FabSwingers.com forum: Is it rude

By *parkle1974 OP Woman
41 weeks ago

Leeds

Is it rude just to say "no?

Would it make it less rude to say "no thanks"??

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

No.

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By *amie HantsWoman
41 weeks ago

Atlantis

Depends on what the question was and how it’s said.

More times than not I would say ‘no’ was rude

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

No thank you - is polite.

No - is to the point and direct.

Both get the point across.

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
41 weeks ago

Leeds

"Depends on what the question was and how it’s said.

More times than not I would say ‘no’ was rude "

For example you get a message saying "let's meet"

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
41 weeks ago

Leeds

"No thank you - is polite.

No - is to the point and direct.

Both get the point across.

I like being direct

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Depends on the context it is used in. Sometimes no without thanks is most effective. Other times no thanks is warranted too.

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By *ottom charlieMan
41 weeks ago

washington

"Is it rude just to say "no?

Would it make it less rude to say "no thanks"??"
its always better to be a bit more polite,,, a gentle easy let down tends to be accepted more gracefully and then you dont get the nasty remarks afterwards

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
41 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

No, a thank you is not always appropriate to the question.

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By *ighlandGirl14Woman
41 weeks ago

Inverness

In that case 'no' is all that is needed.

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
41 weeks ago

My Own Little World

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
41 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

"Depends on what the question was and how it’s said.

More times than not I would say ‘no’ was rude

For example you get a message saying "let's meet""

“”Let’s not”, would be my reply.

Not to you personally OP but to someone who asked that question and I didn’t want to meet them.

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By *ou only live onceMan
41 weeks ago

London

"Depends on what the question was and how it’s said.

More times than not I would say ‘no’ was rude "

Yep, pretty much this. Content and tone are going to make a pretty big difference.

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
41 weeks ago

Leeds

"Depends on what the question was and how it’s said.

More times than not I would say ‘no’ was rude

For example you get a message saying "let's meet"

“”Let’s not”, would be my reply.

Not to you personally OP but to someone who asked that question and I didn’t want to meet them. "

I've tried that

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
41 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

No.

Why would I use a word of gratitude for something I'm not grateful for?

I'm often described as rude though. Even though as far as I'm concerned I'm perfectly polite

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
41 weeks ago

Leeds

"No.

Why would I use a word of gratitude for something I'm not grateful for?

I'm often described as rude though. Even though as far as I'm concerned I'm perfectly polite

I know exactly what you mean

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
41 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

Non

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

It was unsolicited contact, so in context i don't think it was rude

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
41 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

Sorry, I’m washing my hair for the next 10 years

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By *olfandtazCouple
41 weeks ago

Bristol

No thank you should be enough to anyone, you shouldn't have to be firm with a direct no.

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By *aughtyPeepzMan
41 weeks ago

London

I literally had a message asking to see my dick

There was no hello, no how are you or any introduction. I found it quite rude.

So all I wrote was: 'No'

So like some peeps have said, it depends on the question.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I do find a stark "no" rude in most circumstances. But...if people have been rude to me on here, and they frequently are, I don't even give them a "no". I think with some people on Fab, you have to be a bit merciless. Everyone else gets a polite response.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I always say no thank you. I would feel too harsh just saying no unless id already said no previously a few times and they weren't listening.

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By *issmorganWoman
41 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

"Depends on what the question was and how it’s said.

More times than not I would say ‘no’ was rude

For example you get a message saying "let's meet""

I'd just delete that type of message and not engage at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"Is it rude just to say "no?

Would it make it less rude to say "no thanks"??"

To whom are we saying 'no' or 'no thanks' to?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
41 weeks ago

ashford

I usually go with a no thank you x

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By *ellroseWoman
41 weeks ago

Brum

When I say ‘no’ or ‘no thank you’ they just keep messaging and asking why not ! So I end up just deleting

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By *ellinever70Woman
41 weeks ago

Ayrshire

If it's in response to a ridiculous request on here, I don’t think it's rude

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"Is it rude just to say "no?

Would it make it less rude to say "no thanks"??"

It's not rude. I actually like seeing a message with a 'no', because it provides closure however disappointing it may feel for me. I do understand that women are inundated with messages, so it is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

It’s nice to be polite.

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By *ris GrayMan
41 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Is it rude just to say "no?

Would it make it less rude to say "no thanks"??"
yes

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By *mf123Man
41 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

Nope

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By *he ass man 666Man
41 weeks ago

paradise city

"Depends on what the question was and how it’s said.

More times than not I would say ‘no’ was rude

For example you get a message saying "let's meet""

A no is more that it deserves

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By *hunky GentMan
41 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"Is it rude just to say "no?

Would it make it less rude to say "no thanks"??"

It's a lot more polite than some of the replies I get.

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
41 weeks ago

Leeds

"Is it rude just to say "no?

Would it make it less rude to say "no thanks"??

It's a lot more polite than some of the replies I get.

