FabSwingers.com forum: Flirting (in the real world)

By *sWyld OP Woman
45 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I've just tried to flirt with someone in the real world and he was completely oblivious!

There's no hope for me

So how do you know when someone is flirting with you?

Are you a master at flirting or do you find it hard /awkward?

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By *stellaWoman
45 weeks ago

London

"I've just tried to flirt with someone in the real world and he was completely oblivious!

There's no hope for me

So how do you know when someone is flirting with you?

Are you a master at flirting or do you find it hard /awkward?

What did you do/say?

You have to be way more overt, I find in real life. Like - shout I fancy you!

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

In an expert real life flirt. Like I’m actually really good

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

"In an expert real life flirt. Like I’m actually really good"

The trick? Take my anxiety meds everyday

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
45 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I’m ok at it.

It’s all about your body language and eye contact I find

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By *emidemiWoman
45 weeks ago

basingstoke

I’m awful at flirting

Maybe he wasn’t completely oblivious, and just shy? I know I would be!

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
45 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

Terrible. Absolutely terrible. And very funny when I try apparently

By very funny I think they meant hot and endearing. Yes, that's definitely it.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Truth is people are oblivious to it

it’s the fact that these days if you get it wrong your a creep your this that and the next thing

So it’s best just to play it off as obvious to it

The world we live in to day has ruined its self

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

"Truth is people are oblivious to it

it’s the fact that these days if you get it wrong your a creep your this that and the next thing

So it’s best just to play it off as obvious to it

The world we live in to day has ruined its self "

Meant aren’t

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

I forget how to form sentences and I’m looking around for places to run away

I’m honestly terrible. I end up making it into one big joke

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By *alandNitaCouple
45 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

"I've just tried to flirt with someone in the real world and he was completely oblivious!

There's no hope for me

So how do you know when someone is flirting with you?

Are you a master at flirting or do you find it hard /awkward?

I'm often oblivious to ladies flirting with me... it's probably not your fault.

Cal

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By *nyx_xyMan
45 weeks ago

My two cents… Men act oblivious to flirting because women who are flirting act exactly the same way as women who are just being friendly, or those who want some attention and nothing more.

It’s usually impossible to tell which one of these three types you’re dealing with, and the risks of getting it wrong are very high. So it’s much safer to just pretend it’s not happening.

So, if you are flirting, you’re just going to have to make it obvious in some way.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

I'd have to speak to a man to flirt with him. So, nope.

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By *electableicecreamMan
45 weeks ago

The West

I have been oblivious to women flirting with me all my life.

I'm sure part of this is because I simply never imagine anyone is actually interested in me.

Probably a lot of people are like that.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
45 weeks ago

North West

I don't really try to. But I also don't know if I am, it seems to be by accident

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
45 weeks ago

Reading

I let a man honk my boob. I'm ace at flirting.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

I normally find out ive been flirted with when somebody else tells me after the fact.

It takes for her to say "fancy a beej" for me to be like "is she interested?"

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By *TG3Man
45 weeks ago

Dorchester

"I've just tried to flirt with someone in the real world and he was completely oblivious!

There's no hope for me

So how do you know when someone is flirting with you?

Are you a master at flirting or do you find it hard /awkward?

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2nd nature to me I'm a serial flirt

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

"I have been oblivious to women flirting with me all my life.

I'm sure part of this is because I simply never imagine anyone is actually interested in me.

Probably a lot of people are like that."

This is so true

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
45 weeks ago

Bradford

Always had talent to flirt it can make someone's day . and bring a smile along the way .

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By *aizyWoman
45 weeks ago

west midlands

"I've just tried to flirt with someone in the real world and he was completely oblivious!

There's no hope for me

So how do you know when someone is flirting with you?

Are you a master at flirting or do you find it hard /awkward?

What did you do/say?

You have to be way more overt, I find in real life. Like - shout I fancy you! "

This is pretty much how I flirt tbh can't be coy to save my life, and I never know when someone is flirting with me.

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By *ee VianteWoman
45 weeks ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"So how do you know when someone is flirting with you?

Unless they tell me, I usually don't!

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By *ife NinjaMan
45 weeks ago

Dunfermline

I'm awful at noticing. Just tell me you want me in your bed

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By *eliWoman
45 weeks ago

I'm good if they're quite obvious. Most of the time I think 'hmmm, maybe they are but I don't want to make a fool of myself when it could be nothing'..

