FabSwingers.com forum: Guys, it happens to everyone?

By *ruceyy OP Man
41 weeks ago

London

Anyone not been able to get it up for a meet before?!

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By *aizyWoman
41 weeks ago

west midlands

Do you have something you want to get off your chest Brucey??

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
41 weeks ago

manchester

"Anyone not been able to get it up for a meet before?!

Can’t relate

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
41 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I've known plenty of people get nerves and struggle with it.

Or that bit where they can't cum because they're so in their own head about it.

It's frustrating on all sides, but not usually unresolvable

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
41 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"Anyone not been able to get it up for a meet before?!

Oh no! You've wanked so much that you've used up all your erections!

You need to eat bulls' testicles if you hope to recover your former vigour.

It is known.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
41 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

It's pretty common, especially when you're new on the scene. Whether you'll get people admitting to it here I don't know. This is the sort of place where people should be able to put their hands up and reassure each other but it depends on the mood of the Lounge today.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
41 weeks ago

Leeds

"It's pretty common, especially when you're new on the scene. Whether you'll get people admitting to it here I don't know. This is the sort of place where people should be able to put their hands up and reassure each other but it depends on the mood of the Lounge today.

Exactly what Julie says, sometimes I do wish these forums where a little more realistic on the swinging as a whole.

Blokes do struggle Brucey stage fright, nerves etc - I struggle to cum with anyone I meet.

Mrs

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
41 weeks ago

kent

I’ll answer this truthfully. Yes. Some years ago, before lockdown, when I was only just beginning to recover from the psychological and emotional abuse I had endured. We got along really well, and I was open from the beginning about the emotional place I was in (and the physical effects that I sometimes faced as a result). We still had a lot of fun together. But after it became very confused, and I heard through the grapevine that she had been extremely disrespectful about me. The lack of awareness and empathy for the place I was in was extremely hurtful. She made me feel awful, and the betrayal of the trust I thought we had is part of the reason why I’m very guarded with people now. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I'll admit that I've had my nerves partly ruin a meet I had in the past. We all still got around the issue and made up for it by doing other fun stuff, but I did still find it frustrating as it wasn't something within my control at the time. It's all good Brucey.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

It's not that common, it doesn't happen to every guy and it is a big deal.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
41 weeks ago

Reading

Anti ds and other medication can cause this.

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By *iasubTV/TS
41 weeks ago

Ilkeston

It probably happens more than people make out and its nothing to beat yourself up about like its not the end of the world.

Theres always next time

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
41 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

"It's not that common, it doesn't happen to every guy and it is a big deal."

joke post, right. Right?

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"It's not that common, it doesn't happen to every guy and it is a big deal.

joke post, right. Right?

It is indeed J, its from Friends.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
41 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

"It's not that common, it doesn't happen to every guy and it is a big deal.

joke post, right. Right?

It is indeed J, its from Friends."

Ah yes, of course! I can even 'hear it' now

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Yep. That’s happened to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
41 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

"It's not that common, it doesn't happen to every guy and it is a big deal.

joke post, right. Right?

It is indeed J, its from Friends.

Ah yes, of course! I can even 'hear it' now

Yup. I'm annoyingly literal and miss these references sometimes. *shrug*

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By *viatrixWoman
41 weeks ago

Redhill

Pretty common and normal I’d say…

As it would be cumming too quickly?

Stage fright and all that jazz

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By *illy IdolMan
41 weeks ago

Midlands

I would have thought it's happened to the majority of men here.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"Pretty common and normal I’d say…

As it would be cumming too quickly?

Stage fright and all that jazz"
all that jizz. *

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

No.

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By *illy IdolMan
41 weeks ago

Midlands

"[Limp penis removed by poster at 13/02/24 13:45:12]"

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

It does happen, for sure. I've been with three men (not all from Fab) where they couldn't perform. One quite recently and I tried to talk to him but he shut me down.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"Pretty common and normal I’d say…

As it would be cumming too quickly?

Stage fright and all that jazzall that jizz. *"

Jizz hands.

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By *viatrixWoman
41 weeks ago

Redhill

"Pretty common and normal I’d say…

As it would be cumming too quickly?

Stage fright and all that jazzall that jizz. *"

Not sharp enough now to have come up with that. So many pancakes are wreaking havoc on my blood sugar/brain

It made me spit out my sugarless iced coffee though

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"Pretty common and normal I’d say…

As it would be cumming too quickly?

