FabSwingers.com forum: Be honest with me.....

By *oveToPlay. OP Couple
45 weeks ago

Yorkshire

Hey you lovely lot

Hope you're all having a wonderful Tuesday.

I need some honesty - please give me it both barrels, I've a thick skin

Does it put you off us, as a couple that my husband is Bi Curious? (Intended for the straight couples and single males out there)

Do you worry about playing with a couple with a bi curious male, if you are straight?

I would really appreciate some honest comments on this

Thank you

S xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Not at all, love a man who doesn’t mind bumping dicks as we DP And DVP

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
45 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

It doesn’t put me off at all. If we need to talk about boundaries before getting naked together, we can do that. And anyone I didn’t trust to understand/respect boundaries … I wouldn’t be getting naked with anyway.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
45 weeks ago

London

Not a problem with me.

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By *valanche1001Man
45 weeks ago

Leeds

Not at all. Whether it’s your thing or not you’d expect everyone involved to respect each others boundaries. If it makes you uncomfortable being in the presence of someone who’s bi/gay/curious whatever, you should respect an individual’s choice to be who they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

"……(Intended for the straight couples and single males out there)

Do you worry about playing with a couple with a bi curious male, if you are straight?

I would really appreciate some honest comments on this

Thank you

S xxxx"

No. It doesn’t, even if I’m having sex with a woman, it doesn’t mean I’m gonna do everything with them.

And that will be the same meeting up with a couple, and also if the man was Bi-sexual.

A little bit of communication always helps

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

No.

As long as everyone’s boundaries are discussed beforehand and respected, it shouldn’t be an issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Couldn’t really answer that as I am not straight I am bi

But contrary off belief I respect boundaries so if I was

Meeting a couple who’s husbands or play mate or whatever was straight I would respect that boundaries

I am not a rabbid dog ha ha that needs to be humped by everything you no I so respect boundaries

As for meeting couples with bi course nope wouldn’t put me off ither again can respect boundaries on how far they want to push it

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By *nver40Man
45 weeks ago

Inverness

Just makes it hotter

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By *ositiveVibesJBxMan
45 weeks ago

Birmingham/Wigan

No for me it makes no difference. If during the play something happens it’s a simple and polite no and carry on.

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By *jb1ABCMan
45 weeks ago

crewe

No not a bit of difference for me what goes indoors stays indoors as far as I’m concerned xx

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

No because my profile states that I’m straight.

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By *olfandtazCouple
45 weeks ago

Bristol

It's not a problem for us as long as he doesn't try anything with me. All about respecting personal boundaries

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By *oveToPlay. OP Couple
45 weeks ago

Yorkshire

Thank you so much guys for all your responses

Mr is extremely respectful and always listens and adheres to any boundaries set within a straight or bi scenario - as we both do.

Respect is absolutely key

S xxx

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
45 weeks ago

kent

Hey darling, not in the slightest. I have no problem at all if the other chap is bi. So long as we all share respect and we have a laugh, it’s not a problem Xx

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By *ositiveVibesJBxMan
45 weeks ago

Birmingham/Wigan

"Thank you so much guys for all your responses

Mr is extremely respectful and always listens and adheres to any boundaries set within a straight or bi scenario - as we both do.

Respect is absolutely key

S xxx

There you go you both have all the qualities and personalities for it never to be an issue x

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By *oveToPlay. OP Couple
45 weeks ago

Yorkshire

"Hey darling, not in the slightest. I have no problem at all if the other chap is bi. So long as we all share respect and we have a laugh, it’s not a problem Xx"

Love this response

Thank you

S xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

As a single female, doesn’t bother me at all. If it bothers someone they aren’t for you.

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By *oveToPlay. OP Couple
45 weeks ago

Yorkshire

"Thank you so much guys for all your responses

Mr is extremely respectful and always listens and adheres to any boundaries set within a straight or bi scenario - as we both do.

