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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
42 weeks ago

Leeds

You aren't feeling sexy?

Mt confidence has plummeted recently, I'm not feeling sexy in myself and it's put me off meeting anyone until I'm a bit happier with myself.

Do you still meet when you aren't feeling your best?

Mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
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42 weeks ago

East Sussex

I have done but only socially.

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By *ris GrayMan
42 weeks ago

Dorchester

No if I'm not a 100% feeling it i don't make the arrangements

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By *eliWoman
42 weeks ago

No. Well, there's one person I'm happy to because sex/no sex I still really enjoy spending time with him and I don't feel bad if I rock up in Uggs and an oversized jumper and we just snuggle or I watch him game and yeah...

But when I'm not feeling particularly desirable, it's normally because of other things going on. I don't think it would fair for people who are probably wanting the Meli experience. So socially, yes. Sexually. No.

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By *ineapple_PrincessWoman
42 weeks ago

in the waves

No, I need to be in the right frame of mind to want to meet people for casual encounters. Feeling sexy is imperative to enjoying it.

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By *ife NinjaMan
42 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Sexy can be defined so differently. Personally, I'm happy if the person I'm with is relaxed enough to be around me in a hoodie, sweats and trainers. I find that particularly appealing

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By *ea monkeyMan
42 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

I have done once before and it didn’t work out well. It’s better to be honest

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
42 weeks ago

Reading

No i sometimes have a few months a year where my libido is low so often stop meeting then.

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By *lder.Woman
42 weeks ago

Not Local

Nope. I feel like I have been dug up for about two years now, and don't want to have to put anyone through the hassle of 'not my type luv' or escaping out the toilet window on a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Nope tryed it before and didn’t work out

got stood up made me feel even more unsexy

And to make matters worse

Throw up the meet now flag and just took any old meet that came my direction

After it was sed and done I felt worse

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By *electableicecreamMan
42 weeks ago

The West

Usually in winter when I'm in cave mode and feel like I'd burst into flames in the clear light of day I don't pursue meets or put energy into new connections.

If I'm feeling really off I tend not to meet but I might hang out with someone I'm close to because those cuddles are healing.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

I think winter is a hard season - most of us put on weight and are used to being smothered in layers, so we don't pay attention to our skin or bodies and pretty easily the sexy has gone into hibernation...

I'm sure Spring will bring you some va-va-voooooom

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By *andPextraCouple
42 weeks ago

North West

Absolutely not.

For me being confident, feeling confident and projecting confidence is a key part of sexuality, so I would never meet up if I wasn’t in this frame of mind.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
42 weeks ago

Leeds

Thanks all, I'm pleased it's not just me, I can't imagine meeting when I feel well....meh.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Maybe. It would depend who. But I do t always meet people and I tend to have sex. I just meet people and I tend to have a good time whatever we do. Sometimes it feels sexy to rip each others cloths off, and sometimes it light flirting, and other times it’s just lovely company.

I wouldn’t NOT meet up if I wasn’t feeling it.

But, somebody expected sex to be on the cards, and I wasn’t feeling it, I probably duck out not agree to meet up.

You’ll get your sexy back op. Sexy people do

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
42 weeks ago

Leeds

"Maybe. It would depend who. But I do t always meet people and I tend to have sex. I just meet people and I tend to have a good time whatever we do. Sometimes it feels sexy to rip each others cloths off, and sometimes it light flirting, and other times it’s just lovely company.

I wouldn’t NOT meet up if I wasn’t feeling it.

But, somebody expected sex to be on the cards, and I wasn’t feeling it, I probably duck out not agree to meet up.

You’ll get your sexy back op. Sexy people do

Thanks Woody you are a good egg.

Mrs

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By *parkle1974Woman
42 weeks ago

Leeds

Oh god no. I need to be feeling "it" before I even think about feeling anyone else x

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By *apiomanMan
42 weeks ago

Shipley

Sorry to hear that you lost your va va voom OP.