I still maintain that I'm not really flirty. Sometimes I am a little bit, kind of flirty. That's a good laugh.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
45 weeks ago

Leeds

I'm awkward I just blabber a lot, I never know when anyone is trying to flirt with me either.

Mrs

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By *irexMan
45 weeks ago

Hertford

I’m hopeless at noticing, always have been, it needs to be so obvious. Does the woman who walked up to me in a club and simply said “I want you to fuck me” count?

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By *lansmanMan
45 weeks ago

Sheffield

It's heen years since anyone flirted with me. If it happened now I would ignore and get away as soon as possible. The danger of misinterpreting an innocent comment will get you in a world of hurt these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

I'm awful at reading signals and overthink things.

There's a woman in work who I often speak to over the phone. She very flirty calling me Gorg,handsome,her lil sex machine.

She's spoken for but know she's abit of a flirt too so never know how ro take it lol

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By *LiamMan
45 weeks ago

Midlands

I am getting better, usually just be myself and I've gotten way more intrest lately

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

I'm way too grown up for flirting. If someone wants me I just want them to be upfront about it. When someone dances around the subject I just kinda see it as childish which is a huge turnoff.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
45 weeks ago

Southampton

"I am getting better, usually just be myself and I've gotten way more intrest lately"

I'm crap at flirting online and in real life lol

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By *LiamMan
45 weeks ago

Midlands

"I am getting better, usually just be myself and I've gotten way more intrest lately

I'm crap at flirting online and in real life lol

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be yourself

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By *ynecplCouple
45 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I wouldn't recognise being flirted with if they hit me round the face with a big hand saying I am flirting with you. Mrs has told be so many times when we have been out that some female was flirting with me but I have been totally oblivious to it. She says it can be quite endearing and entertaining.

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By *avexxMan
45 weeks ago

cheshire

"I am getting better, usually just be myself and I've gotten way more intrest lately

I'm crap at flirting online and in real life lol

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,, me too

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By *edeWoman
45 weeks ago

the abyss

No one flirts with me so I don't know how I'd react.

I do apparently flirt but I don't know I'm doing it - is that still flirting?

I just talk to people and hope for the best one way or another. Flirting sounds far too complicated

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
45 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I don't flirt in real life. I've never been good at it.

I'm also rubbish at telling when someone is flirting with me. My wife used to say I was the most oblivious person when it came to realising that people were coming on to me.

The reason she got through is that she persevered, and was special.

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By *ickthehallsMan
45 weeks ago

Peterborough

I absolutely love a good flirty flirt makes my day!

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By *olfandtazCouple
45 weeks ago

Bristol

I like to think I'm quite good at flirting in real life, I have had a few medical things which has impacted on my confidence but I am in the process of sorting that stuff out

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

In the right mood, I can be a disgraceful flirt and don't mind admitting it.

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By *mf123Man
45 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Im not bad when i try but i dont try

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By *ynamicnatureMan
45 weeks ago

Doncaster

I work in hospitality and consider flirting a natural part of my job role in hosting guests.

I don't go in heavy or anything like that but I do enjoy making people feel good about them selves, It's great for business as well.

Outside of that environment flirting becomes a little less natural for me, I have no idea as to why though???

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
45 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

I was once at a work thing with my wife, and a woman we were chatting with sidled up on the other side of me and slipped her room key into my pocket.

I didn’t twig what was going on, even then. I gave her it back and said “I think you got mixed up and gave me this instead of your business card …”

Her face. She looked at me like ‘You sweet idiot’.

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By *illy IdolMan
45 weeks ago

Midlands

"I was once at a work thing with my wife, and a woman we were chatting with sidled up on the other side of me and slipped her room key into my pocket.

I didn’t twig what was going on, even then. I gave her it back and said “I think you got mixed up and gave me this instead of your business card …”

Her face. She looked at me like ‘You sweet idiot’."

What is it with women sliding you their room keys

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By *ags73Man
45 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"I've just tried to flirt with someone in the real world and he was completely oblivious!

There's no hope for me

So how do you know when someone is flirting with you?

Are you a master at flirting or do you find it hard /awkward?

Oh no.

