FabSwingers.com forum: Re-schedule

By *s.Suess OP Woman
42 weeks ago

Somewhere

I've had 3 meets arranged and all 3 guys have wanted to reschedule at the last minute.

1st one is out of the picture.

2nd hasn't messaged to reschedule and now the latest guy, who I've met for a social, this is now the 3rd time.

Excuses are feasible but come on now.

Time to move on, or another chance?

I'm wondering is it me

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By *randmrsbigboobsCouple
42 weeks ago

romsey

Happens to us all sometimes

We sometimes give another chance depending who it is and how much notice was given

Mrs xx

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
42 weeks ago

Cheshire

Next guy who starts a thread moaning about how he can’t get a meet, jump on that guy instead.

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By *olfandtazCouple
42 weeks ago

Bristol

"I've had 3 meets arranged and all 3 guys have wanted to reschedule at the last minute.

1st one is out of the picture.

2nd hasn't messaged to reschedule and now the latest guy, who I've met for a social, this is now the 3rd time.

Excuses are feasible but come on now.

Time to move on, or another chance?

I'm wondering is it me

It's not you it's them, this site is ladden with time wasters. We have had one cancel a meet due to a car accident, being miles away and several hours later managed to loose his wallet, dislocate his shoulder and blah blah blah... one excuse is normally enough

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By *ellhungvweMan
42 weeks ago

Cheltenham

With respect OP - if it is becoming a pattern then you need to look at who you are picking and how you are verifying them. It would seem that you are the common factor at the moment and you need to change how/who you are choosing.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

"Next guy who starts a thread moaning about how he can’t get a meet, jump on that guy instead.

..jump, kick, club, slap etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

"With respect OP - if it is becoming a pattern then you need to look at who you are picking and how you are verifying them. It would seem that you are the common factor at the moment and you need to change how/who you are choosing."

I’ve had to reschedule once. I did so at the time I mentioned I needed to change our plans. I feel if someone doesn’t reschedule and leaves it to an undetermined future date, they aren’t likely to actually plan to meet.

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By *rofessor ElementalMan
42 weeks ago

Durham

Ultimately, the number of chances to give is subjective and should be based on individual judgment and the specific context of the situation.

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
42 weeks ago

Markfield

Move on and start options with others, keep the current ones on simmer if you would genuinely like to meet them, but don’t exclude others for the sake of meeting these/this one.

If they have used genuine reasons for cancelling they’ll make the effort to overcome the obstacles in time and usually the meet is well worth it and makes future meets less problematic. If they haven’t had to postpone for genuine reasons they’ll go quiet.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
42 weeks ago

Reading

Move on. You want to be a priority.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

We can schedule meets?

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By *lexV16Man
42 weeks ago

Welling

If I got less than an hour notice - no chance to reschedule no matter how valid the reason is. I take it as Universe is saying to me not to do it.

More than an hour notice would be possible but she’d be the last priority.

No 3rd chance ever. This time the Universe is SCREAMING don’t do it

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Sounds familiar.

3 weekends in a row I’ve had 3 different women cancel on me *true story….. coincidence??

But, you’ve got to believe them haven’t you? They’re of course genuine reasons, but I do wonder how the hell people get lucky enough to find two party’s that nothing happens on the date that’s set to meet up.

I’m glad yours are trying to reschedule.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

1 reschedule is fine

But my rule is if you wanna cancel and reschedule, you do all the scheduling. I’m not chasing you around and making it work. You cancelled, you put the effort in.

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By *imisugarWoman
42 weeks ago

Rugby

This- I agree the one that needs to reschedule should be responsible to reorganise. If they don't, I personally think it's a clear message. I get called blunt for that approach but I feel it's never let me down.

To the OP I'd say move onto other possibilities. You've given them your time and in this occasion it didn't work out.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
42 weeks ago

Southampton

"1 reschedule is fine

But my rule is if you wanna cancel and reschedule, you do all the scheduling. I’m not chasing you around and making it work. You cancelled, you put the effort in. "

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By *herryEatersCouple
42 weeks ago

East Cheshire

There's a sea of timewasters here now !. Yet as a single woman you need to test the guys you're chatting with, if all looks good then ask to chat on the phone and see if he runs, hides his number or makes poor/sus excuses why you couldn't phone anytime. Lots of guys here playing away hence highly unreliable

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By *s.Suess OP Woman
42 weeks ago

Somewhere

It's just with the build up messaging it's such a bloody let down...

Back to the drawing board

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