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By *C79 OP   Man
47 weeks ago

Caterham

A few days ago, I put my big boy pants on and did the rare thing of sending a DM. It wasn't prize winning literature but it was pleasant. Today I got deleted & blocked. I have no Ill feeling towards them because there is no obligation to engage in conversation but: Confidence knocked. Big boy pants neatly folded & back in the cupboard

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
47 weeks ago

your head

Maybe you just didn't fit what they were looking for. Blocking is just a filter like any other, it's not always as harsh as it comes across. Don't let it put you off OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Last DM I sent to a single dude he said he wasn't looking to fuck blimps and we should consider dieting/unaliving ourselves.

So it could be worse champ, you are doing alright.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

I see getting blocked as a small victory, it's my fetish. If I don't get blocked at least 8 times per week......then I've failed.

I light a candle each time I'm blocked. It's actually quite therapeutic

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By *enk15Man
47 weeks ago

Evesham


"Last DM I sent to a single dude he said he wasn't looking to fuck blimps and we should consider dieting/unaliving ourselves.

So it could be worse champ, you are doing alright."

I'll never understand why some people choose to use their one life to be vile and cruel.

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By *enk15Man
47 weeks ago

Evesham


"A few days ago, I put my big boy pants on and did the rare thing of sending a DM. It wasn't prize winning literature but it was pleasant. Today I got deleted & blocked. I have no Ill feeling towards them because there is no obligation to engage in conversation but: Confidence knocked. Big boy pants neatly folded & back in the cupboard "

Dude, you look hot with kick ass tattoos.

Not everyone will fancy you.

Some may block.

But there will be a reply to your messages out there somewhere

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By *aizyWoman
47 weeks ago

west midlands


"I see getting blocked as a small victory, it's my fetish. If I don't get blocked at least 8 times per week......then I've failed.

I light a candle each time I'm blocked. It's actually quite therapeutic "

Oh, buy cake candles, everytime you get blocked you get to blow out a candle and eat a cupcake!

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago


"Last DM I sent to a single dude he said he wasn't looking to fuck blimps and we should consider dieting/unaliving ourselves.

So it could be worse champ, you are doing alright.

I'll never understand why some people choose to use their one life to be vile and cruel. "

Still pops up on the "looked at you" page lol

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago


"I see getting blocked as a small victory, it's my fetish. If I don't get blocked at least 8 times per week......then I've failed.

I light a candle each time I'm blocked. It's actually quite therapeutic

Oh, buy cake candles, everytime you get blocked you get to blow out a candle and eat a cupcake!"

Daizy stop trying to turn me into a melt do you know how many cupcakes I'd have to eat

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
47 weeks ago

Wolverhampton


"Maybe you just didn't fit what they were looking for. Blocking is just a filter like any other, it's not always as harsh as it comes across. Don't let it put you off OP. "

Definitely this. Blocking isn't (always) a hostile act, merely a useful way of trimming down unwanted contact. It probably just means you're not what they're looking for.

Unless of course you sent a zoomed in close up photo of your sosig, in which case I fully support blocking action occuring

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
47 weeks ago

Reading

Yeah but you survived. So get those pants out again and this time send 2

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
47 weeks ago

kent


"I see getting blocked as a small victory, it's my fetish. If I don't get blocked at least 8 times per week......then I've failed.

I light a candle each time I'm blocked. It's actually quite therapeutic

Oh, buy cake candles, everytime you get blocked you get to blow out a candle and eat a cupcake!"

This is a great idea! But would I go out of my way to get myself blocked?

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By *aizyWoman
47 weeks ago

west midlands


"I see getting blocked as a small victory, it's my fetish. If I don't get blocked at least 8 times per week......then I've failed.

I light a candle each time I'm blocked. It's actually quite therapeutic

Oh, buy cake candles, everytime you get blocked you get to blow out a candle and eat a cupcake!

Daizy stop trying to turn me into a melt do you know how many cupcakes I'd have to eat "

I'm guessing a great many?!

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago


"I see getting blocked as a small victory, it's my fetish. If I don't get blocked at least 8 times per week......then I've failed.

I light a candle each time I'm blocked. It's actually quite therapeutic

Oh, buy cake candles, everytime you get blocked you get to blow out a candle and eat a cupcake!

