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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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What do you wish you were better at?

Sexually.

And non-sexually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many is that now today?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Um.

I don't think I do.

I have some things I'm working on in myself. But there's nothing I'm wishing for rather than actively trying to achieve

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"What do you wish you were better at?

Sexually.

And non-sexually."

Blow jobs.

Brushing my teeth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexually: Giving BJs

Non sexually: Football or pushups. I wanna be able to blast out 100 perfect Royal Marine style pushups.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"

How many is that now today?"

Hey boo,

I think it's two.

Nope, it's three.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Squatting on a dick.

Walking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexually- dirty talk

Non sexual- maths

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexually: being on top

Non-sexually: being a parent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

How many is that now today?

Hey boo,

I think it's two.

Nope, it's three.

"

They’ll complain at this rate. Slow down

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By *olfandtazCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Cooking for myself, it's gotten to easy to order in a take away rather than cooking

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Um.

I don't think I do.

I have some things I'm working on in myself. But there's nothing I'm wishing for rather than actively trying to achieve "

Right so... let's play along and what are you actively trying to achieve a state of better in?

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire


"Squatting on a dick.

Walking. "

You need some stick?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexually - eye contact, especially during blow jobs.

Non-sexually - I wish I had a convincing poker face.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"What do you wish you were better at?

Sexually.

And non-sexually.

Blow jobs.

Brushing my teeth."

Can you combine the two? Gargle with the results of the former to help the latter? Sure salt can be used for pulling.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
over a year ago

Warwick and Coventry

Fisting I want to be better at anal and vaginal fisting...

And I'd like to be better a napkin folding

Mr

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Um.

I don't think I do.

I have some things I'm working on in myself. But there's nothing I'm wishing for rather than actively trying to achieve

Right so... let's play along and what are you actively trying to achieve a state of better in? "

Sexually I'm working on my body confidence. I hate that sometimes I can still feel that self conscious urge to hide the parts I like least aesthetically. I get my tits out a lot more in person these days though, so that's huge steps from where I was a couple of years ago.

Non sexually, expressing negative emotions effectively without getting overemotional

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Sexually- dirty talk

Non sexual- maths "

Would you like some help with that?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Squatting on a dick.

Walking.

You need some stick?"

I need a long, thick stick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexually- dirty talk

Non sexual- maths

Would you like some help with that?

"

The maths? yes

The sex? YES

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Sexually: Giving BJs

Non sexually: Football or pushups. I wanna be able to blast out 100 perfect Royal Marine style pushups."

Oh that's a good one! I don't think I could do one. Might go and try that soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's an easy one, but it's not a wish but rather something I need to actively work upon as I'm fairly certain it's overcome-able . If I can overcome it, I feel it's going to open up so much more of the world for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexually - Everything.

Non-sexually - Job interviews.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Sexually - just being confident that I may be a tiny bit desirable and be confident in the build up to the getting nekkid.

Non-sexually - motivating myself to get fit.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Squatting on a dick.

Walking. "

Do you know what would be really handy? If there were exercise videos aimed at those who want to be good sexually. Like, do these moves and your core will be strong enough to ride a dick for thirty minutes. I'd subscribe to that sort of thing.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Sexually- dirty talk

Non sexual- maths "

Dirty talk as in actually speaking it or typing it or both?

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Sexually - I’m pretty shit at the sex thing but enthusiastic so either take me as I am or move on.

Non sexually - my communication skills.

As per keeping in touch with family and friends.

I’m bad at this one too.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Life.

Makeup.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Sexually: being on top

Non-sexually: being a parent"

Oh Daphne.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"

How many is that now today?

Hey boo,

I think it's two.

Nope, it's three.

They’ll complain at this rate. Slow down "

Zero fucks given. I'm one stressful day away from dyeing my hair dark green so the forums can take my energy instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexually- dirty talk

Non sexual- maths

Dirty talk as in actually speaking it or typing it or both?"

Speaking it is so cringe it makes me laugh internally and takes me out the moment completely

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"What do you wish you were better at?

Sexually.

And non-sexually."

