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"I suspect this is part of my neurodivergence. It's less of a problem for me in terms of relationships than other areas, but I hear you." It’s super annoying, I have a ridiculous 3 week period with 5 sexy things planned in with people I know I’m good to play with and I’m stressing over someone I’ve never met being slightly off with me. I just don’t get my brain sometimes. | |||
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"I suspect this is part of my neurodivergence. It's less of a problem for me in terms of relationships than other areas, but I hear you. It’s super annoying, I have a ridiculous 3 week period with 5 sexy things planned in with people I know I’m good to play with and I’m stressing over someone I’ve never met being slightly off with me. I just don’t get my brain sometimes. " The good thing about it (!) in my context is that it's an autism thing, and the backstory behind my rejection sensitivity makes *way* more sense. | |||
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"‘Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) is when you experience severe emotional pain because of a failure or feeling rejected. This condition is linked to ADHD and experts suspect it happens due to differences in brain structure.’ This affects me quite a bit, I really need to work out how I can stop over analysing everything involved in messaging other people. Today it’s really fucked with my head. I know you lovely people will suggest solutions and I thank you for that. But I’m not sure I’ll be able to get my head round it. " I personally think that if you can't take rejection then this isn't the place for you, rejection is the main theme of fab | |||
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"‘Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) is when you experience severe emotional pain because of a failure or feeling rejected. This condition is linked to ADHD and experts suspect it happens due to differences in brain structure.’ This affects me quite a bit, I really need to work out how I can stop over analysing everything involved in messaging other people. Today it’s really fucked with my head. I know you lovely people will suggest solutions and I thank you for that. But I’m not sure I’ll be able to get my head round it. I personally think that if you can't take rejection then this isn't the place for you, rejection is the main theme of fab " I think you have totally missed the point of this post. This isn’t someone saying no and me not accepting it. It’s me perceiving something as rejection that isn’t due to neurodivergence. | |||
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"There are loads of specifically focused worksheets for us ND people to reflect when RSD is getting the best of us. A quick google search is your friend. I keep copies around the house and at work in case I’m ever feeling like this, which is quite often lately. Also I’ve found that symptoms have improved since I started my ADHD medication Whatever works for you, I hope you find your own way, I know is the worst feeling in the world " My wife and NP is helping and I think I’ve got over the himp of it today. | |||
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"To be fair OP, I took your meaning the same as Fred did! Glad you're feeling better though" I try not to write long verbose posts and sometimes I think the meaning is slightly lost in text form. | |||
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"Ah I don't have this so my solutions won't be a direct help. I am, however, neurodiverse and prone to overthinking at certain times. I do worry about rejection so I actively avoid scenarios where that could be the case. Healthy I know. :D Things that have really helped me... One, matching energies. If I feel that the conversation/desire is waning, I don't put my heart and soul in to something. I make it less of a priority, whether that's replying energy and frequency or making time for it. It helps prevent me from overthinking, being disappointed when I don't really receive anything back. Two, archiving conversations. Whether physically or mentally, not thinking about or looking back on things. Going for a swim, having sex, a long walk, all things that occupy my time and mind and make me feel good about myself help. I can sometimes get overexcited about something and if that's not returned in my mind, finding other things helps my mind. Three - I remember it's not about me. That sounds harsh. It is. Useful as well. People go through things and the minutiae? It could be that. Challenge the daft thoughts. Four is the most important - I try to live mindfully. Thinking about all the what ifs etc doesn't serve me. Taking that time to be in the moment helps a lot. So things might not be, they might be different? So what. Living in that moment really helps." Thank you my dear, you are absolutely 100% correct about living in the moment and about it, not being about me. My sensible rational part of my brain is saying that it’s either just the way they handle this and nothing to do with me. All the person that I don’t need to talk to. However, as of all these things the negative thought derails the rational thought. | |||
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"‘Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) is when you experience severe emotional pain because of a failure or feeling rejected. This condition is linked to ADHD and experts suspect it happens due to differences in brain structure.’ This affects me quite a bit, I really need to work out how I can stop over analysing everything involved in messaging other people. Today it’s really fucked with my head. I know you lovely people will suggest solutions and I thank you for that. But I’m not sure I’ll be able to get my head round it. I personally think that if you can't take rejection then this isn't the place for you, rejection is the main theme of fab I think you have totally missed the point of this post. This isn’t someone saying no and me not accepting it. It’s me perceiving something as rejection that isn’t due to neurodivergence. " exactly, so when they are actually rejecting you. It can be a very negative place for many | |||
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"There are loads of specifically focused worksheets for us ND people to reflect when RSD is getting the best of us. A quick google search is your friend. I keep copies around the house and at work in case I’m ever feeling like this, which is quite often lately. Also I’ve found that symptoms have improved since I started my ADHD medication Glad you are feeling better, is nice when you have supportive people that understands you Whatever works for you, I hope you find your own way, I know is the worst feeling in the world My wife and NP is helping and I think I’ve got over the himp of it today. " | |||
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"‘Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) is when you experience severe emotional pain because of a failure or feeling rejected. This condition is linked to ADHD and experts suspect it happens due to differences in brain structure.’ This affects me quite a bit, I really need to work out how I can stop over analysing everything involved in messaging other people. Today it’s really fucked with my head. I know you lovely people will suggest solutions and I thank you for that. But I’m not sure I’ll be able to get my head round it. I personally think that if you can't take rejection then this isn't the place for you, rejection is the main theme of fab I think you have totally missed the point of this post. This isn’t someone saying no and me not accepting it. It’s me perceiving something as rejection that isn’t due to neurodivergence. exactly, so when they are actually rejecting you. It can be a very negative place for many " You’re not understanding this at all. | |||
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"Thank you my dear, you are absolutely 100% correct about living in the moment and about it, not being about me. My sensible rational part of my brain is saying that it’s either just the way they handle this and nothing to do with me. All the person that I don’t need to talk to. However, as of all these things the negative thought derails the rational thought. " Negativity can definitely eat in to rationality but you can try and change that. I believe so anyway. A few months ago I had a rather upsetting and difficult conversation with someone. Little things can remind me of those feelings - like this morning. So I try and do things that stop a thought becoming A Big Thing. It's so much easier said than done but I hope you get there OP, x | |||
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