Daizy stop trying to turn me into a melt do you know how many cupcakes I'd have to eat

I'm guessing a great many?! "

I'd need to go to Costco

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By *aizyWoman
47 weeks ago

west midlands


"I see getting blocked as a small victory, it's my fetish. If I don't get blocked at least 8 times per week......then I've failed.

I light a candle each time I'm blocked. It's actually quite therapeutic

Oh, buy cake candles, everytime you get blocked you get to blow out a candle and eat a cupcake!

This is a great idea! But would I go out of my way to get myself blocked? "

I would tbh, I'd get myself blocked for a doughnut tho!

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By *aizyWoman
47 weeks ago

west midlands


"I see getting blocked as a small victory, it's my fetish. If I don't get blocked at least 8 times per week......then I've failed.

I light a candle each time I'm blocked. It's actually quite therapeutic

Oh, buy cake candles, everytime you get blocked you get to blow out a candle and eat a cupcake!

Daizy stop trying to turn me into a melt do you know how many cupcakes I'd have to eat

I'm guessing a great many?!

I'd need to go to Costco "

Don't forget the birthday candles!!

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
47 weeks ago

kent


"I see getting blocked as a small victory, it's my fetish. If I don't get blocked at least 8 times per week......then I've failed.

I light a candle each time I'm blocked. It's actually quite therapeutic

Oh, buy cake candles, everytime you get blocked you get to blow out a candle and eat a cupcake!

This is a great idea! But would I go out of my way to get myself blocked?

I would tbh, I'd get myself blocked for a doughnut tho! "

Doughnuts!! I’m so going to bring doughnuts!

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By *issmorganWoman
47 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

You've got lots of veries op so you're doing OK.

We all get deleted at times

If I delete a message I do block afterwards, purely because some will keep messaging asking why not /or abusive. I don't know who will or won't act like this, so it's easier to just block all.

Plus it saves us coming up in each other's searches again.

It's not personal to anyone.

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By *r SteelhammerMan
47 weeks ago

belfast

Don’t worry op better then what I get I get messages arrange a meet then when the day comes I get ghosted and blocked every single time too

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
47 weeks ago

Essex

It happens to us all xxx

Get your pants back on, then get planning to get them back off

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By *mmaleiaWoman
47 weeks ago

Trowbridge

I’ve been blocked many a time for not answering their DMs within 30 minutes, you’re a good looking guy with a tonne of verifications, I only tend to block if they’ve messaged me 10 times the same thing without reading my profile, I’m thinking of cutting that down to 5 though

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By *ruceyyMan
47 weeks ago

London

We all have this happen! Don't sweat it. Some people can't take jokes at all and block - fuck them for having no sense of humor. Others you're just not their type. Fuck them, you're sexy!

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By *hrimper36Couple
47 weeks ago

Central France dept 36

You’re doing ok op so it seems you really don’t need those big boy pants of yours.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago


"A few days ago, I put my big boy pants on and did the rare thing of sending a DM. It wasn't prize winning literature but it was pleasant. Today I got deleted & blocked. I have no Ill feeling towards them because there is no obligation to engage in conversation but: Confidence knocked. Big boy pants neatly folded & back in the cupboard "

Fully understand op. It happened to me today just talking and then block.

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

At war with a villain, you can't call a truce, you put down your weapon but now he's got two.

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By *elix SightedMan
47 weeks ago

Cloud 8


"Maybe you just didn't fit what they were looking for. Blocking is just a filter like any other, it's not always as harsh as it comes across. Don't let it put you off OP.

Definitely this. Blocking isn't (always) a hostile act, merely a useful way of trimming down unwanted contact. It probably just means you're not what they're looking for.

Unless of course you sent a zoomed in close up photo of your sosig, in which case I fully support blocking action occuring "

Ha! Sosig.

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By *eroLondonMan
47 weeks ago

Mayfair

Do not give up OP. Walk with your head held high, aloft and with assurity. Think of yourself as the undiscovered country, for your ship will soon come in.

Pay no attention to these capricious creatures who delete and block on a whim with no inkling of what they are missing out on. They leave a slipstream of broken hearts in their wake. Wenches.

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By *ife NinjaMan
47 weeks ago

Dunfermline


"I see getting blocked as a small victory, it's my fetish. If I don't get blocked at least 8 times per week......then I've failed.

