FabSwingers.com forum: Why do you say no?

By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

I see assumptions on the forums a lot that women say no to men because they aren't tall, big dickus and have abs. And I guess assumptions that men say no because a woman isn't slim (just me?).

Why do you say no to people who want to meet you?

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By *ellinever70Woman
40 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I don't like the cut of their jib

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

"I don't like the cut of their jib "

Any more detail?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

I usually say no because they're too far away or because they're looking for NSA and I'm not

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By *aptain VMan
40 weeks ago

Birstall, Leicester

"I see assumptions on the forums a lot that women say no to men because they aren't tall, big dickus and have abs. And I guess assumptions that men say no because a woman isn't slim (just me?).

Why do you say no to people who want to meet you?"

One of life's mysteries

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Usually because I have suspicions they aren’t entirely genuine (catfish) or unlikely to be reliable.

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By *hiversMan
40 weeks ago

crewe Wed/Thurs

I don't really have a type as such, but I need to find someone attractive, looks AND personality... if we aren't compatible it'll be a polite no thanks.

Unless they are pushy or unpleasant- then it's the same answer but less polite.

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By *ellhungvweMan
40 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Usually because the other person thinks that because you are a single male you just be desperate and they can treat you like shit and get away with that. They soon change their tune when they realise I am not going to play their game but it is too late then.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
40 weeks ago

Portsmouth

So many reasons... Mostly because they're only thinking about what they want.

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By *hiversMan
40 weeks ago

crewe Wed/Thurs

"Usually because I have suspicions they aren’t entirely genuine (catfish) or unlikely to be reliable."

This too

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

The vibe is not right. Something hard to explain is off. For example, I spent the whole day chatting up a young woman (23) but gave up even though we agreed to meet, because she has no initiative. Great body, filthy mind, but she will not send a single flirty message without being prompted. Meh.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
40 weeks ago

Kidsgrove

Various reasons. Visually not attracted to them, their profile doesn't reflect any compatibility, distance, their style of mailing....

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I say no if they don't match what i'm looking for.

At the moment i'm not meeting so i say no anyway. But when i am meeting i have more info on my profile.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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40 weeks ago

East Sussex

Because I'm not attracted to them, they're too far away or their profile says that certain things I don't enjoy are very important to them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

"I see assumptions on the forums a lot that women say no to men because they aren't tall, big dickus and have abs. And I guess assumptions that men say no because a woman isn't slim (just me?).

Why do you say no to people who want to meet you?

One of life's mysteries "

You don't know why you say no?

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By *ourisfunCouple
40 weeks ago

Central

We say no for lots of reasons. If they are not looking for similar things to us, rude messages, blank profiles, don't find the sender attractive, too far away... Never said no of because of height or lack of abs though!

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By *rAitchMan
40 weeks ago

Diagonally Parked in a Parallel Universe

I have never said No.

Mainly due to never being given the opportunity to say No, or Yes

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By *dventuresWithEveWoman
40 weeks ago

SW Birmingham outskirts

Many reasons, by the way they get in touch it's clear they haven't read my profile, crude introductions, too far, circumstances not what I'm looking for, got into a conversation and then discover the vibe isn't right, lack of attraction (and that's not necessarily body or cock shape or size, for me personally it's faces and personalities).

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By *imply DeeWoman
40 weeks ago

Wherever

I usually don’t say anything if I don’t want to meet them, for whatever reason, just ignore or block if I see something really off putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Lots of reasons. If I'm not attracted to them, if they have something I don't like on their profile or a ranty status, the chat/banter has to be there. Distance is a major factor for me too. I get fed up of being told we can meet half way when I say no too. I'm too old for car fun in the middle of nowhere!!

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By *electableicecreamMan
40 weeks ago

The West

I say no if I don't believe I'm going to experience the type of connection I'm looking for.

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By *ealitybitesMan
40 weeks ago

Belfast

I've said no twice as often as I've said yes but never once based on looks.

Usually because it's obvious we aren't compatible or they send instructions in their opening message or make unreasonable demands.