Sexually - oh, a lot. I wish I was a lot more confident. I wish I could just look forward to sex without any aspect of anxiety around it. I love sex but I wish it was just a joy.

Non-sexual - I wish I was better socially, that it didn't make me anxious. I wish I worked harder and made more of myself.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"Sexually- dirty talk

Non sexual- maths

Dirty talk as in actually speaking it or typing it or both?

Speaking it is so cringe it makes me laugh internally and takes me out the moment completely "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexually- dirty talk

Non sexual- maths

Dirty talk as in actually speaking it or typing it or both?

Speaking it is so cringe it makes me laugh internally and takes me out the moment completely

"

Out loud. I’m good behind a screen

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"Sexually- dirty talk

Non sexual- maths

Dirty talk as in actually speaking it or typing it or both?

Speaking it is so cringe it makes me laugh internally and takes me out the moment completely

Out loud. I’m good behind a screen "

Well that’s just as well than. The former will never be an issue.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Squatting on a dick.

Walking.

Do you know what would be really handy? If there were exercise videos aimed at those who want to be good sexually. Like, do these moves and your core will be strong enough to ride a dick for thirty minutes. I'd subscribe to that sort of thing."

I just use a chunky man to put me through my paces.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Sexually- dirty talk

Non sexual- maths

Would you like some help with that?

The maths? yes

The sex? YES "

Something like 12 times 12 is 144 you filthy whore?

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By *o_yeur_eyes_onlyMan
over a year ago

Londontown

On a roll Meli

Sexually - confidence / saying what I want

Non-sexually - adulting #isuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexually- dirty talk

Non sexual- maths

Would you like some help with that?

The maths? yes

The sex? YES

Something like 12 times 12 is 144 you filthy whore?"

While you’re riding me?

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

I want to be a better person.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Cooking for myself, it's gotten to easy to order in a take away rather than cooking "

Ah if it's just for you I can see why you lean towards takeaways.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Sexually - eye contact, especially during blow jobs.

Non-sexually - I wish I had a convincing poker face."

Fancy practising that with some straws? In a couple of weekends? It's a foolproof method.

I like your expressive face. It's a beaut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want to be a better person.

"

Stick with me kid

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By *andynecklaceWoman
over a year ago

Someplace

sexually - oral

non sexual - saying no to people and standing my ground

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexually - eye contact, especially during blow jobs.

Non-sexually - I wish I had a convincing poker face.

Fancy practising that with some straws? In a couple of weekends? It's a foolproof method.

I like your expressive face. It's a beaut. "

What? Your going to hold a straw and pretend it's your penis while I "give head"??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"sexually - oral

non sexual - saying no to people and standing my ground "

Saying no is hard. But so worth it

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"Sexually - eye contact, especially during blow jobs.

Non-sexually - I wish I had a convincing poker face.

Fancy practising that with some straws? In a couple of weekends? It's a foolproof method.

I like your expressive face. It's a beaut.

What? Your going to hold a straw and pretend it's your penis while I "give head"?? "

I panicked and thought the straws were to hold your eyes open!!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Sexually- dirty talk

Non sexual- maths

Would you like some help with that?

The maths? yes

The sex? YES

Something like 12 times 12 is 144 you filthy whore?

While you’re riding me?"

And whisper Pythagoras theorem in your ear

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Sexually - eye contact, especially during blow jobs.

Non-sexually - I wish I had a convincing poker face.

Fancy practising that with some straws? In a couple of weekends? It's a foolproof method.

I like your expressive face. It's a beaut.

What? Your going to hold a straw and pretend it's your penis while I "give head"?? "

I don't know why you're saying that like it's weird; that's exactly what's going to happen.

Actually I'll bring a mini dildo. And antibac wipes. The taste of antibac whilst looking at me and mimicking fellatio? What could be weird about that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexually - eye contact, especially during blow jobs.

Non-sexually - I wish I had a convincing poker face.

Fancy practising that with some straws? In a couple of weekends? It's a foolproof method.

I like your expressive face. It's a beaut.