I light a candle each time I'm blocked. It's actually quite therapeutic

Oh, buy cake candles, everytime you get blocked you get to blow out a candle and eat a cupcake!"

Jesus, I wondered why I was putting on weight

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By *ark ElMan
47 weeks ago

London


"Do not give up OP. Walk with your head held high, aloft and with assurity. Think of yourself as the undiscovered country, for your ship will soon come in.

Pay no attention to these capricious creatures who delete and block on a whim with no inkling of what they are missing out on. They leave a slipstream of broken hearts in their wake. Wenches."

Beautifully said

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago


"A few days ago, I put my big boy pants on and did the rare thing of sending a DM. It wasn't prize winning literature but it was pleasant. Today I got deleted & blocked. I have no Ill feeling towards them because there is no obligation to engage in conversation but: Confidence knocked. Big boy pants neatly folded & back in the cupboard "

You sent one DM and you feel rejected? Try sending a dozen, get rejected by 11 people/couples, get chatting with one, get rejected... rinse, repeat for a couple of months while trying to write a witty profile and message.

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By *eroLondonMan
47 weeks ago

Mayfair


"A few days ago, I put my big boy pants on and did the rare thing of sending a DM. It wasn't prize winning literature but it was pleasant. Today I got deleted & blocked. I have no Ill feeling towards them because there is no obligation to engage in conversation but: Confidence knocked. Big boy pants neatly folded & back in the cupboard

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You sent one DM and you feel rejected? Try sending a dozen, get rejected by 11 people/couples, get chatting with one, get rejected... rinse, repeat for a couple of months while trying to write a witty profile and message."

Is this ^ your experience?

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago


"A few days ago, I put my big boy pants on and did the rare thing of sending a DM. It wasn't prize winning literature but it was pleasant. Today I got deleted & blocked. I have no Ill feeling towards them because there is no obligation to engage in conversation but: Confidence knocked. Big boy pants neatly folded & back in the cupboard

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You sent one DM and you feel rejected? Try sending a dozen, get rejected by 11 people/couples, get chatting with one, get rejected... rinse, repeat for a couple of months while trying to write a witty profile and message.

Is this ^ your experience?"

I mostly get ignored (message unread), deleted on first message, deleted after sending face pic... it's just what it is.

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
47 weeks ago

Worcester

Just keep going. I get rejected by guys all the time. Doesn’t mean anything other than we weren’t compatible.

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By *eroLondonMan
47 weeks ago

Mayfair


"A few days ago, I put my big boy pants on and did the rare thing of sending a DM. It wasn't prize winning literature but it was pleasant. Today I got deleted & blocked. I have no Ill feeling towards them because there is no obligation to engage in conversation but: Confidence knocked. Big boy pants neatly folded & back in the cupboard

·

You sent one DM and you feel rejected? Try sending a dozen, get rejected by 11 people/couples, get chatting with one, get rejected... rinse, repeat for a couple of months while trying to write a witty profile and message.

Is this ^ your experience?

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I mostly get ignored (message unread), deleted on first message, deleted after sending face pic... it's just what it is."

Sorry to hear that.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

47 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Trust me.

An early block with no reply is probably a lot better than a long and in depth message exchange, followed by an instant block the second you send a face pic.

*not that that's ever happened to me

**much

***no, honestly.......

****#whoamikidding

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago


"Trust me.

An early block with no reply is probably a lot better than a long and in depth message exchange, followed by an instant block the second you send a face pic.

*not that that's ever happened to me

**much

***no, honestly.......

****#whoamikidding "

Recently I got excited by the conversation with someone who not only was serious about meeting, but once she sent me her photo I recognized her and knew from seeing her she is for real (once you see a collared sub shooping you know she is serious). We even occasionally shop at the same Boots. Alas, as soon as she saw my photo it was an instant block. I see it as part of the game. I know women get flooded with messages so it's about efficiently managing the inbox rather than being nasty.

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By *C79 OP   Man
47 weeks ago

Caterham

Well thankyou everyone for your reassuring support and funny comments. I'm going shopping tomorrow so I'll get candles and cupcake mix so I'm ready for next time. As for sosig closeups, I promise there weren't any. Lol. Sosig.

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By *C79 OP   Man
47 weeks ago

Caterham

Also, fyi, I had a quick perv at every one of you so no feeling special/blocking me for being weird haha

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