FabSwingers.com forum: Long distance relationships

By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

Shout out

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

OUT!

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By *sWyldWoman
50 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I tried and I failed

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By *naswingdressWoman
50 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

out. fuck that

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By *litlicker77Man
50 weeks ago

dirty old town

130 mile

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By *eroLondonMan
50 weeks ago

Mayfair

I don't think they could even hear me.

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
50 weeks ago

Cambs

Depends on how well both people communicate but it's possible especially with ENM relationship styles. Xx

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By *ames_HertsMan
50 weeks ago

My ex and I both ended up long distance, her in Manchester and me in Stevenage. It worked for a while but it wasn't the same. It ended after a fab member told her I was on here

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

Sounds difficult… I’m in

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By *redwilma666Couple
50 weeks ago

Kilbirnie

We had a long distance marriage for 10 years her in Aberdeen & me in the Middle East. We have just had our 40th anniversary this week

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
50 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Everywhere is long distance from Aberdeen!

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

Long distance.. Is that round the corner

If I connect properly I would find a way.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"We had a long distance marriage for 10 years her in Aberdeen & me in the Middle East. We have just had our 40th anniversary this week"

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"Everywhere is long distance from Aberdeen! "

Oh Angus.. Nearest I get is Angus steak.

I always say a true connection warrants a plan to travel. Book hotel and enjoy Scotland it is on my bucket list

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By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

One of my partners lives up north. And I go up there. The things we do for love

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"…... The things we do for love

That’s a lyric from a song isn’t it?

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
50 weeks ago

wonderland.

How far we saying is long distance lol

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By *a LunaWoman
50 weeks ago

South Wales

I think I could get on board with the infrequency of seeing them.

But they’d have to be faithful. And what happens if they get a local hottie giving them the eye. Guess who’ll be binned. The LDR that’s what.

I can feel the angst already!!

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"We had a long distance marriage for 10 years her in Aberdeen & me in the Middle East. We have just had our 40th anniversary this week"

Biggest congratulations to you both

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
50 weeks ago

Markfield

It was possibly the best part of my relationship with my now ex husband as the time we spent together after being apart was always so special. Absence really did make the heart grow fonder and we didn’t waste time on mundane stuff like shopping and housework, we just spent time with each other, enjoying shared passions.

We weren’t too far apart geographically (120 miles, 2.5-3 hours each way) and we still saw each other often (every two weeks as often as possible) but weren’t living together. Once we moved in together we would have absences as he travelled a lot with work and the reuniting was still awesome but not as much fun as when we lived apart.

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By *naswingdressWoman
50 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"One of my partners lives up north. And I go up there. The things we do for love

Like walking in the rain and the snow...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

"…... The things we do for love

That’s a lyric from a song isn’t it?

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not from my generation. Maybe yours?

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By *viatrixWoman
50 weeks ago

Redhill

They’ve been my life haha

But sometimes you could be on someone’s doorstep and they are the most difficult to meet…

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By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

"They’ve been my life haha

But sometimes you could be on someone’s doorstep and they are the most difficult to meet… "

I have dated people that are local and seen them barely ever because of schedules etc.

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By *ellinever70Woman
50 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I don't find the notion of them appealing.

Spontaneous time together wouldn't be an option

And feeling wanty or wistful during time apart could potentially be a source of unhappiness for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

"I don't find the notion of them appealing.

Spontaneous time together wouldn't be an option

And feeling wanty or wistful during time apart could potentially be a source of unhappiness for me"

That’s good self awareness. Fair

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By *stellaWoman
50 weeks ago

London

Relationships and love are an active choice, everyday. Attraction can be there but you have to put effort in for a relationship. I could do long distance with the right person, clear comms and agreed goals that work for both parties. It’s also about being mindfully present when you are together so it’s clear your time and being connected is important and special.

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By *espacito56Man
50 weeks ago

Orkney

Just about to end one. Very expensive (when you're paying for ALL travel and other costs) and fucking inconvenient.

If it was a "love thing", maybe, but not just for a fuck buddy.

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By *sWyldWoman
50 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I used to think it was about making a choice to pick each other and that it was enough.

That love would be enough.

Maybe for some it is but now I've realised that making that choice doesn't mean the same thing to everyone.

I don't think I'd be able to put myself through that again, not with all the angst that came with it.

Equally though I don't particularly want someone living in my pocket demanding all my time either.

Odd thing for the hopeless romantic to say and actually makes me realise why there's probably no hope for me!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
39 weeks ago

Hello friends

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By *ittlebirdWoman
39 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Hello friends"

Are you bored?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
39 weeks ago

"Hello friends

Are you bored?

Nope. It’s not boredom lmao

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By *ittlebirdWoman
39 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Hello friends

Are you bored?

Nope. It’s not boredom lmao"

My man

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By (user no longer on site) OP
39 weeks ago

"Hello friends

Are you bored?

Nope. It’s not boredom lmao

My man "

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By *lder.Woman
39 weeks ago

Not Local

They're a ballache aren't they. But I'm trying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
39 weeks ago

"They're a ballache aren't they. But I'm trying.

I’m trying too.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
39 weeks ago

little house on the praire

I was in a long distance relationship ( well 85 miles) with my late partner but we did see each other every week.

