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By *am93ton OP   Man
40 weeks ago

Newcastle

To cut a long story short, me and my partner at the time had been together 4-5 years but around half way through our relationship we decided to take a break because we were always at each others necks due to a handful of things tied along with other difficulties, we had a really shit year. We both agreed to have some space etc (her idea more than mine) which actually done us good but with having time to think about it have any other women on here agreed to a short break and proceeded with another guy within the time?

Reason i ask is because i knew my partner was but i decided i didnt want to strain us anymore as we were back together

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By *am93ton OP   Man
40 weeks ago

Newcastle

Which sounds weak of me but we had been through enough and wernt officially together x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
40 weeks ago

East Sussex

What were the terms of your break?

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By *am93ton OP   Man
40 weeks ago

Newcastle

Just for us to have some time away from each otgmher we agreed to just give each other some time to see how we felt, we were apart around 4-5 weeks

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By *icecouple561Couple
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40 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Just for us to have some time away from each otgmher we agreed to just give each other some time to see how we felt, we were apart around 4-5 weeks "

Ok.

I've never been in that situation.

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By *eliWoman
40 weeks ago

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Yes I have. That's only because in my experience a break is really the end of a relationship. Well, that's how it's played out for me. I don't want to be sitting around waiting for any person to decide they want to be with me - they do or they don't.

Does it bother you that she has OP?

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
40 weeks ago

Next Door

OP, you both were single in that break.

People deal with things differently.

Do you feel that she cheated on you?

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago


"Just for us to have some time away from each otgmher we agreed to just give each other some time to see how we felt, we were apart around 4-5 weeks "

Sounds like a story where somebody wanted to get laid without any guilt or come back.

Just my pennies worth

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By *am93ton OP   Man
40 weeks ago

Newcastle

Yes but i dont 100% know she did i just suspected its why im asking the question because if people have then its exciting to know she might of as i find it rather hot now

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By *hesubtlegentMan
40 weeks ago

surrey

OP unfortunately it sounds like she already had eyes on the other person and used the opportunity of a break to go have fun without guilt. What I think you need to establish is if she really is happy to be back together with you or still seeing him on the sly. Sorry, I’m a suspicious person…

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago


"Yes but i dont 100% know she did i just suspected its why im asking the question because if people have then its exciting to know she might of as i find it rather hot now "

Why don’t you ask her?

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
40 weeks ago

Northampton

I’m sure I’ve seen this scenario on a tv show; “we were on a break”!

Seriously though, if you can park the thought and move on, do so.

I suspect as you have asked the question this is not an option. In that case you gotta have the discussion and get it out in the open otherwise it’s going to eat away at you.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
40 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Just ask.

And if you take breaks in the future, clarify the terms beforehand so you're both working on equal boundaries instead of not knowing what is and isn't acceptable and communicable

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By *a LunaWoman
40 weeks ago

South Wales

I had a short break with my first long time partner - it was two weeks. I have read that for a break to be effective it is best for it to be 6 months or so.

There was no meeting anybody else. It was a break to clarify how we felt about each other and a breathing space. Adding anyone else into the mix would have defeated the object really.

It was a horrible experience and I can say I wouldn’t have a break again. In my experience it just delayed the inevitable and gave him false hope.

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By *oupleus30Couple
40 weeks ago

Minster

Yes happened to me and I slept with someone else actually started ceing them ! And I think he did to but didn't tell me !! We got back together after tho ..... never spoke about it either.

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