FabSwingers.com forum: Single men issues or opportunities?

By *heitaliandreamer OP Man
41 weeks ago

Northampton

On one hand, single men are often stereotyped as less desirable or even problematic within swinger communities, leading to a degree of caution or reluctance to engage with them. On the other hand, these same individuals are modt of times viewed as a lucrative market by clubs that cater to the swinger lifestyle, which charge them higher entry fees. How do you see in your opinion these two faces from the same medal?

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By *naswingdressWoman
41 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Men aren't inherently less desirable, there's just more of them than can be satisfied by other demographics.

Because of this, clubs can and do charge what they like - the demand will sustain the higher charges.

On the other side, where there is an excess supply of men, the men who cause problems are talked about a lot more than the ones who don't.

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By *electableicecreamMan
41 weeks ago

The West

"Men aren't inherently less desirable, there's just more of them than can be satisfied by other demographics.

Because of this, clubs can and do charge what they like - the demand will sustain the higher charges.

On the other side, where there is an excess supply of men, the men who cause problems are talked about a lot more than the ones who don't."

This is pretty much hitting the nail on the head.

If the forum was the only place you got your information you could be easily led to believe that being a single man on Fab is a total waste of time and that single men in general are pests and a general nuisance on the site.

This isn't true at all though.

The true story is that decent, reliable single men are in demand in the swinging scene and guys with a good reputation do very well.

The wanking dead and zombie accounts don't make it more difficult for guys to get meets. They set the bar so low that it's actually easier to stand out basic courtesy and respect.

I've been told buy a club owner that part of the reason single men pay a premium is because the risk of them not turning up is way higher.

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By *apiomanMan
41 weeks ago

Shipley

Having been in a couple on here previously I totally get some single men being a nuisance. It is annoying as it means filters go up so half the time I can't send a message, but I live with that, and now only message very selectively making extra effort when I do message.

In terms of pricing at clubs, I am happy to pay more if it keeps the ratios right.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Do clubs charge single men higher entry fees, or do they charge couples and single women lower entry fees?

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

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In terms of pricing at clubs, I am happy to pay more if it keeps the ratios right. "

As a guy or anyone, it’s our choices that we make that will make us enjoy our lives, and that includes Swinging.

But I do disagree, and I’m against the pricing.

It’s sex discrimination. Prove me wrong.

But I will go to a club one day and swallow that overpricing pill, I’m sure. And I accept the reasons for it, but that man doesn’t get a better service in there, doesn’t enjoy that club any different to anyone else, but he pays a lot more. Everytime.

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By *ris GrayMan
41 weeks ago

Dorchester

"On one hand, single men are often stereotyped as less desirable or even problematic within swinger communities, leading to a degree of caution or reluctance to engage with them. On the other hand, these same individuals are modt of times viewed as a lucrative market by clubs that cater to the swinger lifestyle, which charge them higher entry fees. How do you see in your opinion these two faces from the same medal?"
Men pay for the clubs but they aren't viewed any differently one wrong move and you're out on your ear

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
41 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Some clubs have limited single male memberships and charge every person the same amount. They're then called cliquey and exclusionary because they won't let just anyone join when that membership can go to someone vetted and known to be a good person at events.

Some clubs let anyone in but charge single males more because it's an easy way to keep the balance closer to sustainable. They can still turn people away if there are too many men in the ratios for the evening. They're called unfair and discriminatory for it.

Some clubs have a fully open door policy. Anyone can join, anyone can turn up, no worrying about the balance. As a woman, I don't go to those ones. They're just sausagefests.

As to men on here. Anyone who approaches me as an actual human and not some sort of sexual vending machine or cheap toy to spice up their boring sex lives, I'll talk to them. I get more good messages even as a percentage from single men than I do from women or couple accounts. And they stand out more against the endless sea of mediocrity that the unwashed masses provide

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By *sWyldWoman
41 weeks ago

Edinburgh

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In terms of pricing at clubs, I am happy to pay more if it keeps the ratios right.

As a guy or anyone, it’s our choices that we make that will make us enjoy our lives, and that includes Swinging.

But I do disagree, and I’m against the pricing.

It’s sex discrimination. Prove me wrong.

Try being a woman we pay more for lots of things aimed at us that men pay less for. Razors, beauty, bathing and skincare products.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I read somewhere to charge men more it is discrimination towards males.

I also read feed back from clubs, males seem to dominate the trouble at clubs especially single males.

I am of the opinion that males are discriminated in 2024.Clubs should not be. Just chuck out the bad eggs, ban them from the club if they cannog behave. I went to clubs bouncers threw out women too. Just my opinion we should not discriminate in an equal world.

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By *oxy jWoman
41 weeks ago

somerset

guys do badly on the scene as a whole purely down to the sheer number as a starter then attraction is needed to get a meet so simple maths will tell you due to how few couples or women there are it simply means most men just dont get anywhere ...

the scene is more than online the forums on fab are 1%/2% at most so you never get a true picture the same goes for clubs they are a tiny part of the scene .. i dont think men should be charged extra i think it should be one price but that will cost the closing down of many clubs as couples and women will just meet private but why should men have to pay for others to get cheaper ...i /we only go to clubs for men mainly

this really is a scene where there simply is not someone for everyone as said its just simple maths to explain that ...

theres also a difference between men and women when it comes to selection or rejection most women need sexual attraction so thats 99.99% men off her mind .... as the couples are going more down the private party road most are avoiding men unless they are very well spoken for some are even not bothering with any singles at all just couples real couples not fb/fwb..

you cant make couples want to swing you cant make women want to swing ... so sadly apart from the very few most men wont get anywhere some might get lucky here n there ....

and i love men the more the merrier but sexual attraction is a must as is compatibilities

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