Personally I think I give off the wrong vibes if I'm not feeling it so my chance of a meeting for sex are reduced!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
42 weeks ago

Leeds

"Oh god no. I need to be feeling "it" before I even think about feeling anyone else x"

This is my thoughts too, I guess I kinda feel bad for not making plans I said I'd make..... But I'm not feeling myself and I don't think I'd be able to relax enough without thinking I'm a flump or I'll be a disappointment - I need to be in that I feel sexy state of mind to even think about meeting again.

The people pleaser in my feels bad I guess.

Mrs

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By *parkle1974Woman
42 weeks ago

Leeds

"Oh god no. I need to be feeling "it" before I even think about feeling anyone else x

The people pleaser in my feels bad I guess.

Mrs "

I totally get where you are coming from. I'm sure you'll find your mojo lurking around somewhere and you'll be raring to go in no time x

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
42 weeks ago

London

No way

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

"No way "

That you’re always sexy must help though

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By *a LunaWoman
42 weeks ago

South Wales

I have done. I once went ahead with a then regular FWB meet when my Sciatica was playing up. I struggled getting out of my car at the Hotel. I shuffled, bent over, across the car park like someone had just mugged me of a walking stick.

Got to the Hotel room. He had to help me take my jeans off. I couldn’t really do much. He made me laugh and my back went into spasm. I could have cried!

He helped me get dressed and off home I went.

I think we both wished I hadn’t bothered that night

and I’ve no idea why I went like that. I didn’t want to let him down I guess.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
42 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales

Only socially OP. If I’m not in the right headspace or feeling crappy my vagina says no!

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By *eronicaExplorerWoman
42 weeks ago

London

"No way

That you’re always sexy must help though"

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
42 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

If I'm not up for sexy things I make sure I'm only meeting people I'm happy to meet socially and that they know I'm not in that headspace beforehand.

I wouldn't try and push myself to feel sexy when I don't. It's not fair on anyone involved when that happens.

I hope you feel better soon

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By *imply DeeWoman
42 weeks ago

Wherever

I’m currently in the same situation.

I probably won’t be meeting ever again, for completely different reasons, so I’d answer no.

Hope you’ll feel happy with yourself soon OP.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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42 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I'm gonna buck the trend a bit.

I never assume sex is on the cards, even if meeting someone I already know, because regardless of what's going on in my head/life I can never be 100% aware of what's going on in theirs til we meet. So I'd meet, because a good social is as much fun as a physical meet, even if its just to watch a movie, eat pizza or play scrabble.

I've also met someone before who said the same thing, that they weren't 'feeling sexy', prior to us meeting that night, but they didnt want to cancel last minute. Turned out it was down to recent weight gain combined with a visit from mother nature, so completely understandable. Their confidence had taken a knock and they were down. The meet actually went really well, they got some reassurance from me and we had a great evening chilling, joking, cuddling and snogging. It ended up becoming more physical later too.

So an initial headspace of not being in the mood changed.

I guess it's down to the reason someone doesn't feel sexy or in the mood. But sometimes a meet (whether social or physical) can be good medicine and the pick me up someone needs to feel better.

Just a thought.

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By *stellaWoman
42 weeks ago

London

"You aren't feeling sexy?

Mt confidence has plummeted recently, I'm not feeling sexy in myself and it's put me off meeting anyone until I'm a bit happier with myself.

Do you still meet when you aren't feeling your best?

Mrs "

No, absolutely not.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
42 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
42 weeks ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.

J "

My answer is her answer, mostly.

It helps. But doesn't always take away the unsexy.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
42 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.

J "

This is fair.

There are people I can still see (with the heads up that I'm not quite feeling myself and might not get to that space before committing) and being with them can bring me back around to the sexy feeling. But I need it to be someone I have that level of connection with. I wouldn't meet a new person or spend time with a more casual connection when I'm feeling unsexy. Personally

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
42 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

I haven’t been feeling myself lately (not like that, you filthy perverts) so I haven’t been meeting anyone.

