FabSwingers.com forum: Are women more open about there sexuality?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Asking this because roughly 80% of the couples profiles I browse, have the F's down as bisexual. Nothing wrong with that of course. But being a bi guy myself, I do get a fair few messages off of M's from a couples profile who state the M is straight, wanting to meet in a 1-2-1 situation, again nothing wrong with that. I mean is there a stigma about a M being bi, or even bi curious in a couples profile? I obviously know there are couple profiles our there, where the M has declared his bisexuality or curiousness. And good on them I say.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Many bi men put straight because they think they're more likely to get laid.

Many straight women put bi because they think they're more likely to get the bloke laid.

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By *sWyldWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I think sadly its still seen as more socially acceptable for women to experiment than it is for a guy.

A women can be a "tourist" and still be allowed to be straight in a way guy's are often chastised for.

It's one of those fab double standards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon people on fab would be less likely to meet some guys/ couples if they openly stated that they have sex with men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may be a high percentage that have women down as bisexual but in my experience the number of women who are genuinely bi is much lower. I've met quite a few women who say they are but aren't when it actually comes down to playing.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"I reckon people on fab would be less likely to meet some guys/ couples if they openly stated that they have sex with men. "

Pshaw! Men having The Sex with men! I've never heard of anything so preposterous! Sounds suspicious to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reckon people on fab would be less likely to meet some guys/ couples if they openly stated that they have sex with men.

Pshaw! Men having The Sex with men! I've never heard of anything so preposterous! Sounds suspicious to me!

It’s a conspiracy if you ask me, Davina!

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

On Fab, possibly but I'm not sure there is a difference in the outside world.

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By *penJackMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"Asking this because roughly 80% of the couples profiles I browse, have the F's down as bisexual. Nothing wrong with that of course. But being a bi guy myself, I do get a fair few messages off of M's from a couples profile who state the M is straight, wanting to meet in a 1-2-1 situation, again nothing wrong with that. I mean is there a stigma about a M being bi, or even bi curious in a couples profile? I obviously know there are couple profiles our there, where the M has declared his bisexuality or curiousness. And good on them I say."

Yes, there's a massive stigma .

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

"I reckon people on fab would be less likely to meet some guys/ couples if they openly stated that they have sex with men.

Pshaw! Men having The Sex with men! I've never heard of anything so preposterous! Sounds suspicious to me!

It’s a conspiracy if you ask me, Davina! "

I've read David Icke. It may be lizard people, but frankly it just sounds too implausible. I'd mark it as disinformation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It may be a high percentage that have women down as bisexual but in my experience the number of women who are genuinely bi is much lower. I've met quite a few women who say they are but aren't when it actually comes down to playing."

Completely agree. Bi-playful would be a more accurate description for a lot of women on Fab, and light play at best. Just enough to please their fella.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes because society is still very judgemental of gay/bi men

If that changes, men might be more open

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Some reasons for women in couples presenting as bi are :-

1. They didn't know they were until their partners told them they were.

2. They say they are to hold on to their partner.

3. They say they are because they think it opens doors for them re meets etc

4. They say they are because it makes them sound more interesting.

5. They really are.

Think about it ........

If so many women were bi ( without a man in tow ) how come there are not more lesbian couples around ?

It's NOT because women are more open about their sexuality.

Twice as many men than women identify as gay in the uk. 50% more women than men identify as bi in the uk .....

Are they really bi by nature or choice tho ...... bi is bi innit ?

Still doesn't answer the lesbian couples question because in the uk in reality 57% of same sex marriages were between females .....

Bi on here is quite the anomaly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think women are more open about their sexuality. Men are less honest.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Many men as said above, will put they're straight so they don't lose meets with women/couples.Some profiles do state no bi men.

Prey touched on this,some ladies will say they're bi/curious because it's the mans fantasy & she will play with another woman to get him off.

Some ladies put straight too when they're bi, I've seen some say it's because of the messages they get from couples, as so many are after a Bi fem to join them.

It's a bit of a minefield really op, female bisexuality is very much encouraged and even expected on here,but it's not so much for men still.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I think women are more open about their sexuality. Men are less honest."

