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By (user no longer on site) OP   
46 weeks ago

I been texting her sending 3 messages telling her how I feel I feel pushed out and I did say am not acting like a boyfriend qm acting as best firend I want her to be happy and if they made up and can accept she has male best firend I am happy

Bur I know what she gonna say stop acting like boyfriend witch am clearly not we need to sort this but I cqnt if she says I come and see yiu then dont wnd see him how can I sort it I feel pushed out this happened 10 years ago but that was something completely diffaranrt

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

If she’s truely your friend and you don’t want more from her then you should leave her be and be happy for her and her new fella?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
45 weeks ago

East Sussex

Derek I mean this nicely but you need to leave her be for a bit.

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By *hoirCouple
45 weeks ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

The more you push her, whether you intend it as a "friend" or otherwise, the more you will push her away. You need to back off for now if you have any chance of keeping her as a friend

P

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
45 weeks ago


"If she’s truely your friend and you don’t want more from her then you should leave her be and be happy for her and her new fella? "
I wish she contacted me to say she not seeing me she seems him I would have flet happier but she didn't I feel am pushed out but I am happy for her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
45 weeks ago


"The more you push her, whether you intend it as a "friend" or otherwise, the more you will push her away. You need to back off for now if you have any chance of keeping her as a friend u just feel pushed out

P"

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By *electableicecreamMan
45 weeks ago

The West

Dude you might want to consider taking a step back and having a look about how your relationship with this person is affecting your behaviour.

Multiple posts on the forum. Sending her messages while she's with her man...

These things aren't good for you buddy.

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By *illy IdolMan
45 weeks ago

Midlands


"If she’s truely your friend and you don’t want more from her then you should leave her be and be happy for her and her new fella? I wish she contacted me to say she not seeing me she seems him I would have flet happier but she didn't I feel am pushed out but I am happy for her"

Best advice I could give you is put your phone and get some rest. Reevaluate in the morning what's best

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
45 weeks ago


"Dude you might want to consider taking a step back and having a look about how your relationship with this person is affecting your behaviour.

Multiple posts on the forum. Sending her messages while she's with her man...I didn't realieased that sorry

These things aren't good for you buddy."

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

This is really affecting you in a negative way by the looks of it.

If she’s feeling like your expectations are beyond those of a friend, you should listen to her. Take a step back. Give her space. Perhaps her partner sees all the messaging you’re doing, etc and feels you have wishes for more than a friendship with her.

Friends can spend time apart and come back together and still be best friends. Best friends should mean you’re there to listen, help, support, laugh, and cry. If she’s told you’re acting like a boyfriend, you as a friend aren’t listening to her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
45 weeks ago


"This is really affecting you in a negative way by the looks of it.

If she’s feeling like your expectations are beyond those of a friend, you should listen to her. Take a step back. Give her space. Perhaps her partner sees all the messaging you’re doing, etc and feels you have wishes for more than a friendship with her.

Friends can spend time apart and come back together and still be best friends. Best friends should mean you’re there to listen, help, support, laugh, and cry. If she’s told you’re acting like a boyfriend, you as a friend aren’t listening to her. "
u am listening to her but she didn't contact me when she said on firday she was coming to see me if she contacted me I would have been fine with it and I take your advice thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Hey Buddy,

I read your profile in order to try to understand you and the context.

You say you’re single and a nice guy!

Nice guys tend to get hurt much much more.

You want closure from her. You want a text confirming that. This means that deep down you still have feelings for her. And she senses this.

Time heals!!

Move on like she has.

We all have been down this road.

Lots of lovely ladies out there.

Don’t waste your time wallowing.

Get swinging. Get dating.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
45 weeks ago


"Hey Buddy,

I read your profile in order to try to understand you and the context.

You say you’re single and a nice guy!

Nice guys tend to get hurt much much more.

You want closure from her. You want a text confirming that. This means that deep down you still have feelings for her. And she senses this.

Time heals!!

Move on like she has.

We all have been down this road.

Lots of lovely ladies out there.

Don’t waste your time wallowing.

Get swinging. Get dating.

"
thanks its best friendships but is this wwht set like when she meets a guy she pushes her best friend out.