If I’m not physically well, my mojo fucks off into hiding. I figure most people are the same (not everyone, but most people) so I figure most people will understand. It only takes a bout of flu or a virus going round to put me right off sex for a bit.

It’s temporary. My mojo will return.

’Tis but a flesh wound, and all that.

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By *mf123Man
42 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

No but then i wont meet anyone so im a different breed

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Normally there’s 2-3 days a month which is a week from my cycle that no I wouldn’t meet

I just have no sex drive and have a very flat feeling

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By *ilthycoupleabzCouple
42 weeks ago

Aberdeen

"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.

J "

Thats how I feel - being desired even when I don't feel desirable makes me still want to be open and with that person.

My confidence is low atm but some people make me feel attractive so would still meet them, if that makes sense?

MrsAbz

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
42 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Currently I don't even meet when I am feeling my best.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
42 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

I turn up to wank at all times

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By *weetCherryWoman
42 weeks ago

London

No, I have been feeling my lowest for 8 months now and I have not met ever since. I cannot bring myself to, does not matter how much I crave sex or intimacy sometimes, I just can't

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
42 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.

My answer is her answer, mostly.

It helps. But doesn't always take away the unsexy."

Bloody copycats the pair of you....

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
42 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.

My answer is her answer, mostly.

It helps. But doesn't always take away the unsexy.

Bloody copycats the pair of you....

Nope. Your answer wasn't quite the same.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
42 weeks ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.

My answer is her answer, mostly.

It helps. But doesn't always take away the unsexy.

Bloody copycats the pair of you....

Nope. Your answer wasn't quite the same.

And my answer wasn't quite the same.

So ner

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
42 weeks ago

Manchester-ish

"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.

My answer is her answer, mostly.

It helps. But doesn't always take away the unsexy.

Bloody copycats the pair of you....

Nope. Your answer wasn't quite the same.

And my answer wasn't quite the same.

So ner

Yeah, ner.

Posh!

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By *otSoPoshWoman
42 weeks ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.

My answer is her answer, mostly.

It helps. But doesn't always take away the unsexy.

Bloody copycats the pair of you....

Nope. Your answer wasn't quite the same.

And my answer wasn't quite the same.

So ner

Yeah, ner.

Posh!

Jx"

Julie!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
42 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.

My answer is her answer, mostly.

It helps. But doesn't always take away the unsexy.

Bloody copycats the pair of you....

Nope. Your answer wasn't quite the same.

And my answer wasn't quite the same.

So ner

Yeah, ner.

Posh!

Julie!

Ner

Nice to see you back anyhoo.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
42 weeks ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"My answer is a bit different to most above. Being desired makes me feel sexy. So the right person, the right words and a feedback loop can actually help.

My answer is her answer, mostly.

It helps. But doesn't always take away the unsexy.

Bloody copycats the pair of you....

Nope. Your answer wasn't quite the same.

And my answer wasn't quite the same.

So ner

Yeah, ner.

Posh!

Julie!

Ner

Nice to see you back anyhoo.

You've always preferred my back to my front

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Nope you got to

100%

Otherwise don't go

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
42 weeks ago

Central

I have done and it's worthed but I'd generally not do it.

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By *o scandalousWoman
42 weeks ago

Glasgow

I don’t feel sexy most of the time. I meet socially. When I feel ok, I go to a club and see how it goes.

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By *ittle. BeaverWoman
42 weeks ago

Launceston

I used to, when I was younger to boost my confidence which was kind of sad really.

Not any more. Only meet when I'm 100% I think its fairer on the other person so they too have fun!

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By *ominanTeeMan
42 weeks ago

Sligo

If you're not feeling your best, you will only allow yourself accept less than you normally would, you'd do yourself a dis-service

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By *untogetherCouple
42 weeks ago

Malaga, Spain, Not in U. K.

It happens sometimes to us both. When you're not feeling sexy and confident we won't meet.

When we are feeling great and have the confidence, it is so sexy and such a turn on.

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