be a pain in the arse.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

It’s difficult for me to label myself, because whenever I read labels, I think I’m a bit of that I’m a bit of this etc, but not 100% one thing.

I also cringe when I hear people label themselves certain things, but that’s just me, it’s not on them. But I think labels to help.

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By *andadbodMan
39 weeks ago

Liverpool

was expecting pronouns and what you identify as

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Certain labels are needed, for example I label myself as bisexual because I am. How else would ladies know that I'm interested in them?

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By *stwo2023Couple
39 weeks ago

Worcester

I think sometimes people try a little too hard to not be labelled. It turns in to their whole personality.

Big girl/BBW are interchangeable ways of letting people know we may be outside of their preferences.

Same with goth/alternative etc.

As for the 'i'd love to try xxx' chancers just block them.

Evie

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By *onameyet2Man
39 weeks ago

chorley

Any short, one legged, Asian, post pubescent, Irish, communist, Christian, non binary, toothless hags out there who fancy a shag?

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
39 weeks ago

I like labels I find them helpful. Staunch label haters make my eyes roll, so I just don't meet them.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
39 weeks ago

ashford

Don't bother me at all! Call me what u will x

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By *oodmessMan
39 weeks ago

yumsville

They're not something I seek out whether they're hotcouple, sexycouple, gymfitcouple, bigtits or pawg, or whatever other labels people put on themselves. If I get along with them good, though some are obviously more off-putting or enticing than others which would likely affect me replying/contacting

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