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By *isArtistry OP   Man
42 weeks ago

Oswaldtwistle

Been here a while, first time posting in forums…

But I’ve been having a sort of confidence/ self esteem issue lately, but do women actually like bigger dudes? Is there any benefit of being a larger gent?

I will add I’m currently trying to lose weight but struggling.

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By *ouples_EroticaXXXCouple
42 weeks ago

manchester

The generic answer is people like all kinds of shapes and sizes. The only people you need to worry about is how you see yourself, if you’re happy that confidence will emanate and that’s what a lot of people are attracted to. Confidence which isn’t to be confused with arrogance.

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By *isArtistry OP   Man
42 weeks ago

Oswaldtwistle

Yeh that makes sense. I guess I’m overthinking perhaps, like trying to figure out the best way to exude confidence within an online format.

I’m still trying to get used to the fact that not everyone takes a person, photo or profile at face value.

Like I have confidence in person, because in that moment I realise the person I’m with has specifically chosen me in that moment. Hope that makes sense.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
42 weeks ago

East Sussex

Welcome to the fora

Firstly I'd say that almost all single guys find it difficult on fab. If you're having confidence/self esteem issues try to separate out the fickle and often shallow nature of on line interaction from your value as a person.

I can't speak for other women and I'm very likely way out of your age range but I like many different types of man physically. From what I read on here so do many others

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
42 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Size is pretty irrelevant to me.

It is relevant to some people. Some people like bigger, some smaller, some more muscular.

You can't appeal to everyone.

Don't let it get you down if someone isn't in to your aesthetic

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By *mmaleiaWoman
42 weeks ago

East Northamptonshire


" do women actually like bigger dudes? "

Yes, personally like meat on a man, it doesn’t define what I’m looking for, it also depends on the mental stimulation of a person and how they carry themselves too

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By *cottish guy 555Man
42 weeks ago

London

If you feel more confident in person then sign up for a local social or try a club visit. Honestly, it's not as daunting as you think.

I'm also trying to lose some weight. It's bloody difficult.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
42 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

There really is something for everyone. Fat, thin, tall, short, hairy, smooth, black, white, straight, gay and everything in between all of the above.

It will take time. Just chip away and enjoy yourself.

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By *olfandtazCouple
42 weeks ago

Bristol

You have had a meet so that should tell you that you float someone's boat at least and you are doing better than hundreds of other men on here.

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By *isArtistry OP   Man
42 weeks ago

Oswaldtwistle

Yeh, the meet really helped my confidence! I must admit.

I think the next step would be to try a club event as suggested. Maybe that’ll give be a broader idea.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
42 weeks ago

A den in the Glen


"Yeh, the meet really helped my confidence! I must admit.

I think the next step would be to try a club event as suggested. Maybe that’ll give be a broader idea."

You rock a good look too buddy. Tattoos and tash are a good talking point for a start at a social meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Mate, you look GREAT in your pictures.

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By *exymarvelMan
42 weeks ago

cardiff


"Welcome to the fora

Firstly I'd say that almost all single guys find it difficult on fab. If you're having confidence/self esteem issues try to separate out the fickle and often shallow nature of on line interaction from your value as a person.

I can't speak for other women and I'm very likely way out of your age range but I like many different types of man physically. From what I read on here so do many others "

Age is just a number, as long as its legan and you are mutually attracted then theres no issue

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By *isArtistry OP   Man
42 weeks ago

Oswaldtwistle

Thanks Everyone, I’ll be paying the positive vibes and kind words forward! You’re all amazing.

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By *allandathleticMan
42 weeks ago

Asgard

I can't speak for the bigger gent or the ladies.

But, I've slept with women of all shapes and sizes. Their "size" isn't what attracted me to them. It was the way they held themselves or the mental connection that mattered more.

I can't speak for everyone, and sure there will be shallow people all over, but I think the majority would prefer who you are, over what you look like.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Some will some won’t

Which way that skews is anyone’s opinion

If your unhappy, change, if your happy, learn to be confident with your body

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By *exymarvelMan
42 weeks ago

cardiff


" do women actually like bigger dudes?

Yes, personally like meat on a man, it doesn’t define what I’m looking for, it also depends on the mental stimulation of a person and how they carry themselves too "

I think he means in the genital area

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By *hrimper36Couple
42 weeks ago

Central France dept 36

Welcome to the FORUMS op (fora omg) and to most I guess it’s your personality rather than your size that matters and for us it’s your tarts that would put Eve off as she’s not a fan.

I’m a big build kind of guy and I’d just suggest to try and be happy in your own skin even if there’s more of it than some others.

Best of luck.

Oh and try and use quote+reply on the FORUMS.

T

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
42 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Welcome to the FORUMS op (fora omg) and to most I guess it’s your personality rather than your size that matters and for us it’s your tarts that would put Eve off as she’s not a fan.

I’m a big build kind of guy and I’d just suggest to try and be happy in your own skin even if there’s more of it than some others.

Best of luck.

Oh and try and use quote+reply on the FORUMS.

T"

Blimey! Is it a problem for you that I'm using fora?

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By *mmaleiaWoman
42 weeks ago

East Northamptonshire


" do women actually like bigger dudes?

Yes, personally like meat on a man, it doesn’t define what I’m looking for, it also depends on the mental stimulation of a person and how they carry themselves too

I think he means in the genital area "
. Then whyyyyyyy would any man want to lose weight there?