Women have always had a greater freedom of sexual & gender identity. The way female friends hug and kiss each other, And the ability to wear stereotypically male clothes.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

As a few have said I think a lot of women put bi but they are just pleasing their bloke.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think women are more open about their sexuality. Men are less honest.

Women have always had a greater freedom of sexual & gender identity. The way female friends hug and kiss each other, And the ability to wear stereotypically male clothes. "

Always is simply not true. Women couldn’t even always wear trousers

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I've said numerous times in here that being straight is the only sexual preference that people on fab seem to have to justify.

How many straight women get messages from couples who don't accept that they aren't bi?

How many straight men have had the old fab accusation thrown at them that they are really only fab straight?

I've yet to see a bi or gay person on the forums being challenged on their sexuality.

I've had a number of people tell me that I should be more open about my sexuality.

Yes I already am, I'm straight!

But then you are narrow-minded or afraid to push your boundaries!

For some people being open about sexuality means doing what they want or think you should do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think women are more open about their sexuality. Men are less honest.

Women have always had a greater freedom of sexual & gender identity. The way female friends hug and kiss each other, And the ability to wear stereotypically male clothes. "

I’m not sure about always but I’m certain of the last century or so

2 men kissing in public are far more likely to be violently attacked than women

Many places in the world, even in the west, gay men are specifically targeting and attacked for being gay

And even amongst friends it’s still a very common point of ridicule and bullying to be gay

And amongst relationships, women are far more put off by a guy being with a guy, than a woman being with a women

Lots of steps to be taken in society to sort these things out, and that’s only in the west. My friends son was travelling South Africa and was accused of being gay. They tied him up, put a tire around his neck and set it on fire (they call it necklacing someone). He wasn’t even gay. Huge changes need to be taken in other continents

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By *oupleforfun202169Couple
over a year ago

Weston-super-Mare

"Many bi men put straight because they think they're more likely to get laid.

Many straight women put bi because they think they're more likely to get the bloke laid."

Agreed, we have had situations where the woman is clearly not even curious, it's frustrating as I usually end up making it a social when I have spent all day getting excited

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I have bi-curious on our profile. A more accurate descriptor would by bi-playful, I think. I love kissing women. And boobs

It pretty much leaves Mr cold, though. So it's not me doing for my fella.

Mrs TMN x

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By *olfandtazCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

To many people think porn is the way of the world, there is way more girl on girl porn than guy on guy. Even though it's catching up.

As a whole society needs to be just as accepting towards guy on guy as they are for girl on girl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To many people think porn is the way of the world, there is way more girl on girl porn than guy on guy. Even though it's catching up.

As a whole society needs to be just as accepting towards guy on guy as they are for girl on girl. "

Using porn as a point to judge the issue on isn’t useful. Men are by far the biggest consumers and since most men are straight, women on women is naturally going to have a bigger market

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think women are more open about their sexuality. Men are less honest.

Women have always had a greater freedom of sexual & gender identity. The way female friends hug and kiss each other, And the ability to wear stereotypically male clothes.

I’m not sure about always but I’m certain of the last century or so

2 men kissing in public are far more likely to be violently attacked than women

Many places in the world, even in the west, gay men are specifically targeting and attacked for being gay

And even amongst friends it’s still a very common point of ridicule and bullying to be gay

And amongst relationships, women are far more put off by a guy being with a guy, than a woman being with a women

Men are so much more likely to be victims of violent homophobic attacks. Definitely feels worth mentioning that it’s usually violence committed by men because men find it more repulsive than they do the idea of two women together. But the violent attacks on women that we know about can also be the result of that issue. Men wanting women to perform their sexuality for them and getting violent when told no.

I think the issues in some places are definitely huge issues. And things that ironically are largely a result of western imperialism. I don’t know what the answers are though. I empowering the people resisting on the ground with funding and other resources? Idk.

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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago

Fairytale Wood

"I think sadly its still seen as more socially acceptable for women to experiment than it is for a guy.

A women can be a "tourist" and still be allowed to be straight in a way guy's are often chastised for.

It's one of those fab double standards "

Its not just FAB is is cultural. It was illegal for a guy to be bi or gay until late 60s, could be prison or terrible clinical procedures. It has never been illegal to be a bi or gay female. More often that than not, hand maiden performed a number of extra services for the ladies of the gentry as it was unthinkable fornthem maybe to have a gentleman provide them in many cases

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You only have to look at the image the media portrays of bisexuals to see why men don't describe themselves as bi.