Respect is absolutely key

S xxx

There you go you both have all the qualities and personalities for it never to be an issue x"

Thank you, what a lovely thing to say

S xxx

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By *illy IdolMan
45 weeks ago

Midlands

"Hey you lovely lot

Hope you're all having a wonderful Tuesday.

I need some honesty - please give me it both barrels, I've a thick skin

Does it put you off us, as a couple that my husband is Bi Curious? (Intended for the straight couples and single males out there)

Do you worry about playing with a couple with a bi curious male, if you are straight?

I would really appreciate some honest comments on this

Thank you

S xxxx"

Can I pull the reverse uno card out. Would it put you guys off if it was a straight, single male's profile?

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By *oodmessMan
45 weeks ago

yumsville

If rules are followed it's always been fine with me, it's when those hands get a bit handsy that things finish early and what could have been a decent meet turns into a wasted night.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
45 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Thank you so much guys for all your responses

Mr is extremely respectful and always listens and adheres to any boundaries set within a straight or bi scenario - as we both do.

Respect is absolutely key

S xxx

Bear in mind you'll generally get a different response asking in the forums than you would surveying the general population of Fab.

There tends to be less judgement about these things in here, whereas the other 99% of the site? They won't say it but then they don't need to. They just won't approach you or won't respond to messages.

Some struggle to appreciate that being bi or curious doesn't automatically mean you're incapable of straight play. There's often an assumption that any bi/curious guy won't respect boundaries and will expect male/male interaction.

The reality is far, far different of course.

But 'fear' and 'paranoia'....

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
45 weeks ago

Essex

It doesn’t bother me.

Because with anyone couple/male/female I would have a conversation regarding all of our boundaries.

I always say if you can’t talk about it, then you really shouldn’t be doing it!!!

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By *electableicecreamMan
45 weeks ago

The West

Nearly all of my mfm experiences have been with a couple where the guy is bi. It wouldn't even occur to me to have a problem with that.

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By *oveToPlay. OP Couple
45 weeks ago

Yorkshire

"Hey you lovely lot

Hope you're all having a wonderful Tuesday.

I need some honesty - please give me it both barrels, I've a thick skin

Does it put you off us, as a couple that my husband is Bi Curious? (Intended for the straight couples and single males out there)

Do you worry about playing with a couple with a bi curious male, if you are straight?

I would really appreciate some honest comments on this

Thank you

S xxxx

Can I pull the reverse uno card out. Would it put you guys off if it was a straight, single male's profile?"

Oooh good Q

No not at all - straight play is just as fun and sometimes what we search for

S xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

I think its hot and adds to the dynamic I enjoy a hubby sucking my dick infront of his hotwife x

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By *usurrusCouple
45 weeks ago

North West.

It does not worry us at all. We are what we are. X

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By *eyond PurityCouple
45 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

I’m straight.

We’ve never played with a bi or bi-curious guy but chatting to a couple of them.

I’ve been right alongside another man’s cock during DVP and I’ve not given it a second thought and I doubt I would if I knew the guy was bi. To me it’s all about C’s in pleasure.

If it excited the other guy, he respected my boundaries and C got the pleasure from the thrusts, then it’s win win win.

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By *randmrslookingCouple
45 weeks ago

london

Husband is straight, bi guys turn me on, we are happy to play! X

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
45 weeks ago

Staffordshire

The male half being Bi or bicurious wouldn’t put us off.

This thread is flawed though.

Very few of those that are put off by it won’t say so publicly as the majority of posters tell lies here to make them seem more credible to potential meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

"The male half being Bi or bicurious wouldn’t put us off.

This thread is flawed though.

Very few of those that are put off by it won’t say so publicly as the majority of posters tell lies here to make them seem more credible to potential meets.

With that in mind…, are you telling lies….

This has certainly thrown a spanner in the works.

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By *illy IdolMan
45 weeks ago

Midlands

"Hey you lovely lot

Hope you're all having a wonderful Tuesday.

