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"i know but if he changed his mind so quick couldn't he change it back? i dont want kids with anyone else. i think hes just scared as his cousin just found out theyre child will be born with stage 3 brittle bones syndrome and his neice and nephew died from it too, it runs heavily in the genes" In that case id be worried about having kids too Im sorry but if I had a disorder than ran in my family that killed then id refrain from having children Surely you must be able to understand his fears? | |||
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"i know but if he changed his mind so quick couldn't he change it back? i dont want kids with anyone else. i think hes just scared as his cousin just found out theyre child will be born with stage 3 brittle bones syndrome and his neice and nephew died from it too, it runs heavily in the genes" Suggest you speak with a doctor and find out whether he carries the genes....It might make the decision easier for you....Good luck | |||
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"i do but the rest of the brothers and sisters have had healthy children i know the disease does play heavily on his mind, but maybe he would think differently if we got tested? is there a test to see if your a carrier of the disease?" you really need to go speak to your doctor, with the greatest of respect you cant take advice from people on here about such a serious matter x | |||
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"i do but the rest of the brothers and sisters have had healthy children i know the disease does play heavily on his mind, but maybe he would think differently if we got tested? is there a test to see if your a carrier of the disease?" Ask your GP about a test or try doing some research on line | |||
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"If it runs in his family surely other family members will know about tests etc?? surely others have already looked into it?" his sister doesnt live close by and his cousin just found out and r very upset so dont want to start questioning her, but yeah i will ask the doctor thanks | |||
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"think yoursel lucky you have a husband. if you love him that much you will do what he wants to do. having kids isnt the be all and end all despite what some people say." I dont agree at all. Being in a marriage is all about give and take, compromise. He told her once that he wants kids, something some women crave, then has pulled the rug out from underneath her saying he doesnt want them at all. Saying 'if you love him you will do what he wants' is bollocks in my opinion because surely it works both ways?! And for some women having children is the be all and end all for some women. Its just some feel more passionately about it than others. Definitely consider having a test for the gene x | |||
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"If it runs in his family surely other family members will know about tests etc?? surely others have already looked into it? his sister doesnt live close by and his cousin just found out and r very upset so dont want to start questioning her, but yeah i will ask the doctor thanks" I don't think your wrong I just don't think anyone on here is qualified to give you the answers you need, id sooner you go see a doctor and get the correct information than listen to someone on here Good luck | |||
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"think yoursel lucky you have a husband. if you love him that much you will do what he wants to do. having kids isnt the be all and end all despite what some people say. I dont agree at all. Being in a marriage is all about give and take, compromise. He told her once that he wants kids, something some women crave, then has pulled the rug out from underneath her saying he doesnt want them at all. Saying 'if you love him you will do what he wants' is bollocks in my opinion because surely it works both ways?! And for some women having children is the be all and end all for some women. Its just some feel more passionately about it than others. Definitely consider having a test for the gene x" thanks yeah being mum is becoming all i can think about since he told me he didnt want any | |||
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"think yoursel lucky you have a husband. if you love him that much you will do what he wants to do. having kids isnt the be all and end all despite what some people say. I dont agree at all. Being in a marriage is all about give and take, compromise. He told her once that he wants kids, something some women crave, then has pulled the rug out from underneath her saying he doesnt want them at all. Saying 'if you love him you will do what he wants' is bollocks in my opinion because surely it works both ways?! And for some women having children is the be all and end all for some women. Its just some feel more passionately about it than others. Definitely consider having a test for the gene x" its a bit of a stale mate situation, if she loves him she will respect he don't wan t kids....but if he loves her...... | |||
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"i know but if he changed his mind so quick couldn't he change it back? i dont want kids with anyone else. i think hes just scared as his cousin just found out theyre child will be born with stage 3 brittle bones syndrome and his neice and nephew died from it too, it runs heavily in the genes" then go and speak to the doctor about options for screening.. | |||
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"i know and i dont want to be like that, i think deep down he wants kids 2 but is just scared, another factor is that i used to be heavily overweight ive lost 9 stone in 2 years! i go to the gym 5days a week and hes afraid a baby will change everything" are you saying he is worried you will put the weight back on? surely if he loved you when you were big he will love you still if that happens? | |||
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"think yoursel lucky you have a husband. if you love him that much you will do what he wants to do. having kids isnt the be all and end all despite what some people say." what a load of tosh!! im so glad im single but feel amazingly lucky and privilaged to have my son! so sad when people think the be all and end all of life is to have someone love u! pah! loving yourself is the most important thing | |||
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"think yoursel lucky you have a husband. if you love him that much you will do what he wants to do. having kids isnt the be all and end all despite what some people say." lucky she has a husband??? do what he wants??? have we all jumped in invictus' time machine back to victorian times??? what a load of tosh!!! relationships are about communication and compromise. if the OP's husband has had such a dramatic change of heart then she needs to sit down with him and discuss why. thats is the only answer here. If it is due to the genetic condition then they need to go see a doctor and discuss options/tests etc. Even if there is a chance of a disability that doesnt mean the end of having babies. disabled children can live very happy lives. i think it would be hard to knowigly carry a life limited baby though. At the end of the day only the OP and her husband can decide what the best option is for them...but they decde it as a couple not one person dictating to the other because of their sex!!! | |||
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"think yoursel lucky you have a husband. if you love him that much you will do what he wants to do. having kids isnt the be all and end all despite what some people say." I disagree with these comments. If you told him before you were married how much it meant and he agreed to have them then he should have gave it more thought before you got married. Having kids isnt the be all and end all but if its something you have always craved and means more to you than anything then you should do it and find someone who will do it with you. As far as doing what he wants is rubbish. I love my husband very much but I don't always do what he wants to do, a marraige is give and take and comprising to fill each others needs and wants On saying all that maybe if there is some kind of test that can be done to determine whether you carry the gene or not would make the decision easier. Good luck. | |||
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