Shave your beard off, play bi, meet without a social, meet us at an invitation only club event 5 hours away on a Sunday night where you won't be allowed in but it shows you are interested.

Those sort of things.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I'm not facially attracted to them, they don't seem to hold a good conversation, the spark when you first meet just isn't there, they reveal something they want to try that just isn't for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Because i just dont have an attraction to them, sometimes i could be attracted but they say something that puts me off also

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
40 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Because I don't find them interesting and exciting

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By *iasubTV/TS
40 weeks ago

Ilkeston

Most of the time the vibe is just not what im after. I find you can tell straight away if there someone you will get on with

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
40 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"Because i just dont have an attraction to them, sometimes i could be attracted but they say something that puts me off also"

Yeah, pretty much this too^

Filter set way too high for my own good as well. But I am a fussy fucker to be honest.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
40 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

I say no if I don’t fancy them.

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By *agpie and RavenMan
40 weeks ago

Leicester

The biggest one for me is if they're more interested in the colour of my skin.*

*Before hiding this profile my pics show I am black.

Frank

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By *mmaleiaWoman
40 weeks ago

East Northamptonshire

There’s no spark, or they want meets on their terms, attraction for me boils down to each person & how they carry them self, if they can hold a conversation with me & it isn’t all about sex, it’s more appealing

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Why do you say no to people who want to meet you?"

It’s the seX factor. It’s just not there between us.

Probably

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I prefer women with curves

If your a stick goodbye

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"Because i just dont have an attraction to them, sometimes i could be attracted but they say something that puts me off also

Yeah, pretty much this too^

Filter set way too high for my own good as well. But I am a fussy fucker to be honest."

We all like what we like wether we have a filter set its not being fussy its jist what we like. I cant have great sex if im not attracted to the person

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By *eyond PurityCouple
40 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

It could be the first message - dick pic, one liners or too far, vulgar. They tell you they are married - you establish they are married.

Their chat is poor, connection isn’t there - they send a face pic and there’s no attraction.

They go all horny teenager on you when you talk about sex

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

1. I can't host because I'm sharing a house and don't have the privacy. So I say no to guys who also can't host and want to meet at mine or outdoors/in a car.

2. Men, usually without pics, who's profile states they are single and looking for women (singles or couples). Some times I say no, some times I ask them if they messaged me by mistake.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
40 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

[Removed by poster at 18/02/24 10:43:13]

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By *leasingmyhubsCouple
40 weeks ago

Holbeach

We all have our own preferences likes and dislikes.

If people were to actually take the time to read people's profile (for those that can be bothered to write one!!) I'm sure there would be less time wasting and less time saying No

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Middle aged men acting like horny 19 yr olds with their dick out and sooooo boring !!

How r u xx

Want to meet xx

Yawn !!

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By *issmorganWoman
40 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I don't like their profile/pics or there's not much to go on.

They're here on the sly.

I've seen status updates I don't like ie derogatory about women.

They've sent a graphic message or attached cock pics.

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By *ittleJohn5Man
40 weeks ago

Wickham Market

I’m a fat hairy middle age man with my small dick out

I don’t know why I get a NO as a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"I see assumptions on the forums a lot that women say no to men because they aren't tall, big dickus and have abs. And I guess assumptions that men say no because a woman isn't slim (just me?).

Why do you say no to people who want to meet you?"

What is your opinion Op?

No means no.

Whatever reasons we all have it is our perogative to decline people. I am not here to shag anything. It is also to with preferences. No should be respected a lot more.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

"I say no if I don’t fancy them. "

Do you need a face pic to decide?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
40 weeks ago

Reading

Location is a big one for me - both because of the practical consideration and because it neans they didbt read my profile.

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By *ellroseWoman
40 weeks ago

Brum

Because I’m not attracted to them !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

"I see assumptions on the forums a lot that women say no to men because they aren't tall, big dickus and have abs. And I guess assumptions that men say no because a woman isn't slim (just me?).

Why do you say no to people who want to meet you?

What is your opinion Op?

No means no.