I think l’m rubbish at it myself but hopefully I’d know when I’m being flirted with.

Not getting a response though.

Guessing he was attached.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
45 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Oblivious. Always told afterwards that 'she was into me'.

Don't see the signs. Just chat.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
45 weeks ago

Southampton

"I am getting better, usually just be myself and I've gotten way more intrest lately

I'm crap at flirting online and in real life lol

be yourself

Oh I always am

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By *rucking-HellMan
45 weeks ago

Northampton

"I’m hopeless at noticing, always have been, it needs to be so obvious. Does the woman who walked up to me in a club and simply said “I want you to fuck me” count?"

When she asked that, did you think "I wonder if she's flirting with me"?

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By *irexMan
45 weeks ago

Hertford

"I’m hopeless at noticing, always have been, it needs to be so obvious. Does the woman who walked up to me in a club and simply said “I want you to fuck me” count?

When she asked that, did you think "I wonder if she's flirting with me"?

That’s where it got a bit complicated as I recognised her as a mum from my kids primary school.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
45 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
45 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

"[Removed by poster at 18/02/24 19:02:40]"

They wouldn't even let me on the flirting 101 course as I didn't have the prerequisites.

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By *eliWoman
45 weeks ago

"[Removed by poster at 18/02/24 19:02:40]

They wouldn't even let me on the flirting 101 course as I didn't have the prerequisites.

You can't have it all sadly.

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By *hrowawaydevice1987Man
45 weeks ago

SW London/Surrey

To be fair, I'm fairly oblivious most the time

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
45 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

"[Removed by poster at 18/02/24 19:02:40]

They wouldn't even let me on the flirting 101 course as I didn't have the prerequisites.

You can't have it all sadly.

Just some would be nice x

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
45 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

"[Removed by poster at 18/02/24 19:02:40]

They wouldn't even let me on the flirting 101 course as I didn't have the prerequisites.

You can't have it all sadly.

He has me. He's just greedy!

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
45 weeks ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Shockingly bad at flirting and even worse at recognise I'm being flirted with

Tinder

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By *eliWoman
45 weeks ago

"[Removed by poster at 18/02/24 19:02:40]

They wouldn't even let me on the flirting 101 course as I didn't have the prerequisites.

You can't have it all sadly.

He has me. He's just greedy!

Ikr. Especially with all the training you've done, some people are never satisfied.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
45 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

"[Removed by poster at 18/02/24 19:02:40]

They wouldn't even let me on the flirting 101 course as I didn't have the prerequisites.

You can't have it all sadly.

He has me. He's just greedy!

Ikr. Especially with all the training you've done, some people are never satisfied.

Oh. Bahahahahaha.

Yeah, who needs to flirt when you're a good girl.

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By *heekyCharmMan
45 weeks ago

Colne

"I've just tried to flirt with someone in the real world and he was completely oblivious!

There's no hope for me

So how do you know when someone is flirting with you?

Are you a master at flirting or do you find it hard /awkward?

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I'm the worst at picking up on flirting and I'm convinced it's some kind of condition. X

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By *onstellation40Man
45 weeks ago

Devizes

I have been flirted to (I think) on a few occasions and not realised. I then re-live the evening/day and realised I missed a great opportunity.

I just never know why anybody would be interested until it's too late!

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
45 weeks ago

Essex

I can flirt. I’m good at that…. Sadly I seem incapable of picking it back up….

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By *issBellaWoman
45 weeks ago

Wales

"I've just tried to flirt with someone in the real world and he was completely oblivious!

There's no hope for me

So how do you know when someone is flirting with you?

Are you a master at flirting or do you find it hard /awkward?

It was probably him rather than you Op

I'm totally hopeless not so bad when I know someone but my nerves are awful when meeting someone new

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By *heitaliandreamerMan
45 weeks ago

Northampton

I am Italian so it comes very natural to flirt for me

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
45 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"I'm totally hopeless not so bad when I know someone but my nerves are awful when meeting someone new

Miss Bella, your profile pic alone is so flirtatious that I come over all unnecessary every time I see it.

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By *oupleus30Couple
45 weeks ago

Minster

Mr( about as oblivious to flirting as can be. A woman could bump into him flirting and he wouldn't notice lol. He is a flirt though himself. Mrs massive flirt

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

I was on a date, which I thought was going rather well, when the other person said they didn’t know when a woman was flirting with them.