I need some honesty - please give me it both barrels, I've a thick skin

Does it put you off us, as a couple that my husband is Bi Curious? (Intended for the straight couples and single males out there)

Do you worry about playing with a couple with a bi curious male, if you are straight?

I would really appreciate some honest comments on this

Thank you

S xxxx

Can I pull the reverse uno card out. Would it put you guys off if it was a straight, single male's profile?

Oooh good Q

No not at all - straight play is just as fun and sometimes what we search for

S xxx"

See I wouldn't actively search for a couple where the guy is bi as I'd just assume I wasn't what they were looking for, but it wouldn't put me off. As others have stated, if all were respectful, as I'm sure you both are, everyone is there to have a good time. Communication is always key

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By *illy IdolMan
45 weeks ago

Midlands

"The male half being Bi or bicurious wouldn’t put us off.

This thread is flawed though.

Very few of those that are put off by it won’t say so publicly as the majority of posters tell lies here to make them seem more credible to potential meets.

And I agree with this

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
45 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"The male half being Bi or bicurious wouldn’t put us off.

This thread is flawed though.

Very few of those that are put off by it won’t say so publicly as the majority of posters tell lies here to make them seem more credible to potential meets.

With that in mind…, are you telling lies….

This has certainly thrown a spanner in the works.

Absolutely not.

I’d just not comment if it did put us off as, well, that’s how I roll.

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By *oveToPlay. OP Couple
45 weeks ago

Yorkshire

"The male half being Bi or bicurious wouldn’t put us off.

This thread is flawed though.

Very few of those that are put off by it won’t say so publicly as the majority of posters tell lies here to make them seem more credible to potential meets.

I understand most people won't reply with honest feelings through fear of being subjected to hassle etc but it is nice to hear from people have no issue with it and also to hear from those who wish to express concerns about meeting bi guys so we can discuss.

I don't however feel that the majority of people respond on here just in order to get a meet - I may be living in la la land saying that

S xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

"Hey you lovely lot

Hope you're all having a wonderful Tuesday.

I need some honesty - please give me it both barrels, I've a thick skin

Does it put you off us, as a couple that my husband is Bi Curious? (Intended for the straight couples and single males out there)

Do you worry about playing with a couple with a bi curious male, if you are straight?

I would really appreciate some honest comments on this

Thank you

S xxxx"
does he fuck men ? Confusing

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By *ife NinjaMan
45 weeks ago

Dunfermline

As long as a boundary is set (straight man here, not interested in anything male coming towards me), I wouldn't be put off.

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By *NewBNWOMan
45 weeks ago

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"Hey you lovely lot

Hope you're all having a wonderful Tuesday.

I need some honesty - please give me it both barrels, I've a thick skin

Does it put you off us, as a couple that my husband is Bi Curious? (Intended for the straight couples and single males out there)

Do you worry about playing with a couple with a bi curious male, if you are straight?

I would really appreciate some honest comments on this

Thank you

S xxxx"

No love a bi guy opens up so much more opportunities for fun

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

"The male half being Bi or bicurious wouldn’t put us off.

This thread is flawed though.

Very few of those that are put off by it won’t say so publicly as the majority of posters tell lies here to make them seem more credible to potential meets.

With that in mind…, are you telling lies….

This has certainly thrown a spanner in the works.

Absolutely not.

I’d just not comment if it did put us off as, well, that’s how I roll."

And that’s how I’d see it, I don’t see what gain there is to say you’re okay with something. What happens when someone calls your bluff?

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By *oveToPlay. OP Couple
45 weeks ago

Yorkshire

"Hey you lovely lot

Hope you're all having a wonderful Tuesday.

I need some honesty - please give me it both barrels, I've a thick skin

Does it put you off us, as a couple that my husband is Bi Curious? (Intended for the straight couples and single males out there)

Do you worry about playing with a couple with a bi curious male, if you are straight?