Women having a sexual relationship with women are portrayed as sensual, romantic and caring.

Men are shown as just wanting sex.

Yes, there are exceptions to this but on the whole it's portrayed this way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think sadly its still seen as more socially acceptable for women to experiment than it is for a guy.

A women can be a "tourist" and still be allowed to be straight in a way guy's are often chastised for.

It's one of those fab double standards

It’s still illegal in a lot of the world too and historically gay men have received much harsher/violent treatment for being gay

It’s absolutely crazy that we get so violent over what adults do alone. Massively spurred on by religious extremism too which is why it’s so bad in many middle eastern countries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely agree. Bi-playful would be a more accurate description for a lot of women on Fab, and light play at best. Just enough to please their fella. "

exactly.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

I often see womens profiles thay say wont meet Bi men, so i expect they hide the fact for that among other reasons.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I don't agree that it's always the case that a woman will claim to be bi just to please her own man.

The reason I don't agree is that over the years I've chatted to numerous single women on here who chopped and changed their preference depending on who they were either chatting to or hoping to attract.

One week they were straight and then attend a group social and suddenly they were bicurious or bisexual simply because they had their eye on the male half of a couple and it was the only way they were ever going to get their attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my experience women are more open about their sexuality than men. When it comes to bisexuality they are more open to admitting that they are sexually attracted to women. Straight guys will rarely admit that they like another guys sexually. When it comes to actually playing it's tricky. One of my frie nds says she's bi, but hasn't really played with many women and is not activelly seeking such encounters; the other would rather burn alive than admit that she is bi, but leave her alone with another woman and sparks fly like it's New Year's Eve.

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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago

Fairytale Wood

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By *ongandharderMan
over a year ago

Rotherham

I thinks it's because men still face a lot more stigma for being bi than women so easier to lie than tell the truth

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"[Removed by poster at 07/02/24 15:10:49]"

Netflix's new docudrama about Alexander the great is coming in for criticism in some circles for turning him gay as part of the woke culture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 07/02/24 15:10:49]

Netflix's new docudrama about Alexander the great is coming in for criticism in some circles for turning him gay as part of the woke culture. "

They clearly don’t know history, pederasty was extremely common amongst the Greeks and Romans

Won’t even touch on the messed up fact that many of the young boys were extremely young, but it was still a very accepted and celebrated part of the culture

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By *penJackMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"[Removed by poster at 07/02/24 15:10:49]

Netflix's new docudrama about Alexander the great is coming in for criticism in some circles for turning him gay as part of the woke culture.

They clearly don’t know history, pederasty was extremely common amongst the Greeks and Romans

Won’t even touch on the messed up fact that many of the young boys were extremely young, but it was still a very accepted and celebrated part of the culture "

It's likely what the Bible is referring to when it speaks of homosexuality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think sadly its still seen as more socially acceptable for women to experiment than it is for a guy.

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I definitely agree.

I can sit in a room with 10 blokes, and I can guarantee you, if someone was talking about bisexual females, or a ffm, getting excited.

But if a conversation of a bisexual mail, or a mmf, I can guess the remarks.

I can’t give an answer why, or even guess that’s how things are.

Will it change in the future? I hope so.

I think that’s why I enjoyed talking on Fab, so much most of the things that I come out with things that I can’t talk to my real life vanilla friends about.

I’ve often questioned my sexuality, I know where I am very often question it.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Completely agree. Bi-playful would be a more accurate description for a lot of women on Fab, and light play at best. Just enough to please their fella.

exactly."

Bi playful isn't just a term for women though.

Many men have never indulged in anything more than oral and touching another guy. Many have never kissed another man, let alone participated in anal either way.

It's just a physical act and an occasional one at that. 'Curious' is often the only option to choose for those who once in a blue moon may indulge in light same sex activities whether a man or a woman. It doesn't really fit, but given you're no longer 100% straight and not really 100% bisexual either it's a label that some choose as the most appropriate.

Of course the second a guy adds it as his status it'll be seen far more negatively by some than when a woman does the same. Always been the case and always will.

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