Thanks for advice I am trying to swing I sent messages but no reply

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
45 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

You say your her best friend and Want her to be happy, but what your saying and what your doing are worlds apart and do not align.

Your harassing her for one of a better word, chill man and let her come to you, if she wants to.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
45 weeks ago


"You say your her best friend and Want her to be happy, but what your saying and what your doing are worlds apart and do not align.

Your harassing her for one of a better word, chill man and let her come to you, if she wants to.

Mr "
whqt am trying to say is she said she was coming to see me on Saturday and call me Saturday lunchtime she did either weather she text me I don't know that has happend before she text me I didn't get them to next day. I just wish she called me

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago


"You say your her best friend and Want her to be happy, but what your saying and what your doing are worlds apart and do not align.

Your harassing her for one of a better word, chill man and let her come to you, if she wants to.

Mr whqt am trying to say is she said she was coming to see me on Saturday and call me Saturday lunchtime she did either weather she text me I don't know that has happend before she text me I didn't get them to next day. I just wish she called me"

Derek, luv, your frustrated that she said she would do something and then didn't do it. You've let her know your frustrated. Now it's time to leave her alone. She owes you an apology. Wait for it, if it doesn't come, if she doesn't apologise that would be a red flag on your friendship. Like I said before, you are more invested in the friendship and that will lead to you becoming unfriendly with others.

Keep with the forums

Socialise other ways, not Fab, even if it's a sewing circle lol lol

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago


"Hey Buddy,

I read your profile in order to try to understand you and the context.

You say you’re single and a nice guy!

Nice guys tend to get hurt much much more.

You want closure from her. You want a text confirming that. This means that deep down you still have feelings for her. And she senses this.

Time heals!!

Move on like she has.

We all have been down this road.

Lots of lovely ladies out there.

Don’t waste your time wallowing.

Get swinging. Get dating.

thanks its best friendships but is this wwht set like when she meets a guy she pushes her best friend out.

Thanks for advice I am trying to swing I sent messages but no reply "

Many on the forums agree that very few on Fab actually meet. I’m here because of the advice people give.

Go to swinger clubs. I’m single too. So speaking from experience. Fridays are when single guys are allowed. Often quiet weekdays too are good.

Research the forums and see which is a good club and day in your area.

Don’t go expecting to score. Just go to have a great social and try to never ever mention any ex.

You will in time get lucky.

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By *ellroseWoman
45 weeks ago

Brum

As I said in your other post…. Let her be as it does now look like you’re harassing her ….. does she know you’re airing her personal life on here ??

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By *hrimper36Couple
45 weeks ago

Central France dept 36

Needy is not a good look degys my old pal and you are doing nothing but pushing her further away I guess.

She owes you nothing so just lay off the drama and let her live her life and maybe you will be part of it or maybe not.

Best of luck .

T

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By *oldAndBoundlessMan
45 weeks ago

Bradford

Would you rattle it and destroy your friendship with your pal? If so then I’m glad you are no pal of mine

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Dude. Sometimes people have to live in your heart, when they don’t need to live in your life.

Let her be.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Derek I can appreciate and understand your frustrations, as when it's feels you've been pushed out of a close friends life, it hurts.

However, as a best friend, you just have to sit back, give her space, and wait until she comes to you, as difficult as that seems.

Try and distract yourself so you aren't sitting thinking about her too much.

Look after yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago


"Would you rattle it and destroy your friendship with your pal? If so then I’m glad you are no pal of mine "

Bit harsh. Would you be pissed if a friend said they were going to contact you and didnt?

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
45 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

Do you have other friends you can see? Make some plans and start getting out and about so your friend is less of a focus for you.

You've told her how you feel, the rest is up to her. Maybe your friend takes it for granted that you'll always be there. Might be a shock if you make yourself less available and keep your distance

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
45 weeks ago


"Do you have other friends you can see? Make some plans and start getting out and about so your friend is less of a focus for you.