Whatever reasons we all have it is our perogative to decline people. I am not here to shag anything. It is also to with preferences. No should be respected a lot more.

I did say earlier but the primary reasons I say no (or just delete) at the outset are distance and they want NSA. That rules out a lot of "offers". Primarily I will refuse men who aren't looking for the connection I seek.

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By *rHotNottsMan
40 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Because they will be bad for me or have nothing that interests or excites me

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By *oupleus30Couple
40 weeks ago

Minster

Not looking for massive cocks ect it's actually the big cocks I run from lol I think they would tear me in half

(mrs)

We're not looking for single men but with couples me n oh both have to agree on them.

Has to be some sort of attraction there as we've found we are very fussy...

And were not on fabs to fuck every 1 so if we only find 1or 2couples we both like thats OK.... no rush.

But also there has to be some form of flirty fun banter sence of humor before we look at attraction if there's no flirty banter then we prob would turn them away politely.

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By *reative-mindMan
40 weeks ago

Exeter

I don't get the opportunity to say no or yes.

But I'm not a big dick gym freak

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By *rHotNottsMan
40 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Not looking for massive cocks ect it's actually the big cocks I run from lol I think they would tear me in half

(mrs)

We're not looking for single men but with couples me n oh both have to agree on them.

Has to be some sort of attraction there as we've found we are very fussy...

And were not on fabs to fuck every 1 so if we only find 1or 2couples we both like thats OK.... no rush.

But also there has to be some form of flirty fun banter sence of humor before we look at attraction if there's no flirty banter then we prob would turn them away politely."

Don’t think I’ve ever met a woman into massive cocks, or if I did she never mentioned it to me

. I’ve often been told it’s too big and it really isn’t that big compared to many I’ve seen

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

"I’m a fat hairy middle age man with my small dick out

I don’t know why I get a NO as a reply "

Wasn't the question but ok

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

"Not looking for massive cocks ect it's actually the big cocks I run from lol I think they would tear me in half

(mrs)

We're not looking for single men but with couples me n oh both have to agree on them.

Has to be some sort of attraction there as we've found we are very fussy...

And were not on fabs to fuck every 1 so if we only find 1or 2couples we both like thats OK.... no rush.

But also there has to be some form of flirty fun banter sence of humor before we look at attraction if there's no flirty banter then we prob would turn them away politely.

Don’t think I’ve ever met a woman into massive cocks, or if I did she never mentioned it to me

. I’ve often been told it’s too big and it really isn’t that big compared to many I’ve seen "

There are size queens here though. It is important to some women.

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By *herry delightWoman
40 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

Most of the time it's because of the distance.

Then there are the guys that say they will do anything to please me, it shows they haven't read my profile.

And any hint of a body massage is a big no no.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

"Most of the time it's because of the distance.

Then there are the guys that say they will do anything to please me, it shows they haven't read my profile.

And any hint of a body massage is a big no no."

Really? I'm not a massage fan either. Don't come across many women who feel the same. And "oily massage" makes me feel nauseous.

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By *eliWoman
40 weeks ago

Because it doesn't feel like a good idea. If it doesn't feel like a good idea, I'm not doing it.

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By *ove to exploreMan
40 weeks ago

Cardiff

Lack of a natural and effortless connection.

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By *olfandtazCouple
40 weeks ago

Bristol

We say no if someone hasn't read our profile clearly.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
40 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We never say no.

We’re about quantity not quality.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

If the thought of meeting them doesn’t excite me, I’m not doing it.

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By *arry monk40Man
40 weeks ago

Telford

Be nice if they said no no one ever replies

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By *electableicecreamMan
40 weeks ago

The West

"We never say no.

We’re about quantity not quality."

Laughing hard at this.

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By *ntrigued888Woman
40 weeks ago

Beds

The attraction has to be there for me. Gets the juices following

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By *ad NannaWoman
40 weeks ago

East London

On here, nothing to see on their profiles, except dicks; what they wrote on their profile; they don't accommodate; they live too far for regular travel; their first message wasn't particularly appealing-a hi, how are you will suffice if there's plenty to see on their profile.