Aawwww x

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By *ildbillkidMan
41 weeks ago

where the road goes on forever

I don't get asked a lot, it's on my profile "I'm not meeting right now" but a no thank you is polite

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By *estarossa.Woman
41 weeks ago

Flagrante

Depends on the question.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"Depends on the question."

Thats a good point. Sometimes it needs a firm NO!

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
41 weeks ago

Let's meet is very direct, so I would say a very direct no is fine

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By *ohnboy64Man
41 weeks ago

Blackpool

It's always a "no thanks" from me.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
41 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

People seem to get offended by rejection regardless of how nicely its worded tbh

I say "no thanks" cos I'm polite

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
41 weeks ago

Worcester

"Is it rude just to say "no?

Would it make it less rude to say "no thanks"?? its always better to be a bit more polite,,, a gentle easy let down tends to be accepted more gracefully and then you dont get the nasty remarks afterwards

Then again… should we have to baby strangers because they can’t control their own temper?

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
41 weeks ago

North West

No.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
41 weeks ago

Leeds

If it's in response to "let's meet" I'd say no.

Mostly I say no thank you, because, well, I'll polite anyone to death.... But blunt messages get blunt replies.

Mrs

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By *iasubTV/TS
41 weeks ago

Ilkeston

No i dont think so either approach works

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
41 weeks ago

North West

No is a complete and unambiguous sentence on its own.

People don't like hearing it because of this. There is less wiggle room for the No-sayer to be swayed into changing their mind.

More women should be comfortable with the power of No.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
41 weeks ago

tf1

"When I say ‘no’ or ‘no thank you’ they just keep messaging and asking why not ! So I end up just deleting "

Just ignore them. If they persistently message you then block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I don’t think it’s rude but then again I can be a tad blunt

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By *athy LovittTV/TS
41 weeks ago

Cambridge

no, its not rude to say no, they never listen anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

No thanks to a polite request. Just no is rude

Just no to an impolite request is fine

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
41 weeks ago

Merseyside

No isn’t rude but we always say no thank you

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
41 weeks ago

Worcester

"No thanks to a polite request. Just no is rude

Just no to an impolite request is fine "

What if they’re not thankful for the message though?

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By *apiomanMan
41 weeks ago

Shipley

"Depends on what the question was and how it’s said.

More times than not I would say ‘no’ was rude

For example you get a message saying "let's meet""

Even getting round to answering a message like that with 'no' is perhaps more effort than it deserves.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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41 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Depends on what the question was and how it’s said.

More times than not I would say ‘no’ was rude

For example you get a message saying "let's meet""

In that case it's fine to just say no.

If they say 'let's meet please' then you probably should add 'thanks' on the end.

Likewise if they send a 'FAFP' message.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

It’s not rude it’s to the point which works well

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"No thanks to a polite request. Just no is rude

Just no to an impolite request is fine

What if they’re not thankful for the message though? "

Still rude

Being not thankful isn’t an excuse to be rude to a polite question/request

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"Is it rude just to say "no?

Would it make it less rude to say "no thanks"??"

Yes

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By *ymAndIcedCoffeeWoman
41 weeks ago

Worcester

"No thanks to a polite request. Just no is rude

Just no to an impolite request is fine

What if they’re not thankful for the message though?

Still rude

Being not thankful isn’t an excuse to be rude to a polite question/request

It’s lying though, isn’t it?

No is a full and complete sentence. It’s not rude.

If someone asked you if you wanted to meet and you said Yes… that isn’t rude compared to Yes, Please.

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By *illan-KillashMan
41 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

"Is it rude just to say "no?

Would it make it less rude to say "no thanks"??"

In Japanese conversation the word no is never said, it's considered rude/abrupt/impolite, so it's never used.

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By *atty CoramWoman
41 weeks ago

Wimbledon

I like to mix it up a bit:

nah

nope

hard pass

Id rather eat my own shit

varying degrees of intensity to suit.... me

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By *ensual-dominant-passionMan
41 weeks ago

sheffield

Either way it’s still a no… so take it as it is lol who cares

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"No thanks to a polite request. Just no is rude

Just no to an impolite request is fine

What if they’re not thankful for the message though?

Still rude

Being not thankful isn’t an excuse to be rude to a polite question/request

It’s lying though, isn’t it?

No is a full and complete sentence. It’s not rude.

If someone asked you if you wanted to meet and you said Yes… that isn’t rude compared to Yes, Please."

We can agree to disagree. It’s just my opinion

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
41 weeks ago

chichester

I just say no or ignore / delete

Not here to handhold strangers feelings of rejection

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By *ensual-dominant-passionMan
41 weeks ago

sheffield

"I just say no or ignore / delete

Not here to handhold strangers feelings of rejection "

Definitely… a “no” isn’t putting you down in any way… just means your not what they are looking for… there is someone out there for everyone

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
41 weeks ago

Leeds

"Either way it’s still a no… so take it as it is lol who cares"

Finally someone gets it

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