Stage fright and all that jazzall that jizz. *

Not sharp enough now to have come up with that. So many pancakes are wreaking havoc on my blood sugar/brain

It made me spit out my sugarless iced coffee though

Sounds like a sticky situation

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By *andE2000Man
41 weeks ago

Bathgate

"Anyone not been able to get it up for a meet before?!

Yeah. 10 years ago. As a single guy I agreed to meet a couple and reluctantly agreed to them filming the encounter. The female part was too hot to say no. But it made me nervous, she tried everything to turn me on. But nothing was happening. I was surprised myself as I never thought not getting hard was a possibility for me back then.

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By *dz_in_PrestonMan
41 weeks ago

Preston

Glad lots of genuine men are not afraid to hold their hands up on the term Stage Fright.

You just never know when it may occur especially if you find yourself in different surroundings than used to and there always a lot you can do anyway.

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By *hief_Of_AlwaysMan
41 weeks ago

London or Bedford

"Anyone not been able to get it up for a meet before?!

Nope, but it happened during my last ONS.

Dunno what was the deal.

She was attractive

I’d been drinking nothing but juice all night. So Whiskey Dick shouldn’t have been a factor.

It...just...didn’t...work

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By *agnar73Man
41 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Usually okay when I sober. A right few drinks is a different story.

I’m sure you’ll be fine next time Brucey.

Biggest nerves for me is the people side of things more than the actual doodah.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

You do realise that in posting this you’ll probably make some poor fella think about it at the wrong time and spoil his next filthy fab meet

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By *rHotNottsMan
41 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

It happened to me a couple of times when I was younger doing couples same room swap, I think I just wasn’t that into it.

Thankfully It’s never happened 1 on 1.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I always let people know in early dm's that age and meds mean I sometimes have problems. Upto them then whether they want to meet. Also point out that fingers, tounge etc still work fine.

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By *uliette500Woman
41 weeks ago

Hull

It does happen to most blokes at some point, I've had it happen with regular friends where they have never an issues then suddenly it doesn't happen.

We didn't let it interfere we still had a great time and the following time we met it was fine.

There can be a lot of reasons why this happens some are psychological others physical.

If it's a one off then fine but if you find it becoming a regular issue maybe speak to your GP as there could be a medical cause.

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By *hoccaMan
41 weeks ago

local

Perhaps too much anticipation/expectation? Be more in the moment mentally. And cut down the porn

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
41 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I've known plenty of people get nerves and struggle with it.

Or that bit where they can't cum because they're so in their own head about it.

It's frustrating on all sides, but not usually unresolvable

I've never had a problem getting it up (so far, touch wood - pun intended) but I have had many an occasion when I just won't cum. Either because I'm enjoying the moment too much and have got it so far in my head to delay it that short of Margot Robbie and Rihanna arriving to add to the party I reach a point where its just not gonna happen, or because it's one of those times where its stupidly hot temperature wise which for some reason becomes a blocker.

Which is fine. I still enjoy whatever is happening and whilst an orgasm would be nice the journey to get to that point is also awesome.

I've seen it happen on meets though, both in private or in clubs. It's quite common and nothing to feel ashamed about.

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By *cott14Man
41 weeks ago

Essex & SW Exeter/Taunton

I have . Stress , lack of sleep and a poor diet in a previous life.

It happens , it’s a bit rubbish but hey ho at least it didn’t fall off x

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By *ruceyy OP Man
41 weeks ago

London

This didn't happen to me fyi! It's just a talking matter on a forum haha!

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"Do you have something you want to get off your chest Brucey?? "

Yep. Sounds very specific!

In short op, no, if I’m getting naked with a woman, it’s because I’m turned on, and she will soon find out how much.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"This didn't happen to me fyi! It's just a talking matter on a forum haha!"

Even if it did, it’s not that deep. We’re all adults. We’ve all had plenty of sex.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
41 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

Yeah, no need to be defensive Brucey. It happens to every guy at some point. It’s only a problem if it happens a lot.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
41 weeks ago

Southampton

"Pretty common and normal I’d say…

As it would be cumming too quickly?

Stage fright and all that jazzall that jizz. *

Jizz hands."

Go and wash them please

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By *eyond PurityCouple
41 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

I’ve had it happen to me quite a few times when we first started playing with others.

I was excited by everything that was happening but I also wanted to make sure C is ok, enjoying herself and then I can relax into things more.

It’s a mental block, just the same as when a woman can’t cum. The more you will it to happen the more it won’t.

Guys, I’m pleased if it’s never happened to you but it doesn’t make anyone less of a man if it has.

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