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By *ustBoWoman
40 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

There are lots of reasons why I would say no to someone. But basically it comes down to I'm not interested in meeting them. It could be I don't like their profile but usually I don't reply in that case. If we have chatted it usually has been something they said or did that has put me off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

"Be nice if they said no no one ever replies "

Nope - this isn't the thread to complain about people not replying.

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By *hesubtlegentMan
40 weeks ago

surrey

I say no for a number of reasons. Mainly no attraction, distance, they ask if I’m bi which shows they haven’t read my profile. I clearly state I’m straight and not into men at all so will not be interested in meeting a couple with a bi male. Also have to have some of the same interests and I will not meet even for a social if they are not willing to send a face pic privately. I always send one with a message. I don’t expect one back if I’m messaging first but I’ll ask if they contact me first and haven’t sent one then. Visual attraction is important.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Their first message failed to intrigue me.

They aren’t attractive to me.

Their profile doesn’t intrigue me.

They come across as difficult to engage with, whether that’s one word answers, long delays in responses - if you’re young days between responses your lack of interest isn’t interesting to me.

They put me off some other way.

They have loads of videos or pictures with multiple/varying people and no protection

A general bad vibe I get from interacting with them.

They have a beard.

They are bald.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

After reading all the answers, I think I'm actually going to say no to more men than I already do. Because often I reply because they "seem ok". And ...that's not enough is it?

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By *enelope2UWoman
40 weeks ago

Fife

If they write ....let's meet and can't be specific to what they want.. I'm not 5 I'm an adult so I speak directly...

Some define meet as fucking some define meet as getting dressed just for coffee tea others define meet as a little more effort.

I say no if they clearly haven't read my profile. I'm not interested in someone just in town for the night..I'm not interest in I have to be discreet.. the list definitely doesn't include must have abs and a big dick that means zero to me.. absolutely zero

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By *ellinever70Woman
40 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"After reading all the answers, I think I'm actually going to say no to more men than I already do. Because often I reply because they "seem ok". And ...that's not enough is it?"

Anything that becomes something has to have a start

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By *iss DevilWoman
40 weeks ago

Bedford

In most cases - because they haven't bothered to read even just the first line of my profile. It is already very clear there (in my opinion) that I am not looking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

"After reading all the answers, I think I'm actually going to say no to more men than I already do. Because often I reply because they "seem ok". And ...that's not enough is it?

Anything that becomes something has to have a start "

A good start. Not a "meh" one. And I have lots of choice because I have a vag.

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By *lexV16Man
40 weeks ago

Welling

I say no if I don’t feel it.

For things where we are a clear mismatch like empty profiles, only closeup pics, passive aggressive or just aggressive bio - I just don’t reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

They’re not attractive to me.

They’re too far and they’re not sponsoring my travel or accommodation.

They’re boring (give rubbish one word answers).

They want kink.

They mention anything that implies fetishising.

I have no space for what they want.

They keep making reference to my age.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
40 weeks ago

Sheffield

The attraction isn’t there and/or they don’t have the same interests as mine.

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By *sWyldWoman
40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

So many reasons and they change all the time. Ranging from I don't find them attractive to I think they are too hot for me.

I don't like the words they use, the profile name or even the day of the week.

I'm fussy, fickle and hard work

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By *illy IdolMan
40 weeks ago

Midlands

The attraction isn't there. Whether that's looks, personality or interactions

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By *stellaWoman
40 weeks ago

London

Mostly because I’m shy and have the fear!

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Mostly its because they're too old or too masc.

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By *rofessor ElementalMan
40 weeks ago

Durham

For me one reason not to have a sexual encounter with someone is if there is a lack of mutual consent or if either party is not fully comfortable or ready for the experience.

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By *ros40Man
40 weeks ago

Bedford

My cock is fussy

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
40 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"So many reasons and they change all the time. Ranging from I don't find them attractive to I think they are too hot for me."

