FabSwingers.com forum: FOMO?

By (user no longer on site) OP
41 weeks ago

Do you ever delete messages without opening them? Without reading the sender’s profile?

No trace of what they sent and never to be found out.

Does the fear of missing out on the potential of something — even if it’s just what they sent without any interest —prevent you from deleting without opening a message first?

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By *agnar73Man
41 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Fear Of Missing Out?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
41 weeks ago

Reading

Nope. Deleted and forgotten.

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By *opinovMan
41 weeks ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Unless it was a single word message like "hey" or "hru", I'd consider it rude not to reply at least to say no thanks - but then I guess I don't get hundreds of (or tens or even single) messages filling my inbox.

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By *mf123Man
41 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

I fear nothing anymore really

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By *-jonMan
41 weeks ago

London

"Do you ever delete messages without opening them? Without reading the sender’s profile?

No trace of what they sent and never to be found out.

Does the fear of missing out on the potential of something — even if it’s just what they sent without any interest —prevent you from deleting without opening a message first? "

I’m way too curious to not see what, in this sense, their approach is. But potentially some other sense - what I might also get to understand from someone else’s POV. They’re pretty entertaining (people) on a low level . But for feck sake, aren’t people massively interesting - “Where’d you learn that” -

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By (user no longer on site) OP
41 weeks ago

People can be interesting.

If you read the message, do you feel it must be replied to? Or are you simply filling your curiosity by reading it and have nothing else attached to the plan?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
41 weeks ago

"I fear nothing anymore really"

Well done fearless one

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By *-jonMan
41 weeks ago

London

People can be interesting.

If you read the message, do you feel it must be replied to? Or are you simply filling your curiosity by reading it and have nothing else attached to the plan? "

It’s a thought provoking question/statement, figured it’d be interesting spark up a conversation…

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By *ustBoWoman
41 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Yes I delete some messages without opening them. It all depends on what I can read from it without opening it. I sometimes will put a note on their profile with a rough idea of what I could see in the message so I'll know to just delete if they message again.

I'll look at profiles before I even open other messages though and that makes up my mind if I delete or not.

I rarely block anyone anymore so notes are handier for me.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
41 weeks ago

Leeds

I read I can't say it's fear of missing out though, more curiosity to why have they messaged we don't even meet men.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I read everything sent to me… I’m in no rush, it’s not a fear of missing out, but it’s not difficult to read the odd message.

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By *apiomanMan
41 weeks ago

Shipley

My inbox has so many messages I can't read them all... oh Fab inbox not my work email account?

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By *sWyldWoman
41 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I delete without a second thought

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By *imply DeeWoman
41 weeks ago

Wherever

I delete fearlessly, especially when my (short) profile says I won’t be ever responding why message me in a first place?

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I much prefer my messages to be deleted unread

Signals their feelings towards me better

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
41 weeks ago

North West

I'm ok with deleting low effort or crude messages. They don't deserve my energy.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I delete, block and report.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I don't have FOMO. I do have twinges of guilt.

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
41 weeks ago

Wales

I delete the 'want my cock tonight?' and similar messages that have taken no thought one effort. I do try to take my time to go through messages but it's ridiculous. And I don't get as many as others, so I understand why people do immediately delete messages.

Oh the flip side, I can also see why some users cut straight to the point given that replies can be hard to receive.

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
41 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

Both on here and in life, I tend to plough my own furrow mostly, as a result feelings of FOMO aren’t something that surface too much, with regard to anything.

Whether I read or not, delete or not, reply or not are based on other factors.

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By *ellroseWoman
41 weeks ago

Brum

I’m always deleting messages without opening them after looking at their profile

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I rarely open, but don't generally delete as the system auto deletes around 200 a month... But i tend to use the friends mail box to chatting

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Altho I sometimes accidentally delete when faffing one-handedly and its impossible to get the message back unless already chatting and have a copy in sent box still

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I open every message and reply to most. I don't receive many though so it's easy to keep up with.

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By *oiluvfunMan
41 weeks ago

Penrith

"Do you ever delete messages without opening them? Without reading the sender’s profile?

No trace of what they sent and never to be found out.

