FabSwingers.com forum: Keeping yourself safe

By *olf and Red OP Couple
47 weeks ago

Nr Cardiff or at Chams Darlaston

One of my adult children has just started online dating after 2 fairly long relationships. I’ve advised to always go somewhere public initially and not to believe everything that is said online.

They showed me some messages they’d been sent, from which I learnt a new name for a sex position - the speed bump. But even I was shocked at some of the initial messages, it made Fab look tame.

What do you do to keep yourself safe?

Red

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By *icecouple561Couple
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47 weeks ago

East Sussex

On fab we always go as a pair but even that didn't keep us 100% safe one time.

I'd say the best guidelines to follow are;

Don't drink or leave your drink unattended.

Always have enough money to get home safely.

Don't go to anyone's house or get in their car.

Let someone know where you are and who you're with and check in every couple of hours.

Carry a personal alarm.

Don't be afraid to walk away and ask someone for help.

Having said all that 99% of people are decent enough and the worst that will happen is that they'll have a boring date.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
47 weeks ago

Central

Find CCTV in the area that you're meeting, so that you're filmed together. If you see their vehicle, send yourself a text with their registration details.

Do have a meet buddy, who you can check in with.

Outline and agree your boundaries upfront.

Report any issues to Admin, as this can help to keep others safe in future.

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By *ad NannaWoman
47 weeks ago

East London

I tell new men that I've sent their photo/address/number plate to a friend, for my safety.

I chat a long time before meeting (when I was meeting new men), and try to get a feel of their personality.

There's always a risk, no matter how cautious you're being.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I always make sure I drive myself and don’t drink. A lot of guys seem to expect I’ll drink and leave getting home to them?!?

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
47 weeks ago

Aberdeen

For a couple if my friends, they send me their live location so if it goes off or changes unexpectedly I know something is up.

We have a specific code words agreed for texts or calls eg if I text and ask for an update they must reply and include that word so I know it is them replying. One word means they are ok, the other word means "help"

MrsAbz

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By *eavenNhellCouple
47 weeks ago

carrbrook stalybridge

meet in a public place of YOUR choice that you know well which is busy and has cctv

if you do not have your own transport have good public transport links nearby or a friend/family that can pick you up if needed .never disclose your travel arrangements .

have a friend text or call you at pre arranged times in first meet with a phrase that you can use if you need help .

never ever go off with person or accept a lift

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Don't drink or leave your drink unattended.

The number of times people have sent me a message, saying they’ve arrived early at our agreed upon meeting location, and would like to order my drink for me had led me to believe this country was either full of people spiking drinks or people not understanding the need for this cautious step.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
47 weeks ago

your head

Always meet in a public place initially. Tell someone where I am and who I'm meeting. Confirmed that I'm okay once I've met them and usually confirm once I've left.

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By *ealitybitesMan
47 weeks ago

Belfast

I've had a few well verified women over the years invite me to their homes claiming that it's for their personal safety.

I have refused every time because I couldn't think of a worse way to view personal safety.

Inviting me and others as complete strangers into their home is not my idea of safe.

One woman with 50+ veries sent her phone number and address unsolicited by me after just a couple of messages.

I deleted the messages, told her I wouldn't be calling or visiting and blocked her.

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By *llNatural36FWoman
47 weeks ago

Denbighshire

As a single female when I’m meeting I always meet in public and text a friend the details of the persons car etc so they know I’m safe. We like others have code words so that they know I’m safe or I need some help. Nearly every guy I’ve met though have been lovely and nothing for me to worry about

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