Worked perfectly well for us for 16 years

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By *eliWoman
39 weeks ago

I've done them before. To varying degrees of success.

And because I'm delightfully poly and have a predilection for liking those who live away from me, I'll probably do it again.

I think they can work. If you're both on the same page, have that level of communication, don't cheat, make time and effort for each other. It's easier being poly because I don't want them to be my everything nor for me to be everything to them.

I want to be part of their life without being the whole thing. So yes, distance for me, it can work. Nothing lasts but it can be beautiful whilst it does.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
39 weeks ago

Reading

2 miles please

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By *ehindHerEyesCouple
39 weeks ago

SomewhereOnlyWeKnow

Hard work but ploughing on

Tinder

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman
39 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

My longest “relationship” was with a guy who lived in the Isle of Man while I lived in London. I liked it, we would spend two weeks together then two weeks apart, and by the end of each two weeks I was ready for the change.

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By *uckurcumMan
39 weeks ago

Bishop Auckland

Enjoyed the ones I've had and the bonus is the time apart ...They ended mutually without issues and not because of the distances.

No need for people to be round each other 24/7 ...Everyone needs space and time apart and to some degree separate interests ...it works for me ..but it'll not be for everyone ...

Plus it's possible to be lonely in a close, smothering relationship

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By *lubchuckerMan
39 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

I've tried it twice and neither worked for different reasons, last one was all one way traffic and deceit

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
39 weeks ago

chichester

Yeah it’s pointless I find ultimately. Prob for a relationship I need to be at least within 90 min travel otherwise job just never get spend any time.

Saying that I am long time single so it’s not something that comes up I find

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By *rBobbMan
39 weeks ago

Birmingham

I wouldn't rule it out

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By *hortarseWoman
39 weeks ago

Norfolk

My ex is having a very long distance relationship his new wife she lives in Indonesia.

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By *ags73Man
39 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Did it. What to say? Right person, wrong place and I’m an idiot.

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By *ea monkeyMan
39 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’ve done it several times and I’m currently two years into a LDR with one of my partners

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By *a LunaWoman
39 weeks ago

South Wales

I’ve dabbled within the UK.

Sadly I don’t think I could afford the upkeep of a LDR outside of the UK, my passport has expired

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
39 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

"I’ve dabbled within the UK.

Sadly I don’t think I could afford the upkeep of a LDR outside of the UK, my passport has expired

I typed a rude reply but then thought better of it.

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By *a LunaWoman
39 weeks ago

South Wales

"I’ve dabbled within the UK.

Sadly I don’t think I could afford the upkeep of a LDR outside of the UK, my passport has expired

I typed a rude reply but then thought better of it.

That’s not like you!

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
39 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

"I’ve dabbled within the UK.

Sadly I don’t think I could afford the upkeep of a LDR outside of the UK, my passport has expired

I typed a rude reply but then thought better of it.

That’s not like you!

Oh I’ve turned over a new leaf, I’m politeness personified these days

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
24 weeks ago

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"I was in a long distance relationship ( well 85 miles) with my late partner but we did see each other every week.

Worked perfectly well for us for 16 years"

Every other week is great amount of time between seeing someone.

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By *naswingdressWoman
24 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Longest distance was the other side of the world. Which is why I repeat what I said earlier. Out. Fuck that.

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
24 weeks ago

Ends

"Longest distance was the other side of the world. Which is why I repeat what I said earlier. Out. Fuck that."

Doomed from the start, you and I

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By *naswingdressWoman
24 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Longest distance was the other side of the world. Which is why I repeat what I said earlier. Out. Fuck that.

Doomed from the start, you and I "

You and I are *checks notes* not that far apart, in the grand scheme.

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By *erfHerder74Man
24 weeks ago

Inverclyde

Tried once, lasted 1 year and a day.

Then again it’s longer than with anyone local

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
24 weeks ago

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"Longest distance was the other side of the world. Which is why I repeat what I said earlier. Out. Fuck that.

Doomed from the start, you and I

You and I are *checks notes* not that far apart, in the grand scheme."
that’s what I like to hear.

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
24 weeks ago

Ends

"Tried once, lasted 1 year and a day.

Then again it’s longer than with anyone local"

It’s because you see them less.

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By *naswingdressWoman
24 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Longest distance was the other side of the world. Which is why I repeat what I said earlier. Out. Fuck that.

Doomed from the start, you and I

You and I are *checks notes* not that far apart, in the grand scheme.that’s what I like to hear. "

I mean, Nigel Farage is also geographically not that far away. It's not a selling point

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By *arlot o scaraWoman
24 weeks ago

Hell

It would be my ideal dynamic. I don’t want someone randomly turning up at my house midweek, I want to enjoy my time by myself and see them at the weekends or twice a month. I would absolutely love that.

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By *ickleTheWonderSchlongMan
24 weeks ago

Ends

"It would be my ideal dynamic. I don’t want someone randomly turning up at my house midweek, I want to enjoy my time by myself and see them at the weekends or twice a month. I would absolutely love that."

Good luck 🤞🏾

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By *ookie46Woman
24 weeks ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I had one, lasted four years. Turned out that the open honest communication was one sided

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By *olfandtazCouple
24 weeks ago

Bristol

I tried it many years ago, it didn't last. There's only so much you can do if the other person isn't putting any effort in

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