What? Your going to hold a straw and pretend it's your penis while I "give head"??

I panicked and thought the straws were to hold your eyes open!! "

Malcolm McDowell style??

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Working out women

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Fisting I want to be better at anal and vaginal fisting...

And I'd like to be better a napkin folding

Mr "

Anal fisting. Gosh. How big are your hands? How do you become better at fisting anyway? Oh I guess you could learn when to erm insert more fingers. When to move. When not to. Got it.

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London


"Sexually - eye contact, especially during blow jobs.

Non-sexually - I wish I had a convincing poker face.

Fancy practising that with some straws? In a couple of weekends? It's a foolproof method.

I like your expressive face. It's a beaut.

What? Your going to hold a straw and pretend it's your penis while I "give head"??

I panicked and thought the straws were to hold your eyes open!!

Malcolm McDowell style?? "

Exactly!

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Um.

I don't think I do.

I have some things I'm working on in myself. But there's nothing I'm wishing for rather than actively trying to achieve

Right so... let's play along and what are you actively trying to achieve a state of better in?

Sexually I'm working on my body confidence. I hate that sometimes I can still feel that self conscious urge to hide the parts I like least aesthetically. I get my tits out a lot more in person these days though, so that's huge steps from where I was a couple of years ago.

Non sexually, expressing negative emotions effectively without getting overemotional "

Aww Prey, I was being a bit of a dick earlier. Yes, that's something I'm working on. It's important.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
over a year ago

Warwick and Coventry


"Fisting I want to be better at anal and vaginal fisting...

And I'd like to be better a napkin folding

Mr

Anal fisting. Gosh. How big are your hands? How do you become better at fisting anyway? Oh I guess you could learn when to erm insert more fingers. When to move. When not to. Got it."

How do you become better at anal fisting is a good question, first step lube

Mr

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London


"I want to be a better person.

Stick with me kid"

Where you lead, I shall follow oh great one.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Sex

Adulting

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Dieting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trying to move after good sex

Teaching myself to make clothes for charity I support. Cannot sew to save my life but willing to try.

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Losing

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


" Aww Prey, I was being a bit of a dick earlier. Yes, that's something I'm working on. It's important."

That's okay. I have a weird pedantry about wording sometimes, and I associate people saying "I wish" with a complete lack of effort to actually reach the goal is all. So I hate it

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"That's an easy one, but it's not a wish but rather something I need to actively work upon as I'm fairly certain it's overcome-able . If I can overcome it, I feel it's going to open up so much more of the world for me. "

So... what is it? I was waiting for the big reveal but there wasn't one. Tad anticlimactic.

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By *ulieAndBeefCouple
over a year ago

Manchester-ish


"Squatting on a dick.

Walking.

Do you know what would be really handy? If there were exercise videos aimed at those who want to be good sexually. Like, do these moves and your core will be strong enough to ride a dick for thirty minutes. I'd subscribe to that sort of thing."

Adaptation to imposed demands. So practise riding a dildo or cock for a lesser amount of time and build up. I can recommend a chonky tentacle

J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This probably applies to both but confidence. I just wish I had more faith in myself during the times I can begin to doubt myself instead of potentially spiralling down a negative train of thought.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Adaptation to imposed demands. So practise riding a dildo or cock for a lesser amount of time and build up. I can recommend a chonky tentacle

J"

Yaas Queen. Sell the phreaky goodness

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

Sexually- not having such a bad gag reflex its awful

Non sexual- styling a wig

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Sexually - Everything.

Non-sexually - Job interviews."

Oh Elwood. Both have a recurring motif of confidence. I hope you find that, x

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Sexually - anal

Non sexually - socialising

K

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Sexually - flirting

Non sexual - trusting the right people

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Sexually - just being confident that I may be a tiny bit desirable and be confident in the build up to the getting nekkid.

Non-sexually - motivating myself to get fit. "

I really hope you find that confidence. You're more than a tiny bit desirable, little star, but all the people in the world could say that to you and you wouldn't believe it. I hope you find that soon.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Sexually - nothing

Non sexually - just getting myself through another day of being alive would be great…I feel like my arse has been kicked and not in a fun way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you wish you were better at?