It's an interesting point. There was a local hottie here and I never contacted her once (just the normal pic fabbing). Never made a move at all because I thought she was far too nice looking.

She then left. I cried. Lol.

She probably had steak all the time but might have been after a cheeseburger. I'll never know.

So, my shite advice. If you like someone. Go for it before it's too late. Plus, your probably not a cheeseburger.

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By *sWyldWoman
40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"So many reasons and they change all the time. Ranging from I don't find them attractive to I think they are too hot for me.

It's an interesting point. There was a local hottie here and I never contacted her once (just the normal pic fabbing). Never made a move at all because I thought she was far too nice looking.

She then left. I cried. Lol.

She probably had steak all the time but might have been after a cheeseburger. I'll never know.

So, my shite advice. If you like someone. Go for it before it's too late. Plus, your probably not a cheeseburger. "

I think maybe I'm a bbq chicken and bacon burger with sweet potato fries and a slice of apple pie and custard for afters

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By *ee VianteWoman
40 weeks ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I see assumptions on the forums a lot that women say no to men because they aren't tall, big dickus and have abs. And I guess assumptions that men say no because a woman isn't slim (just me?).

Why do you say no to people who want to meet you?"

I usually say no because they are too far away, make things sexual immediately and/or don't seem to offer the active mind and adventurous spirit I'm looking for.

I'm seeking something quite particular and pretty rare, so I know I'm not going to match with many people. That's ok. I'm not interested in settling for whoever is available.

Like my bio says, I'm not here looking for sex, I'm looking for *particular* people to have sex with.

I've already found a couple of them, but they're a few hours away. I'm hoping to find closer people who I can see more often.

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By *educing_EmCouple
40 weeks ago

Tipperary

If I'm not attracted to them.

Chat is Shit.

They give off a bad vibe or say something that makes me feel yucky.

Too far away and can't accommodate.

In a relationship and playing away.

My husband doesn't like them for whatever reason.

Pushy.

They don't give me the tingles.

Em x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

"My cock is fussy "

Oh I'm using this. I have a fussy pussy.

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By *TG3Man
40 weeks ago

Dorchester

Do i have to?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

"Mostly because I’m shy and have the fear!"

You say no to people because you have the fear of what?

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By *TG3Man
40 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Mostly because I’m shy and have the fear!

You say no to people because you have the fear of what?"
sex

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By *Cocksucker84Man
40 weeks ago

newcastle

"I see assumptions on the forums a lot that women say no to men because they aren't tall, big dickus and have abs. And I guess assumptions that men say no because a woman isn't slim (just me?).

Why do you say no to people who want to meet you?"

Blank profiles demanding privacy but not honouring mine, suggestions of poor hygiene- visibly dirty fingernails/homes/unkempt body hair that isn't trimmed, aggression or status updates that are woe-is-me or slagging off other users because it suggests the user can't accept a 'no' or is v indiscreet

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By *ixiePoisonWoman
40 weeks ago

Darlington

Because I’m not attracted to them and when they just want a fuck and run, not what I’m after…

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By *oxy jWoman
40 weeks ago

somerset

no attraction is the first hurdle after that there a big number of thing that make me say no

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By *stellaWoman
40 weeks ago

London

"Mostly because I’m shy and have the fear!

You say no to people because you have the fear of what?"

That I’ll be a great disappointment.

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By *addy bareMan
40 weeks ago

lakeside

Exactly why not give someone a chance,personality goes a long way and can also be a big turn on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

"Exactly why not give someone a chance,personality goes a long way and can also be a big turn on."

Exactly - sorry what was that a reply to?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

"Mostly because I’m shy and have the fear!

You say no to people because you have the fear of what?

That I’ll be a great disappointment."

I want to say - but they've contacted you in the first place so they're interested and you should let them decide.

But, I do the same thing. I take myself off the board all the time

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By *ee VianteWoman
40 weeks ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Exactly why not give someone a chance,personality goes a long way and can also be a big turn on."

What do you mean, specifically, by giving someone a chance?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
40 weeks ago

Leeds

Usually because I think they’re a dick.

