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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

In paper today, a woman said she favoured one of her children. Sending her over children to bed to spend time with the child, spending more on her.

How could anyone have a favourite child. I love my two the same.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I love my children the same, I don't always like them the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my dad favoured my brother over me.. not sure if it was because its a male bonding thing or if its because i am his step daughter (he;s been my dad since i was 3 though)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I love my children the same, I don't always like them the same."

I'm the same with my 3

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god that is surely to have an effect on the others.

I love my children unconditionally, yes they all have different personalities but never ever have i favoured one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know someone who is adament she treats her kids the same..

Yet she clearly favours the boy over the girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After an argument with my older brother,my mother refused to attend my wedding unless I apologised to him.He was the one that insulted and swore at my then girlfiend.I didnt apologise she didnt come to the wedding in 1980.

We never spoke again and she died in 2002.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people like that are just stupid

it annoys me i could never be like that.

even if you felt like you liked one more than the other you would keep quiet about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After an argument with my older brother,my mother refused to attend my wedding unless I apologised to him.He was the one that insulted and swore at my then girlfiend.I didnt apologise she didnt come to the wedding in 1980.

We never spoke again and she died in 2002.

Sorry to hear that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still cried at her funeral.............

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When each of mine are in bad books they both say we love the other more but thats just kids. We treat them the same and they know we love them the same. We could never favour one over the over, never.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am the youngest of 4, my mother suffered with bi polar, she never made it a secret that she favoured me above my siblings. This caused massive tension and i was often called off them for this. I was the one who felt as though it was all my fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crikey!! mine can be little bitches sometimes but I love them all the same x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I have two sisters. My mother loathes us all equally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still cried at her funeral............."

Im so sorry to hear that. I fight with my Mother constantly, she drinks too much, she smokes too much, she causes arguments and is generally a pain in the bum. But she is Mum, she loves me and my sister and we love her, and no matter how bad the arguments we somehow muddle through as not speaking would be awful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still cried at her funeral............."

Of course ... She was your mother

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"In paper today, a woman said she favoured one of her children. Sending her over children to bed to spend time with the child, spending more on her.

How could anyone have a favourite child. I love my two the same."

Well, I only have one so it's not an issue - but I do find it strange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There were 5 of us, real house full.

I was middle, so just accepted that was normal family life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still cried at her funeral.............

Of course ... She was your mother"

That was one thing she never was.

Though she did give birth to me.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

we joke about my youngest sister being the favourite, especially with my mum as she is th one out of the 3 of us who stayed with her when our parents broke up but we know its not true.

Sometmes it seems that one is favoured over the others when we need help and suppoert with things but when you look at it objectively we all get the same

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I have two sisters. My mother loathes us all equally."

Sorry, that made me smile.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I have two sisters. My mother loathes us all equally.

Sorry, that made me smile.

No worries. Its actually made me and my sisters closer than we maybe would have been.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still cried at her funeral.............

Of course ... She was your mother"

me and my older brother dont have anything to do with our older brother and sister, for good reason.

only when they die, if they die before me.

i know i will feel very upset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a boy and a girl.

If they ask who's the favourite , and they often do, we say you are my favourite boy or you are my favourite girl.

They are both treated the same.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I have two sisters. My mother loathes us all equally.

Sorry, that made me smile.

No worries. Its actually made me and my sisters closer than we maybe would have been."

It was an ironic smile as my mother was the same, she only ever had time for my youngest sister.

I didn't speak to her for years, her final betrayal was to say it served me right my son died I should have gone to church. She told that to my dad, he just thought he'd share that while he accompanied my husband and I to the chapel of rest; he wasn't much better.

After nine years of not speaking I was on business in Scarborough, I thought I'd take the train across the Pennines to Preston to visit.

After nine years I really didn't expect a warm welcome, and she didn't disappoint. The words out of her mouth: still fat I see!

Next time I saw her she was in her coffin. 11 years, I've never shed a tear.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

"I love my children the same, I don't always like them the same."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do we love favour 1 over the others,no way there all little buggers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i love both of them the same absolutely 100%,they are completely different,but just as amazing!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I saw this story earlier in the week: what amazed me is sheer cruelty of telling the world which child you like best. Philip Larkin had it right with This Be The Verse.

My mother has always preferred my sister. We all knew it and it was just the way it was.

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"I still cried at her funeral.............

Of course ... She was your mother

That was one thing she never was.

Though she did give birth to me."

I was the same with my Dad. I didn't speak to him for nearly 20 years but when he died I was left to organise his funeral. I did it and held my head high that I had done my duty...Didn't shed a tear, I had done my grieving a long time before

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By *edbagioMan
over a year ago

ripon

my dad died;calling for the one son not there.and at that momment we thought he favourde him

just one of the hints he gave never said he did to anyone

but allways talked on about him

hes done well bigger house andall that;

maybe made him prouder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Favouritism will always be around. Myself personally, I loved both my girls equally but also loved them for the different qualities they both possessed.. wouldn't say I ever favoured one over the other thou!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"In paper today, a woman said she favoured one of her children. Sending her over children to bed to spend time with the child, spending more on her.

How could anyone have a favourite child. I love my two the same."

Even if that was the case you just don't admit it in a national newspaper. Stupid bint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mother is like a wounded lioness backed into a corner when one of her children is threatened and she'll come out fighting everytime no matter which of us needs her 'protection'. She's not a big woman by any means, and she's very quietly spoken, but boy you really don't want to get on the receiving end when she blows her stack. She does it in a way that means she never raises her voice but her disappointment is palpable and that's usually enough. I love her to bits and I'll miss her when she goes, but that won't be for a long time yet.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I saw this on the t.v in the week.

I have various thoughts.

Those that say they treat their children equally are fooling themselves a little I feel.

Equal treatment is never fair or fulfills what each individual needs.

It's best to say that you do your best to make sure each child has what they need to thrive as long as it doesn't detract from the needs of the others.

I also think that sometimes people confuse and use the word love in far too general a context.

When I was a child our pet bitch would take the 'runt' off up high where the other egotistic greedy pups couldn't bother them and she'd feed the runt until it could fend for itself.

Our dog wasn't in MENSA - just guided by nature. Dare say a dog can't LOVE in the pathetic chocolate box way that humans do either.

I'd like to think I gave all my children what they needed in so far as I could.

I do like their company in different degrees tho ..... there is one I enjoy the company of more than the others...... They are people after all - not identical clones.

That woman ( who ever she is ) has damaged her own children with very foolish words that can't be taken back.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"My mother is like a wounded lioness backed into a corner when one of her children is threatened and she'll come out fighting everytime no matter which of us needs her 'protection'. She's not a big woman by any means, and she's very quietly spoken, but boy you really don't want to get on the receiving end when she blows her stack. She does it in a way that means she never raises her voice but her disappointment is palpable and that's usually enough. I love her to bits and I'll miss her when she goes, but that won't be for a long time yet."

Treat her like it's your last day with her.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i just helped my favourite child move his flat....and my other favourite child is having her baby in april... and my other favourite child still lives with us

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

"Crikey!! mine can be little bitches sometimes but I love them all the same x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't it make sense that you would naturally favour one? Whether you would say or admit it is another thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have a boy and a girl.

If they ask who's the favourite , and they often do, we say you are my favourite boy or you are my favourite girl.

They are both treated the same. "

Snap. We have recently talked about having a third but I think it would upset the balance. My daughter is hard work at times and my son is only a baby so I am conscious it must look to my daughter that he's our favourite. Very hard this parenting lark!

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