Sexually.

And non-sexually."

Dirty talk!! Somebody teach me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I wasn't a long stayer and could cum easily. And I wish I had a male buddy I could trust.(not a sexual buddy).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexually - Everything.

Non-sexually - Job interviews.

Oh Elwood. Both have a recurring motif of confidence. I hope you find that, x"

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexually - Not 100% sure but there’s definitely room for improvement somewhere.

Non sexual - Mastering ‘Somewhere over the Rainbow’ on my Ukulele

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexually- knowing we're stuff is.

Non Sexually-knowing were stuff is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sexually: being on top

Non-sexually: being a parent

Oh Daphne. "

Just one of those days!

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Sexually - I’m pretty shit at the sex thing but enthusiastic so either take me as I am or move on.

Non sexually - my communication skills.

As per keeping in touch with family and friends.

I’m bad at this one too. "

Shit but enthusiastic can be a winning combination, can't it? In my mind it can be.

Keeping in touch is good but also, people understand when you don't have the spoons for it. Should do, anyway. There's a balance to be found. Good luck in finding it, I haven't quite mastered it yet. I'm a waffle or quiet person sadly.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Life.

Makeup.

"

Sending you hugs Davina. I know diddly squat about makeup and this also might be your idea of hell but there are a lot of good simple videos to follow/learn from on TikTok?

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"What do you wish you were better at?

Sexually.

And non-sexually.

Sexually - oh, a lot. I wish I was a lot more confident. I wish I could just look forward to sex without any aspect of anxiety around it. I love sex but I wish it was just a joy.

Non-sexual - I wish I was better socially, that it didn't make me anxious. I wish I worked harder and made more of myself. "

Anxiety is a big part of what's stopping you enjoying yourself isn't it? Can you take little steps to build confidence? If you ever want to work on social confidence, I'm not too far and I have discovered a weakness for Knoops.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"What do you wish you were better at?

Sexually.

And non-sexually.

Sexually - oh, a lot. I wish I was a lot more confident. I wish I could just look forward to sex without any aspect of anxiety around it. I love sex but I wish it was just a joy.

Non-sexual - I wish I was better socially, that it didn't make me anxious. I wish I worked harder and made more of myself.

Anxiety is a big part of what's stopping you enjoying yourself isn't it? Can you take little steps to build confidence? If you ever want to work on social confidence, I'm not too far and I have discovered a weakness for Knoops. "

Thank-you Meli. You're a star.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"On a roll Meli

Sexually - confidence / saying what I want

Non-sexually - adulting #isuck"

I know, I know. I actually think I'm winning at life recently now I'm over my emo stint.

Adulting is hard sometimes isn't it? There's no shame to be found in rotting away and raccooning some days you know. We're expected to have it all figured out, to keep going, to smile, to say the right things, to be sociable. Sometimes I think fuck that. I just want to rot in peace for a few hours. Not adult.

So... goblin when you can. Don't feel any shame about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you wish you were better at?

Sexually.

And non-sexually."
.

Sexually - feeling more body confident. I feel like a Michelin man at times just big all over. Someone pointed out a flaw and were fairly negative about it, it's one they dont have and I obviously have it. That made me feel shit. So yep body confidence, not letting others opinion except those I want, matter.

Non sexually - not be so naive and a push over. Have confidence more in myself. Not general confidence, as I can generally natter away to anyone, although I might feel really anxious, I'll push myself to do it. But confidence in myself, in my decisions and I'm trying for more self belief.

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By *eli OP   Woman
over a year ago

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"Sexually - anal

Non sexually - socialising

K"

The first? I can't help with. Alas.

The second? I can. And I will. In between elderflower cordial making and general witterings and snack boxes. I think you'll find the confidence in time yourself but in the interim? We're friends. Obviously. So I'd love to help you with that, when you want it. x

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

Sexually nothing iv got god mode

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By *sWyldWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Most things. Sexually and non sexually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

jujitsu and cooking poached eggs

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