Does the fear of missing out on the potential of something — even if it’s just what they sent without any interest —prevent you from deleting without opening a message first? "

I have a solo guy profile in Fab. I have never been so overrun with messages, I couldn’t be bothered to open any and just wanted to clear my inbox…….(insert crying with laughter emoji)

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Wait what ....people message back ? I thought that's a myth lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

Don’t get messages

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"Don’t get messages

Certainly dont blummin read them

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By *imber wolfMan
41 weeks ago

Aycliffe

I suppose if I was overrun with messages I’d have the luxury of deleting but as it is, receiving and replying to messages is no chore at all

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"Don’t get messages

Certainly dont blummin read them

Oh shit?

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By *a LunaWoman
41 weeks ago

South Wales

I read them. Whether I reply or not depends on how I’m feeling. Sometimes I just don’t feel like being sociable so will reply at a later time.

If it’s a repeat message from someone not interested in I’ll likely delete.

I don’t get so many messages to struggle replying. Is it fear of missing out that makes me reply? Not at all. How can I miss out on something I’ve yet to have?

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By *heitaliandreamerMan
41 weeks ago

Northampton

I can read a huge amount of superficiality in most of your replies. Let's not complain if we get treated the same way in return. do not do to others what you would not want done to you.

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By *entBarryUKMan
41 weeks ago

Ashford

I read every message and reply to them all if I can. I mean it's SO hard to reply to one message every 8 weeks, but y'know, i do my best

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

"I can read a huge amount of superficiality in most of your replies. Let's not complain if we get treated the same way in return. do not do to others what you would not want done to you."

So deleting unread a message reading "FAF" or "hi" is superficial? Ok. Guilty. I've had ones where they just write their name. So Bobby sends a message "Bobby". Do you think that's deserving of a reply?

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
41 weeks ago

I’ll read them, mark them as unread and then delete them

I’ll see what the opening line is and then delete them without opening

If there isn’t a picture attached they’re going in the bin either way

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By *issmorganWoman
41 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Yep regularly,

I always look at their profile and if it's not for me, I don't look at their message.

Also if they have no public pics at all it's an instant delete without reading.

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By *issmorganWoman
41 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Sorry I've not answered the bit about not looking at their profile.

If they're miles and miles away, I tend to delete without looking, same if it's a cock profile pic or shadow.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
41 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

There’s no FOMO if you can see even without opening the message that they’ve got a dick pic, no avatar, just said two or three words in their message or been graphic straight away.

Delete straight away and don’t think twice.

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By *aizyWoman
41 weeks ago

west midlands

You can see pretty much the first sentence of a msg without opening it, so if I see the first sentence is just something graphic they want to do to me, or do I want to watch them do something on cam I just delete without opening. I do try to read my msgs on here, I usually read the msg first then check the profile then decide to respond or not, not because I'm afraid of missing out, more because I don't like deleting someones msg without at least reading it first its just how I am. Although saying all that, I am really bad at reading and responding to msgs on and off here.

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By *parkle1974Woman
41 weeks ago

Leeds

Always delete. Can usually tell what the message is by the 1st line.

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By *o_yeur_eyes_onlyMan
41 weeks ago

Londontown

"You can see pretty much the first sentence of a msg without opening it, so if I see the first sentence is just something graphic they want to do to me, or do I want to watch them do something on cam I just delete without opening. I do try to read my msgs on here, I usually read the msg first then check the profile then decide to respond or not, not because I'm afraid of missing out, more because I don't like deleting someones msg without at least reading it first its just how I am. Although saying all that, I am really bad at reading and responding to msgs on and off here."

Ah huh!!

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By *ornycougaWoman
41 weeks ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

Life is too short for regrets. Forget and move on.

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By *aizyWoman
41 weeks ago

west midlands

Ah huh!!

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
41 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

I think, in all honesty that this is a question for the ladies. You crazy bunch get inundated with messages. There would be no FOMO if I received hundreds. The first line of some unimaginative message would be enough to delete without being read.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
41 weeks ago

London

I read and reply to all messages. But let's face it. I don't get as many as the ladies or couples.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
41 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

No, I think it's polite to read them all, even if I don't necessarily reply to all. However, I can afford to do this, as I'm not inundated with messages at the moment

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