I would really appreciate some honest comments on this

Thank you

S xxxxdoes he fuck men ? Confusing"

I don't understand why it is confusing ?

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By *oveToPlay. OP Couple
45 weeks ago

Yorkshire

"As long as a boundary is set (straight man here, not interested in anything male coming towards me), I wouldn't be put off.

Thank you for responding- haha you can be assured no bi play would occur as you are straight and boundaries would absolutely be set

S xxxx

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By *LiamMan
45 weeks ago

Midlands

"Hey you lovely lot

Hope you're all having a wonderful Tuesday.

I need some honesty - please give me it both barrels, I've a thick skin

Does it put you off us, as a couple that my husband is Bi Curious? (Intended for the straight couples and single males out there)

Do you worry about playing with a couple with a bi curious male, if you are straight?

I would really appreciate some honest comments on this

Thank you

S xxxx"

For me yes.

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By *illy IdolMan
45 weeks ago

Midlands

"The male half being Bi or bicurious wouldn’t put us off.

This thread is flawed though.

Very few of those that are put off by it won’t say so publicly as the majority of posters tell lies here to make them seem more credible to potential meets.

With that in mind…, are you telling lies….

This has certainly thrown a spanner in the works.

Absolutely not.

I’d just not comment if it did put us off as, well, that’s how I roll.

And that’s how I’d see it, I don’t see what gain there is to say you’re okay with something. What happens when someone calls your bluff? "

This opinion could just be mine, but this is where veri's carry a bit of weight for me. I know some like to hide them but I was part of a couple I'd be looking for singles who had previously been in a similar situation. What people say and do can be very different

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By *olvespairCouple
45 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

We are both bi and clearly state on our profile we're happy to play straight. We've played with both men and women who weren't bi and as boundaries were all discussed first-hand - everyone had a fun filled night

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By *oveToPlay. OP Couple
45 weeks ago

Yorkshire

"Hey you lovely lot

Hope you're all having a wonderful Tuesday.

I need some honesty - please give me it both barrels, I've a thick skin

Does it put you off us, as a couple that my husband is Bi Curious? (Intended for the straight couples and single males out there)

Do you worry about playing with a couple with a bi curious male, if you are straight?

I would really appreciate some honest comments on this

Thank you

S xxxx

For me yes."

Thank you for being honest Liam

Each to their own, and all preferences are to be respected

S xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Bi Curious or Bi Sexual ?

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By *LiamMan
45 weeks ago

Midlands

"Hey you lovely lot

Hope you're all having a wonderful Tuesday.

I need some honesty - please give me it both barrels, I've a thick skin

Does it put you off us, as a couple that my husband is Bi Curious? (Intended for the straight couples and single males out there)

Do you worry about playing with a couple with a bi curious male, if you are straight?

I would really appreciate some honest comments on this

Thank you

S xxxx

For me yes.

Thank you for being honest Liam

Each to their own, and all preferences are to be respected

S xxx"

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By *oveToPlay. OP Couple
45 weeks ago

Yorkshire

"Bi Curious or Bi Sexual ?"

Bi curious at the moment

We have been very open on our profile stating that J is bi curious

S xxxx

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By *oveToPlay. OP Couple
45 weeks ago

Yorkshire

"The male half being Bi or bicurious wouldn’t put us off.

This thread is flawed though.

Very few of those that are put off by it won’t say so publicly as the majority of posters tell lies here to make them seem more credible to potential meets.

With that in mind…, are you telling lies….

This has certainly thrown a spanner in the works.

Absolutely not.

I’d just not comment if it did put us off as, well, that’s how I roll.

And that’s how I’d see it, I don’t see what gain there is to say you’re okay with something. What happens when someone calls your bluff?

Very much agree with this - what people say and do are 2 completely different things

S xxx

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By *omsubdevonCouple
45 weeks ago

Newton Abbot

We are interested and moving to Yorkshire in the summer

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

It wouldn't bother me. As long as everyone keeps to eachothers boundaries (which you would expect in any dynamic)

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
45 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

I have enjoyed it in the past when I’m at a group thing, party, gangbang, or whatever and the host makes a big announcement at the start like “No means no, the ladies are in charge, condoms for penetration, and if you’re bi for god’s sake don’t freak the straight guys out.”

