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By (user no longer on site) OP   
40 weeks ago

Message someone or are you scared of rejection?

Information on another thread said to me 'Attraction and Connection`or for those of us scared to see if you get rejected. Based on us saying' No'

I believe forums give me an idea on attraction and connection.

Do you!

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

If she looks attractive to me AND her bio is funny, a few paragraphs long and there’s no warning about fab being publicly traded- I’ll message her.

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By *stellaWoman
40 weeks ago

London

I like getting a sense of someone from their forum chat and postings, definitely. It also gives me a common talking point - my fear is about rejection for sure, I’m fat and think I’m unattractive and its a fear of disappointing them - actually yeah more that then my feelings about rejection, I’m fine for me to feel bad but hate the idea someone else does.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

But all but 2 of my meets in 5 years have come from the forums. So it’s the best place to build a connection. Agree with you there

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By *heGateKeeperMan
40 weeks ago

Stratford

I only message first if we have a connection, I’ve met them or they say something of note in the forums

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By *oo..Woman
40 weeks ago

Boo's World

I've never messaged anyone first.

Only messages I've ever sent to people I don't know, have been linked to sending out info for a group social when someone else can't message them I do it.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
40 weeks ago

Den of Iniquity


"I've never messaged anyone first.

Only messages I've ever sent to people I don't know, have been linked to sending out info for a group social when someone else can't message them I do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

As a man I message first all the time. You build up resilience and confidence over time.

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By *ornycougaWoman
40 weeks ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

It's very rare for me to message. I think 4 times ever... And 3 were from the forums

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By *entlemanSavageMan
40 weeks ago

Coulston

I like to chat to be honest,even if someone decides I'm not for them, I'd still happily chat away.

Not too many people on here like that these days, but now and then I come across a decent one.

There's more to life than just kinky sex and shenanigans, I just happen to enjoy those a lot haha

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
40 weeks ago

Leeds

Nothing makes me message someone, after almost 2 years on here, it’s just a waste of effort.

The mr

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By *ife NinjaMan
40 weeks ago

Dunfermline

The people I get on with are miles away. My message techniques are difficult to tie down

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Because I want to talk to them

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By *eyond PurityCouple
40 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

I message because

We like the look of their profile and pics

I want to compliment them on a pic

To chat shit with someone

I feel sorry for Willy

K

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Something in their profile, along with their pictures intrigue me.

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By *hrimper36Couple
40 weeks ago

Central France dept 36

We/I only message people that message us.

T

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By *cottish guy 555Man
40 weeks ago

London

Most of the time it's a response to something that has been said in the forums. More rarely it's because something on their profile has caught my eye and I just say hello and mention it.

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