The mr

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By *naswingdressWoman
40 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

They make me uncomfortable

I'm not feeling it for a reason I can't specify

I'm not attracted to them

I find some of their views objectionable

I'm not sure I can trust them

They jerk me around

Probably more besides

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By *nkedguy777Man
40 weeks ago

Manchester

Unfortunately I'm used to getting a no or not for me, or not for us

I just guess I'm not anyone's taste, I'll keep trying with the polite messages

Maybe attend more clubs in the future, it just a little daunting going to clubs on your own

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
40 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"So many reasons and they change all the time. Ranging from I don't find them attractive to I think they are too hot for me.

It's an interesting point. There was a local hottie here and I never contacted her once (just the normal pic fabbing). Never made a move at all because I thought she was far too nice looking.

She then left. I cried. Lol.

She probably had steak all the time but might have been after a cheeseburger. I'll never know.

So, my shite advice. If you like someone. Go for it before it's too late. Plus, your probably not a cheeseburger.

I think maybe I'm a bbq chicken and bacon burger with sweet potato fries and a slice of apple pie and custard for afters

Haha good choice. I would be a mixed grill. A little bit of everything and too meaty for most! Not the Wetherspoons one though. The steaks are always honking. Afters would have to be banoffee pie.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
40 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"Unfortunately I'm used to getting a no or not for me, or not for us

I just guess I'm not anyone's taste, I'll keep trying with the polite messages

Maybe attend more clubs in the future, it just a little daunting going to clubs on your own "

I was planning to do one on my own, but put it out there to see if Amy other noobs wanted to have a pre drink before walking into the lions den. It worked and I had a great pint with a lovely couple and we all went in together.

It'll come buddy. If you build it....etc etc

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
40 weeks ago

Merseyside

We say no if not got aligned interests mostly or physically not our preference but also if someone doesn’t make the effort to read our profile.

We put info into it to make it easy to connect rather than go through the usual stream of questions.

And if they can’t write words correctly using ‘use’ in for you both just makes me think they can’t be arsed so what would avert be like! (not referring to anyone with a cognitive disorder more based around lazy text typing!)

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By *ynecplCouple
40 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

For those that contact us asking to meet it can be many reasons based on our preferences. It they don't aligne then we polite say no thanks.

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By *nkedguy777Man
40 weeks ago

Manchester

"Unfortunately I'm used to getting a no or not for me, or not for us

I just guess I'm not anyone's taste, I'll keep trying with the polite messages

Maybe attend more clubs in the future, it just a little daunting going to clubs on your own

It'll come buddy. If you build it....etc etc"

Thanks, that's definitely a good idea

I'll have to possibly give that a try and see how it goes

But thanks for you comment

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
40 weeks ago

chichester

I don’t find them attractive

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

"They make me uncomfortable

I'm not feeling it for a reason I can't specify

I'm not attracted to them

I find some of their views objectionable

I'm not sure I can trust them

They jerk me around

Probably more besides"

I find it's a reason I can't specify quite a bit. But that's enough isn't it? I'd like to talk to someone because I feel positive towards them. Not just because I don't have a reason NOT to talk to them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

"So many reasons and they change all the time. Ranging from I don't find them attractive to I think they are too hot for me.

It's an interesting point. There was a local hottie here and I never contacted her once (just the normal pic fabbing). Never made a move at all because I thought she was far too nice looking.

She then left. I cried. Lol.

She probably had steak all the time but might have been after a cheeseburger. I'll never know.

So, my shite advice. If you like someone. Go for it before it's too late. Plus, your probably not a cheeseburger.

I think maybe I'm a bbq chicken and bacon burger with sweet potato fries and a slice of apple pie and custard for afters

Haha good choice. I would be a mixed grill. A little bit of everything and too meaty for most! Not the Wetherspoons one though. The steaks are always honking. Afters would have to be banoffee pie.

You need to start a thread "what meal would you be"

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
40 weeks ago

Central

I pick up an absence of respect, or abundance of disrespect. Fairly commonly.