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
42 weeks ago

Cheshire

I love big guys, more to hold on too

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By *hrimper36Couple
42 weeks ago

Central France dept 36


"Welcome to the FORUMS op (fora omg) and to most I guess it’s your personality rather than your size that matters and for us it’s your tarts that would put Eve off as she’s not a fan.

I’m a big build kind of guy and I’d just suggest to try and be happy in your own skin even if there’s more of it than some others.

Best of luck.

Oh and try and use quote+reply on the FORUMS.

T

Blimey! Is it a problem for you that I'm using fora? "

Hella no you can use whatyyou want obviously but I personally found it funny if that’s ok.

I do hope it is and can we try to keep to the op,s thread please (laughing again).

Sorry op.

T

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By *stellaWoman
42 weeks ago

London

I like men. All sizes, it’s the soul connection that makes me fancy someone more than aesthetics to be honest.

Although I do like the look of you, OP and your writing post style too.

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By *isArtistry OP   Man
42 weeks ago

Oswaldtwistle


"I like men. All sizes, it’s the soul connection that makes me fancy someone more than aesthetics to be honest.

Although I do like the look of you, OP and your writing post style too. "

Thank you, A connection is definitely a must, kinda feel a little bad that I had narrowed all this down to pure aesthetics rather than the bigger picture of personal preference, personality as well as other things.

But we are all human.

Thank you again for your kind words, you seem lovely yourself x

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
42 weeks ago

A den in the Glen


" do women actually like bigger dudes?

Yes, personally like meat on a man, it doesn’t define what I’m looking for, it also depends on the mental stimulation of a person and how they carry themselves too

I think he means in the genital area . Then whyyyyyyy would any man want to lose weight there? "

Because when you skinny dip, you can be in danger of becoming a human dredger

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
42 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Welcome aboard OP.

I've been turned down for being too slim, so size preferences are very much an individual thing. It's important to some, less so to others. You can only ever be you, and being positive and polite are far more important traits to many than being a total fitty.

Good luck and nice ink BTW.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago


"Welcome aboard OP.

I've been turned down for being too slim, so size preferences are very much an individual thing. …..

Good luck and nice ink BTW. "

What he said. I don’t think somebody size should define a person, but sometimes it does. It’s great when that type of thing dissapears and all of a sudden you just see the person.

Woody - an average sized slim guy = useless when somebody’s type is larger guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Many many people prefer a big bearish man, just generally it isn't really advertised or spoke about.

We both prefer bigger people being bigger ourselves.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
42 weeks ago

Leeds

I have no preference when it comes to body type I'm all about face and personality, if I like those I'll like the body.

I've dated slim, large, muscular and in-between.

Mrs

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
42 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

You look great OP. Confidence is key I believe. Own it, be proud of yourself. People will notice that over anything else

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By *isArtistry OP   Man
42 weeks ago

Oswaldtwistle

There’s some really sound advice in this thread!

You are all beautiful people!

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By *aizyWoman
42 weeks ago

west midlands

I don't really have a body type prefrence, I thought I did when I first joined fab, but I have found I find all body types attractive, the face and personality are more important to me I find. Good luck on here OP, have fun in the forums!

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago


"I don't really have a body type prefrence, I thought I did when I first joined fab, but I have found I find all body types attractive, the face and personality are more important to me I find. Good luck on here OP, have fun in the forums!"

Oh hi there

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By *parkle1974Woman
42 weeks ago

Leeds

You aren't alone OP.

As with everything in life, some people will love your size, others not so much. I hope you find your inner confidence. Never be ashamed of who/what you (not directly you) are. Fab is filled with allsorts x

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By *hunky GentMan
42 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Yeh, the meet really helped my confidence! I must admit.

I think the next step would be to try a club event as suggested. Maybe that’ll give be a broader idea."

Don't worry too much about being bigger. Not every woman wants a 6-pack.

I'm also a large guy and had a few meets on here.

Once people get to know you, your personality may turn out to be more important than your size.

If I can cope with Fab, then any guy can.

Good luck.

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By *hunky GentMan
42 weeks ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"You aren't alone OP.

As with everything in life, some people will love your size, others not so much. I hope you find your inner confidence. Never be ashamed of who/what you (not directly you) are. Fab is filled with allsorts x"

No liquorice though, please.

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By *aizyWoman
42 weeks ago

west midlands


"I don't really have a body type prefrence, I thought I did when I first joined fab, but I have found I find all body types attractive, the face and personality are more important to me I find. Good luck on here OP, have fun in the forums!

Oh hi there "

You need to get yourself on the butter thread Steve, you are defo in the smooth camp!!

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Womens just love money, cake and fried chicken. Not nessesarily in that order, but definitely in that order. Everything else is a flamboyant masquerade to hide their guilty secrets, of which they have many. I like to pritt stick notes to my beloved queen upon my copious belly and smear red velvet cake upon my tiny genitals while offering the bounty from the bucket of KFC tucked under my arm. This method has never failed to attract womens to my side. It has never worked particularly well either. It is still a thing though.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
42 weeks ago

Central

There are some women who prefer larger built guys. As others state, it's hard work for single men here, so don't let Fab influence your wellbeing negatively. If you feel you're less impacted by meeting in person, you could consider socials and clubs too.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
42 weeks ago

Reading

Fan is tough so not necessarily the best place if you are having self esteem issues. If you can not take the place at all seriously you might be ok but be careful with your MH.

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