I decided they couldn’t possibly be that daft as to not realise that I had been flirting over the duration of our date. I looked them in the eye and did something that would remove any doubt of how I felt about them in that moment. They jumped out of their seat, screeching loudly. Everyone in the pub was staring at us. They were mortified. I asked if they still were unsure if I was keen on them or not. I told them I felt being overtly obvious about my flirting was compulsory in that moment. They said, if I had been flirting before they didn’t realise at all. To this day, I’m still baffled by this.

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
45 weeks ago

Markfield

"I've just tried to flirt with someone in the real world and he was completely oblivious!

There's no hope for me

So how do you know when someone is flirting with you?

Are you a master at flirting or do you find it hard /awkward?

I have no clue how to flirt or how to recognise flirting in real life.

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By *a LunaWoman
45 weeks ago

South Wales

When they tell me to get my tits out. That’s it.

I’m clueless.

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By *ackformore100Man
45 weeks ago

Tin town

"I've just tried to flirt with someone in the real world and he was completely oblivious!

There's no hope for me

So how do you know when someone is flirting with you?

Are you a master at flirting or do you find it hard /awkward?

I think you'll find flirting now is a no no... Respect their boundaries, how dare you invade their privacy, how do you know they want to etc...?

Or there's always the wolf whistle if you really have to go, go hard.

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
45 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Op he may have been one of them guys that don't pick up flirts very well

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
45 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"When they tell me to get my tits out. That’s it. I’m clueless."

You should do that. Get your tits out. Pretty please?

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By *viatrixWoman
45 weeks ago

Redhill

I have the grace and allure of Miranda Hart when I try to flirt.

And I never know when someone is flirting with me.

Which is why I love to meet people online.

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By *ookie46Woman
45 weeks ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I think I’m quite good at flirting, sometimes not so good at picking up the other persons signals

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Always pick up a vibe from body language it’s the biggest giveaway.

Any attempt to touch like a hand on shoulder, a slight brush here and there

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By *issBellaWoman
45 weeks ago

Wales

"I'm totally hopeless not so bad when I know someone but my nerves are awful when meeting someone new

Miss Bella, your profile pic alone is so flirtatious that I come over all unnecessary every time I see it."

It is?

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By *lark_KentMan
45 weeks ago

Northampton

My flirt radar is broken, I'm crap at picking up on it

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By *heekyCharmMan
45 weeks ago

Colne

What does flirting look like then?!

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By *otSoPoshWoman
45 weeks ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'm OK at flirting. No one takes me seriously when I do it though, so that can be tricky.

And even if it seems like someone might be flirting with me, I know they're not doing it with intent. It's just a friendly thing.

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By *mmaleiaWoman
45 weeks ago

Trowbridge

People I don’t fancy, I can flirt all day with, people I actually fancy, I become a bumbling dickhead

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
45 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"People I don’t fancy, I can flirt all day with, people I actually fancy, I become a bumbling dickhead "

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By *cottish guy 555Man
45 weeks ago

London

Genuinely haven't got a clue. It very often has to be pointed out to me that someone is interested in me.

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By *odgerMooreMan
45 weeks ago

Nowhere

Whisper something outrageous in my ear - ill pick up on that !!

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By *cLovin2Man
45 weeks ago

Reading

"I was on a date, which I thought was going rather well, when the other person said they didn’t know when a woman was flirting with them.

I want to know what you did to remove any doubt that made them screech?

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By *avexxMan
45 weeks ago

cheshire

even at my age rubbish at flirting

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By *hilloutMan
45 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Can effortlessly engage in it and can usually pick up when being the target of it.

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By *cLovin2Man
45 weeks ago

Reading

Flirting isn't a science, it's an art. Sometimes it works wonders, other times if the chemistry is not right with the other party, you can look a bit foolish. But what does it matter, just move on.

It does depend a great deal on a mental wavelength, if you and the other person are on a similar wavelength, can be sexy flirting. Other times she can think you are being creepy. It's a bit hit and miss.

The body language and the eyes are a big give away. For men confidence is important, confidence as opposed to arrogance. It's a fine line.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

I don't really pick up on someone flirting with me - unless they're being so obvious about it.

Then I think they're either being sarcastic or doing it for a bet

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