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By *mf123Man
40 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

I dont want to meet anyone if i can help it its nothing personal its just no longer a life that attracts me im here because i have to be no more than that

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
40 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

Because there dicks in some way

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By *bi HaiveMan
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40 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I think I've only said no once in the time I've been back on here as a single pringle.

Not that I've had many offers.

Maybe what I've written (it's changed a couple of times) was specific enough to put people off that wouldn't be compatible, so was doing the job intended? The one time I did was down to a combination of mismatched interests and location. They seemed pleasant enough, it was just a question of incompatibility based on what they stated in their profile.

I guess if your profile is vague and wooly you'll get more approaches from people you know you won't be interested in.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
40 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"So many reasons and they change all the time. Ranging from I don't find them attractive to I think they are too hot for me.

It's an interesting point. There was a local hottie here and I never contacted her once (just the normal pic fabbing). Never made a move at all because I thought she was far too nice looking.

She then left. I cried. Lol.

She probably had steak all the time but might have been after a cheeseburger. I'll never know.

So, my shite advice. If you like someone. Go for it before it's too late. Plus, your probably not a cheeseburger.

I think maybe I'm a bbq chicken and bacon burger with sweet potato fries and a slice of apple pie and custard for afters

Haha good choice. I would be a mixed grill. A little bit of everything and too meaty for most! Not the Wetherspoons one though. The steaks are always honking. Afters would have to be banoffee pie.

You need to start a thread "what meal would you be"

No, go on you do it..the men will jump all over it

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

If there's videos or pics of the woman being shafted three ways from Sunday on her profile, it's an instant lob-off for me, and a polite no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

"So many reasons and they change all the time. Ranging from I don't find them attractive to I think they are too hot for me.

It's an interesting point. There was a local hottie here and I never contacted her once (just the normal pic fabbing). Never made a move at all because I thought she was far too nice looking.

She then left. I cried. Lol.

She probably had steak all the time but might have been after a cheeseburger. I'll never know.

So, my shite advice. If you like someone. Go for it before it's too late. Plus, your probably not a cheeseburger.

I think maybe I'm a bbq chicken and bacon burger with sweet potato fries and a slice of apple pie and custard for afters

Haha good choice. I would be a mixed grill. A little bit of everything and too meaty for most! Not the Wetherspoons one though. The steaks are always honking. Afters would have to be banoffee pie.

You need to start a thread "what meal would you be"

No, go on you do it..the men will jump all over it

Ha. I think not but I will add it to my roster.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Overly sexual first or any message

lack of respect

entitlement i.e. questioning me on my choices

seeking nsa etc

Treating my like a kink dispenser

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"Usually because the other person thinks that because you are a single male you just be desperate and they can treat you like shit and get away with that. They soon change their tune when they realise I am not going to play their game but it is too late then."

Well said mate have done the same

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
40 weeks ago

London or Bedford

"I see assumptions on the forums a lot that women say no to men because they aren't tall, big dickus and have abs. And I guess assumptions that men say no because a woman isn't slim (just me?).

Why do you say no to people who want to meet you?"

FIRSTLY - In aaall my years on Fab, no woman has ever approached me for anything

And I personally like a woman with meat on her bones.

SECONDLY - I’m tall, hung & not bad looking. And still get turnt down.

But it’s cool

Everyone has a type

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

They are men and clearly haven't read that I am straight

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
40 weeks ago

Wales

Usually one of two reasons

Too local

Can't feel any sort of spark / connection

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I wouldn't say no to any women who wanted to meet me.....but I doubt they'd want to meet me if they didn't have a very good sense of humour and fast brain.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

"I wouldn't say no to any women who wanted to meet me.....but I doubt they'd want to meet me if they didn't have a very good sense of humour and fast brain."

Any woman? Do you not even need to be attracted to them?

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By *eniandMikeCouple
40 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Looks are a huge thing to us, but not in the way most would think. We would have both have to be attracted to them, and feel comfortable!! eg Both being in our 40s etc a smoking hot 20 year old couple/person may put us off a little from taking off our clothes lol

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