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By *he Forum Thread KillerMan
45 weeks ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

Not one jot.

As long as all parties know, and more importantly, stick to boundaries.

Communication and respect is the key.

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By *oubleswing2019Man
45 weeks ago

Colchester

When we played as a couple it would always put us off, if the other guy was straight. As a both-bi couple, play was always bi. (To be fair, it's more a case of everything, everywhere, all at once).

As a single male flying solo, I still only look for bi-couples.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
45 weeks ago

Neath valley.

"Hey you lovely lot

Hope you're all having a wonderful Tuesday.

I need some honesty - please give me it both barrels, I've a thick skin

Does it put you off us, as a couple that my husband is Bi Curious? (Intended for the straight couples and single males out there)

Do you worry about playing with a couple with a bi curious male, if you are straight?

I would really appreciate some honest comments on this

Thank you

S xxxx"

My hubby is like myself fully bisexual. We have played with a few fully bi cpls and also cpls where only the lady is bisexual. But we have found most straight cpls avoid us like the plague as the wrongly assume my hubs will be eyeing up their man which is the assumption of all fuck ups as it does not go that way.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
45 weeks ago

Worcester

"Hey you lovely lot

Hope you're all having a wonderful Tuesday.

I need some honesty - please give me it both barrels, I've a thick skin

Does it put you off us, as a couple that my husband is Bi Curious? (Intended for the straight couples and single males out there)

Do you worry about playing with a couple with a bi curious male, if you are straight?

I would really appreciate some honest comments on this

Thank you

S xxxx"

I sometimes play as part of a couple.

The only thing that would put us off is that he’s written bi-curious instead of bisexual.

My male partner won’t meet men who identify as bi-curious because that sounds like they’re hedging their bets and it’s going to be crap for him. I won’t meet women who identify as bi-curious for the same reason.

Either you find the same sex sexually attractive or you don’t. Shit or get off the pot.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
45 weeks ago

Leeds

It's not off-putting to us, but I guess it is to some.

Same as straight couples not wanting to meet a bi female, I think they believe I seriously want to fuck anyone with a pair of tits

it's obviously not the case.

Boundaries, boundaries and boundaries as long as everyone is on the same page It doesn't really matter.

Mrs

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By *rHotNottsMan
45 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

It wouldn’t put me off but the old bad experience I have had has been with Bi-men in couples and a previous boss who was bi. So I’d be extra cautious.

Guys in swinging frequently can be pushy in all kinds of ways, not all but some guys. Generally more so than women. Some can be so desperate and just not take no for answer to the point it’s abusive.

So what’s happened is as much as they say upfront theres no expectations, it’s a straight meet, Well into the night or party , usually when d*unk, they start chipping away , first questions and suggestions, little accidental touches etc To the point that it’s just disrespectful of what was agreed upfront.

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By *oveToPlay. OP Couple
45 weeks ago

Yorkshire

Morning you lovely lot

Thank you for all your responses- really interesting read, especially the differing view points.

Thank you for being honest and open.

S xxx

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By *cott14Man
45 weeks ago

Essex & SW Exeter/Taunton

Open conversation around boundaries and mutual respect and it’s a go for me x

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
45 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"So what’s happened is as much as they say upfront theres no expectations, it’s a straight meet, Well into the night or party , usually when d*unk, they start chipping away , first questions and suggestions, little accidental touches etc To the point that it’s just disrespectful of what was agreed upfront."

I can sympathise there. If I think back (a long way back) to when I was younger and more experimental/fluid with my sexuality, there were definitely times when ‘do you kiss with guys?’ was followed by an aggressive full-on snog with a tongue down my throat before I could say ‘no’.

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