You've told her how you feel, the rest is up to her. Maybe your friend takes it for granted that you'll always be there. Might be a shock if you make yourself less available and keep your distance

"
no I don't hqve any other firends

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
45 weeks ago


"Would you rattle it and destroy your friendship with your pal? If so then I’m glad you are no pal of mine

Bit harsh. Would you be pissed if a friend said they were going to contact you and didnt?"
thqt was harash

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

It will all work out in the end Derek don't waste your energy!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
45 weeks ago


"It will all work out in the end Derek don't waste your energy!! "
she pushed me out I done nothing

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By *ugar kittenWoman
45 weeks ago

home

OP - would you be asking the forum the same thing if it was a male friend that had done this? I'm reading that you are wanting far more than friendship from this woman and she doesn't feel the same

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago


"It will all work out in the end Derek don't waste your energy!! she pushed me out I done nothing "

Time will heal it

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago


"Do you have other friends you can see? Make some plans and start getting out and about so your friend is less of a focus for you.

You've told her how you feel, the rest is up to her. Maybe your friend takes it for granted that you'll always be there. Might be a shock if you make yourself less available and keep your distance

no I don't hqve any other firends"
let her live her life she has a boyfriend. You're not her boyfriend ! She might be trying not to hurt you but one day she will have to walk away

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
45 weeks ago


"OP - would you be asking the forum the same thing if it was a male friend that had done this? I'm reading that you are wanting far more than friendship from this woman and she doesn't feel the same"
no I'm happy just best firends I feel pushed out as she not seen me since xmas

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
45 weeks ago


"Do you have other friends you can see? Make some plans and start getting out and about so your friend is less of a focus for you.

You've told her how you feel, the rest is up to her. Maybe your friend takes it for granted that you'll always be there. Might be a shock if you make yourself less available and keep your distance

"
she changed towards me since xmas

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago


"Would you rattle it and destroy your friendship with your pal? If so then I’m glad you are no pal of mine

Bit harsh. Would you be pissed if a friend said they were going to contact you and didnt? thqt was harash"

Hi Buddy,

Don’t mind the harshness. Take it on the chin, ignore it, whatever…

Often males post messages to fellow males differently.

If a female profile had the same post, many males would want to be their knight in shining armour.

The females here see it from your female friend’s perspective. Heed their advice.

Sorry to post this here, but to understand his background.

If you read the OP’s profile, he has a sight disability ie. he is visually challenged. I’m not sure the extent of it, but I’m sure it’s affecting his social life. Hence the statement- I have no other friends.

Nowadays, with the rat race, we all have difficulty making and keeping friends, as well as being friends to others.

Time heals. Go to a good club in your area. You will gradually make friends who appreciate your company.

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By *ugar kittenWoman
45 weeks ago

home


"OP - would you be asking the forum the same thing if it was a male friend that had done this? I'm reading that you are wanting far more than friendship from this woman and she doesn't feel the same no I'm happy just best firends I feel pushed out as she not seen me since xmas"

I don't see my best friend for months on end and we live on the same street, the kindest thing you could do would be to let her do her own thing and to come back when she's ready, if she's in a new relationship she will only want to spend time with him, everyone is the same. You do not need to be in each others pockets all of the time to be best friends. I'm sure she'll appreciate knowing you're there for her when she needs you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
45 weeks ago

Thanks for thqt its just whqt she been doing I felt I been pushed out as she not seen him since early January

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Sometimes friendships come to an end for various reasons and I think that is what has happened to yours so time to let her go .

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By *ugar kittenWoman
45 weeks ago

home


"Thanks for thqt its just whqt she been doing I felt I been pushed out as she not seen him since early January "

I'm keeping this out of my inbox and replying here.

You need to let this go, it doesn't have anything to do with anyone except him and her when they see each other or how often. If you are hassling her about not seeing you then she will probably ghost you altogether (I know I would, you are being overbearing). Get yourself out and make some new friends and move on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
45 weeks ago


"Thanks for thqt its just whqt she been doing I felt I been pushed out as she not seen him since early January

I'm keeping this out of my inbox and replying here.

You need to let this go, it doesn't have anything to do with anyone except him and her when they see each other or how often. If you are hassling her about not seeing you then she will probably ghost you altogether (I know I would, you are being overbearing). Get yourself out and make some new friends and move on"
thank you for thqt

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